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  1. 25 minutes ago, loverleather said:

    I have been working about an hour away from home one day a week for the last month or so, every day before I head home I've been stopping at the local Goodwill store, just to browse. Yesterday when I stopped, I was surprised to find several pairs of shoes in a size 12. (If you have read some of my prior posts you'd know I wear a mens 14, but depending on the brand I can wear a womens 12)

    I browsed around the 4 large racks of shoes for about 20 minutes, found a pair of Clarks ankle boots sized 12M, after waiting for a younger female shopper to leave the racks, I sat down to try them on, which was a first for me! Prior to yesterday I would've bought them and hoped they fit when I got to my truck. For some reason (I think because of this forum) I decided to sit down and try them on, I did have socks on and they were a bit tight but I knew they would fit barefoot or with hose, and for $2.99 i couldn't pass them up. I haven't purchased any heels since I purged 3 years ago. I put them on before I left the parking lot and wore them all the way home.

    When I returned back to my town, I decided to stop by the Goodwill before going home, still wearing the boots, just said "fuck it" and walked into the store wearing my new boots, again another first for me, and again more props to all the beautiful people in this forum! I have not had time to take pics fo me wearing them as it was dark by the time I drove home. I do have pics of the boots

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    For some reason it wont let me post more pics, 

    Excellent to hear! Good progress! Hopefully you'll be able to do this more often now that the ice has been broken. :)


  2. On 11/5/2019 at 3:59 PM, balletboot said:

    I just may jump on them.. although I would rather have this pair but the only go up to a 9

    https://www.aldoshoes.com/us/en_US/women/footwear/boots/over-the-knee-boots/Graziella-Black/p/12655372

    Interesting coincidence! Been looking at those boots for the past two weeks, hoping Size 11 would at some point be available up here in Canada. Didn't find it on Amazon/eBay either. :( They're gorgeous shoes!


  3. 2 hours ago, Cali said:

    I switched to only women's shoes about a decade ago because of fit. And now I enjoy the benefits I get from 4 inch heels.  I don't hide the fact that I wear heels, rather I embrace it; I own it. Once you OWN IT, you walk with more confidence which boost your comfort level which gives your more confidence which ....

     

    Looks like those booties have rear laces. Real or faux?

     

    The boots I wore were like that, not exactly that. Faux leather, goes up to my knees. But under jeans, who knows... :)

     

    2 hours ago, pebblesf said:

    Liberating is a great description for sure.  We have all had to fight off "self destructive talk", the important thing is that you overcame it and headed out in your boots.  Wearing great boots publicly is a great "high" for sure buddy....I'm glad you had a great time, and allowed those boots to be a little more exposed.  I too find myself pulling up my levis cuffs a bit while out and about, which is great progress.  Any compliments?

    Well said indeed

    Self-talk sucks. I need to learn never to start it. Regarding compliments, I was somewhat expecting to hear some comment, but heard nothing, positive or negative. So far in all my adventures, I've heard nothing from anyone, just noticed some looks. But hey, I would also look if I noticed a guy wearing something unexpected.

     

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    As an aside, I've noticed a transition in my own patterns recently. Up until about 2 years ago, I wanted nothing more than to walk out during the night, in places where the chances of meeting anyone were small. About 2 years ago, I started going to parks during daytime where I knew I would probably not meet anyone, and still wanted to take advantage of any opportunity to go out at night in quiet locations. Then something changed about 6 months ago. Now I lost pretty much all desire to go out during the night to secluded places, and much rather go out during daytime and "just do my normal thing" but in my preferred shoes. If the opportunity was there for me to go out during the night, I would prefer to go someplace a bit more busy. Just reflecting on this change... Weird.

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  4. On 9/23/2019 at 4:35 PM, hh_pe said:

    Thanks for the comments.  After reading them, I realize using the word "Discovered" might have been a better for the title. 

    With today (Monday) being the first full day with everyone in the office, I was a bit nervous and wondered how many people know by now.  I realize word will get out.  I'm curios on how long will it be before someone, other than the secretary, makes a comment, good or bad, about my heel wearing. If my coworkers were attempting to look today to see if I was wearing heels, they unfortunately were out of luck.  I had men's dress shoes on and spent the majority of my time at my desk reviewing a report.  I'm thinking about wearing my Aerosoles Accomplishments tomorrow, but I've worn these numerous times to the office.  I guess if a lady who is familiar with the shoes were to see the diamond tread and recognize the pattern, then she would know. 

     

    Don't know how it is within your environment, but this is not a topic I would start talking about behind someone's back. I don't like office politics, and would never get involved in a discussion like this. So perhaps no one knows but her?


