Bubba136

On 4/4/2024 at 5:57 AM, mlroseplant said:

I blame Janet Jackson for almost singlehandedly ruining pop music, but that doesn't make it so, init? In other news, I have completed analysis of the shoe inventory data. I'm thinking about doling it out a little bit at a time, in an attempt to create more traffic on this forum. Or am I thinking crazy? If that is a dumb idea, I'll just dump all the numbers at once this weekend, when I have more time.

As a movie trailer equivalent, I'll recap from above and confirm that indeed, I have 106 pairs of high heels, but add the recent revelation that 60.4% of them are sandals. That is an incremental increase from last time, but not a dramatic one. It's not surprising, being as you don't catch me in an enclosed shoe from May to December.

One more interesting statistic--I decided to quickly count how many pairs I hadn't worn outside in over a year, and came up with 15.7%, so therefore, if I feel the need to thin the herd, there's about 1/6 of them right there.

At one point about midway into our marriage, after clean out one of our clothes closet, my wife told me that she would be embarrassed telling one of her friends that her husband not only owned more pairs of heels than she did but that he wore them more frequently and for longer periods of time.

4 hours ago, Puffer said:

I can certainly identify with Bubba136's view that a lot of civilisation went downhill from the mid-60s, as the rock-n-roll era was replaced by the hippie culture.   And recovery has been impeded by the fact that (i) the majority of the hippies are still with us; (ii) the next generation or two have been directly influenced by their hippie ancestors.   However, we must be careful if trying to establish a causative link: arguing post hoc ergo propter hoc ['after this and therefore because of this'] often results in a fallacious result.   But I still blame the disciples of flower power!

Good comment. 

On 3/30/2024 at 5:23 AM, mlroseplant said:

Ah, we've started a whole new thread on this subject, which is probably a wise decision. Without getting into great detail about it, I have found that yes, indeed, the "push off" is probably more important than the step forward. After all, other than momentum, the leading foot, which we all tend to focus on, provides no energy at all to get us from Point A to Point B. So it is really these series of pushes from the trailing foot that keeps us moving.

The question is how to transfer the energy from one foot to another. It is my belief that the best looking way is for the bottom of the trailing foot to be perpendicular to the ground at the time of power transfer. This may also coincide with being the most efficient way to walk. Your mileage may vary. What I do not find efficient, though somewhat attractive, is excessive movement of the opposite hip immediately after power transfer. It might be more natural for biological females to walk this way, but it is mostly an affectation of models and beauty queens. Which is not to say that we can't take cues from these people, but their example needs to be toned down for the street.

The main thing I have found is that there needs to be fluidity and relaxedness when walking in heels, however that presents itself. While at the same time retaining an upright posture to an almost rigid degree. Particularly, pay attention to your head. As we get older, it for some dumb reason becomes easier for us to jut the head forward, ahead of the neck, instead of keeping it on top where it belongs. That doesn't make any damn sense to me, but I only know that it is so. I have to consciously fight "turtle neck." That alone can completely ruin the effect of heels.

Pay attention to all of these things, but relax. I know, nearly impossible, init?

On 3/30/2024 at 5:23 AM, mlroseplant said:

Ah, we've started a whole new thread on this subject, which is probably a wise decision. Without getting into great detail about it, I have found that yes, indeed, the "push off" is probably more important than the step forward. After all, other than momentum, the leading foot, which we all tend to focus on, provides no energy at all to get us from Point A to Point B. So it is really these series of pushes from the trailing foot that keeps us moving.

The question is how to transfer the energy from one foot to another. It is my belief that the best looking way is for the bottom of the trailing foot to be perpendicular to the ground at the time of power transfer. This may also coincide with being the most efficient way to walk. Your mileage may vary. What I do not find efficient, though somewhat attractive, is excessive movement of the opposite hip immediately after power transfer. It might be more natural for biological females to walk this way, but it is mostly an affectation of models and beauty queens. Which is not to say that we can't take cues from these people, but their example needs to be toned down for the street.

