Heelfan Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Hello folks! The enthusiastic response to my Inward/outward leaning heels has prompted me to start another 'Damsels in distress' thread, this time "Failed Slingbacks". It appears that, for some reason, many of us guys find it much more of a turn on if a lady's slingback has slipped-down, allowing the shoe to slop and slap, than if the shoe had been a strapless mule to start with! It's fascinating! I do hope you all enjoyed this little pot-pouri! Your comments would be appreciated! Cheerfully yours, Heelfan Onwards and upwards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sendra45 Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Hi, It just looks untidy, sloppy and scruffy. I would be more turned on by sombody taking care of their footwear. I never really got what the Hhds was all about. See you next weekend, NIgel The angels have the phonebox. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heelfan Posted June 27, 2004 Author Share Posted June 27, 2004 Ah well, Nigel, each to their own! It never ceases to intrigue me how the interests of all of us members varies so markedly within the agreed common subject of high heels: Some love platforms; others (including me) hate them. Some love kitten heels; others (including me) feel they have little place on this HIGH heel board. Some only like chunky heels; others (including me) like all thicknesses, especially stilettos. Some guys & gals are only indoor-heelers, others (including me) are only interested in seeing street-heeling. Some only admire girl heel-wearers if in skirts, others (excluding me) like jeans half-hiding them. Some are into crushing things or abusing shoes, others (including me) don't get this. Some like fussy straps, bows etc.; other (including me) prefer a plain court, boot or mule. Equally, in the case of "Failed Slingbacks" we encounter opposing views. Although you equate failed slingbacks with HHDS's shoe-abusing, this is the other way round! I think his crowd get kicks from deliberately abusing their shoes. In contrast, my observation is that most lady victims of failed slingbacks are trying hard to preserve their respectability by continually trying to pull-up their heel-straps, but they keep slipping down again! So then, far from sluttishly abusing their shoes as you seem to suggest, most of them are "Damsels in distress", valiantly trying to wear their stiletto heels through thick and thin, despite all the odds. At the risk of disagreeing with you, people like me and Paul (North-East) find this to be very sweet and feminine and hugely appealing! As you say, look forward to seeing you on Saturday on the informal (not main) Bristol Heel-Meet! Cheerfully yours, Heelfan Onwards and upwards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
genebujold Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 I'm not so sure that they've "failed," or if the women let the backs down because they were rubbing and they have a long walk home. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Paul (North-East) Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Hi Heelfan, Can I congratulate you on an excellent thread. I love this kind of stuff, very, very sexy when that strap slips down. Great selection of photos. As you say above, that "Damsel in Distress" scenario is very appealing. Cheers, Paul. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JinxieKat Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 Being a damsel that does wear several pairs of slingbacks I can say in my experiance the dang blasted strap will NOT stay put on the back of the heel. for me there is no rubbing issue, there is nothing back there to rub, the straps are so thin! But even with my adjustable slingbacks the straps will not stay. The flop off, they flop on, and they just flop in general. It does make walking.. interesting! JinxieKat Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
new_look Posted June 27, 2004 Share Posted June 27, 2004 a girl at work does this a lot. id say its cos the straps rub too. she had a red mark where that strap wouldve been Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bubba136 Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 Wonder what Becky has to say about slingbacks? She has a few pair. Perhaps she can set us straight. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Anne_Louise Posted June 28, 2004 Share Posted June 28, 2004 So yet another weapon to add to the armoury of 'shoe language'! This happens quite often and, as JinxieKat says, walking can be interesting as one periodically has to replace the strap. I find it easier to wear mules or ankle-straps for summer shoes and slingbacks more often in the winter. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn HH Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 I must agree with Nigel that having the sling on the back of the shoe down and walking on it appears sloppy and to me undesirable. Mickey68 and I went through this problem when we were dating as she had a couple pairs of sling-backs and couldn't keep them on her heels. She eventually gave up on that style of shoe and stuck to wearing pumps. It must be how the human heel is designed from person to person as I had a pair of red patent slingbacks years ago and had no trouble what-so-ever keeping the straps up on my heels. I wore that pair of shoes a lot as I liked the stiletto heel of 4" with a narrow tip and pointed toes and they looked good on me and were quite comfortable. There were times when I was dressed that I wore them through deep snows for many years until I actually wore them out and had to disguard them. That was the only pair of slingbacks that I had ever owned as all of my other shoes were mostly pumps and I still like that style of shoe today very much. I must also agree with Anne_Louise that maybe those ladies would have been better off and more comfortable wearing mules or ankle-straps. I have owed several pairs of ankle-straps through the years and still have a couple of pairs today and I was quite satified with that style of shoe and still am. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sendra45 Posted July 13, 2004 Share Posted July 13, 2004 Damsel in Distress? I have to dissagree with you here, The failed slingback wearer is the girl who kicks off her shoe at the end of the day and leaves them to fester in the corner with no respect for them. I would be interested in knowing what shoe designers would make of your liking of their unloved art. There are dozens of reasons for belonging to this Forum and whilst I like to wear heels from time to time, it is the shape of a nice shoe that attracts me and seeing them worn wrong like the girls on this post is not my cup of tea. (labels left on are also a no no) Like you see, each to their own, see you soon, Nigel The angels have the phonebox. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heelfan Posted August 4, 2004 Author Share Posted August 4, 2004 Hello Folks! Just to update you all that I've just put another great Digidigix pic of failed slingbacks on the bottom of the photo gallery at the head of this thread. Cheerfully yours, Heelfan Onwards and upwards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Guest Posted August 4, 2004 Share Posted August 4, 2004 I personally find slingbacks a really pointless shoe as most you see seem to have this problem of falling off. Either they're the wrong size or it's a design flaw in the first place.... But hey, if you guys like this then you're lucky they're so bad! B. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn HH Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 Failed slingbacks provocative? I don't think so, but if you like them, as many do, so be it. Wear them in good health and enjoy them. As for me---not my bag of marbles. Yes, I had a pair of slingbacks once that were quite comfortable, fit me well, looked good on me, the strap always stayed in place, and I wore them a lot. That was years ago and I haven't seen a pair since that would turn me on enough to buy them. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chris100575 Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 I'm not a fan of failed slingbacks either, I'm with Nigel that it makes the shoes look sloppy and un-loved. I only have one pair of slingbacks myself, and the strap stays put. Chris Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn HH Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 Chris100575:-) I am very happy to know that there is another male who can properly wear sling-backs and keep the strap where it belongs at all times. It seems that most females can't do that for some reason, including Mickey68. I'm not saying anything against the females as they enjoy that style of shoe whether the strap stays up or not. I'm like you in thinking that it takes away from the wonderfulness of the style and looks of the shoe and appears to me to be a bit sloppy. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chris100575 Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 I think that the strap needs to be a snug fit to stay where it's supposed to. Mine have a small elastic piece, so they're snug but comfortable. Chris Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn HH Posted August 5, 2004 Share Posted August 5, 2004 Chris100575:-) Mine didn't have any elastic built into the strap, just the adjusting holes. I pulled them up one hole tighter and they stayed put and were quite comfortable, but I still could slide them on and off over my heel. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sendra45 Posted August 7, 2004 Share Posted August 7, 2004 Hi. Heelfan, I was very tempted to take my lovely wife in to town today to buy some slingbacks and have a go in them, Evans in our local town have about 5 pairs of pink high heel slingback begging to be bought for £10 each. But what if I didnt get on with them and I too wore failed slingbacks? Too risky for me. A question to you Heelfan, how do you get on with slingbacks, I personaly cant see you in them. you are to much of a macho heel wearer to go out in slingbacks. We look forward to seeing you soon, The angels have the phonebox. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
azraelle Posted August 8, 2004 Share Posted August 8, 2004 I have a pair of lug sole medium heel mules that were quite comfortable but kept slipping off, or the pant leg kept getting caught between my heel and the shoe (very annoying, as well as not covering up the embarassing rear portion of the shoe). So I took them to a shoe shop and had a 3/4 inch wide black heavy duty elastic strap sewn in to serve as a sling. The guy just assumed that they were for my wife--I had a devil of a time convincing him to sew a length on that was just a little shorter than the circumference of the heel of the shoe--I actually had to claim that the person they were for was out of town to get him to work on them--I even offered to pay him in advance! But they work very well now, they look good, and the sling doesn't fall off. And in answer to the original question, a VERY RESOUNDING NO!!! "All that you can decide, is what to do with the time that is given you."--Gandalf, "Life is not tried, it is merely survived -If you're standing outside the fire."--Garth Brooks Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Polly Posted September 4, 2004 Share Posted September 4, 2004 I still think they look very sexy with the straps down, i have been chatting to a couple of different girls in a chatroom this week and they both said they love to wear their slingbacks with the straps down unless they need to walk very quickly then they will pull the straps back up for a while love polly Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Heelfan Posted November 2, 2004 Author Share Posted November 2, 2004 Hi Everyone! Slingfan had just posted the following wonderful failed slingback story further down these forums on "Stories with a Heely Theme". I think it is the best-written "failed slingback" story I have ever read and sums up the whole subject wonderfully. It belongs so well in this thread that, I am copying it here for you all: Posted by Slingfan on "Stories with a Heely Theme": Tue Nov 02, 2004 10:19 am Post subject: Vikki's loose slingbacks -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Slingfan Comfy Loafer Joined: 10 Aug 2004 Posts: 6 Location: Australia VIKKI'S LOOSE SLINGBACKS "A friend of mine called Vikki recently bought a pair of stilleto heel slingback strappy sandals. They were a 3 inch heel and had delicate thin leather straps, one covering her toes, the other halfway down and across her foot and then the long slingback strap without a buckle. She bought them for a race day we were going to, they went really well with her outfit and she was so keen to get out in her beautiful new outfit. Anyway, as we started off walking into the racecourse her shoes were fine. But after about an hour of walking around the course and the bars I started to notice her left slingback was starting to get slightly lower than the right. It was only slight but being a big fan of falling slings I recognised the difference and kept an eye out. Very, very, very slowly the left sling started to work its way down. It got down to an inch to the bottom