  5. On 10/14/2019 at 6:53 PM, Steve63130 said:

    Here's where you may have a problem. That last word above. If you believe deep down that it is still not "right" for you to wear heels (or women's shoes for that matter), then you're putting a barrier in your own way. Analyze the situation. You're not doing anything wrong. Get that thought out of your mind. You're being YOU. And that's RIGHT!

    You're making good progress! Keep up the good work.

    Steve

    Thank you for these words of wisdom. I have started to realize that I feel really comfortable in heels, and am not really looking at them as women's shoes any more. They're "just" shoes... As such, my comfort level has gone up when wearing them out.

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    OUTING: A few days ago I had a bit of time, and a huge itching, to go someplace in heels. Ended up in my usual outfit, dark blue jeans and a black jacket, but then the debate became the shoes... Which should I wear? Do I feel somewhat shy, in which case maybe my new 4" wedge booties, or a bit riskier and wear a non-wedge heeled boot? At the end, I decided I will wear one of my current favourites. The "bottom" of the boots sort of look like this, but a 4" heel.

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    They are super-comfortable, and amazingly I bought them at a 2nd hand shop for really cheap. I feel very stable in them, and think they look great with a pair of dark-blue jeans and black jacket. Ended up doing some self-talk at home, which although it was supposed to be positive in the end is actually quite negative, almost didn't make it out of the house. After a while, I got upset with myself, put my thoughts aside, grabbed my stuff, and drove out. Went to a store as I needed to buy a few things. Was hoping for it to be quiet, but was actually quite busy. Ended up walking around and grabbing the stuff on my list, paying and exiting. Total of 20 minutes maybe of walking around. I honestly don't remember a lot about the visit, was somewhat pre-occupied, and quite "high" (not on drugs, but emotionally due to the heels, if you pardon the pun). Overall I felt very liberated by the time I finished.

     

    After the store, on the way home, I stopped by a coffee-shop. Got out, went in, bought a drink for myself, and went outside to sit by the outdoor tables and do a bit of work. I was there maybe about 20 minutes. The jeans stop about 1" off the ground, which hides the heels quite well when walking, but does nothing when sitting. So I'm sitting there, doing some work, drinking, with the heels essentially in full view. I wasn't flaunting it. Was sitting near the drive-through, in plain view of the people pulling up. Also completely visible from inside the coffee-shop. In the past I usually put my backpack against one of my legs, covering the shoes somewhat, but this time I put it onto the chair next to me. So I'm sure the entire bottom of the heels were in plain sight.

    It was so liberating. "high" is the best way to describe it (I assume, as I've never done drugs).

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  6. On 10/26/2019 at 11:02 AM, balletboot said:

    Those are super-hot! We don't have them here in Canada unfortunately. :( Have something similar, but doesn't go up to size 11. That style though is my favourite, and it's so hard to find...


  7. On 10/30/2019 at 2:51 PM, fashionablefun said:

    Here's the outfit I put together, inspired by a photo in another thread. I went both shopping for a new TV and also went to the mall, shopping for clothes and for lunch in the food court. I felt it looked good and was confident. No one seemed to take any notice, despite the obvious display. 

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    That outfit looks awesome, wish I had white pants like those...

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  8. UPDATE: Am home... Was busy with work the rest of the trip, and didn't get any chances to wear anything. The first flight more than made up for it though! :) On the way home, was simply too tired to do anything fancy, so decided to just pack in the heels for the trip back. Interestingly enough, as I'm boarding my plane, in a city far far away from home, I hear my name, turn around, and there's a current colleague of mine, coming home from vacation, on the exact same flight. Needless to say, dodged a small bullet there... :) Tired now, but am happy with the way the trip turned out overall.

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  9. Sorry for the short post, and thank you for all the replies/encouragement! I will definitely come back and reply in detail. Just very busy...

    UPDATE: After checking into the hotel, rested a bit, and, as I had the evening to myself, wanted to explore the new city a bit. It was still light outside, and I didn't know the neighbourhood at all, the types of sidewalks, etc, so I put the same light-brown 4" chunky heels-that-look-like-work-shoes back on with the long jeans and went exploring a bit. Ended up walking around downtown for about an hour, enjoying the sights and getting to know the neighbourhood. Didn't venture into any stores as I didn't care, but took photos and just enjoyed myself. For the shoes, I did notice a few people glanced, specifically remember one guy (walking with a girl) look down as they passed by me and continue walking away rather amused (possibly because of me, possibly not). I definitely did see some ladies in heels, one specifically who either had a broken heel or couldn't walk in them at all, and another that definitely couldn't walk in them properly but was trying anyway. Those sights actually ended up boosting my own confidence. :) There were looots of tourists around, it was quite crowded.