The main thing I have found is that there needs to be fluidity and relaxedness when walking in heels, however that presents itself. While at the same time retaining an upright posture to an almost rigid degree. Particularly, pay attention to your head. As we get older, it for some dumb reason becomes easier for us to jut the head forward, ahead of the neck, instead of keeping it on top where it belongs. That doesn't make any damn sense to me, but I only know that it is so. I have to consciously fight "turtle neck." That alone can completely ruin the effect of heels.

Pay attention to all of these things, but relax. I know, nearly impossible, init?

Oh, come now.  It’s really very simple.  First you put the right foot in then you take it out, then you put your left foot in and shake it all about —- that’s what it’s all about!

This is a pair I could wear without difficulty almost any where.

11 hours ago, Jkrenzer said:

Actually the legal issues work both ways despite popular thought. So since they opened the door to playful behavior he can follow suit. 

The key is he has no quidproque. He's not their boss or subordinate. They playfully suggest fashion to he can to them.

I think I would tread lightly here because if these women are as unattractive as described, any suggestion of improving their appearance could be taken as insulting and might be considered inappropriate by your company’s anti discrimination policies. 

Reading from posted responses to my remarks,I realized I had missed making my point which was nicely made by mlrose above.  The purpose of my reflection on changing female dress habits was to underscore the point that women are more likely to attend minor social events not as formally dressed as they would have been thirty years ago.  It is relieving to know that there are still individuals out there that are willing to set required standards that have to be met if you are going to participate.

The “grunge” aspect was ment to demonstrate how much choice girls have these days in appearing publicly wearing clothing that in the past would be worn by the “lesser advantaged or lower loser class”  Any girl wearing a nice party dress with combat boots 30 years ago would raise a question about the girls mental association with the “hippie culture” carryover from the 60’s , which in my opinion, is responsible for the entire lowering behavioral standards and lack of respect for anything or anyone, these days.

It’s obvious that women today, while still wishing to remain fashionable, are no longer willing to endure uncomfortable attire which really high heels can be considered.  I believe that the grunge look is popular because it combines something feminine looking while  being comfortable to wear.  For dressing up, girls shoes can be “oh so sexy” and feminine with low heels and fancy adornments.  Block heels and over the vamp sandals are noticeable these days at church, weddings and other gatherings where being nicely dressed is appropriate because they maintain a genuine feminine appearance while being comfortable.  Now, if men were as foregoing, they would find suitable attire to replace the traditional suit and tie.

I agree.  I would wear the shirt and boots at first and wear the skirt and the rest of the outfit after your coworkers get used to seeing you dressed that way. Your ear rings and nails polished, along with a nice necklace and other accessories should set the mood for the skirt. 

2 hours ago, kneehighs said:

This guy in this conversation always told me "trust the FED" and constantly mocked me buying Bitcoin

Bitcoin was at $5K USD at this time. This was March 2020. Bitcoin never went back to $5K ever again after this.

Naturally I playfully have to occasionally give him a hard time for his decision to not buy Bitcoin back then.

Per usual, most don't understand risk to reward is in your favor when the rest of the world is fearful. Now that Bitcoin is consolidating near 70K, most are becoming greedy. 

And that my friends has me playing defense now. 

 

Is anyone buying it at this price?

Now, back on topic.

Seeing a man wearing a pair of high heel shoes evokes impressions of a man dressing as a woman which could be considered as being mildly sexually deviant in today’s society.  

 Since high heels have been associated exclusively with the female gender over the past couple of centuries, any male sporting a fashionable pair of elegant Black Patient leather pumps with five inch heels on his feet would be an unusual sight and could become subject of intense conversation when he’s wearing them in public. While the practice has become increasingly accepted these days, it still largely remains controversial. 

It seems that in the past decade people have become more likely to discuss the pro’s and cons of crossdressing (which some psychologists believe wearing only heels to be) than to openly condemn the practice.  Those men that have been wearing their “girls shoes” openly in public for years can attest to this measurable change in attitude, having personally experienced the “slings and arrow” rebukes, insults and criticisms intensely directed in their direction in the past.

The degree that any male desire to wear female attire, whether it’s 100.% passing as a female or occasionally mixing items of women’s clothing, such as shirts, blouses, jackets or shoes, is immaterial.  For the most part, the person dawning the clothes is usually doing so to satisfy their own desires and not to try to deceive or fool others into believing they are something they aren’t.  

