Laurieheels

Okay, so with the money I would spend on changing my first name, which I will never do, by the way, I could buy a super fantastic pair of shoes, or maybe two on sale! So that rules out the idea. Buffy? Oh please, as if I wish to cater to pop culture ideals, which are quite horrible. I am just curious about doing something different in heels. Always the adventure with me. Okay not always, but enough of the time. Right then.

Ben you wrote: Laurie, I am curious about all the details behind you wanting to wear higher heels, and your training methods. I thought I looked through the threads on Jenny's site at one time. Or is this all secret? It's not a secret, it's an adventure in my life, and I choose to reveal it a bit at any given time. I wish to wear higher heels because I like the way they make my legs look. I have a pair with a five inch stiletto heel, but I need to work up to a day's endurance. So why not try six? And then seven? In part, I am doing this to see how far I can go, and to see if it can be done. Another part does this for someone else. The fact that my goal fits into so many little parts is just a benefit of what I like. I will post diary entries on both sites, the same entry, of course. And it will be a true story everyone can follow. It's only Monday night and already I have some good information for my next entry. Yiu just have to find out with everyone else what motivates me, and it will just be written about as we go along. I do like to write, maybe some people have noticed...

Yes I do drive in heels, I have a towel to lay down and protect the heels of the shoes. I'm pretty good at it, well four inch heels anyway. The secret? I do not drive fast and I am very safe. When you remove the need for constant high reaction times, then wearing heels to drive is a lot safer.

This was also posted on the Jenny board, but this version has the mistakes fixed It was a very long week. And here it is, I am on the eve of another long week. Time seems to blur, one day isn't much different from the next now, but there are some things to note. Every girl needs a pair of ankle boots with a good heel. My black boots just happen to have a three inch blade heel, as many may know. I have walked to work in them and then home all week. On Friday I wore them all day at work. Most others wore sneakers or simple shoes. Casual Friday is not my favourite day. They are very nice boots, and have a leafy vine embroidered on the outside of each boot. They are a pseudo suede, and not as easy to keep clean. The weather has been getting better, much to me relief. Snow slowly melts as every day the temperatures reach up above freezing. This makes that walk to work in heels a lot easier. Once I arrive at work, I prefer to switch into my black oxfords with the four inch post heels. They are a thinner heel, and they are a lovely shoe, as I have mentioned before. This is the standard shoe for my work day, and I have been wearing them every day at work for almost three weeks now. The Oxfords were also the key to my weekend, as I wore them all day Saturday, and then again today, Sunday. I even prepared dinner while wearing these four inch heels... I have worked my way up to a heel of 3 1/2 inches for home. The shoes I refer to as my "slippers" are an open toed mule in black leather, with a silver heel. They are not spike heels, but a cross between those and a blade heel. They would be blades but they taper on the sides. I love them. I even wear them to bed, which does make it easier to get up in the middle of the night. I never have to look for my slippers, they are always on my feet. So the week has been one of steady progression. Now, on Sunday night, as dinner cooks away in the oven, I find my feet a little bit tired. Today while out shopping, my big toe on my right foot had a bit of a sharp pain now and then. My feet are also very hot, so I will need to switch into my slippers for the night. As far as progress goes, I am building some great endurance, and not wearing any shoe under three inches at all. I do go barefoot for a few moments here and there, but my feet don't like it as much as if they were in heels. I can tell there is the development of some difference. Is this the first step do a permanent high heeled foot shape? Well if that happens, then I will live with it. It might be a requirement. I will stretch my tendons and take care of myself. I understand the health risks that might be involved if I push myself too fast. So tonight, I will go off to take it easy in my silver heels, and tomorrow is another four inch day. I hope to report something new next Sunday, so have some good wishes for me that I can extend my week into a full four inch week. I am driving to work most days, since I will be up very early. No walking to work, but more time in four inch heels. Take care, viewers, and have a good week! Laurie

This is one of those days when no one understands me at all... Shoes are not my only means of self expression, but they are a part of it. It's important to me. And if how I feel shouldn't matter, then what does? If high heels are the fashion trend, then it will not be easy to find a different style. Everyone has to understand I am quite limited in what I can purchase in life. No I cannot mail order, and no, this is not a city where these shoes are easy to find. Shoes are a matter of personal expression for me. If someone does not like it, meet me out in the alley in five minutes, please. No one grasps the fact that to be different for me exists on all levels. My personality is already quirky and certainly different, but it isn't enough for me. I should express it in other ways than just being the silly girl. My point is that I would feel as if I lost one of those ways if everyone else was wearing something similar to what I was wearing. It is a society of sheep and I have to fight against that. WHY? It's who I am, and I'd rather not change this part of me. I like it, it's fun, except for when no one understands how I feel. Hey, story of my life, I suppose!