    Got back to the hotel, rested, and a few hours later, when it was dark, ended up going exploring again. This time I wanted to wear my 4.5" not-quite-stiletto boots. Think they look awesome. Found a small grocery store nearby and needed some food, so I ended up walking to the store, going in, buying some small items. Afterwards decided to head back downtown. Ended up walking around downtown again, exploring new streets and checking the sights at night. Quite enjoyed myself. The shoes were great. Three times I was enjoying myself so much I didn't quite watch where I was going and the heels slipped. I didn't trip or anything, but took my confidence down a notch, those cobblestone streets can be challenging. Although it was night, there were still tons of people out. My goal was to eat something from a fast-food place, but at the end my stomach was on a different time-zone so I ended up calling it a day and going back to the hotel. Quite a successful day overall!

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  10. On 10/5/2019 at 5:34 PM, 5150PLB1 said:

    It seems like the quality of the materials and the workmanship has changed for the worse over the years and my shoes do not last half as long as similar ones did in the past.

    While that sucks, you can look at the silver lining and buy more heels...


  11. 10 hours ago, pebblesf said:

    Kneebooted:  Sounds like you accomplish more by 0830 than I do all day!  You have worked hard to maintain a healthy lifestyle and deserve the positive feedback.  I love it when I  get so involved with a social situation/out walking, that I almost forget I'm wearing boots.  Once I am not focusing on wearing boots, I lose inhibitions and am much more open and relaxed.  While out walking down the sidewalk in Austin last week, one young guy commented, "way to rock those heels" as he rushed by me.  Not sure if this was a positive comment, but have decided to believe it was....

    100% that's a positive comment!


  12. Decided to go out Monday morning. Figured I would take care of some shopping, go to a few stores... Was thinking of wearing some 4" block boots, and got started trying to find the best outfit for it, the proper jeans and sweater. However, during the hour I was trying on different combinations (which itself is quite a bit of fun!), I found I was actually much more comfortable in my 4.5" not-quite-stiletto boots. Had a specific set of jeans in mind, but found that it was too long, the end of the jeans were almost dragging on the floor, and when I'm walking around the jeans tend to slide down just a bit, causing the end of the jeans to drag on the floor, something I really don't like. So I rolled up the bottom of the jeans an inch, making the length perfect. Looking at it, I quite liked it, with the light-blue stripe at the bottom of the jeans. :)

    At the end, when I was happy with it, the super-annoying self-talk started, but this time I recognized where it will lead, and I shut it down. Got in the car, went to one of the stores, parked, got out, and decided to check out a dollar store which was across the parking lot. Walked over, walked in, looked around. I felt so powerful in those heels, so perfect. Was just a tiny bit self-conscious. I knew the heels showed, and anyone looking would recognize something is not quite right... Bought some stuff, paid and left. Went into a grocery store, spent ~30 minutes buying stuff, paid and got back out. Drove to a coffee shop, worked for an hour.

    Usually it's very difficult leave home. Once out of my house, it's difficult to get out of the car. Once sitting in the coffee shop, it's also hard to stand up and walk out. But today things went splendidly, walked around, did what I needed to. Came home, and just smiled to myself.

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  13. On 9/28/2019 at 7:39 AM, Pierre1961 said:

    Hello 

    Today I decided to push the look a little further ( see pic)

     I wore these clothes and shoes for going to a self storage where I keep some not really useful things, including some pairs of shoes  

    I had to wait for the elevator with 3 other people. They looked at me and started giggling.One guy,( the other were a man and a woman)

    pretend he has to go urgently to the bathroom.The reason was he wasn’t able to refrain laughing because of me 

    The outfit looks great! Hopefully we'll all free comfortable wearing that, for now I'm still progressing towards that. But definitely not something to laugh at.

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  14. OUTING: I tried to wear my boots on Sunday, but when it came down to it I talked myself out of it. It wasn't anything fancy, a 4" very chunky-heeled pair of shoes, at first glance you can barely tell they're women's shoes, but they're comfy. Not sure why I didn't go through with it, but I was really disappointed. So I planned this great outing for Monday to make up for it. When it came to going on Monday, I spent a lot of time on positive self-talk, but it was taking forever and my anxiety didn't leave. With time running out, I got a bit pissed off, "they're only shoes!", put on some jeans, a pair of 4.5" bit-thicker-than-stiletto boots and went to a coffee shop to work a bit on my laptop. Not my original plan, but salvaged the opportunity. Once I sat down, the full heel became visible, and there's no way to deny what they are. When I got there, I jumped out of the car without delay, walked in, bought my stuff, sat down at an outside table, and worked on my laptop for an hour. Didn't give myself a chance to analyze things to death in the car. The shop had lots of people in it, and the people going in drive-through could also easily see me. I didn't care.

