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I don't think that's the problem. Just because there is more or less open area at the front doesn't say anything about the shoe's shape. That's a nice pair by the way! I also tried insoles in the past. But the best they could do for me was to make bad-fitting shoes fit a bit better. Now I'm very picky when buying shoes and since that I never used insoles again.

This line could be from my husband, I'm sure he said that before 😅 I also don't find any thrill in it. For me it's a practical thing. If I wouldn't drive in heels I'd have to change shoes everytime I get in and out of the car. For longer trips it might be OK, but not for the everyday drives. Also I can't find any downsides of driving in heels, as long as they're below 10 cm or so. If they're higher, the heel gets a bit in the way when pressing the pedals.

My Ex-wife is extremely envious of my nails. 😁 And I love it!

I only take my right heel off when I have stilettos on and going to drive for over 20 minutes. Otherwise I drive in my heels, even for a 8 - 9 hour trip. Most car sold in the US have a CVT - continuous variable transmission, which is a belt system.

I’ve never tried driving in heels although I don’t think I’d find it a problem, except perhaps for worrying about damaging the heels. I can drive a manual easily - I learned in them, drive them all my life and indeed most of the cars here are manual. I can also drive a left or right hand drive vehicle, changing back and forth readily as I used to have to do on a regular basis when I travelled a lot

I have my own interesting relationship with insoles and arch support. After many years of experimentation, I never use them. For me personally, they seem to do more harm than good. I've never tried Keds or Chucks, but I'm sure they'd agree with me just fine, given their minimal support.

I know I'm repeating myself, but now there's a new audience, so it won't seem like it! I can drive in heels, even a real car/truck with a real transmission, but I find no thrill in it. If I have to go more than a few miles, I'll take my shoes off. I just don't enjoy it, though some may find it titillating. I've said for years that I should make my own how to walk in heels video, but I doubt it will ever happen for several reasons. I do like some elements of the model walk or beauty queen walk, but it needs to be toned down for the street to avoid looking ridiculous. This thing they call the "horse walk," however, is completely unusable, and frankly, looks like an excellent way to break shoes.

My wife can drive in heels, but I am not sure that I could. Here in the United States it is rare now to see a manual transmission car, and even for big trucks, a manual transmission is getting harder to find. I grew up on trucks with two shifters, (Mack's suicide shift) up to 18 gears, and deep reduction and split rear-ends, but now if a company wants to get a truckdriver, since about half cannot drive manual a transmission trucks, they buy automatics so half the truckdriver applicants won't leave for a different company. Many truckdrivers just refuse to drive manual transmission trucks now. Sad!

Or what you are passionate about. I am struggling with writers block now but its because I am in just a stressful place in my life. Not altogether angering; it is of my own choosing as we switch from life on a river to island life full-time. We shall see what new employment brings for me at our new location. My wife has a new job but not so much for me.

In a 'proper' car (manual gearbox), we use both feet! And probably better to replace both stilettos than having a pair of mismatched shoes on to drive.

It’s always best to write what you know

No, the cramping i experienced in my calves is/was directly and unambiguously associated with my not being used to walking in 12cm stilettos. With practice the cramping went away, and pretty quickly.

This may, or may not apply to you because you seem to see a connection in wearing high heels and calf pain exclusively, but earlier someone mentioned magnesium. Well... Totally unrelated, but I was talking with my nutritionist and as she was going over my diet she just asked a simple question, "you must get calf cramps a lot?" I was like, "Oh my gosh, all the time and debilitating ones too". She shrugged it off as if it was nothing and explained why she knew. "You have zero potassium in your diet". She was not wrong. I am not a huge fan of V-8 Juice, but it is loaded with potassium so now I drink half a bottle a day of it and my debilitating calf pain is completely gone. So for whatever it is worth, for you or others, potassium intake is something to look into.

She did teach me a very important lesson though because in the past 47 years I have never once poked a birthday cake to see if it was hot! And I am not scared of rats and know the right way to use garden hoses. 🙂 But all kidding aside, having been in a foster home I know of foster siblings who put up with a whole lot worse than me. I won't go into details, but many would turn your stomach. As a writer, many of my mainstream novels include foster or adopted children. Not for added drama for plot purposes but because its a situation near and dear to my heart.

