Majo

Vinheel, those sandals are amazing! Hope you enjoy them and tell us if you use them for street heeling.

I've seen some confused faces along in my outings; and many weird acts of the people that saw my heels. Once, the guy who gave me the ticket of my credit card purchase let it fall to the floor to get a closer look when picking it up. I work for an industry where heels are inpractical, hence not used even by women. So, it's not very common to see 4" heels around... imagine a guy in 4 inchers. Never the less, I haven't seen any awkward or disapproving faces, just surprise looks. And, by the way, my boots always rock! My view upon the looks of the people that meet when walking on heels is more less as follows: We, humans specimens, tend to sort things out for a better understanding. This is not necessarily -intrinsically- wrong; it's just a way to comprehend what appears before us in the way we are used to address the already known events, things or creatures. This action has a judging implicit nature which is merely due to the act of sorting. When things don't fit we sometimes get stubborn and pretend -want- to make them fit our own way, regardless the needs or desires of the new occurrence. If we are tolerant, maybe we tend to look at this new unexpected event as weird or "unclassified"; but falls into the "Threat, no threat" dilemma which is mostly what generates our reaction. When we are aware of this dilemma, we are more prepared to deal with it. This conciousness brakes the limit to acceptance -or not- in a way we can handle correctly. When it goes by in an more subconscious way, fear gets in the way and all sort of reactions get triggered. Bad reactions from people are usually a mirror of their own fears and not necessarily a response to us as individuals. High heels are usually used by women and are quite noisy. Heads turn not because of the noise, but because they are associated with a nice pair of legs or a good looking lady. When I see a man instead, maybe there is something missing in my internal conception of what I should get. Two of many things occur: The cute lady is not there, which is a drawback; my matching criteria is wrong. So, I can address my criteria, and say "I should review my standards on this"; or I can address his criteria and say "He has wrong standards". The first one is the hard way to go, the second one is the easy way to go. Most of human beings tend to go by the easiest way and react. What I'm sure of this is that: If a guy or a gal has a bad reaction on me, and I can recognize this reaction, it's because I'm able of reacting the same way under similar circumstances -not regarding heels, of course-. So, the bad reaction in some way is a thing a can use to grow in confidence and on the better knowledge of myself.

I felt the same, Roni. The guy that's interviewed seems to be a wearer, but is no open to use them publicly even if he is in the fashion industry... seems a bit contradictory to me.

Anyway, once any kids arrive you'll pretty much stop having an intimate life together, so the problem becomes academic!!

Well, that's true. Kids not only get in and on your life -which is incredibly magical, empowering and beautiful- but they also get in your sheets and can ruin your bed.

I travel a lot, not precisely by air, and last year we started to travel together. Away from the family routine me managed to realize how much our conversations were surrounded by kids matters and not by our own couple issues. So, if you don't address -and pretty much solve- this differences before kids come by... you will have to postpone them several -if not many- years.

Well, Glitterheels, if you dare go out with those I'd suggest you match them with hot-pants or a very short mini skirt/dress. My first outing was a pair of 3.5" heel boots under my trousers. But that's just me! Oh, and I live in Argentina... And don't forget to wax your legs!

I second Bubba in his comment.

I think there are two sides on the story of our partner's supportiveness.

I feel my fetish days about heels have faded away and my use is more due to a natural interest in heels than to the kinkyness they might have provided when I was younger. I understand that, from the simple wearer's point of view, they are apparel/footwear -just shoes, as my SO states-; and used by females or males is just mere act of vanity.

On the other hand I must say I don't have -as my wife is open minded about it- a way to test what would happen if the satisfaction of wearing heels would be denied in any way. Be it because she didn't approve, or because I had no access to them. In any case, I overtake her more than 4 times right now on the amount of heels we currently have. This can put my non-fetish argument in doubt too, as I buy almost 15 pairs year around, and discard a similar amount in that time; and those I use in public are just very few.

Trev, we've been living together for 21 years. We started talking about it before getting married. We have talked a lot about it during the early stages of our mariage. The possitive thing is talking about it made things easier for us to talk other issues that, possibly, were much harder to address for both of us from both sides -mine or hers-. The negative thing is it got a bit sticky and itchy at one point. The way we can manage this is away from recipes, my only advice is your egos shouldn't get into your realtionship.

Your wife doesn't 'get' your kink, and she probably never will.

I believe this phrase from Swollen is crucial, if it's a fetish. As well as I believe, if it isn't, it will drift away and become a second, third or tenth issue with some time. Anyway, tolerance is no acceptance. And time can provide acceptance, if there is tolerance. You don't have to push limits and your relationship should be stronger than your footwear.