I've always wanted to be good enough in heels to show off some basic martial arts... Yes, six inch stilettos and a good kick. That could even get me into a movie. I still do not know why this interests me, but it would be important, a woman in the big city should defend herself, and if she is looking to wear heels all the time, she shuld practice. So I should practice. However, I find little comfort in performing this sort of thing in a short skirt. I tried it in the bathroom at work, once, when no one was around, and kicked towards the mirror in four inch heels. The kick was okay, but the skirt, well let's just say I see London I see France. The skirt flies everywhere. Maybe I'll work on yelling fire, yeah, that's it. And people were staring to think that I was normal! Riiiiiiiiight If that's so, I will just change my name from Laurie to Abby, thanks. -------------------------------------------- If you heard it from a friend who heard it from a friend, then you heard it from a stranger and it's probably a lie.

Okay, so there is no one way to wear heels, you're right, but it isn't that, it is about anyone even coming close, or even in the same universe. However, you are right that men could not wear heels the way I do. I don't think men wish to wiggle as they walk and flaunt their freaky cool attitude. Still, I hate crowds and trends. I like stiletto heels. Crowds really make me feel lost as an individual, as if I do not matter. Maybe this is why I have developed a desire for styles that are still very classy, sexy and feminine, but different. All of these women at work have boots. Everywhere boots. Boots to the knees, with many styles of heel. I would not buy a pair, lest I blend in. So it's something other women do not wear for most of my days at work, four inch heeled oxfords. We who post here may realize that there are differences between two different people wearing the same pair of shoes, but North American society is, well, conformist and trendy, and they do not look at the differences, just the similarities. That's why I am nervous about this whole heels being super popular idea. It would be great for all of us, but how high would I have to go before the numbed souls could see me as different from the woman next to me? Society is too general, too boring, to ever stop fighting the trends.

Experiment off the traditional edge? Give us some more definition, and some examples. I might hate the traditional edge and enjoy the experiments, but we could be talking about two totally different areas. Conformity is death. To live is to be yourself, an individual.

It was Ms. Carey, and she was some sort of spy. So she ends up in the water wearing her heels and apparently sexy diving suit. She also rides a jet ski in her stilettos. I find her quite trampy and in obvious need of attention, so she doesn't further the perception of high heels as normal in society. Stilettos? They are for tarts who think they can sing and use sex to sell themselves. That's the feeling I get. So when the rest of us are out and about, we can earn that same judgement, all because the shoes are often inserted into images for the pure sexual connotation. Still, Mariah must be good to film all day for a video and keep in her heels. It's one positive thing about her...

My only comment is about individuality. Sometimes I feel that I would like to be the only one in heels. Why? To stand out, to be different. I do not like to conform. I do wish for men to be free in expression. Sometimes I feel that if men wear stiletto heels in public, that it would take away from me and what I am trying to do in an attempt to be different. It's a tough line to walk. Support non conformity and free choice, but do not support it when it threatens my own non conformity and free choice. Everyone should just live life and be themselves. I may need to find a safe way to blend ultra fem and goth and still go to work without risk of being fired. I only have one day a year to do this, and next time it's Hallowe'en, I'd rather wear a costume and not just my own clothes in a way that makes it look like a costume. We all have goals. So let's just go for them, and those who really need to be different can find a way to survive.

Well Ben, I plan to just try it out. I can cheat if the first attempt for a regular seven inch heel does not work, but it is not my intention. Ballet boots. Well someone asked me that once, a personal conversation, and what seems a long time ago now. I don't think I would try them just for the sake of reaching a certain height in heels. I am not as thrilled about the look. This whole experiment will happen as it happens. I will post most of the comments about the training for the seven inch goal on Jenny's forum, because I like the reply system better than here. All I can do is try. That, at least, can make the difference. I hope that it can be done in a purem traditional manner with regards to the style of shoes I choose. Everyone will have to wait and see.

On 2002-02-08 05:50, Ben(Canada) wrote:

Laurie, I think you are a breath of fresh air compared to the women I have often stumbled onto.

I think it would be pretty neat if you could get to the point of being able to wear 7" heels for an extended period of time. I know some are saying this is not possible but who knows.

Ouch,a cliche. Thank you for the compliment! I'm just being myself, and that just happens to be different from EVERYONE else. I like that. Non conformity is good. Even if I do not like something, it would never mean other people should not do it. I think that is where the problem is in society. Most people do not like something, and automatically look down on anyone taking part in that something. Living like that is awful.

Now, seven inchers. Well sure, some people say it cannot be done. Maybe that is true. But I'll still try...

Within our hearts a flame burns, a passion for life still smolders, a desire to chase our dreams and fulfil them still glows. Should we let the fire die? Should the light go out of us? Should we give up hope?

Hell no.

Embrace everything that you might desire, and work towards the goal. Some days it may seem impossible, but just hold on a few more, and possibility will begin to blossom.

