RonC

Welcome - hope you enjoy the company!  You are a dream fro most of us heel wearing guys!  Your approval is priceless!

On 4/8/2018 at 4:04 AM, jeremy1986 said:

Today's heels. Stone grey suede - "Pauline" style by London Rebel, bought from Asos. One of the first heels I bought myself. They tend to look lower than they are because of the style of the heel, but they are a nice 4". I love the classic stiletto look.

 

Nice classic pump style.  Look great!  4" in plenty!

SF, I like those sandals - very nice.  I much prefer the crossed ankle straps such as those to the single strap with the high rise back that has been beat to death for the last 3-4 years now.  I dislike the height that the back of the sandal usually gets to - looks like it never fits properly on those.  Jeeze, I wish that look would go away.  I like yours much better.

I'd go with the pumps myself

6 hours ago, Cali said:

I have a large toe box and a narrow heel.  I had to get men's size 9 4E just to get my toes in. Then I would have an extra inch of space around my heel and 1/2+ inch at my toes. Sandals were even harder. I could find sandals to fit my toe box but then I couldn't get the top tight enough.  I would pull the ends together and still be very loose around my ankle.  It wasn't a matter of buying them too big, it was a matter that my foot shape and men's shoes disagree.  Once I figured out that I had women's shape feet, I suddenly found shoes that fit. Now I wear women's size 10 shoes M. Because I have a large toe box, some women's styles (like pumps) don't fit, but there are so many different women's shoes it extremely easy to find shoes that fit. I went from hating shopping for shoes to now when I always take the time to look and try on heels. I go shoe shopping 2-3 times a month...got to see (and try on) the latest styles.

 

I don't understand how women's shoes can fit a wide foot better.  I can see the heel part, but if you have a large toe box area, there is not a pair of women's shoes made that are wider through the toe box than a pair of men's shoes - sandals or whatever.  I wear a men's 10 W.  If I try a women's 10 W, the toe box is too tight and the length is short.  If I go to an 11 wide, some sandals are ok - others still too tight, and pumps are still much too tight in 11 W.  I can occasionally find a women's 11 WW in a style I like, and that usually works.  But if you needed a men's 9 4EEE, there is physically no way a womens 10 M has a toe box that large.  Look at the dimensions when shown - the width dimension between mens 9 4EEE and womens 10 M is not really close.  Something is off somewhere.  I am unable to back up my statement at the present with measurements, but if I find a table showing width in CM or inches for various widths I will post.  Not arguing that they might fit you better, but I'm guessing something was off on the men's side of the equation then.  

Ok, I found the attached - http://www.sizecharter.com/clothing-fit-and-measurement/understanding-shoe-sizing

There you will see the width for a men's size 9 EEEE listed at 10.8 CM, and a women's 10 M at 9.7 CM.  Granted, not all shoes conform to these measurements, but I would assume that they are "typical" at least.  

On 3/20/2018 at 5:13 PM, Barr said:

These are one of the my latest pairs. A gift actually. They have a low heel, I didn't think I would like them because they weren't tall enough...but I find myself doing chores in them...maybe more chores just to wear them. 

I like those alot.  Classic pump style, black patent, and a nice heel height.  

On 3/19/2018 at 6:59 PM, IanHH said:

Cheers Ron I am enjoying being here. Yes she wears heels although not as often as I do nor has she got anywhere near the number of heels I have. Like I say to her though “but darling you can never have enough pairs of heels.” To which I normally get the LOOK, which roughly translates to  “don’t push it sunshine!”

Yeah, I am familiar with that look...lol!

Welcome Ian.  So lucky to have an understanding wife.  Does she wear heels as well?

Great legs and heels, Balletboot!

