Bubba136

The worst part about living alone is getting used to it. While I am totally self sufficient, I do eat out a lot. One of the best things about living in a popular tourist area is the number of excellent restaurants that are available.  While I do shop for groceries about once every two weeks, there are about 6 different restaurants where I love to eat.  

I believe that JK is right.  While I remember walking around the block in our neighborhood wearing my heels when a teenager, and those instances probably totaled 10 miles, I can’t remember any time in the last 30 years that I put on a pair just to go for a walk.  

And your impression is?

 (If you are really interested in finding out, why not rent one and wear it out to dinner.)

22 hours ago, jamie1608 said:

I tried these in today.

https://www.wed2b.com/elliana

https://www.wed2b.com/alber

https://www.wed2b.com/kamala

https://www.wed2b.com/paola
 

more to try on tomorrow 

 

They are all lovely.  But why are you trying them on?  Are you contemplating taking the plunge?

8 hours ago, Jkrenzer said:

A couple comments. 

1. Melrose actually wears heels 4 to 4.5 inches at church, so he seems to think a higher heel is acceptable. 

2. I believe in my shoe size 5 inch is acceptable and actually do wear them daily at a real office environment with no issues. 

3. Glad to know you believe you are naturally attractive. Just curious what that means. Are you attractive in the nude? Anything else is not natural and I've seen very few attractive nude people  myself included. 

Isn’t there an old saying “Attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder?”
 

 I, like JK, do not find nudity to be attractive.  Nude men, not my taste.  Nude women, I find alluring but far more attractive when wearing sexy lingerie and high heels.  Long live attractive women! 🤩

3 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I must be passing part of my sensibility down to my 15 year old son. No interest in heels, but knows how to tie several different necktie knots.

 

It seems that we have been on this subject off and on for the past 10 years, but we'll drag it out again for the new guy. Otherwise, we're back to talking about lawn mowers and stuff.

We have several factors at work here, pun intended.  Somebody, at some point, for some reason, made up a rule that you can't wear more than a 4 inch heel to work. In fact, I think I've heard in some cases, 4 inch is really pushing it. Somebody made up that rule, and people began to believe it. There is some logic in that, because few people can actually function normally in 4 inch heels. That's just a fact. When your shoes are preventing you from doing your job, they're too high. And by preventing, I mean if when you get up to walk across the room and the first thing people notice is that you're walking funny. For some people, that's 3 inch. For some people, they just walk funny anyway and 2 inch is too high.

Those hard and fast rules are somewhat dated. I mean look at what's happened with hair, ink, and piercings. It may seem odd to us shoe guys, but most people do not notice your shoes right away, first thing. Nobody is going to notice an extra 1/2 inch, except when the wearer can't carry them off naturally. That's why I brought up this whole subject of hitting a wall somewhere shortly above 4 1/2"--that's the point at which even the most casual observer will notice that there's something wrong with me. Therefore, my Steve Madden black pumps are completely appropriate for the office, but actual Loubie So Kates would not be. Nobody but us will notice the 10 mm difference in height, but they will notice as soon as I take more than a few steps. I believe that those of us who have taken the trouble, sometimes years of trouble, to learn how to walk and live in this silly but attractive footwear get to make up our own rules about what's appropriate for the office.

Doesn’t it depend on the job?  A department store sales person on their feet most of their working hours is more likely to wear lower heels than someone sitting at a desk.  I have noticed some women salespeople changing out of their high heels shoes after a short time at work.  

This is interesting.  In my younger years, the height of the heel didn’t play a large role in my desire to wear girls shoes.  After all when I was younger, girls my age weren’t allowed to wear heels higher than 1 inch or 1 1/2 inches at the most.  As long as I was wearing “girls shoes” on my feet, I was happy. At home, around the house I, on the other hand, would wear my mom’s heels.  Her shoes had heels around 4”.  And when she finally bought heels for me, they also had 4” heels.  Over the years, up to about ten years ago, I lived in shoes with 5” heels.  I owned shoes with higher heels, some as high as 7 inches that I really never completely mastered, and shoes with 6” heels that were comfortable to wear but were tricky because of the extra height, you had to be more careful about where you put your feet. 
These days, in my more advanced age, I am happy to be able to wear shoes with any heels at all.  I rarely see any women my age wearing shoes with heels as high as I usually am wearing.  These days I am satisfied just wearing my girls shoes again, regardless of how high the heels are.  

