Fog Posted July 11, 2004 Posted July 11, 2004 Hello everybody, this is my first post here, although I've been lurking for a while. I've really enjoyed the forum and am really glad to know I'm not alone. I had a fantastic weekend and just want to tell you about it. I went shopping with my girlfriend on Saturday afternoon and bought a pair of 4" knee high boots in Faith, my girlfriend saw them with me, liked them but disappeared when I tried them on. That was the first time I've tried shoes on in a crowded shop in England, it was a little scary, but it felt so good to do something I wanted to do which was just a bit beyond my comfort zone. I wore them out to Camden today and they were very comfy, that's another first for us, the Northern Line in heels. We both tried on boots, great fun, she came away with a pair of very sexy over the knee pvc boots.
loveheel Posted July 12, 2004 Posted July 12, 2004 Great for you. It is good to see you have the courage to try on shoes in the store. it si the only way to buy shoes.
asdf174 Posted July 30, 2004 Posted July 30, 2004 Thats cool. I've bought shoes from stores but never tried them on. It's all good. ~Arron.
new_look Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 good stuff mate. its great when you realise you can get away with it without most people giving a toss how if your gf about your heels? you said you were out with her in them etc, just wondered why she dissapeared when you tried the boots on.
JeffB Posted July 31, 2004 Posted July 31, 2004 I agree wholeheartedly with loveheel. Buying in person is the best way to go as there's no way to accurately determine just how well a shoe will fit from looking at a picture. I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman!
Fog Posted July 31, 2004 Author Posted July 31, 2004 Thank you all for your replies. I was trying to include a quote, but sorry to say it defeated me. It's probably the poxy little laptop I've got, it's almost impossible to highlight the text that I wanted to include. I wanted to respond to Daz's point about my gf. She's fine about my heels, I think because I've been scrupulously honest with her. I should I suppose tell a bit more of my story.... I'd lurked here back last summer 2003 and realised there were guys here like me. I bought a pair of 8" platform oxfords from an internet site, they were ok but didn't fit well and cost far too much, the tax got me! When I got together with Mrs fogborkenvv (for want of a better name) I hid them in the attic. Jumping on a few months, one evening we'd been shopping, (we love shopping) in Monsoon, and she'd bought a pair of black silk trousers that were too long for her. One evening we were discussing it and I asked to try them on. That shocked her and we said no more about it for a couple of weeks, but I was most surprised when we were shopping in H&M when she presented me with a pair of shiny silver trousers and said "They'd look good on you". We did quite a bit of shopping after that! A few weeks later I plucked up the courage to tell her about the shoes. It was a really really sweaty moment. I put them on and she hated them. I felt so foolish standing in 8" pvc shoes of dubious quality. The outcome was I agreed to throw them away. I'd never been out in them and really they were a bad buy. Now here's the good part of the story. A couple of weeks later she came home from work telling me about a street market she'd found where there were several stalls selling boots and shoes, and, she had a present for me. A pair of 3" heel black ankle boots. they fitted perfectly and are really comfy. She followed this up with a pair of 4" cream ankle boots that didn't fit as well. My next purchase was the first I made myself, from a market stall near where I work. I bought her a pair of size 5 gold ankle boots and myself a pair of baby blue lace up 4" stiletto boots. I plucked up courage and said "these are for me". That was a tenner well spent! So far I hadn't bought anything that I'd tried before parting with the cash. That was to come in May. We went to Brittany and then a few days in Paris. We stayed near Gare du Nord - and went shoe shopping. I saw a lovely pair of brown stilletto mid calf boots with the zip up the back, I decided it was daft to spend €15 on something that might not fit and decided to try them on. Mrs f went elsewhere and I tried them on. The girl was surprised but was helpful and pleasant. They were a bit tight and she suggested that I took my socks off but then she noticed my tights. Mrs f (she's not my wife yet) still gets a little embarrassed, but it doesn't matter really. I'm lucky to have such a wonderful girlfriend who truly loves me and accepts me for who I am. That sort of thought has been expressed many times on this forum and that's why I like it. For me telling her that I read a forum on high heels was as scary as telling her I owned a pair. She's read and approved of much that she's read. Another little thought. I'm glad there's no porn allowed here. There's plenty of other places you can find that. It's one thing telling a sceptical partner (and I know a lot of you have sceptical partners) It's one thing saying you look at a HH website, but quite another to say you look at a hh porn website. Sorry this has been so long. What I should have done is cut it into bite size chunks - I'd be nearer to my 6" oxfords. Where's the spellchecker???