So even your desire to ask women about their shoes will be fulfilled some day, if you just try.

Fancy clothes and shoes are for women without brains? What the heck kind of women have you been hanging around with? And if they weren't in fancy clothes and shoes, what was the attraction? I would think these commentators are jealous of the sexy AND smart woman who gets the attention. As for is it okay to ask, well, it seems to me that if you have a relationship with someone and you ask about shoes, there shouldn't be any problem. One barrier you might face is that when you ask, the woman is thinking you are asking because you like wearing. So diplomacy is needed. You have to express that you are curious and an admirer, and simply that. How? WHy would I know, I'm just the woman likely to be asked, not the one trying to do the asking. Unless you get a really good feeling or connection from a woman you just bumped into, I would wait until you can ask someone you know and thus can judge the personality for possible reactions. It's like being a detective. You need to get clues as to the woman you are watching, and then use those clues to formulate the question. So it's empy and non specific advice. I cannot speak for anyone else other than myself. And sometimes that is dangerous enough!

I have been wearing socks with my ankle boots on the way to work. Why? To protect the stockings. A fast paced walk to work can rub on stockings, so they need protection. Once at work, off go the boots, off go the socks, and the well kept stockings find their way into some higher heels for the day.

On 2002-02-06 08:08, Stu wrote:

Laurie, your announcement in the other forum that you are starting training with the goal of being able to wear 6" and 7" heels attracted quite a response. So now I guess "the shoe is on the other foot" concerning your inquiry into the darker reasons why people wear heels. As someone who has and will continue to wish you the best of luck in your endeavor, I still have to ask: What forces are driving you to do this?

None of them are dark and mysterious. That's a shame sometimes. I like the way I feel when I walk in heels, I think they make me look more interesting, the shoes are sexy so I guess I feel sexy, and they make a delightful sound that I know causes people to take notice. I'll never make a good government spy now, I make so much noise when I walk. I think the benefits of wearing high heels certainly makes up for that.

I feel that I look better in heels than in flats, as well. My body has a better shape for it. Those small changes make a difference, you know... So look good, feel good, it's about that.

Straight legs are important, yes they look good. How would it look if the wearer had crooked legs? Some bow legged shape, and then trying to wear heels? It would be a disaster! So yes, straight legs, up and down, which may not be good for riding a bicycle or a horse, but perfect for heels This bit of silliness brought to you by Dreamchew, the new gum that is also a hallucinigen!

No, girlie styles! Some of us would be insecure, otherwise...

Shoe boxes with more information. Yes. They need that. I like to know the name of the shoes, their "style" so to speak, but there is a need for more information as to the design features and dimensions on the box as well. Material would be a good one for the box, I think. Instructions for wearing? Designers have better things to do than write these up, like spend their oddles of money on extreme vices.

Wearing socks over stocking sis a necessity for some people who need to walk to work at a fair clip. But then, since we change into better shoes at work, the socks go away. It's quite the trend where I live and probably most North American cities where women must walk to work. One reason to wear the socks is to protect the stockings from the wear they would suffer in the shoes used for walking. I have found that not wearing socks can cause a nasty run by the time I reach the office if the stocking is not a shadow toe. Call it a required evil of our modern world..

Why bother to divide things? Infinite variation is the best part about life. Just because I prefer one thing most, does not mean I would never dabble in another. So I prefer stockings with a garter belt, but it would not stop me from wering socks with ankle boots if that is what happened to come out of my clouded morning discussion with myself on what I should wear... Of course, it is a slush fest outside right now, and my only pair of ankle boots needs some repair. This point is now moot, and hereby declared invalid.

His survey is good, but I don't think people really admit that there are other reasons. So I am asking this here. I am looking for those little quirks. I expect some anonymous posts, of course. I know some people have not said everything they could have. So I am trying to encourage more discussion on those more mysterious reasons.

Well, there are malls downtown, but I am not going to walk out in this bad weather. I was forced to do that today, and it wasn't snowing yet. It was just cold. I saw very few people outside today. Tomorrow is supposed to be worse. It's not an excuse, unless the excuse is about not being cold. It can wait a few weeks.

There is absolutely no point to this message and I hope I am forgiven for this. But I hit 50! So I am now in Kitten heels. Finally, something befitting a more feminine style. I rule! MEOW.

Well, there will not be a new shoes post from me as I had hoped. I seem destined to never buy another paid of shoes. This time, we have very bad weather. It is snowing again, and should go tonight into tomorrow and through to Monday. Maybe in a few weeks I will report the good news. Right now, some dark podiatrist is scheming against me. My car isn't starting again until it warms up a bit, so I cannot even go look. Such a shame

I am having fun here. WOW. It is still a bit much in some ways, but I was never one to back down from a challenge. SO congratulations are in order. Now I just need to write two more meaningful messages so I can get to 50! There is some significance in the next step. Inside joke. Laurie