On 7/13/2024 at 7:57 AM, at9 said:

I can't find it. It's probably been deleted by Tech. From memory, KH used an acronym or initialism which included the letter "N". Then said what it stood for.

His arrogant and overentitled response to Tech's penalty is revolting. Perhaps he should try putting a foot or word out of line in his beloved Russia. People don't get penalty points, they get sent to gulags.

There is a “saying” that my old granddad used to say.  “If you don’t think to good, you shouldn’t think to much.” This goes along with “after listening to what he said, it tells me all that I want to know about him.”  Amazing at9, how you managed to demonstrate the truth in both of these “old sayings.”

4 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Funny how things work in this woke liberal managed message board.  

A few weeks ago, I wore my heeled mary janes out on a date with a girl who works for a central bank--specifically the monetary policy division for her country. Her father is a prime minister.  She absolutely loved my shoes and style.  And I have time to manage my reputation here?  Take me like I am or just ban me.

As I see it, there's about 5 people left on this board who I truly admire and wish great gratitude towards.  I need more than heeling to consider someone worthy of investing a friendship in.

@Tech--even though I disagree with how you manage this site, it's been a decade + long labor. I don't like you one bit, never did really, but thanks for the upkeep and dedication.  I can dislike you but be grateful for your efforts.  Which I truly am.

@Bubba136--my man. From Jenny's place to here. God Bless you sincerely. You've lived a full life with family, children, adventure and heeling. I still feel a  sense of belongingness here mostly because of our shared history together here dating way back to the JTurbo, Firefox, and Xaphod era. Fond memories of sitting in my NYC living room texting with you among that group fulfilled a purpose for this site: to feel like I belonged somewhere.

@Shyheels--also a fellow adventurer with similar citizenship goals ;). I think you came along in the second wave of post 2010 members, but our online comradery has been appreciated. Rock those boots!

@mlroseplant just a down to earth guy sharing his heeling stories from the Midwest USA.  Love the simplicity and bravery from the cornfields of Iowa (not literally cornfields I know). I also respect that you maintain a marriage, family, and church participation. Well done, really.

@pebblesf I see. your posts and am thankful for your interactions

That R2D2 guy AT whatever, I just don't give a damn.

 

 

 

KH!  Thank you for what I feel is a true heartfelt post.

 One of the more positive features of this website is that each individual member has their own individual personality formed by their inner most socially unorthodox behavioral characteristics that, if generally known to others, might alter their acceptance and position in today’s society.  The fact that they can openly discuss their unique characteristics with others without fear of disdainful criticism, sharing experiences as well as often receiving advice about their own personality characteristics that are not usually talked about in open discussions, makes it unique. 

For those of us that possess “antisocial” desires and behave beyond what is considered as normal social behavior, whether it is living a alternative lifestyle or crossdressing experiences, etc., it is a place where we can express ourselves, relieve psychological tension all with complete anonymity, without fear of being revealed.

What is absolutely astounding is that all of this discussion takes place for the most part with a minimum of conflict, disagreement or argument.  While some of the members are not fans of the leadership and others would like to see some of the rules relaxed or broadened, the fact is that there has to be an organized system of maintaining order.  While members might not like or always agree with those in charge they can, as you so artfully put it “I can dislike you but be grateful for your efforts for which I truly am.”

All this being said is just my way of asking you to just acknowledge the point, take it for what it’s worth and remain amongst us as a truly revered member. You really do belong here.

I thank you for your contributions.

You are probably right in thinking that Tech has already deleted the post.  
 

There are probably a large number of people cruising the internet, coming across this website that would consider it to be flaming antisocial because “what male in their right mind would ever want to wear high heels or any garment designed for a female?”

I know for a fact that tolerance for any lifestyle other than the traditional male, female separation is highly offensive to a point of in sighting physical violence against anyone outside acceptable social behavior, is possible.

Those of us that chose to participate in this website can be, and probably are, considered to be “social misfits” because of our “antisocial” behavior, by advocates of traditional social norms.