Fog Posted July 31, 2004 Author Posted July 31, 2004 I didn't bring you quite up to date. We went shoe shopping today Mrs F needed a pair of sensible sandals and / or court shoes for work. We went into Clarks in Croydon. She got what she wanted - but whilst she was trying them on I noticed a pair of size 7 patent black boots with a silver 3" heel. I tried them on, she wispered a very loud "NO" but it was too late. The next thing the assistant noticed, but by then she'd called all her colleagues to have a look. An older assistant asked if I she could sell me a handbag, to which I replied, no can you get me the other foot. But she didn't. Mrs F coped with the attention very well. It was a bit of fun. We discussed the footwear I was wearing 21/2" blade heel shoes from Dolcis. She said she'd noticed the shoe but not the heel. I was wearing quite long bootcut jeans from new look, which hid most of the heel. Perhaps this should go on the best and worst experience thread, but I don't think I've been out enough to have a best or worst experience. Most people don't notice. I think if you're buying heels it gives you a bit more credibility if you go shopping in heels. I didn't buy the boots in the end, they were a tat tight, and I couldn't see me wearing them too often.
Bubba136 Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Wise plan. No sense buying shoes if they don't fit right and you're not going to wear them much. Unless, of course, you just like their looks. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.
shyguy Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Great story fogborkenvv, thanks for sharing it with us here. It does take a lot of guts to tell your S/O of anything like the heel wearing we all enjoy here. Most of us have been there and know that feeling, and you have a supportive partner now, which should give anyone who hasnt told their partner the impetus to do so. Your post wasn't too long as you feared, but a great read, hope you continue posting and stay with us all here. He was so narrow minded he could see through a keyhole with both eyes. Brown's Law: If the shoe fits, it's ugly
Heelfan Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Yes, excellent postings, FBE! Why don't you and "Mrs. FBE" come to our next UK Heel-Meet in my home town of Bristol on Saturday 11th September 2004? - see "Real Life Meetings" Forum for full details. As you will see, there are a good number of wives and girlfriends coming, and (with Firefox's help!) I'm putting on a spread at my place. We're a bunch a pretty straight, intelligent guys anfd gals and eveyone always enjoys these meets! Cheerfully yours, Heelfan Onwards and upwards!
loveheel Posted August 1, 2004 Posted August 1, 2004 Thanks for sharing those great moments with us. Sounds like you have a very understanding GF. Make sure you reward her with appropriate attention.
Dawn HH Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 Fogborkenvv:-) That was a great post and a very interesting read. Congratulations for putting your GF wise to your activities before you get married. She seems to be on the edge of going along with you on your wearing high heels. Just take things slow and allow her to work through this dilemma at her own pace as it seems that she and you may have a bright future on this problem. The fact that she is advising you on what looks good on you and what doesn't bodes well for you. Take it slow and hang in there and don't rush things. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
Fog Posted August 4, 2004 Author Posted August 4, 2004 Thank you all for your kind words. I am indeed a lucky man in every way!!! It is really nice to have Mrs. F's opinion as a sense check. I try only to wear what she finds attractive. However there are some things she finds attractive that she won't let me go out in. Probably just as well!
new_look Posted August 4, 2004 Posted August 4, 2004 wise idea jade isnt bothered of my heels. she says they suit me, but has never been visually/sexually attracted to heels in any way. they are just shoes and she finds nothing fascinating about them. im lucky she lets me wear what heels i want. i thought id never find anyone who would understand, but this board shows alone there are plenty of women who have no trouble with it. daz
Dawn HH Posted August 5, 2004 Posted August 5, 2004 Forborkenvv:-) Like your wife, Mickey68 double-checks my look, whether I am going out "enfemme" or in my "street-heeling" mode, to make sure that everything is well co-ordinated and according to Hoile. If something isn't right, she makes me correct it before I can step out of the door, as it should be to make the best presentation possible. Where would I be without her? Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
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