This is not a great photo as I cropped it out to just a pair of my wife in high heels, but one of her "everyday" high heels. This is typical of her preferred style and taken when we were in the kitchen of our church one day. What I have noticed though is that unlike some peep-toed shoe designs, it seems she likes a peep-toe that is much smaller than some. For instance, hers typically show only 2-1/2 toes whereas some peep-toe designs expose 3-4 toes. I wonder if this causes the toe box to close in squeezing the sides of her feet more??? Keds, by their very design are just super thin and always have been and wearing them my wife always wears arch supports in them. But the trend I am noting now with other sneakers is, a huge push for memory foam for insole construction. I am not sure that is a good trend though. I have had huge problems with my feet and was surprised that having a hard plastic ach support ended up being the answer for me and not super-soft, ineffectual add-in insoles. I use Super-Feet insoles for instance and have used them for 15 years or more. The ones I use cannot be worn with most high heels granted, but I think they have a style that is specifically for high heels if I remember correctly. Either way, I just found out for me stepping on a softer pillow like memory foam does not work better for me.

I second NOT waiting for knee surgery. I limped on mine for a year and a half, never really it being a good time for me, and that did a lot more damage. It also prolonged my recovery, which as I said earlier was six months. I was 42 years old when they said I was too young for a knee replacement. I was told it is how they cut off your femur to pin in the replacement knee, but it would wear out, and I would need another one. They can do that operation twice, but the knee wears out in 20 years. They cannot do it three times because the femur would then be too short. I have had severe plantar fasciitis in the past, but my current job keeps me in a chair more, but I am so afraid it will crop up again. That is because this is my last week at my current job so what I do next is anyone's guess, so being on my feet more concerns me. It was really painful in the past.

Both my fingers and toes get complements from BOTH men and women. Sometimes a man will tell me he wishes he could color his nails but is too afraid to do so.

I have had 3 ankle reconstructions, hammer toe, 5 knee surgeries, hyper extended a achilles tendon (cast for 4 weeks), blew-out a peroneal tendon, tore a calf (3"by 5" tear). Many caused by men's shoes not fitting the shape of my feet. Only the peroneal (road pavement gave way) and calf (skiing) since I switched to only women's shoes. @mlroseplant I have a friend who has had both knees replaced. And he still hikes and I have meet people on the slopes who have had knee replacements. If you wife waits too long, then she could do too much damage that can't be fixed.

I’ve not posted here in a long time but still drop by from time to time, and while heeling is largely behind me, I’ve been wearing color on toes for over 10 years, openly in warmer months (long story how I got started.) And I’ve been consistently and pleasantly surprised at the number of complements from women during that time. So, go ahead, call your wife’s bluff! Regards, Logjam

Me too!

Haha then I'd rather stick to practicing in Hot Chicks than in Converse 😉

That’s horrific. You mother should have gone to prison. I can’t imagine being so twisted

Buying sneakers is a real rarity for me. I have nearly always worn boots of some sort, except for cycling or going to the gym. Or many years ago when I used to run marathons. I bought the Converse because I liked the pastel colours and so ironically they’ve ended up being like @higherheels Hot Chicks - purchased because they looked fun and ended up being left in the closet because they’re hard to wear!

What a pity, and at the same time interesting that flats which should apparently be comfortable aren't. I can't even speak of recent experience because I only have one pair of sneakers left, and use them for working only where I'm not really walking a lot. But yes, they feel like offering no support at all. Are you talking about pumps or closed shoes? I never really had this issue. This happens to me too, especially with higher heels.

@mlroseplant and @higherheels - Thank you for your presence and encouragement! I’m really quite chuffed. I really feel quite at ease. To be sure I’m not out striding a high street, on roughened sidewalks, taking curbs and hustling to cross that the lights, but as I walk confidently around indoors I can certainly now imagine doing such a thing and doing it with reasonable grace. i too find this who catwalk routine ridiculous. It looks exaggerated and absurd on the catwalk. In real life it would be comical.