Each and every person has three reputations. One is the one that we present in public, where we work and to our friends and other outsiders.  The second one is the one that we have with our families and other really close relatives.  The third one is the “secret” one.  The one that is known only to us. This is the one that we are prepared to share portions of in this website.  
 

It has been demonstrated again and again that while a male member here would love to be able to wear female clothing or shoes when ever or where ever they chose, they are not able to admit that they have these desires to anyone.  This is the secret so important that they cannot allow anyone to know. But, this website is a place where they can associate with other people that have the same interests and they can share experiences with them openly and anonymously without fear of exposing ourselves to others outside of this venue.

It has been said that “opinions are like assholes.”  Because everyone has one.  In the context of the United States Constitution, the right to free speech permits the people to freely express their opinions. While this is true, it doesn’t mean that some opinions should not be kept private. 
 

2 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

For some reason I have always found it mentally easier to wear wedges with shorts. Of course it's all an illusion. I don't think it matters one bit, within reason, what heels one chooses to wear with shorts, one is still going to get some attention from the general public. Part of it may be the noise. If people can hear you coming from 20 meters away, they're probably going to take a look well in advance. I do think the most important thing is to stand up straight, own the outfit, and walk with an easy gait, as if it's the most natural thing in the world. Appearing to walk and move carelessly is a lot harder than you'd think.

Wearing shorts usually presents a warm weather casual look which would call for sandals.  Whether wearing high heels, wedge heels or flats is a matter of preference.  Wearing shorts automatically attracts attention to your feet.  In some of your past pictures you are wearing wedge and high heel sandals.  In all instances, the choice is appropriate for the function to which you are attending. In all cases, in my opinion, you present a positive appearance.  

18 hours ago, at9 said:

The N word did appear in one of KH's posts. I saw it myself and was horrified, even though it was used as part of an explanation rather than being obviously racist.  I'm not surprised Tech has censured him. You committed the crime. Don't be a baby. Don't be arrogant. Take your punishment like a man and stop whining.

While I believe that I keep well up to date on postings to this website, particularly those from members that are well known here, I don’t recall the post to which you are referring. Would you please post a link link to this post?  Not that I don’t believe you, l would like to see what this is really all about.  If this word was used as part of an explanation, as you say, then the use of any descriptive adjective would be offensive to someone.  And, in Your opinion, is their any other word that he might have used to make his point?  To me, this is a learning experience because I don’t wish to make the same mistake.

You are correct. Most pastors of the larger, highly organized churches of major conferences are routinely transferred after three or four years.  My experience over the past two decades has been with small rural churches that my son, who is a pastor of a small independent church in rural Virginia, (think John Boy and Billy Bob) refers to as “family reunion churches.” Their budgets are often smaller and leadership positions, outside of the pastors and one or two other positions,  are usually filled voluntary.

As to your shoes 👠 wear what you are comfortable wearing. But it takes real courage to wear high heels openly in church, not to mention performing on stage in full view of everyone. “ More power to ya.”  🤗

It has been my experience that Leadership positions in most churches are usually  voluntary unpaid positions.  Assuming a leading role by taking on the responsibility requires dedication and commitment that is becoming increasingly difficult to find.  While most parishioners are still willing to attend to listen to pastor’s messages, for one reason or another, are not willing to contribute their time.  I would guess the current economic situation in America has a lot to do with it.  People are working more hours trying to earn enough just to pay their bills and that takes more time away from their free time.  That plus the more secular mindset of our society has a great deal to do with it.

Probably a poor choice.   I was just kidding.  Even though you lost everything, I am sincerely glad you got out and relieved that you are 👍 

Ascot.  My mother always said that it wasn’t about the race, it was all about being seen.  Just like our Kentucky Derby.

4 hours ago, kneehighs said:

I lived in Kyiv when it was invaded. Heard and felt the bombs. Stayed in bomb shelters on my way out. Left behind a ton of my belongings. It literally can't get much worse than this.

Ah, the old “refugee “ trick?  You got away, is there anything more important?

