Mickey S. Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Hi! Since I want to stick to the rules I'm not posting in the gals' forum but open another thread that discusses the topic from over there... I just came across this and was really happy to see that there is no problem at all with dating a man who wears heels (except for that little girl who wants to wear the heels while dating because she appears to be vertically challenged). On the other hand there are forums like the german 'go feminin' where guys asked for feedback about 'What would you gals think of a man in heels or with long (polished) nails?' Almost the entire thread of answers read - sort of - 'Yuck', 'IIIIEEEEEEEEEEH!!! I just even wouldn't wanna think of such a thing...', 'f**king freaks' and the like. I almost was about to give up on heels'n'hose and all this stuff just by reading these postings until I found a new enthusiasm reading the mentioned thread in the girls' forum. So, what's true? Do the girls like it or not? Or wouldn't they just mind? Are they required to have a shoe fetish as well in order to understand what it is all about? Does it depend on the country one lives in? I'm sort of confused... CU! -Mike
Wolfgang Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 I would. I think it's cute. Not with the whole fetish part and I don't think they need to be at all religious about it, and not really constantly in public.
Trolldeg Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 "So, what's true? Do the girls like it or not?" I don't think you can generalize about it. Some do, some don't. But I'd suspect that the majority don't.
johnieheel Posted February 14, 2007 Posted February 14, 2007 Well sense I started all this, here is what I have found out. Most of the women I know DO NOT have a problem with it and even encourage it because they feel like I do. That is, just be your self and what ever makes you happy, its your life and the heck with the narrow minded people in the world. The women I have dated have even encouraged me to try them on before I buy them and wear them out of the store, which I have found very exciting. I do know few,maby 2or 3 that disagree but they live in an old fashion bubble and don't have a life worth talking about any way. In other words ,they're BORING!!! real men wear heels
lorriette Posted February 15, 2007 Posted February 15, 2007 The reverse question is: Would you want to date a woman (or man) who objects to your heel wearing? totter along into history
tiffany Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 The reverse question is: Would you want to date a woman (or man) who objects to your heel wearing? I would date a woman who objected to my wearing heels but I wouldn't make any promises about not wearing them
texasbumpkin Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 Well for the question would you date a guy that wears heel, I do. The only thing that bugs me is when he asks me if he should wear this pair or that. I say just put on a pair.
johnieheel Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 NEVER, NO WAY, NOT!, and last but defenitly not least, Why would I? real men wear heels
Elegant Posted February 16, 2007 Posted February 16, 2007 No matter if it's gonna be a guy or a gal, if they don't tolerate my heel-wearing and can't get past it, they won't probably date me. If I'm gonna have a significant other, they will probably be an individualist, perhaps with artistic inclinations. Such people are often open-minded (well, I know it's a stereotype, and maybe that's a wrong one? I hope NOT...) and may accept or be (very) positive about wearing heels, leather head to toe and so on . Take me as I am or leave me. What is good for a goose, can be good for any gender!
chris100575 Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 If I'm still single in five years or so I might re-evaluate the situation, but for now there's no way I'm going to date a woman who won't tolerate my heels. Nearly all my friends know I wear them, I've gotten used to going out in them when I feel like it, it'd just be too weird going back into the shoe closet. I'm chatting to a couple of girls at the moment that I met through a dating site, and am trying to work out when and how to tell them. Chris
HeelD Posted February 19, 2007 Posted February 19, 2007 I'm chatting to a couple of girls at the moment that I met through a dating site, and am trying to work out when and how to tell them.Do you have any good pictures of you in heels? Heel-D - Freestyling since 2005
wood&metal Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 If I'm still single in five years or so I might re-evaluate the situation, but for now there's no way I'm going to date a woman who won't tolerate my heels. Nearly all my friends know I wear them, I've gotten used to going out in them when I feel like it, it'd just be too weird going back into the shoe closet. I'm chatting to a couple of girls at the moment that I met through a dating site, and am trying to work out when and how to tell them. Chris Here, I've been doing a re-evaluation, but for the opposite reason.. I'm trying to get out of the shoe closet, and being that the last girl I dated has pulled a disapearing act which has nothing to do with heels, I think it's the opprotune time re-group.. My thinking is, It's going to come out sooner or later, so just put it up front and go with it.. It's who I am.. My last long term girlfriend talked to me a few weeks ago about getting together over the summer for a little vacation to see if the "spark" might still be there.. I told her, not long before we split, about my thing for boots.. We talk pretty frequently and often joke about it.. She'd call and remark in a sexy and joking way about going to the club, "and I wore my sexy boots.. the kind you would like".. So, if our vacation takes wings, I will definately be going in my boots/bootcut jeans/t-shirt... Aiming towards the rockstar image.. lol Never frown because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
Danielinheels Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 I think that the women who happen to come here see us present ourselves in a positive light and have come to expect and respect that about us. It's when members venture to outside boards, with little more warning than a thread titled "Men in Heels" and maybe a pic or two, where the conquering REALLY should take place. Some of the responses I've seen on outside boards are very closed-minded, but some have been very open-minded too. Be yourself; everyone else is already taken. - Oscar Wilde
johnieheel Posted February 20, 2007 Posted February 20, 2007 If I'm still single in five years or so I might re-evaluate the situation, but for now there's no way I'm going to date a woman who won't tolerate my heels. Nearly all my friends know I wear them, I've gotten used to going out in them when I feel like it, it'd just be too weird going back into the shoe closet. I'm chatting to a couple of girls at the moment that I met through a dating site, and am trying to work out when and how to tell them. Chris What I have done in the past is start on the subject of heels. tell her that you really like heels or have a shoe fetish and usually the first question out of there mouth is, "so, do you just like to see other girls wearing them or do you like to wear them?"and the next thing is,do you wear other womens clothing ?etc,etc, but before you answer that question ask her ,"so what if I wear them,? and wait for an answer and take it from there brother. By then you will know what to do next. Works for me. real men wear heels
Stormie Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 I do date a man in heels. And I do (or I did) object to it, until it very nearly got me dumped. I still don't like it but keep schtum. You eventually get used to it. If you are too open-minded your brains will fall out.
chris100575 Posted February 24, 2007 Posted February 24, 2007 Heel-D: Not really. There are a few pics of me wearing them with skirts around here somewhere, but that's just something I do for fun sometimes and could quite easily manage without. Presuming that you mean a picture of me wearing heels as I do to go out, then no I don't have any. If I happen to get one taken I'll post it though. Johnie: Yeah, I think I'll do something like that. I need to mention it fairly casually though, because for me wearing heels isn't a fetish and I don't want it to sound like one. Not that I'm saying there's anything wrong with wearing heels as a fetish thing, but for me I just genuinely like them and think they're fun to wear. Fortunately I think that might be a more easily digestible reason than if she thinks there's a sexual element involved. I'm planning to meet one of them next weekend, so will see how it goes. Either way though, when I do start seeing someone I'm going to tell her early on before it gets too serious. Chris
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