Walking in her shoes, question on shopping.

[quella]

I have always been a fan of high heels in both shoes and boots for as long as I can remember. After getting married, I would buy outfits for my wife that I thought would look nice on her and each outfit had higher and higher heels (she was a flat wearing woman). My latest purchase was a heeled pump with a 3 3/4 - 4 inch heel. She told me that such shoes are not practical, but she would wear them for me if I wanted; and I did. A few times she said that I would not have her wear them if I had to walk in them myself, or if I were in her shoes. That got me thinking. What is I did get a pair of heels with the same heel height to try and see how such is to walk and do things in around the house. I guess I'm not sure were to start though. I would like to get a cheap shoe as I may only wear then once so I can empathise with her, and I did not want to have something shipped to the home as she may get the package before I do. Are there places that I can check locally that have sizes 12 or 13 where the clerk would not think I' wierd? If it has to be online and shipped, are there places that you can recommend that are good and not real expensive? Sorry for all the questions. Just though I would ask the experts here. Quella

[johnieheel]

Alot of us go to payless. I have not ever heard of anybody haveing problems there and they are the most likely to have your size.

[ShockQueen]

I agree with Johnieheel - check out Payless. If you can do 12, then your chances are even greater. While they may not have a lot of very high-heeled shoes & boots, what they do have may be to your liking. You can go in, try on what you like, and no one hardly bats an eye! Great place to start, I think.

[quella]

Thanks for the great advice, I would not have looked there myself. I would like to find a 4" pump with an ankle strap or a sandel in the same idea. I will have to see if they have any like this. Thanks again. Quella

[Bubba136]

Rent a mail box for a couple of months. They're not very expensive and serve as a great secondary mailing address. You can purchase your heels from a catalog and use the mail box address as the receiving point. Most merchants will ship to a mail box number if the item is pre-paid before shipping.

[quella]

It is not that I want to deceive, I just do not think she would understand. I was just looking for local shops (like Payless) that may have size 12 or 13 in stock that would not raise questions in a 3.5 to 4.5 inch heel. I did not know if large adult shops carried such heels in these sizes or if I would need to go to a retail shop like some chain store. What about other department stores (Marshalls, TJ MAx, Etc? I know Penny's seems to only carry up to a size 11 and most of these are in their cataloge only. Quella

[quella]

Here is the pair I was able to find at Payless in a size 12W. I will try these out and see just how much trouble they are. They are a 3 1/2 heel. I really wanted an ankle strap to make sure they would stay on, but these are snug.

http://www.payless.com/Catalog/productdetail.aspx?ItemCode=56617&ProductColor=Black&Width=Wide&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensDress&BLC=WomensDressTrendy

Thanks for all your help, I would not have gone there to look.

Quella

[Danielinheels]

Marshalls and TJ Maxx also stop at size 11, and MAY have a single pair of shoes in those sizes.

[rpg]

Those last ones from payless, are nice, I have them on now.

[Bubba136]

Here is the pair I was able to find at Payless in a size 12W. http://www.payless.com/Catalog/productdetail.aspx?ItemCode=56617&ProductColor=Black&Width=Wide&TLC=Womens&SLC=WomensDress&BLC=WomensDressTrendy

quella

Having just spent the better part of yesterday shopping with my wife in one of the nicest shipping malls in the city, I've noticed this style of pump is quickly becoming the "have to have" style for the coming winter. While pointy toe pumps are still on display and readily available, the round toe, thin platform pumps will soon be predominant.

Amazon.com is another site that has a good selection of shoes and boots at reasonable prices (Albeit, nothing larger than a 13w available in some styles).

[vector]

I would suggest Payless. You could go into the store and purchase whatever style/size you want. If you don't try it on in the store, you could do so in your car or home and exchange it later for a larger or smaller size. Also, you could time it so that fewer shoppers are around. And you'll find that most store clerks don't even bat an eye, especially if they're on commission. Mail order is fine, but them you have to contend with shipping if you have to send it back. I would recommend that only when you not only know your size but also how different shoes fit.

[quella]

Thanks Vector. That is exactly what I did do. I went to Payless (which was not all that crowded) and fouond one pair of high heels in a size 12 with a 3.5" heel with a rounded toe. Nice looking shoe and at 16.00 I could not pass it up. It was only in a wide, so the arch is not as supported or a snug as I would like; I guess I'm a normal [whatever that means ]. These shoes are comfortable and I'm learning to walk in them some.

My next thought was that I wanted something with an ankle strap that would not be easily removed to keep me in the shoes longer than just a slip on pump. I was looking at a 4" pump with a lace-up cuff or the cuff with a lock on it, but I also was wanting something that constrained my foot more than a pump. That is when I decided to make another purchase online which are these...

http://www.dimoutshoes.com/seduce-1022-lace-up-ankle-boot-with-contrasting-trim.html

I hope that the lace-up will force my feet to remain in the arc shape for an extended period. I was at first looking at the 6", but I need to take it easy and may even need to get a 4" or 4.5 before really using the 5" I just bought. I can't wait for the order to arrive.

Thanks all for your advice.

Quella

[vector]

Nice choice!! It may take a while to get used to those 5 inch heels, but you'll eventually do fine. Just don't rush it or force your body to do something it can't do too quick. Perhaps the next time your wife is wearing heels and talking about you wearing it (or complaining), tell her that if she buys the shoes, you will wear them. Maybe even out with her!

[quella]

Thanks for the advice. I plan on taking it slow to start, I was looking at 6" but knew that 3.5 was something I needed to get use to, so 5" would be heigh enough. I did not want to go with 4" as it was only a half inch higher then what I have now. They are scheduled to arrive today via UPS. I can't wait to tell her next time she complains with her 3" that I know someone that has done 5" Great advice, thanks. Quella

[quella]

Here is what just arrived on my door step... I can't wait to have a full day in them at home. Quella

[vector]

Nice boots!!!!

[bootwalker]

oh year it,s great:thumbsup: bootwalker

[guyinheels]

Those are really nice boots....I am wary about getting calf high boots but I really like those!!

[quella]

I was not looking for boots at first, but I thought with the heel height, they may give better support than a pump. I was also not sure how calf boots would fit on a man without lacing or only a zipper as I think we have some different shaped legs (but I could be wrong). I thought that safest bet was to try out an ankle boot and see how it fits before moving on to Knee or Calf high boots. Maybe someday I will go all the way, but that will not happen for a long time. I'm taking baby steps at this time. Quella

[crotchboots-m]

as far as what the clerks think,you need to remember "mind over matter". in other words,if you dont mind what they think,then it doesnt matter

[Guest]

you need to remember that clerk's only concern is that he (or she for that matter) will make a sale, for that is what they are paid on (comission)