of her heel. We went to move on when Vikki stopped and said 'hang on' and lifted her leg up behind her and pulled the falling strap back up. As she walked this time it worked its way down even quicker. She pulled it up quickly this time as it got to about 2 inches from the bottom of her heel. It seemed she was embarrassed about it and didn't want it to fall all the way down. We decided to walk all the way across the bars and through the bettng floor and to a function area. As it was crowded we walked in single file and I took up position behind her. As I watched this time the strap fell even quicker and as she didn't have room to stop and pick it up, it fell all the way to the bottom of her hell, stayed there for a short while, then slipped under. When we got to the function area, there was a bit of room for her and she stopped and leant on me and said 'Urgh, my strap won't stay up'. She lifted her leg once again behind her and pulled it up again. This time it took only about 3 minutes of short steps and shuffling for the strap to fall all the way down again. She left it that way this time, one strap up and one strap down whilst we mingled with others. I took the occassional glance and it was very invigorating to see her heels like that, especially because she was very good looking. We were starting to become comfortable together and took off again to find a quiet spot were we could have a little kiss away from everyone. We found a spot at the back of the outdoor bar areas. When we stopped she lifted her left strap again, and it was the first time that I noticed her right strap was also slowly working itself down. It was getting slightly lower. We kissed for a while and we shuffled around whilst doing this. We talked for a while and while doing this she lifted the right strap all the way up to stop it from going all the way down momentarily. We walked off and within 1 minute the left strap was down again and the right one was slowly getting low. She started to shuffle her steps to stop the failing straps from completely falling. She really seemed embarrassed about her low straps, but I was secretely loving it. The next time she stopped to pull both straps up she said to me 'I'm sorry but they just won't stay up, I'm a little embarassed'. I had noticed heaps of other women with loose straps throughout the day and I told her, 'Don't worry, your the same as heaps of other girls around here, besides I like it.' She looked at me with a sheepish grin and said 'Ok'. From then on she just let her straps go and walked in her slingback sandals as if they were slides for the rest of the day. The only time she pulled them up was when we went into the members area, she said 'hang on, I'd better pull my straps up when we go in here'. They were soon down as we walked through there. When we left and got away from the noise I could hear her loose sandals slapping her heels, the straps flailing loosely under her heel. It was very, very sexy. When we were driving home she asked me about her loose sandal straps. She said initially she was dissapointed her new slings were falling down because there was no buckle to tighten them up. They just kept getting more stretched and looser. I told her again that I liked it alot and I hoped she wears them alot more times. She said she would and that she was starting to enjoy wearing her straps under her heels like that. She also said it felt relieving when I told her I liked it and it felt good to feel them slip down on her heel and fall off. When we got to her place she invited me in and kept her slingbacks on with the straps still loose under her heel. We settled in for the night and as we made out she kept those slings on her feet just to please me, which I greatly apprechiated because I suppose her feet must have been sore after walking in heels all day. It was truly a great day and night! from Slingfan" Onwards and upwards! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dawn HH Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 Slingfan:-) What a great story. That is the best failed sling story that I have read in quite a while. I am not a fan of failed slings, but I really did enjoy reading your story. Keep us posted on what happens in the future. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Ellen-Jay Posted November 7, 2004 Share Posted November 7, 2004 Not provocative, just very annoying. (Isn't saying that a damsel in distress is provocative, and therefore no longer exciting if rescued, akin to enjoying a hearty wave to someone drowning!!!) Ellen-Jay p.s a flippant comment, don't take it literally --------------------------------------------------- The shoes aren't sensible, so why is the talk? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slingfan Posted November 29, 2004 Share Posted November 29, 2004 Today I saw a woman wearing the sexiest pair of strappy high heeled sandals I have ever seen, and to make matters better (for me at least) one of the slingback straps was down and under her heel. Her right strap was tight and didn't seem to fall, however the strap on her left sandal was trodden under her heel.She made no attempt to pick up her strap. It looked like she had been wearing them like that all day. She seemed to be on her lunch break from work as she was dressed in business attire. Maybe her left foot was smaller than her right but the left strap seemed so much more worn than the right. It was hard to see but it did seems that the buckle was done up as tight as possible however the strap looked longer than the one that was on her right foot. Perhaps on the other hand her left foot is slightly bigger and caused the strap to wear and subsequently not stay up. It looked so sexy. I pondered the thought that maybe that strap had dropped before she reached her car to drive to work and she had left it that way all day long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Slingfan Posted December 1, 2004 Share Posted December 1, 2004 I recently saw some photos of Jodie Foster at an awards ceremony wearing the most unpractical pair of slings I had ever seen. They were black and had one thin strap over the toes and a slingback strap. One photo showed the slings clinging low to her heel, another showed one half up and the other clinging and another photo showed her walking out of her slings. I wonder how she felt losing them under her heels in front of all those cameras. The sandal must have slapped incredibly as the one strap was very thin. I wish I could have seen a photo of the straps from behind or of her pulling them up. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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