     

    At the end, some conclusions:

    - Self-talk sucks. My problem is thinking too much. Paralysis by analysis.

    - I felt amazing, standing in the shop, walking around a bit. Top of the world! Powerful and "just right".

    - No one said anything.

    **THESE** are what I need to remember, not the anxiety caused by the imaginary potential comments from a bunch of random people I will never see again.

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  15. OUTING: Had a chance to go downtown yesterday. Found a quiet spot and changed into my ~4.5" chunky boot, my favourite right now. I was pretty comfortable after the initial first steps, and spent ~30 minutes just walking about. The sun was going down, so it was half dark, but crossed streets, walked by others. Didn't get any comments, nor did I hear anything related to me. Didn't want to change out of those shoes, so to go home, got on transit, and came home. It was a thrill!

    One unusual experience though. I'm walking along, minding my own business, mainly focusing on not tripping in my heels, when I heard a girl behind me in what I thought was laughter. She kept "laughing", and I was getting more and more self-conscious, but worked hard in not ruffling my feathers. Eventually she passed me, at which point I noticed that she's not laughing but was instead crying. She walked by paying no attention to me. Just another realization that everyone is wrapped up in their own world. I never found out why she was crying...

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  16. On 9/28/2019 at 4:59 AM, mlroseplant said:

    You've hit the nail on the head saying that you're self-conscious, but it will pass with time. It is good to be somewhat self-conscious, in order to try to look your best, but in the end you just have to let it go. As many of us have lamented, hardly anyone wears heels anymore. I have often said that even if I were a woman, I'd probably have unwanted attention wearing exactly the same thing I do as a man. Possibly for different reasons, though.

    Thanks. Agree that women don't tend to wear heels, which makes it even more difficult for me to do so.

    One realization though... I do karate, and sometimes on the way to/from my workout, I will stop by a store and buy something, in my workout gear. Completely different cloths, completely non-standard, but I feel perfectly comfortable even though I stick out like a sore thumb. I've been reflecting on this a lot, comparing why I feel fine dressed like that, but completely self-conscious when I put on a pair of heels that you can barely see...

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  17. On 9/28/2019 at 8:24 AM, kneehighs said:

    Our Blue Chip Media, freestyle fashion supporter, Christian Allaire pens another freestyle supportive article for Vogue.com.  It's about the outfit Ezra Miller wore to the Saint Laurent show at Paris Fashion Week.

    https://www.vogue.com/vogueworld/article/ezra-miller-saint-laurent-show-paris-fashion-week?utm_social-type=owned&mbid=social_twitter&utm_brand=vogue&utm_source=twitter&utm_medium=social

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    Not a fan of the face-decoration, gives the wrong impression... Otherwise, way to go!


  18. I'm now somewhat comfortable in coffee-shops, downtown, but am still looking for a lot more opportunities where I get the feeling that wearing heels is appropriate and would fit in if a woman were wearing it. Not a lot of opportunities unfortunately. I guess I just need to make sure that my attire is appropriate for the situation, and I'm still figuring that out.

    I'm very self-conscious when wearing heels, regardless of where I am, but that'll probably pass with time.

    @Jkrenzer: "wearing heels to boldly going where no man has gone before". Love this! :)

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  19. 3 hours ago, Cali said:

    HinH, I was more surprise about the "Size 8".

    And I'm glad you corrected the design by removing the 5th strap.

    That ad is just a sample, it's not the exact shoe I bought. The one I bought is size 10, women's. Fits perfectly.


  20. On 9/17/2019 at 6:13 PM, pebblesf said:

    You, like many of us, have fallen victim to the underlying subliminal messages that society loves to dump on us.  There is nothing wrong with wearing heels wherever you feel comfortable doing so... We have all done similar things, wearing heels at night, at secluded areas, etc.  We do this because we are nervous about wearing our heels publicly, but desperately want to wear them out of the confines of our homes..   Ground surface is a major concern for me when wearing my boots.  Jagged sidewalks, tile/sippery floor surfaces, all spell trouble for heel wearing.  Carpeted or hard surfaces that are not slick are best.  Malls, coffee shops are good options.  The important thing is to only wear heels that you can handle with confidence, slipping/stumbling/taking very short strides all attract unwanted attention. 

    Just remember that you are not "out of place", if you are comfortable and feel you look good.  Don't let society get the best of you by using words like "deviant". 

    This broke my brain. Rings completely true...

     

    For whatever reason, I'm overwhelmed by the responses in this thread, and need a bit of time to reflect... Thanks.

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