I do not own any women's clothing.  I will occasionally borrow a skirt from my wife if I feel like looking more feminine in a pair of heels.  I don't wear it out of the house (well, ok, I've gone to the bank drive-through in a skirt before - would be interesting if I had a fender bender or something and had to get out of the car..lol).  When I wear heels out, it is typically with long jeans, as I am not one to want to be noticed.  However, I will say that, in my opinion, a pair of men's dress pants or a suit pants look quite good with a pair of heels - of most any style.  I've seen examples here of both block heel boots and stilettos, and I think it looks just fine.  While not so common any more, for a number of years women were wearing heels with dress slacks and it looked just fine, and still does.  

I think it's great what he is doing!  SImply wearing heels because he likes them and feels empowered in them.  I do have to say, though, they are not 6" heels!  Four max, which is plenty!

Jessica Simpson shoes that are wider than normal?  Wow, that is rare.  I've never found a pair of those that fit me anywhere near comfortably.

SoCalGal, one more straight married guy reporting in.  While many of the guys here report that they can wear heels all day without pain, I am not in that category.  While the level of tolerance is greatly influenced by fit, I can only go so long before having pain in the ball of my foot area regardless of fit.  I do admit that fit is a tough place for me, as I wear a man's 10.5 wide, and a women's equivalent to that is very difficult to find.  There is also no doubt that wearing four inch heels is a lot different than something lower in the three inch range.  That said, I have some 2.5 inch heels that start to give me discomfort before others that approach 4 inches.  You say that you are basically "required" to wear heels in your job.  But do they specify a specific height?  If you are wearing Jimmy Choo's, you are likely at least 4 inches and in some approaching five.  Yes, I do believe you will have painful feet at those heights.  There are hundreds of good looking women's shoes these days that still look quite stylish but have heels in the 2.5-3 inch range.  Kitten heels seem to be all the rage right now, as well as the lower block styles.  Can those not pass muster as heels in the courtroom?  You might not experience so much discomfort if you went that route.  I love to see ladies in heels - nothing looks better than an attractive woman in a dress and heels.  But they don't need to be 4-5 inches high to be attractive.  Maybe try some lower styles and see if that reduces your pain - you can still look stunning in a feminine styled 3 inch heel!  Best wishes - please stay with us for a while! 

Jeremy - interesting that as your wife gained weight, she shunned heels.  Mine has been pretty heavy at times, but she always felt that attractive shoes were the one thing she could wear, even if she had to start finding things that came in a wider width.  Heels only stopped when her poor feet just would not allow it.  It is interesting because, when she was young, she didn't wear heels pretty much until I came along and requested that she wear them.  She got used to them, and then they became an integral part of her wardrobe.  When she could no longer wear them, she was actually upset about it and hates wearing, as she puts it, "these ugly shoes."  She said that she wouldn't have believed that she'd love heels when she was young, but that I had gotten her hooked on them.  I should thank my lucky stars that I had all those years of her in great shoes.  

mlroseplant, from what I see, not many women in their 50's wear much in the way of heels any more.  There are still a few stalwarts who continue to dress nicely with heels, but honestly, the entire population has become so casual with dress that heels are getting to be rare in many areas.  In the suburbs in my area, heels are basically non-existent, even in some of the nicer restaurants.  If one goes into the city, where the population is younger as a rule, you will see more heels in the evenings at restaurants, bars, etc.  Take me back to the late 80's/early 90's please!

JeffB, just curious, have you measured the heels on those boots?  The sure don't look like 4".  Very nice looking boots though.  I like the buckles as well.

You made me check where I stood.  Joined in January 2002 and I have 902 posts to date.  Maybe by my 20th year, I'll hit 1,000 as well!

Jeremy, just curious, have you asked her why she never wears heels anymore?  Is it a foot problem maybe, or some other physical issue?  And again, just curious, do you ever request that she wear a certain pair of shoes?  

