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Part of it is, I've been working more than I would like, but I still somehow manage to have time to come on here and comment. The other part of it is, like @Cali says, I just haven't really seen anything like I like. Specifically, the stuff I like is not high enough. I see plenty of stuff that looks cool. I see some stuff that looks absolutely beautiful. The problem is, it seems to be all mid-heels (or what is a mid-heel to me). I'm not going to buy yet another pair of shoes anymore unless the heels are 4 1/2"+ (11 cm). There isn't that much out there in that category that is not hundreds of dollars.

As long as we're off the subject (and I don't think anybody objects), in my boring adulthood, I've pretty much given up on the secret stuff, and it's why I'm not keeping a promise I made to myself several years ago. I told myself that as soon as I got my flat stomach back, I was going to get my belly button pierced. For a number of years, I felt very certain I was not going to ever have to worry about making that decision. Within the last several months, for reasons I don't fully understand, that time is now. However, I'm not going to do it for three reasons: 1) My wife would kill me. 2)I'm already tired of shaving as much as I do, and don't really want to add in another large region of my body. 3) What am I, at age 57, (make that age 58--winter is almost here) going to start wearing crop tops all the time? If I didn't show it off, what would the point be? I understand having secrets, but I don't understand having that sort of secret. It seems like it would be a pain in the neck for nothing.

I think you miss the point. If stopped for any reason (realistic or not) by the police (e.g. manner of driving; speeding etc), an officer will usually check both the vehicle (tyres etc) and the driver (drink/drugs?). Any unusual footwear or clothing, if seen, is likely to excite his interest if it suggests in his opinion some 'impairment of control', or worse. But the principal situation would be police involvement after some type of accident, whether or not involving a third party - in which case any evidence of possible impairment will be noted. I did not, and do not, suggest that simply being observed driving whilst wearing heels is likely to lead to any form of report, charge or prosecution. Of course it won't, unless it clearly constitutes some danger in itself or is said to have been potentially contributory to one. I suggest we leave it there; further speculation has little merit and the only opinion that really matters is that of a police officer on the spot.

Silly perhaps, but just because it is not something you might do, does not mean a person cannot appreciate the skill, bravery and determination that it takes to take a hobby to the next level. As an example, while you love being on a canal boat, do you not appreciate the beautiful lines of a well crafted wooden kayak? A handsome barrque breaking through heavy rollers? A bateau laid up with striking planking? as it scoots down whitewater? There is complaints on here of people no longer wearing high heels because it is inconvenient and challenging to wear, yet this woman is not only slacklining in high heels, but jumping in them... on a slackline... and balancing upon a series of soda cans. It may not be skills any of us necessarily need to enjoy our lives wearing high heels, but I can appreciate the skill and determination she has in being able to do it.

Well, there is no reason why you should not be content with what you currently have for shoes. You seem to really do well pairing them up with your other clothing to make combinations that really work. For my wife and I who dress well most times too, it is always great to see others who put some considerable thought into how they dress. With what you share on here, you certainly do that. I am always impressed! Or do you feel like you are just in a funk and everything just feels “off”? It certainly is a personal question you do not have to answer. I’m struggling lately. I am not upset, just caught in the middle right now. Everything is changing for us as this week we are moving from a big Victorian home on a river, to a tiny house on a distant island in the ocean. The wife and I are both changing jobs and with so much downsizing there is little point to buy clothes for the tiny closets we will soon have. A lot of what we have must be thrown out or given away as we just don't have the space. It's good, it needed to be done, just a lot of changing. Normally I pour myself into my writing at times like this, but I just finished up a really good novel, so anything I start seems to be lackluster. But I know, soon all this will pass… If that is the case for you, I hope too it will also pass.

You probably are right on the percentage. It is almost ironic that everyone craves to be different in life, and yet so many do the same old thing as everyone else. In that regard I am guilty just as much as anyone else. Sooooooo... to have colored toes where no one can see? Whether a married man who has a wife who does not care, or perhaps the man lives alone, or just does not care who sees... yes, perhaps the percentage is even higher. Adulthood is boring, so I could see men loving having a little secret... painted toes. A case in point is myself. As I have said many times on here, I wear leggings a lot because of the comfort level of them. I won't go to Walmart wearing them, but around the house I do. Well an emergency arose so I had to go see my neighbor, and with no time to change, I was at his house wearing my leggings. I was little apprehensive about it, but it was a full-on emergency with no time to change. To my surprise he came out of his house wearing leggings too. It is why I love statistics. 15% of men fully shave. 5-15% of men paint their toes. 66% of men shave a personal part of themselves. 47% of men have tried on clothing traditionally worn by a lady. It all paints a picture that men are more open-minded than what is openly revealed.

I have taken the photo and made it a bit brighter, cropped out the lady in question, and made the photo bigger and it seems to me the boots look as if they are all-in one, from stiletto tips to chest. I would think such shoes would be impractical as if my wife had these, as where would she wear them and how many times? And could she get boots that must fit properly on so many points on her body that they could even be worn? But I suppose in making a statement, these boots would certainly do that. From their color and their style. But that is what we are all really asking here: form over function, or function over form? Each reply may have a differing viewpoint. I try not to judge because so many times I lament, "there is nothing new coming out anymore", so when something does come out that is new, like these boots, its not really right for me to lambast the design because sometimes from purely whimsical ideas comes a whole new trend? Or kind of like with art where you do not overthink the purchase you just buy what you like and disregard what other naysayers say. That is the whole reason for fashion, where designers do not have to quell their ideas by being practical to wear, practical to manufacture and just dare ask, "what if we did this"? There is immense value to society to let creators do that. Sure, only one out of ten ideas will work out, but its a process that has to play out or we are bound to mediocracy! These boots seemed to achieve what the designer and model was looking for: boots that make a statement. It is on a high heel chatroom being discussed. It seems they got what they were looking for in that regard.