The accepted norms for female fashion is much more complicated and complex than male dressing as those of us that have female partners are aware. The choice of clothing to match the event, color and proper accessories accenting “the look”, among other attributes, is intensely important. 

The main accessory that can “make or break” the overall appearance of the “look” is the shoes.  The choices for men are is severely limited - work, play or dress up.  Women’s choices, on the other hand, are as numerous as the different species of flowers. Fashionable dressed women work over time selecting “just the right pair” to succeed in accomplishing their dream appearance.

The aspect that is most common to both genders, when it comes to wearing high heels, is walking while wearing them.  Whether you’re a man or a woman you have identical problems.  You have to learn how to walk properly while wearing them.  Some men/women are natural wearers.  They pop on a pair and trot on off about their business unaware they are even wearing high heels.  Others encounter physical difficulties they cannot overcome.  It’s those in between that need training and proper instruction.  

For those “first time” wearers, it is only to human nature to try them on the first time they get their hands on a pair.  Once they have satisfied their curiosity and decide to continue wearing them, it would be a good time to talk with an experienced wearer, comparing and discussing sizing and professional instruction, should they feel it would be helpful.  

Keep in mind that acquiring professional instruction early on would be very beneficial before developing harmful practices and hard to break habits that could lead to physical discomfort.  Thoroughly reviewing websites on the internet and using email evaluate course content could be very helpful.

Most importantly, be aware that wearing an absolutely beautiful pair of high heels is an enormously satisfying and thoroughly pleasurable sensation that there is. Once you’ve began, you’ll never quit.

Thank you for your comment, Shyheels.  The identity slug, beneath my initial symbol above, shows that I have posted 13.3k comments over the time I have been a member here.  I have related this part of my history before.  A long time ago.  It is the way it happened.   I felt that if we were going to become involved to a point where a lifetime commitment was possible, then that commitment should be based upon the absolute truth if it was going to succeed.  Our commitment was complete and successful.  The only problem was that It didn’t last long enough.  My wife passed away after only 36 years together.  We were the same age.  We should still be going strong.  You cannot imagine how much I miss her.  I realize that this is “off subject”.  Please forgive me for reminiscing.

Walking in heels.  Something I never thought about until the first time I wore them in front of my wife.  She was just my girlfriend at the time but we had been dating for several months.  

 I met her on our first day at college.  We hit it off from the first moment we met and when it became apparent that we were going to be more than boyfriend and girlfriend, I decided that it was time I told her about my life long love of wearing heels so that if she had a problem with that part of my personality, she could call it quits before we became to involved.  

One evening coming home after nice dinner at a good restaurant, I decided to bring the subject up. I thoroughly explained my situation along with a complete history description.  I even told her that I owned several pairs that I would occasionally wear around my room where I was living.

She told me that she had thought there was something unusual about my choice of footwear because my shoes, even though they could be worn by a man, were of styles that could be found in the women’s section of any shoe store.  After a lengthy discussion, we decided that the following day I would bring a pair of my heels over to her place and show them to her.  

I picked her up the next afternoon and we drove to an excluded place out in the country.  I chose a great pair of black patent pumps with 5” heels that I had owned for a couple of years, that were very comfortable and I could walk for miles while wearing them without discomfort.  

I changed into my pumps and we got out of the car and started walking down the road.  While we were walking along, I explained that I realized that this desire was unusual and that over the years I had tried my best to stop.  But after not wearing them for several weeks, my attitude became troubling and the desire so strong that I couldn’t help but start wearing them.  So I decided since I couldn’t stop l would never try to quit wearing them again.

Her reaction was one of curiosity.  She asked many questions about my parents reaction and my experiences wearing heels in public,  One of her comments was how surprised she was that I could walk so well without difficulty while wearing heels as high as these.  How long did it take me to learn to walk in them?  I replied that I had been wearing heels since before I was two years old while playing in my mother’s clothes closet.  So, wondering about how I learned how to walk in heels was something that I had never thought about.  Walking in heels was as natural to me as going barefoot.

