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I am delighted to hear that you say 'zed', in common with the great majority of the English-speaking world. Now, please concentrate on using 'different from' and using the 'loo/bog/toilet' rather than the bathroom or restroom. 😉 I agree that care must be taken in using certain words or expressions - not that this should really be necessary in intelligent society, and certainly not just because certain groups have hijacked perfectly good words and given them a new meaning that is now sacrosanct, and often for use only by other group members. But, in the UK at least, we are still able to use 'queer' in its established sense and context. And 'queen' likewise, which reminds me of a tale attributed to the late Queen Mother (widow of Geoge VI). Whilst waiting to be served her gin and tonic, the Queen Mum could hear two openly-gay members of her staff arguing in the hallway outside her sitting room. Impatient at being kept waiting, she eventually called out 'When you two old queens have finished arguing, this old Queen wants her gin.'.

Very presentable - one looks at the photo and sees at first only a well dressed man. The fact that he’s wearing heels is only a secondary observation - one that could easily be overlooked in passing. The heels aren’t hidden, they appear natural and in a way that can go a long way towards normalising the notion of a man in heels. I can imagine the trouble with the pant legs getting caught in the back of the shoes. Ankle boots would indeed be a good idea in those circumstances

It needn’t die if we don’t let it. It’s a pity that hardly any of the new members who say hello when they first join never post again, but that’s down to them. But there is a small core group here who post regularly and I certainly find that interaction enjoyable and worthwhile. Where else can you have frank chats about heels and style?

I'll second that - and for the same reasons. Platforms spoil the elegance of high heels and often do indeed look clownish

Well, let's just say I waited a long time - too long - to buy my first pair of heels. I was well into middle age before I dared to give it a try - even just wearing them at home. I felt guilty about wanting to try wearing high heels; I mean, what if I liked it? You mention job and social life as the things that are holding you back. But you don't need to wear them out and about if it makes you feel uncomfortable. Sure, quite a few of the guys on here do - and cut quite a dash. But it doesn't mean you have to. You can buy yourself a pair of heels tomorrow and wear them to your heart's content at home or in private or in whatever way or place works best for you. It's not a contest to see who can push the envelope the farthest. As for me I own a couple pairs of stiletto boots, but I don't wear them out and about, but instead at home while I am working. I do this in part because I am not well practiced in wearing them, in part because of where and how I live they would only get ruined, and partly because my natural style runs to knee and OTK boots with chunky heels, rather than stilettos. I bought some stilettos because they are the Ultima Thule of heels and (for guys) taboo breaking and I like wearing them, but when I am getting dressed the chunky heeled boots call out to me more often (which is why I am not well practiced in stilettos) I sm comfortable wearing feminine knee of OTK boots (with and without heels) out and about, but that's me. The point is it is not a competition. Wearing heels it doesn't need to be about towering stilettos or cutting a dash in public. It's about freedom of choice and your own personal style. The world doesn't make it easy for a guy to wear heels, but you don't have to wear them in public if you don't want to. Wear them at home. It's better to do that than never to try at all.