Shyheels

I’m not a fan of the tucked in T-shirt. Maybe it’s my particular build or particular style but a tucker in T-shirt just seems wrong

Silent bullying, the tyranny of the crowd

I’ve wondered the same thing. I know that if one wants to join there can be quite a gap in time sometimes between signing up and getting their account activated and that may cut down on converting guests to members, and thus eliciting comments, posts and new threads. Aside from that I don’t know how one gets a larger more active membership. It isn’t as though we are a cantankerous lot, bickering amongst ourselves and putting off newcomers. I’m a member of another forum - non-fashion - but have never posted there because the members there are so incredibly unpleasant, both to each other and any newcomer who posts. I joined as I was seeking information but the idiotically toxic atmosphere put me off completely - and made me realise once again what a pleasant and benign place this is. Whether it is an embarrassment about their interest in heels, or that these guests are looking for something different or the time lag in getting an account activated, it is a real shame that at least some of these guests do not become active participants

Nor my street either. I’m sure there are some very hip places in certain very hip precincts of certain cosmopolitan cities where the echoes of these fashion show extravagances resonate but none of this reaches the masses, where fashion remain strictly within the same narrow boundaries. The people who inhabit this rarified fashion world may go all a-flutter about daring new directions, but they live in their own echo chambera. Much of these outlandish takes on fashion is merely attention getting, grabbing publicity and the hopefully admiring or envious nods of their peers

Yes but doing something just because you can generally doesn’t serve much purpose - those fashion shows are just attention seeking. They’ve been doing this sort of thing for ages and it hasn’t changed the core of men’s fashion one iota

I certainly welcome the meanderings off topic. Your posts are always thoughtful and interesting. I too have looked at the stats from time to time and have noted the large numbers of guests relative to members. It would be nice if some joined and added their thoughts and voices to the threads although it may well be that many are looking more fetish oriented (There’s no shortage of places they can go for that) I too like the interaction with the regulars here - it’s why I stay

So true and so disappointing. I’ve been experimenting with shooting images of myself in heels - not posing but looking natural, casual, as though it were not staged, and shot in such a way that the fact that I’m wearing heels is not immediately apparent although the heels are fully visible. It is entirely possible to photograph a guy in heels in such a way that it seems completely unremarkable -

Oddly enough I had a similar compliment the other day from someone who wears stylish heels herself. She said envious of my boots, I was quite flattered

Yes, genuinely hideous. Almost like an Identikit composite of everything revolting in terms of so called dress shoes

I agree. The heels described in that study were ghastly. From what I gather they created them so the male participants would not feel as though they were wearing feminine footwear - again the hang-up about crossing the dreaded gender line. How nice it would be if more people could get over that. They might also have had more volunteers for the study and fewer drop-outs

No females on here at all anymore

Yes a study group of eight, half of whom quit, is not going to carry much weight - even though I’ll bet their results were and are valid - but of course that opinion of mine is based on an even smaller study group: me

I must say the 2021 dateline is looking a bit tired

Thanks! That was indeed an interesting article. A pity the study group was so small, but the results seem significant. I know I have certainly noticed exactly those things in my own case with wearing heels - and the heel height I favour 3 to 3.5 inch chunky heel boots, is fairly close to the height used in the study. I had already thought that athletes could do worse that wear heels to strengthen their lower legs - I know wearing heels has strengthened mine! Hopefully there will be more studies coming to build in this one

Alas I couldn’t read it without creating an account . It looks like an interesting article from the very brief glimpse I had before the firewall went up

Nice boots. I’m a big fan of ankle boots with mid-height heels

Yes it’s nice to see you back. I don’t see guys in heels at all where I am. I do wear knee and OTK boots as a matter of routine, although mine are generally low to mid heel - I lead an off-grid lifestyle where high heels would be comically out of place, although I still wear them indoors. But knee boots - and stylish ones, not gum boots - are my normal attire. And nobody seems to notice or care. Or for that matter be in a rush to adopt the style themselves.

Yes the shade of red is very nice - I’m not a fan of red as a rule but those look good

It’s irritating when they get the ads wrong. But they look nice at any rate and hopefully they’ll work out all right

Interesting post - and one that probably reflects the global norm these days. Although I do not travel anywhere near as much as I used to, there is a proud and common slovenliness to dressing these days no matter where you are

One can but hope. The trouble is big companies are so risk averse - in everything - and catering only to the biggest part of the market. Outliers, even substantial ones, are ignored in favour of the quickest and easiest profits. Why else for example would the bulk of women’s shoes range in size from 3 to 8 when there are lots of tall women with bigger feet? It’s easier. Less risk.

And I am in the northeast, in Yorkshire

Glad you got home safely! Hope the jet lag won’t be too bad

Yes - build up slowly. It’ll pay off in the long run.

I’m seeing more in the north of England than I did in London