When she could still wear heels, my wife was wonderfully accommodating.  I probably picked out 75% of the shoes she owned, and any time I asked her to wear something I really liked, she never had an issue (unless maybe they were just the wrong shoes for the outfit she was wearing).  That said, since I had a major hand in picking out he shoes, I liked most everything she had!  Unfortunately, foot issues put an end to any type of heels, and continued foot issues together with some nerve damage which has impacted the function of her left leg have resulted in her not being able to wear much of anything that I would call cute.  I know I shouldn't feel this way, but it has been very difficult for me.  I really miss her in heels!  

Wow, those shoes look to be having a severe identity crisis....lol

Yes, I love those too.  I like the ornament and pleating.

12 hours ago, balletboot said:

Got out today and did some christmas shopping and a little shoe shopping of course. 

I went out in my skinny jeans and aldo's like in the pictures above. I went to dsw, Nordstrom rack, macys and aldo looking for heels. I had to walk all the way across the mall to get from macys to aldo. As i walked into aldo the sales women was all dressed up and wearing a similar pair of heels and she immeditly said that she loved my outfit. She was all excited to help and talk with me, she was definitely giving me more attention then the other women who came in while i was there. It was a great expierence

They didnt have anything that really cought my eye (besides the sales lady) so i left. Stopped into a few other stores looking for a mid thigh short skirt to maybe pair with my heels. Didnt have much luck this time of year. 

All in all i was walking around shopping for about 5 hours! Had a great time, with no negative comments. Im hopefully going to get back out friday to finish up my christmas shopping wearing the same outfit

Wow - you walked in those heels for 5 hours!  I doubt that there is a woman on the planet that could match you on that!  Personally, there is no way - my feet would be killing me.  Very nice!

Very cool - I just don't quite have the stones for a pair of pumps like those yet.  Maybe some day!

Likely not obvious that someone noticed them, but if they do, I would guess that 99% of people would simply look and not make any kind of fuss about it.  Think about seeing someone from say 30 feet away, where your glance gets the entire person - would be pretty hard to not see the shoes.  But they are not going to come running over to you laughing or stand there and point, hoot and holler.  They will see what they will see, and go on their merry way!

The Shoe Show store I go to (I believe this one is called The Shoe Department - same company), actually does carry a pretty darn decent collection of large and wide sizes.  They don't always have something that interests me, but always find a few things to try on when I'm there.  No problem at all with the staff - I think they are used to it.  As for quality, it depends on the manufacturer - they have some of their own brands like It's OK that are, as indicated, about the same as Payless.  But then you can also find stuff from J/ Renee, Nine West, Naturalizer, Lifestride, and other national brands.  Just depends on what they can scarf up cheap and re-sell I'm guessing.  Never had a problem with then.

On 12/1/2017 at 4:41 PM, balletboot said:

When i ordered my aldos i also ordered a pair of nine west from macys. The aldos were a better fit a way better looking.

So went to macys to return them. I decided to wear my new aldos with my new super skinny jeans, black t and peacoat. Besides the cashier and the one woman trying on shoes i dont think anyone even noticed. The aldos are almost silent compared to my booties i have.

All in all it was a nerve wacking trip since it was my first time in skinny jeans and heels in public. But it was also fun and exciting. 

Here is a picture i took in macys. Ignore the filthy mirror.

Very nice look - as several have stated, you have the shape for the outfit and it looks great on you.  Congrats for having the gumption to go out in public in that outfit.  I'd kind of look like an egg on stilts if I tried that...lol.

Also, I absolutely love the toe cleavage on those heels!  Too bad Aldo doesn't make size 12 US.  I'd have to have a pair if they did.

Very cool, balletboot!

8 hours ago, Schnubab said:

 The brand is "Call It Spring" with the particular shoe model being Gwydda. The heel is 11cm high which is perfect for me.

As for making an honest woman out of her, she has been VERY patient for the last 9 1/2 years now, so it is definitely needed soon

You are indeed a lucky man, and any woman that bought me a pair of heels like that would earn my everlasting love and respect!  Only in my dreams!

I find them very attractive as well.  A classic pump with a nice detail.  But they do look narrow!  Way too narrow for my wide foot.