I've bought and returned 4 pairs of heels this year, all didn't fit. But I have not seen many I like lately in the first place.

I meant to comment on this note earlier. I ran across another “statistic” on a different forum that alleges that 14 percent of men paint their nails. I presume that number represents feet and hands. I’ve made no effort to vet the information, but in conversations with my nail tech, whom I previously mentioned is a major supporter and fan of the practice, I expect that she would estimate the number to be even higher. Regards, Logjam

The only ones I’m aware of are called waders. Unless one is fly fishing I simply don’t see the point in such things.

I started a separate new thread on driving in heels. There seems to be demand for it

I’ve not bought any in ages although I have seen some I’ve fancied. Living in a boat is an excellent way to curb one’s acquisitional instincts

Add to the list of silly things people do …

I’ve never done it, never intend to do it and don’t even own a car but it seems like driving in heels is a topic of interest so I decided I’d start a thread. i wouldn’t mind trying cycling in heels though. I’ve seen it done quite stylishly by women in London and on the Continent.

I used to go through ebay and Poshmark on a daily basis, looking for the next big thing. I realized this morning that it has been a long, long time since I've bought any new shoes. I looked it up, and it's been over six months. I have several items that I'm watching, but I do not feel the desire that I used to. I suppose that's a good thing in many ways, but it does mark a severe shift in buying habits. It also doesn't hurt that I've had zero shoe failures so far this year, which is nothing short of amazing.

I am just not a barefoot guy. A few years ago I was on a hike and my hiking boots were really giving me blisters, enough so I wanted to take them off. We were on a hike where the trail wound through the woods, but a slight walk away and you could take a paved road. I took off my boots and socks and started to hike barefoot down the paved roadway... on a day that it was not hot out and overcast, and even with cool pavement it was too rough for me to do barefoot. It was bad enough that I put my boots and socks back on and that was with blisters. My ex-wife, she would go barefoot anywhere and everywhere. I remember once on a New Years Eve night, her heels hurting her feet so much that she went barefoot. That included the walk to the car. I remember it well because there was snow on the ground and -20 below zero (F). Yes... THAT cold and she only had pantyhose on as she walked out to the car. Another time we were pouring concrete, and yep; off come her shoes and barefoot she went right into the concrete. A feat considering the caustic nature of concrete.

Okay, so walking on grating can be difficult, as could walking across a lawn after a four-inch rain, a sandy beach in high heels would be tough, but what about 4000 feet above a valley while walking across a slackline? 🙂 I realize this is an old video, but I did numerous searches on this site for "slacklining" and was surprised it had not been discussed before. I routinely work at height, but not at 4000 feet, nor are we allowed to walk the transmission lines, at best a ride in a helicopter, but most days just on aierial lifts. I cannot fathom walking the high-tension lines at all, much less in high heels.

As time progresses, the chances of a lawsuit based on driving in high heels or bare feet continues to decline. Why? Because nobody wears heels anymore, and nobody goes barefoot anymore.

How many police reports include an inventory of everything g the driver was wearing? Unless it was something spectacular, like you were driving home in your Folies Bergère costume, nobody is likely to notice

I happen to know somebody who's got a combined boot/trouser setup. I'll have to ask him whether he's actually worn it anywhere.

The problem here in the United States would be, not so much a police officer as it would be an opposing attorney. For just driving barefoot or in high heels... no, nothing would ever be said about it, or a fine levied. However, if you were to be in an auto accident and say someone was killed. If you were to be driving without shoes, or wearing high heels, there is a greater likelihood that the victim's family would use that as a determining factor at making you culpable. Especially if they had nothing else to pin their death on you for. Here we call it "leverage". The opposing attorney finds you did something outside the norm for driving, then would use that in a court of law to sway the jury. Most likely it would never get that far. It would be leverage used in mediation, but ultimately the car insurance carrier would cave and pay out the settlement.

Hmmmm. I still think the odds of anyone being taken to court for driving barefoot or in heels is vanishingly small. There would have to be some truly spectacular other factors and even then that would just be an extra charge thrown in for good measure.

The evidence offered by a police officer would be considered, with other factors, by the court. And the civil aspect is perhaps even more important in that any third party claim is very likely to involve consideration of apportionment of negligence, with a loss of control due to inappropriate footwear being a potentially key factor. It is by no means as trivial or clear-cut as you suggest. This from the AA: 'In 2010, the AA conducted a survey and found that 27% of people said their choice of shoes led to difficulty while driving. Around 5% went as far as to say their footwear caused them to drive dangerously, lose control, or even have an accident. Evidently, the kind of driving shoes you wear really does make a difference – no matter the weather or road conditions. You may be tempted during warmer months to drive without shoes. However, according to Rule 97 of the Highway Code, drivers should make sure “clothing and footwear do not prevent you using the controls in the correct manner." Failure to do so can result in fines or a penalty. Driving barefoot isn’t illegal, but it’s also not advised.'

That’s what I would have guessed too

Probably not combined boots and trousers. More or less the same rig as here: https://www.dailymail.co.uk/tvshowbiz/article-11090063/Paloma-Faith-wows-red-latex-trousers-matching-jacket-Brighton-Pride-Sussex.html