We walked back to the car and drove home.  As she was getting out at her place, she said that I had taken her completely by surprise springing this upon her the way I did and that she would have to think about it before she could decide how it would effect us.  She asked me not to call her for awhile.  She said that she would call me when she sorted things out and had some idea how to deal with it.  
 

The more normal and natural you look the less attention you’ll attract.  That’s not to say that nobody will notice that you’re wearing heels because they will. But more than likely they will just take a passing glance with out any visible reaction.  That has been my experience.

My early childhood years I was dressed for the occasion.   Three sets of clothes -  School, Church and Play-  Church clothes were appropriate for parties and most more formal formal occasions.  Here  I am, at 68 years of age, still practicing these same three divisions of dressing except, since my retirement, my daily morning and early afternoon choices trending more towards more casual  apparel.

17 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

It's a name I made up. I'm sure there is somebody out there called that, but I don't know her.

Wasn’t there a female country singer named “Kitty Wells” that was popular back around the late 1960’s?  Perhaps you retrieved a name from really deep in your memory that you might have heard and forgotten.  

If your church is anything like mine, appearing at a service tastefully dressed will win every time.  I appreciate your posting pictures of what you wear each week.  Makes me wonder though if any of the women showing up are wearing higher heels.  I really like the pair you are wearing in this picture.  

12 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I am going with my wife to meet up with a possible business partner in the food business. I have a huge decision to make. Actually, it's not huge, but I like being dramatic sometimes. Do I wear heels or not? Wifey says she doesn't care, but you can't always take her at her word.

I’ve always heard that a good appearance is key to making a positive first impression which is desirable If you are eager to convince this prospective business partner that you and your wife are worthy of joining together in what you believe would be a worthwhile endeavor. I would suggest you show up nicely dressed sans high heels. That doesn’t mean you should wear your men’s shoes. I am thinking along the lines of you wearing a women’s styles that that can be worn be either sex.  A nice pair of black or brown penny loafers with two inch heels, for example so you appear properly attired while wearing something that only you are aware is feminine.

I believe I have mentioned before that I prefer to wear women’s shoes exclusively. While wearing heels is highly desirable there are occasions when heels worn by a man would not be socially appropriate.  Hence styles more fitting to the occasion, which I frequently practice.

 Besides high heels, my collection includes loafers, ankle boots and sandals and various other styles with lower heels that are never questioned when ever I wear them.

just a suggestion!  

8 hours ago, bluejay said:

Yesterday I went to my nail salon to get my St. Patrick's Day mani. I got my usual pink/clear gel on my hands. On my left pinkie I got a white base with a rainbow coming out of a pot of gold. The right pinkie also got a white base with a green shamrock on it. Very colorful, I liked it a lot. Got a few compliments at the nail salon from other customers also getting St. Patrick's Day mani's, some got some art deco on all their fingers. It was nice to compare all our mani's. Incidentally, I wore black leggings with  green shamrocks on them, a green fleece top, with a white puffy down vest on top. For my foot wear I chose my green patent, chunky heel, booties with 4" chunky heels.

Happy Heeling,

bluejay

You must have looked “astonishing!” 
 

To wear a belt or not wear a belt!  That isn’t the question!  Who cares anymore.  Where I live, should you appear nicely dressed anywhere in public you would be the exception.  It seems that people just don’t care what they wear or how they look these days.  Apparently the “hobo”, or more appropriately, the “homeless or illegal immigrant” look is the “in” way to dress. Personally, I really don’t care.  I don’t have to associate with any of them if I choose not to.  As long as they don’t smell to high heaven while sitting next to me at a restaurant, why should I be critical of what they are wearing when I, myself, am wearing my nicest pair of high heels  👠 which could clearly be considered as being “socially deviant?”

Therefore, to criticize or  not to be criticized is really the question.  As for me, I choose to dress nicely, as I was taught to as a child, and let the rest of the world “do their own thing.”

 Never fear, MLP, experienced electricians are in high demand in our area.  One of my first clients is a highly regarded, well trained, fully licensed, talented electrician that could do almost anything to do with industrial and residential electrical engineering. Outstanding in his chosen profession but had no head for the business end.

