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I went from 1.5 inch heels to 4 inch heels in ONE minute. Found my balance no problem. BUT I had done years of ankle lifts, so my ankles were ready. An added incentive was I couldn't walk without 4 inch heels. I had a 26+ inch circumference on my calf, a level 3-4 tear.

I’ve no doubt at all about that. I think guys in general are weary of the stifling rules for men’s fashion regarding colours and styles, and would like to inject a bit of theatre into men’s fashions.

I agree with you both on this, as I travel a lot and wear my high heeled boots to many different locations. If you dress for the proper occasion and for the right place, the compliments will come. I luckily have only received compliments from guys and women when I wear my boots. There are a lot of guys and out there that want to and wish they could wear boots and heels like the rest of us.

You are right, you will definitely be noticed. Most won't say anything, but you will feel many stares in your direction. So, having confidence in what you are wearing, and how you look is so necessary. We have to remember that many disapproving looks are truly just envy, whether they come from men or women. The important thing is how you feel about how you look. In my case, I have to be honest with myself, no way I can pull off many of the outfits I might like to wear, this old dad bod just isn't up to it. But, I still think I look pretty good in some nice boots over tight fitting levis or girl jeans. So, over the years my confidence has increased. I can honestly say that I think I look good, and that is all that matters. Needless to say, recieving an occasional compliment refuels my confidence, don't mind admitting that. The other thing to remember is it is important to dress appropriately for the occasion/audience. A tight skirt/hose/tall heels probably isn't appropriate for a football stadium or Home Depot. Cali's advice about "dressing smartly" is very important indeed. My best to all my HHP buds for a happy holiday season and healthy 2026! Don

I agree that most of us tend to be impatient at the beginning of our heeling journey. We want to jump right into tall stiletto heels and take off! Needless to say, this results in pain and humiliation if we are stumbling around in public. Both of these experiences are confidence killers. Always best to start off slow and low, working your way up as muscles adjust/strengthen and proficiency increases. Ah yes, I have forgotten about the pain in the balls of our feet.

I am not all that great at technology, but I never felt resizing images for this place was a big deal. It's another step, but easy to do. Once resized I still have sizable pictures that show the details that I hope to show. As I have always said: people suck! Sorry you have to deal with them, but have a great New Year!

So sorry to hear about your losses. I like dogs too, but now have a cat that is very, very, very spoiled. I fully understand that losing a pet can be difficult. The shoes are very cool though and I cannot wait to see a picture of you wearing them!

Oh, I agree with you that when you start to wear heels you’ll find muscles you forgot about. I differentiate between that and actual foot pain. I could walk reasonably well - hardly catwalk grace, but reasonably well - in my 10cm boots when I first got them although after a fairly short while my calf muscles seized up in quite painful cramps. These went away when I sat down and flexed and massaged the muscles and I learned quickly that small doses were the way to go when you’re first starting out. i have taken a sort of middle road - wearing 8cm blocky heels generally but also slowly building up time in my 10cm stilettos. I’m doing the same now as I try to learn to walk in my 12cm boots.

I'm not saying that high heels are supposed to hurt (although you'd have a hard time convincing 95% of the population of that), I'm just saying that suddenly you're exercising muscle groups that you haven't before, and that results in, at the very least, soreness. In my case 13 years ago, it was fairly intense pain until I figured out that I can't go from 0 to 10 cm instantly. Thinking about this further, I suppose I could have gone the other way--stuck with the 10 cm, but for only short periods at first, gradually increasing the wearing time over weeks or months. The route I ended up choosing was to wear 5-7 cm pretty much every moment that I could, take long walks and so forth, then gradually increase the height over a period of time. Which do you think is the more effective method? On edit: I've heard many people say that a bit of a heel helps with back pain, but for me personally, I have not been able to tell any difference either way. The condition of my back has a lot more to do with my work than it does with my choice of footwear.

I always try to dress smartly when I’m in heels and I would do the same with leather trousers. I like contrasts in textures so I would wear them with a wool jumper or something like that

In early November I flew in a pair of faux leather pants and knee high JS 4 inch boots. Only one at the airport in leather pants and one of the very few in heels. Be aware @Shyheels if you wear this look, you WILL be noticed. So dress smartly.

They are indeed, just my style, and love how nicely the jeans fit also

I find that too.

I'll swear that wearing decent fitting heels/boots actually helps my posture and reduces back pain

Deflated is a good description!

Yes there is something empowering about walking in heels. I always feel a bit deflated when I take mine off at the end of the day.

Yes, well made, well fitting heels are most important. @mlroseplant So you meant that heels are intended to hurt for beginners? That could be the case. I guess mostly due to beginner's mistakes like bad fit, too high of a heel and so on. For me it's the same, I also prefer to walk in heels. If I'm in flats I feel more like strolling around than actually walking.

Yes, I also like how wearing heels feel, especially the 10cm and 12cm heights. And you’re quite right, wearing heels is like any athletic endeavour. I think that having done a lot of yoga, sabre fencing, running, skiing and cycling I had a natural advantage when it came to wearing heels. I never had any trouble at all with 7 to 8cm heels, not even from the first day. Even 10cm heels were not that hard although since I started practicing with my 12cm heels, they’ve become quite comfortable and easy. I still have to graduate to the 12cm ones ..

Sorry to hear about your news. But at least the band is back together!

I figure that either we're freaks, or everybody else is just substandard. 😆 I can't really tell you why it doesn't hurt anymore. In fact, I prefer the high heeled position of the foot for most things. I wouldn't want to be stuck in that position permanently or anything, but I do like the way it feels. I suppose it is something that is developed through repetition over time, and I suppose that like any other athletic endeavor, there are some people who are just not very good at it, or have a physical impediment. That would explain why some people claim that even 6 cm is too high for more than a few minutes.

Yes, my heels are all quite comfortable - even my 12cm ones which I struggle to walk fluidly in, are still comfortable. I’ve experienced more pain in badly fitted and designed running shoes than I ever had with heels. But then I made certain to buy well made, well fitting heels. They absolutely don’t need to be painful

They certainly are. The history of fashion is quite an interesting topic. Until I got brave enough to try wearing heels, I never really considered the history and meanings of fashion before. The history of heels is fascinating And you’re right in the 90s and 00s it was not uncommon for men to wear leather trousers - even without a motorcycle!

I think in the 90s and early 2000s it wasnt't that uncommon for men to wear leather pants, right? Fashion standards are strange...

Yes, heels probably have a bad reputation amongst people of such professions. Although I don't really know why. Is it prejudice or do they really know of many people who have problems from wearing heels? I had my experience(s) with pain, but I don't think they're intended to hurt. In my beginnings I thought it's normal that heels hurt, and that they're only meant to be worn for some occasions anyway. Now I know that heels can be very comfortable, and that's important to me. As much as I love heels, I wouldn't wear them everyday if they would hurt.

It’s a pity that men seem to be so restricted in what society permits them to wear. It’s the same with knee boots - fine if there’s a horse or motorcycle in the picture, but otherwise wearing them is considered odd or effeminate. Strange, really. As for me I rather like the idea of wearing leather trousers with heels.