Strapy6 Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I used to complement her every time she wore her heels to work. She has not Worn them in over 6 months. Did I bring to much attention to them. She has these gladiator flats that would be killer if only they had even a slight heel. Some one tell me how to get her to were them again. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Histiletto Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 It could be time to move on. There are so many reasons for her to wear other shoes. Don't take her not wearing what you like seriously. Consider that you had at least some moments of happiness. There will be others. Make some of your own! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maximilian Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Maybe she became apprehensive of your day to day compliments of her heels that she decided not to wear them to work. If she ever does wear heels again, hold on to the urge to compliment her shoes. Maybe you could compliment her on other things and then she might think that her shoes aren't the only things that you like about her look. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Strapy6 Posted October 30, 2010 Author Share Posted October 30, 2010 Thanks. If you could only see them. I will use the advise. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dr. Shoe Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Perhaps she found your comments creepy. Graduate footwear designer able to advise and assist on modification and shoe making projects. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pussyinboots Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Perhaps she found your comments creepy. Totally! You know 'Dr. Shoe' - before I even saw your post....I read the OP and thought "Hmmm...methinks you creeped her out..." "Good Girls keep diaries....Bad Girls just don't have the time...!:icon_twisted:" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
love2love27 Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I'm thinkin she has got rid of them Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
loswabs Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 I used to complement her every time she wore her heels to work. She has not Worn them in over 6 months. Did I bring to much attention to them. She has these gladiator flats that would be killer if only they had even a slight heel. Some one tell me how to get her to were them again. Sadly, yes, I think your enthusiasm for her high heels was too much for the lady and I don't blame her. Next time, just enjoy the moment, there's really no need to say anything unless you are asked, and even then, keep a lid on it!!! It's my opinion, no more, no less Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UpBy5 Posted October 30, 2010 Share Posted October 30, 2010 Hit the nail on the head, there Max. Too much of a good thing is still too much. I have to bite my tongue often! UpBy5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mtnsofheels Posted October 31, 2010 Share Posted October 31, 2010 Seems like a case in point, sometimes complimenting someone about/for wearing what they wear just goes sideways. I sometimes think how we can truly give a compliment without sounding like creep. I worry about complimenting someone who looks good with what they wear, but would like to honestly compliment them on their really nice looks. Trial and error will be the test I guess. Mtnsofheels Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oscar Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 Complimenting a co-worker about shoes is difficult; I learned through the years that the best system is to start making positive remarks about clothing, especially how elegant a woman looks, and then slowly building this up. This way she isn't offended when you also make a remark about her shoes. I also use the always present envy between women; " you wear much nicer shoes then *** " is a possible line, or, when another woman passes by: " she has no taste; what ugly shoes she's wearing ! ". Also, tell a co-worker that you are married with a shoe-freak, and after years of marriage you have picked up some of yours wife's feeling about shoes. The older ladies, +35, usually are more relaxed in these conversations. Comment them about their high heels, and how they can walk all day in those shoes ! Finally: Remember, some women don't accept any kind of positive remark, about anything. note: read my stories about Maddy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
yozz Posted November 3, 2010 Share Posted November 3, 2010 Your big mistake was to compliment her `every time'. The complimenting would maybe have been OK when done once, "my, you really look good today" and leave it at that. She knows then that you notice and every next time will only make her think that you have an obsession. The word creepy also came to my mind. You should not try to `educate' your coworker as if she is a pet or a little child. Usually people are far more intelligent than we want to give them credit for. Y. Raise your voice. Put on some heels. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
UpBy5 Posted November 14, 2010 Share Posted November 14, 2010 I think everyone, male or female, is sensitive to remarks about personal appearence. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
roniheels Posted November 14, 2010 Share Posted November 14, 2010 Your big mistake was to compliment her `every time'. The complimenting would maybe have been OK when done once, "my, you really look good today" and leave it at that. She knows then that you notice and every next time will only make her think that you have an obsession. The word creepy also came to my mind. You should not try to `educate' your coworker as if she is a pet or a little child. Usually people are far more intelligent than we want to give them credit for. Y. I totally agree with this. A quiet one-time compliment would probably suffice. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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