terayon Posted February 23, 2002 Posted February 23, 2002 Hey, I havent told my mom yet, but im planning on discussing it tommorow when she will find me boots (im snowboarding all day, and she does the laundry, im gunna put my big pile of clothes right beside my boots in the closet...my mom has had probs with my sister before about other things, and thinks the answer to most things in life is to see a counsellor...i bet she will make me go see one about my boots..I was wondering if any of you guys have ever been to see a counsellor about your passion for heels, either by yourself or on the advice of a loved one...if so, what was their reaction..did they encourage it? or try to convince you it was bad
Firefox Posted February 23, 2002 Posted February 23, 2002 Not me. You're your own best counsellor IMO. OK, so you want to wear a couple of bits of plastic under your feet. Well big f***ing deal. It's society that is at fault for trying to dictate who shall express harmless preferences and when and where. You can do one of two things. You can accept that and get on with your life. Or you can reject it and get on with your life. I chose to do the latter, but only after I had left home (18). Let me be your counsellor and give you the best advice I can. You may try to supress these desires but they will never go away. You may try and forget it but you will always have that jealous yearning and you will be unhappy. Therefore, integrate it into your lifestyle as best you can. If you do anything else, you will always be living a lie. If your counsellor tries to peddle the society line or attempts to persuade you otherwise he is talking major BS.
Platformdude Posted February 23, 2002 Posted February 23, 2002 I would be willing to bet that the counsellor will tell your mom that your fashion preference is harmless, and that if anything, her reaction to it is "the problem" Given how crazy life can get, sometimes you have to step back and put it in perspective. It's not like you are doing something vile and terrible, like messing with weapons of mass destruction or other criminal behavior. I wouldn't worry. If it gets to the point of having to see a counsellor, let it happen. Tell them what's up, and they will most likely say, "Oh, is that all???" Firefox is right: your desire to wear heels probably won't go away. Free your heels. Your mind will follow... Or something equally hokey. Good luck!
xaphod Posted February 23, 2002 Posted February 23, 2002 FF is correct about trying to suppress your heely preference. I've tried a few times to be 'normal' and chucked out most of my shoes on occasions. As you can see, it didn't work! If your mom suggests you go to a counsellor (no doubt well paid), how about suggesting that the money would be better spent on MORE HEELS ! Tell us how you get on telling your mom.
Francis Posted February 23, 2002 Posted February 23, 2002 I have spoken many times with counsellors and all have a different take on subjects. They appear to follow their own preferences. Counselling is not the answer to every problem. Life itself is a problem of varying degrees. Going to a counsellor is, basically, admitting defeat that you can't handle the problem yourself. As has already been said, you are your own counsellor. Who better to advise you how you should live? If you don't hurt anybody then there is absolutely no reason why you shouldn't wear and do anything that makes you feel good, without it being to the detriment of others. Their morals and feelings do not really come into the issue. Be yourself and be comfortable with it!
chip7X Posted February 23, 2002 Posted February 23, 2002 I agree with Fracis about counselling. That reminds me. There was a time I had to seek counselling for issues relating to my my job. Nothing serious. The counsellor, a woman who wore the sexiest high heels. She was dessed professionally and her heels matched her outfit. Her heels had a thin 4in heel. They were dark brown and made of leaher. During the session my eyes were fixtated on her pumps. After a while she began to notice. I felt a little embarrased. This was maybe 5 or 6 yrs ago. I wonder if she made note that I have a high heel fetish.
Crushinboots Posted June 20, 2002 Posted June 20, 2002 My mum made me go and see a counsellor when she found out about my boots and that was a sad time of arguments and bad feelings. I wish I could of talked it through with her and dad and that way I would not have had to talk with a stranger. I feel sorry for anyone in that situation
Firefox Posted June 20, 2002 Posted June 20, 2002 Actually I think counsellors are a complete waste of space so far as this topic is concerned. Would you send a someone to a counsellor if they wanted to dye their hair an unusual colour, have tatoos, piercings, wear goth clothing, eye shadow etc etc? IMO anyone who wants to advise counselling for this type of thing is an ignorant individual who is trying to force their own preferences on free spirited people. _________________ <font size=1> Click For Freestyle Fashions </font> <font size=-1>[ This Message was edited by: Firefox on 2002-06-20 23:38 ]</font>
Slim Posted June 21, 2002 Posted June 21, 2002 Counseling for heels? Come on! Some one needs to get a life. I remember the wife and I took one of the boys for counseling years ago, all we could see were "spiders and other things" going up the walls! We got out of there fast.
Dr. Shoe Posted June 21, 2002 Posted June 21, 2002 Actually, don't knock counselling until you've tried it. In many instances "counselling" isn't about someone trying to tell you that you're right or wrong to do something, it's all about having someone with whom you can discuss your lifestyle or preferences and they will normally help you to explore your own "inner self". When the RAF were going to kick me out for being a TV (CD or VCR), they insisted that I go and see a "specialist" who basically told me that I was totally sane and well adjusted and her report was largely instrumental in bringing about a major change of policy allowing TVs and TSs to remain in service instead of automatically getting discharged. Graduate footwear designer able to advise and assist on modification and shoe making projects.
JeffB Posted June 22, 2002 Posted June 22, 2002 Counseling? Because of shoes? Get real! That's like some schmuck suing McDonalds because he gets careless and spills hot coffee on himself! Reality check, people! Just because someone wants to express his own sense of fashion doesn't mean he needs to visit a headshrinker! I'm sorry, but that's ridiculous in my book! Shoes are shoes are shoes! What difference should it make if they have high heels? Sheesh! I don't want to LOOK like a woman, I just want to DRESS like a woman!
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