I ran into him while our family was on vacation.  We happened to be staying at the same resort.  He described his business difficulties during a friendly conversation one afternoon. And, since I was recently medically retired from the military without steady employment, I told him that I thought that I could reorganize his operation to a point where he only had to worry about completing the job and leave the administrative, logistical and personnel matters to me.  We managed to work together and it took about 18 months to put the business back into the black.  

A couple of years ago he sold his business to a major corporation and retired.  Now, he is in great demand managing to stay busy free lancing domestic electric repairs and minor installations around our city. So, rest easy. Your skills will remain in high demand longer than you desire to practice them.  :-)

Different likes and styles.  My opinion is “Man, tuck it in.  Woman untucked.”

37 minutes ago, bluejay said:

I too miss the posts and pics of JeffB.

Happy Heeling,

bluejay

Whether or JeffB voluntarily chose to leave Hhplace or was encouraged to leave by th powers in place is not important.  He was a long time member and I do remember when his first postings were about his wearing high heels in public at his work place.  Over the span of his membership his interests expanded to include adding wearing items of female apparel, eventually culminating in full crossdressing which went outside th parameters of this site.  That being said, I happened to recently run across several pictures of him in full costume on another website.  Unfortunately there was not any reference as to where his pictures could be accessed.  I wonder if any of you know of any websites where we could reunite with him?  Please share the location or address if you do. I know that I am not the only one who would like to reconnect with him.

After further review I noticed that back in the early days of HHPLACE’s beginning, around 2006 or before, Administrators permitted Guests to post comments expressing their opinion, comments and suggestions.  Some time after that they changed their policy to only permitting registered members to post here.  Perhaps they changed this policy due to the increase in the number of people posting comments outside of the website’s expressed purpose causing problems and excessive labor scrubbing them.  Over the time since I joined “Admins” have banned a number of people due to their activity not being in compliance with the rules and stated goals, JeffB for example.  I, for one, recognize their situation because I have received several warnings about some things I posted.  

Perhaps there are really more people posting than we are aware of because their comments fail to meet established standards and are considered inappropriate for public consumption.  I don’t have any problem with that and appreciate our Admin’s efforts to maintain the standards and purposes established.  But I really miss JeffB.

The time right now where I live is 7:50 P.M. EST (19:50 hours).  And this website’s statistics show that there are/have been 137 people logged into it over the past 30 minutes that the website captures on a rolling basis. Out of this number only two people are noted as being members.  The rest are noted as “guests.” The Forum index indicates that the last posted comment was recorded 13 hours ago.  There is no way of telling how many other guests or members have been viewing our comments over the past 12 hours.  But, when I was here at 08:30 this morning, the website statistics reflected a total of 108 people logged in with 5 of these being members, the rest noted as “guests, with only one comment recorded. 

While our forums statistics indicate quite a bit of interest on the subjects covered here, the  lack of comments placed is really disappointing.  Frankly, I don’t have any idea on how to elicit comments that would make the place more interesting.  Any ideas anyone?

4 hours ago, HappyinHeels said:

We don’t need aloof runway models in faraway cities to effectively convey male heels fashion. We have down-to-Earth mlroseplant in Iowa to bring it home. Sporting fashion we may actually afford and wear. Now that’s something to toast. And click your heels over.👠HinH

I totally agree with HinH.  We are indeed fortunate that mlroseplant appears amongst us both in comments and photos demonstrating that appearing in public wearing high heels and occasionally mixing Items of feminine apparel with his outfits is courageous and socially acceptable, much in the same manner as does kneehighs, casting aside any fear of being stigmatized as deviant.  Their examples demonstrate the fact that while wearing items of clothing usually associated with male or females, they are really totally normal people who’s taste happens to include selecting color, shapes and functions not usually associated with males.  

I, for one, do not pay attention to what clothing fashion designers and models present during their shows.  Often I have great sympathy for the models who have to wear these hideous designers creations.  At times models must be humiliated and embarrassed having to appear on the runway wearing these unappealing creations.  
 
As to this forum, it’s appeal to me (or those of us that frequently login) would totally be diminished should either or both kneehigh or mlrosplant disappear or no longer post comments.  Should that happen, given the decline in comments being posted, Hhp might as well pack it in.

I like those. They would work for me. Especially wearing them with a pair of shorts on the beach or at a restaurant on a pleasant summer evening.