wowser Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Hello, I love wearing really high heels when I was a bachelor just in the bedroom. I never had the nerve to do so elsewhere. I kinda torn in that from my upbringing it would seem like a negative thing to do and yet there is such a thrill in it for me I don't know what to do. I haven't told my girlfriend and am not sure how to break it to her. I currently don't own any heels but think about it all the time. I find myself almost staring at the shoes woman will wear sometimes and wonder what it would feel like on my feet. Any thoughts?
mikeheel Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Hello, Here are some tips : Buy her some shoes, high ones, show her you are interested in footware. Buy some heeled boots (for yourself) that are borderline between mens and womens mainstream fashion. Perhaps western boots (black?) with 3 inch heels. Wear them as much as possible and then report back here for the next set of tips !! cheers M You won't get me wearing flat shoes...I really can't do it.
Thighboots2 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Hi Wowser - and welcome to the High Heeled Place, You know your lady - hopefully, so only you can judge how she might react. Getting yourself a pair of 2" cowboy boots (thread elsewhere) would show you have an interest in heels and then you could take it from there. Really this just depends upon you. Type of heels you want to wear, where you want to wear them and how. It may surprise you, but she may just be quite receptive, especially if you wish to be stylish about it. Are you into fashion, could you be? Ladies do love a guy who can relate to fashion. Do you help her shop? These sort of activities will help. At the end of the day though, you will have to talk to her about heels you like, on her - on you, and what it means to you. The more open you are, the easier it will be. Cheers Simon. Are you confusing me with someone who gives a damn?
Bubba136 Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Welcome to hhplace, Wowser Most of the male members here that wear high heels, have faced this dilemma at one point or another. The situation is very puzzling to sort out. I counsel that any male that wears high heels is obliged to tell a prospective mate about his habit is at the point in their relationship where it becomes obvious that they are going to become more than just the normal boyfriend/girlfriend association. When it becomes apparent that the possibility of it becoming a full fledged romantic connection, with the end sight possibly being marriage, you must tell any prospective mate of your wearing of heels. Your future mate must be able to base her decision to accept you as her mate, on your total disclosure of all of the information that would tell her who you really are. Hiding such a fact from her is a huge mistake. Because, should she not be able to accept you and your heels, she would be looking for a way to dissolve the union...which could lead to life altering consequences if there happened to be children involved. You must be the judge of the proper time and place to make full disclosure. You know the person better than anyone that can give you specific, pinpoint advice. It is up to you. The main thing is that you tell her while there is still time, should she not accept the situation, to change her mind. You owe that to her. Being mentally comfortable in your own mind is the key to wearing heels in public.
johnieheel Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Only one way to find out how she feel about it. Open a discussion about it with her. Be totaly honest aand take it from there. If this is the woman you plan to spend the rest of your life with, you need to get this out of the way now or you will go on and on in secret until it totaly drives you crazy. real men wear heels
Thighmax Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Hello Wowser. Welcome to the thread, I believe that you will be able to find a lot of help on this website. I think you need to be open and honest. I would encourage you to discuss it as fast as possible. If your girlfriend really loves you she will get to understand your preferences. I would like to encourage you to embrace your choice of shoes, it is something you shouldn't try to get rid off. You should be able to use them wherever you want.
Dawn HH Posted July 14, 2009 Posted July 14, 2009 Wowser:-) All of the above advise is valid and good and I can't add to it at this time. Welcome to the HH PLace Forum. Cheers--- Dawn HH High Heeled Boots Forever!
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