XX Vs XY: Opening a whole new can of worms

[Shafted]

Well here's my explanation for me wanting to wear female footwear. I think that the fact that all us men have a neat little gift from our mothers called an X chromozone tends to give us a female side to us that we somehow need to balance with that Y chromozone that we got from our fathers. I'd hate to think what we'd be like if we had two Y chromozones, probably testosterone stoked wild animals. On the flip side of this women have two X chromozones, so genetically speaking I don't think women have the same conflict in them that we do, which would make sense as women seem to find many of the things that we wear ugly. If any of the ladies happen to be reading this, please feel free to repond, although I'm directing this at the men.

[Rockpup]

Not female here, although this is definatly an interesting theory. Probably best suited for the "for everybody" thread.. as most women probably skip the "for the guys" thread seeya Jim

[Bubba136]

Shafted wrote at one point in his comment:

genetically speaking I don't think women have the same conflict in them that we do

I believe that is a complicated statement. I think you have to say what is in conflict. If you are addressing the conflict that exists within the psychic of males that like to exhibit some female charactistics or wear female clothing, including high heels, I believe the conflict doesn't come from their wearing them but from the stigma that society attaches to males that do that sort of thing.

[Shafted]

My use of the word conflict could be misleading. What I mean is that as males, society expects us to show only male characteristics while surpressing the female characteristics. I think that many of us men here at this forum have at least accepted that we have some female characteristics, and rather than stifle them we choose to express them. In my case it's an expression of personal style (nails, heels and stylish male clothing). This would be a example of my balance. Anothers balance might be total crossdressing or none at all.

[crotchhiboots]

I wear multipul earrings in each ear, acrylic nails on my hands and I wear High heels on my feet, but I don't always feel feminin when I do so. I wear these things because I like the way they look on me. I like the shock value and I feel that society should reajust to the times. Some people are stuck in "the bad ol'e times" were if anybody is different they shun them. This is unfair to those of us who think and act and dress differently as to the chromosomes I think that there is no connection between them and how we act IMO. Just enjoy what you wear and have fun doing it.

[JeffB]

Well here's my explanation for me wanting to wear female footwear. I think that the fact that all us men have a neat little gift from our mothers called an X chromozone tends to give us a female side to us that we somehow need to balance with that Y chromozone that we got from our fathers. I'd hate to think what we'd be like if we had two Y chromozones, probably testosterone stoked wild animals. On the flip side of this women have two X chromozones, so genetically speaking I don't think women have the same conflict in them that we do, which would make sense as women seem to find many of the things that we wear ugly.

A most fascinating little thesis, Shafted. I began wearing women's shoes purely out of curiosity back in my teens, but who's to say your theory that we have a female side doesn't have merit? However, I don't see where there would be any sort of conflict as you mentioned, I simply enjoy wearing women's shoes, and I don't stress out over it or anything like that, nor do I feel embarrassed or ashamed about it either. I simply accepted that I love wearing pretty shoes, plain and simple.

[Shafted]

It's very easy to say "I wear heels because I like them.", but many cannot tell you why. They just do. Me personally, I think it's something buried deep in my subcouncious that won't go away nor would I want it to. Do I feel feminine when I wear them? No, it's more like a boost in confidence, and a unique personal style. I peronally have looked at my love of heels and nails and wondered why, and the fact that we have male and female chromozones worked for me.

[kiltsrgr8]

Do I feel feminine when I wear them? No, it's more like a boost in confidence, and a unique personal style. I peronally have looked at my love of heels and nails and wondered why.

I feel the same , as most people think my goal when I wear heels and my acrilic nails is look like a women , that simply is not the case , I just love these things! They don't make me feel like a girl , just like I am complete or something , but I do feel very alone in my thought as the only people I know who have these desires are out there in cyber land.

And as you say , I have often wondered why , but as for myself I have given up trying to "figure" it out , as I don't think I ever will and just resolve myself to have fun with it.

[Shafted]

kiltsrgr8, When I look at the rate at which people are joining this board, as well as the recent record in usage recently recorded (which I dont think was a fluke because I was one of the unregistered users viewing the board at that time) I have to wonder how many people feel the same way, but just haven't joined or found the board yet. The percentage of unregistered users seems to be much higher than registered at any given time. If these users were to all join I think that we may all be pleasantly surprised. Who knows there may be enough of us out there to constitute a revolution, if only they can shuck off socially imposed taboos. William

[new_look]

I can see the point attempted, ad maybe it does contain some unknown truth. Personally i wear them cos i enjoy how they look & feel, and wouldnt say i feel more feminine to wear them. Irrespective of topic discussed, looking back a few years when heels were mens fashion, the xx/xy point wouldnt have been relevant. heels themselves arent feminine or masculine. They are labelled that way by fashion society. my two cents anyway daz

[Shafted]

Naturally when constructing my theory, I used myself as an example. I seem to have inherited a few things from my father such as my voice. It's almost indistinguishable from my father when he was my age. Most of my physical characteristics however were clearly from my mother, such as hair color, eye colors, small hands with slender fingers and slender feet with high arches and long toes which are so much better suited to womens footwear than mens. In fact is difficult for me to find mens footwear that fits properly without adding expensive insoles to provide the support my arches now need (I not as young as I used to be and my feet have sent me signals that I better do something to improve the situation). But truth be told going to womens footwear is like going from my Ford pickup truck to a Lamborgini in style On the flip side my siister who used to wear heels alot despite discomfort got my dads feet. She always used to pick on my funny feet when we were younger, but only recently did she admit that she wished she had them.

[tightlevisandhhboots]

I do like the way they make me feel, but I think it is the liking of female attire, and the desire to get away with wearing it as a man has a little to do with it all too... tightlevisandhhboots

[genebujold]

Most men in the U.S. or even Europe have a difficult time getting in touch with, much less expressing, their feminine side. This is in sharp contrast to most men around the world, whom have little difficulty being themselves. I personally believe it's a combination of the world wars, conscripted troops, widespread wear of uniforms, and, of course, the media, which has portrayed men as HE-MEN for far too long, and as effeminate only as a joke. In reality, about a third of all men are "effeminate," the middle third are a mix, and the remaining third are knuckledraggers, while less than 5% are actually homosexual. Take me, for example - I'm not in the least bit effeminate in manner of speech, expression (verbal or physical), yet I'm a happily married man and enjoy heels and skirts. Go figure.

[Shafted]

Well, I still have skin on my knuckes and I'm really just into womens footwear and good manicured nails, so can I safely say I fall into the middle third?