Careful, you are getting politic— that’s called “the American way!”🤗

I would not either.  Unless, of course, I did not have any other heels and wanted to try a pair to wear in private and I could buy them without arousing any suspicion that they were for me.

9 hours ago, Shyheels said:

I have very little money but great mobility- off grid and nearly untraceable (if I want to be) on a 2000-mile canal network 

From what you’ve said above I would surmise that you have enough of the three primary needs.  If you’re happy with that, what else do you need?

10 hours ago, kneehighs said:

I'm happy.

I think material items symbolized wealth for the Pre-Covid Old Guard

Mobility symbolizes wealth for the New Guard

In this New Guard Era [EuraAsia (Russia/China) vs The West], mobility has a much higher premium than before Covid.  2-3 passports, banking outside of CRS/FATCA, knowing how to self custody crypto for cross border money transmission travel...

 

 

 

 

 

Back in one of those decades past, I don’t remember exactly which one, there was a saying “What ever floats your boat.”  It looks like you’re floating in deep water.  Just be cautious because there are many rocky shoals out there so if you encounter one of them, it can leave you high and dry.

1 hour ago, mlroseplant said:

I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who might wear a jacket with sandals. Nice looking ensemble!

Jackets are good but they don’t help cold feet 🦶;-)

9 hours ago, Shyheels said:

Thank you. I have been very, very fortunate 

What I said in my post above applies equally to Kneehighs, too

4 hours ago, Shyheels said:

I’m no fan of President Biden or ex-President Trump either, but I do think that classing either with Vladimir Putin is a bit rich.  As far as I know neither of the two American presidents have murdered any of their many critics, at home or abroad, or routinely taken foreigners hostage for use as political pawns or invaded a neighbouring country in an all out land-grab war that had cost many thousands of lives.

Although born in the US I have lived virtually all of my adult life in other countries. I have never been involved with any ex-pat associations but have always lived as a local, amongst locals, and without reference to America in any way. Perhaps that’s why I have no sentiment for the place, although I had a very agreeable childhood there

There’s not one man on the planet that can find fault with any decision that you have made concerning your life or the way you live.  The decision you have made are the right ones for you. There isn’t any sane individual that I am aware of that consciously makes any decisions that negatively impacts their lives.  If you are happy with your lifestyle and life situation, then I say “good on you!.”  Because 97% of the people alive are not satisfied with their life, lifestyle or status in society.  It’s only through hindsight that any one can say “gosh, had I only turned right instead of left I would have been so much better off.  The most important consideration on your part is that you are satisfied, happy and content with where you are at.

I say Congratulations.  “Keep on keeping on.”  Because you are one of the few.
 

You know, there are not many countries belonging to the United Nations that I haven’t visited or lived in. And I have met expats in almost all of them. Most country’s have organized American Expat groups that associate with each other to stay current with events occurring in the US. Most of the people I met represent American companies. Some emigrated for one reason or another. That being said, observing from the outside, most countries have more in common than most people think.  The three things are:

1. A roof over their head.

2. Food on the table.

3. clothes on their back.

And, the 4th item is: a better life for their children,  Although some are working so hard to get the first three, they have little time for children.

 I do not begrudge anyone for their reasons for leaving or wanting to stay anywhere. I sincerely hope that everyone, everywhere achieves, finds or accomplishes what ever they, seek or dream of for a better life.

As for me, personally, I have more resources than I can ever use and more money than I can ever spend.  So, I guess, even at my age, I should hastily flee because I am downtrodden?

No thanks. Right now, I’m trying to sort out which person that is running a country has done more to harm their homeland. The head of Russia or President Biden. I guess its a toss up.

12 hours ago, kneehighs said:

For me, life is like a game of poker, unlike chess where all outcomes are predictable; almost all decisions involve risk management, from small bets to all-in moments. I take responsibility for the outcomes--even if sometimes luck or even bad luck plays a role in the outcome.

Luck or bad luck!  Just remember, we are all at the mercy or the “crooked dealer!

And I thought that I was through buying clothes.  I already have a closet full, but , yesterday In bought a pair navy blue of men’s shorts and a white cotton golf shirt with navy blue flex that will match perfectly with my white and navy blue 5” ankle strap sandals.  And I thought that I was too old to think about coordinating my outfits.