For example. She smokes. During some time it turned me on seen her smoking and we played with it. Now it doesn't, and I really don't like it as I get a headache after being in a smoky roomm. So she handles in a way I don't feel uncomfortable. I do the same with heels. Although she is a heel wearer -2" to 3.5" daily- I don't push her to use higher heels either. We feel comfortable about that and we can cope with each other's tastes well.

Another good point:

You should address clearly this before you decide raising children.

Cheers

Majo

... if they are in production, certainly is because somebody buys! I believe sneakers should stay either as flats or as snikers. I vote for the second!

Oh... sorry to miss them. Only caught the legs picture Great experience, Kneehighs!

Stunning shoes... breathtaking legs. I'm speechless.

What about proposing her a different model ?

I'm sure your wife would be more than happy to receive such a nice gift.

I'm after it, Daniel.

Haven't had the time to go to the store.

Good present for Mother's day!

Well, that's a wife! I had a similar experience a couple of weeks ago with mine too. I had a pair of boots in my cupboard; she was arranging things before travelling to The States and she found them. She told me afterwards: "Hey, those boots are amazing! Why didn't you get a pair form me too?". Unfortunately those boots are from a couple of years ago so it would be tough to get a similar pair now.

I never did, Ultrakiller, but I recon it's an excellent way to start. Congrats!

Thanks for the compliments, guys. Unfortunately I tried tuck my pants inside but there's no room to fit them in. Not even with a pair of thighs. A real petty because those boots claim to be on the outside.

Great pumps, Wolf. Thanks for sharing!

You need to be quick with Louboutins.....

I totally agree with Pussyinboots. If you see them: snatch them. (you can fiercely add: "Mine!").

Any way, it seems some styles never pass away. I bought my Decolletes 868, and Pigalles 120, this year though they had been away almost all 2009. As a matter of fact, Pigalles have gone up 30 dollars since I bought them .

It seems Net-A-Porter has a special arrangement for them as it's the only place where you can find them in the web.

May be another place to look is Neiman Marcus, Bergdor Goodman or My Theresa.

As a matter of fact, Bergdorf Goodman has Rolandos in the site at this moment -not in satin, though-.

Thanks Bubba. It will be difficult to use them over the jeans as the upper shaft is quite tight on my legs. Any way, they are really pretty, and comfortable.

Yesterday I bought these Knee high boots from Lonte. Incredible suede quality, amazing. Heel is just 9.8cm (3" 9/10) and have a small 1.2cm (1/2") platform. Shaft is 45cm (17" 3/4) They are slip on which is a bit of a drawback as I have a very high arc and are not so easy to get into. I prefer the half zip in the inside instead. Hope you enjoy the pictures. I'll post more soon.

Hopefully this wont just spark there curiosity.

Ohhh, man.... you can bet it will! "Curiosity killed cat and women!" stands an old saying we have down here.

LOL.

I understand you guys in University can have a tough time hiding stuff. I've past those days and had little success with it. The point is, at your age, you shouldn't be hiding it; specially in a place like England where people are much more tolerant than in other places of the world.

On the other hand the best place to hide something in front of everybody.

I received the Net-A-Porter Magazine slide show with some interesting pictures. 1) Gaby patent pumps from Yves Saint Laurent. 2) Lace-front peep-toe ankle boots from Alaïa. 3) Big Lips 120 suede pumps from Ch. Louboutin. 4) Pigalle 120 patent pumps from Ch. Louboutin. All stunning! And last, but not least... a nice tease for us, guys, from the people of Net-A-Porter Jo.

My heeling has nothing to do with my sexuality; I just like to use heels. In my teens I was arosed by heels but now it's just a choice of footwear. Maybe some guys can feel in the way you put the question. It seems to me, though, that it could be also the other way round and that many bis can adopt heels as their every day costume. I really don't know.

It depends on the show, normally I use stalkings.

McQueen reloaded!

These are even worse!

http://www.longlocks.com/style-angst/2009/10/ow/

I haven't told my friends, but that doesn't mean they don't know as some of them might have found my heels around my place. Anyway, nobody said nothing. My wife and my sisters know about my heels, although they don't come home much.

I thought a 43-44 was a 12?

In italian sizing 42 is usually classified as 12 by vendors. You should check them personally if you have the chance, as Bubba says; Louboutins are weird in sizing and a 42 can be many sizes but a 42 depending on the model.

In my case, I'm a 42 and I bought 41.5 and runs perfectly as the fashion adviser suggested. I sent my foot measurements and they answered asap. They are narrow fit, though. The Decolettes I have are 42 and they are a bit snug.

I also have a pair of Atwood's that are 41 and run well. Trying them on is the best way.

In my case, Daniel,

"Would you like to tell your friends because this way you would be able to wear heels when you visit them?"

would break my compromise with my wife regarding "not in front of the kids". So that might work as a good excuse -not a good reason, ok-.