Guy N. Heels

You know what they say: Beauty is in the eye of the beholder but when common sense leaves out, ugly is all that's left. Still, the black ones ain't too bad. Maybe the gals wearing them could also walk with a guide dog so that folks won't think too badly of them. :rofl:

As promised here are pics of the shoes I got.

5" courts

And 5" stilettos with knee highs

The 5"ers I have managed to wear for about half an hour, and actually walked in quite easily, probably due to practise in my 4" heels before.

Sharp looking heels there, Shyguy. Since I can't wear 5" heels I'll now have to repent of envy.

Maybe Canadianbeaver can help me with this one, but my impression of Toronto is a city that's a lot more "freewheeling" than any other Canadian city I've visited. I've been from Halifax to Victoria and never seen anything with quite the same flavor as Toronto. Would you say something like Las Vegas or LA?

And very well done:

That's well done? I started to say that most of what I saw isn't fit to wear to a dog fight! However, upon further consideration, it is indeed fit to wear to a dog fight - but nowhere else!

They are only "shooz."

I must have read over this part or something because I missed out one of my pet hates. They are not 'only' shoes. If they were only shoes, then why can't you be happy in flats? They're only shoes. It is not the object of a shoe that is the problem - yeah, you're right, that is just a lump of leather and plastic that you stick on your feet to keep them warm and dry. It is what they represent.

Whoa there! I think we've finally got to the sole -er root of the problem. Just exactly what is it they represent?

Hi Mirage, And welcome to the cockeyed world of shoe sizes. I've got shoe size charts from at least 3 different web sites that sorta-like agree, but not completely. Trying to make the conversions from one country to another can give anyone a headache. :x Then, to make bad matters even worse, I've found that the advertised shoe size often has little to do with the shoe fit! My experience has been that the advertised shoe size is only a guide for what to expect and that nothing compares to actually putting you feet into a pair of shoes if you really want to know how they fit. For that matter, I've even found shoes of an advertised size with one shoe being a different size than the other! So that's why I tend to shy away from mail-orders and e-bay sales. Once I get my feet in a pair of shoes I can tell right away if they fit and if I want to wear 'em. Otherwise I can never be sure of what I'm getting. Wouldn't it be so much easier if we all had just one size chart to go by in order to go buy?

Very good post, SScotty727. Like Ive said so many times, in the vast majority of cases the issue is no bigger than you want it to be. Or to put it another way, what we're really dealing with here is the conquest of space. You see, there's about 6 inches between the average person's right ear and their left ear. Now that is the critical space that must be conquered! :rofl: So the first question that I'd like to ask is exactly who is the boyfriend hurting with his choice of shoes? Then the next question that I'd like to ask is just exactly what is the source of the panic reaction? Now if somebody's taking the train to panicsville because of what someone else might be thinking; then the next question becomes: just exactly what kind of control did you ever have about someone else's thinking, attitude or anything else, for that matter? Unless you are a very extraordinary person indeed, the only person's thinking you can control is your own. Then the next point is as simple as a balloon. The more pressure you apply to this issue, the more you "blow-up the higheeled balloon". :argue: The smart and simple thing is to let the pressure out and then the "balloon" ain't so big any more. Then, when the boyfriend is no longer getting the negative feedback, he can much more easily make up his own mind as to how often and when he prefers to wear heels. If I were a betting man, I'd bet money that he won't wear his heels more than 2 or 3 times a week. But even if he does - so what?

Dawn HH, Strange thing, I don't really advocate shaving legs. Of course, my leg hair is very minimal, so it's not really an issue with me. But I suspect that any sort of effort to shave the legs may actually aggrevate the hair problem. Since I've never attemped any other forms of depilatory, I am totally unable to speak to it.

Welcome. I'm glad you found us and I hope you'll keep those pix coming.

Hi DeSalto, And congratulations on owning a pair of the sexiest heels I've seen lately. Also, at $30 USD those are an exceptional bargain! Those shoes would usually go for around $70 USD. At 5" they are much too high for me. I couldn't hope to wear a heel that high unless it had about a 2" platform. But I know you are proud of them and I hope you will seriously consider wearing them outside, even if it is only to Carnival. "Up the ante" is a term employed in poker whereby each player is required to deposit a given amount of money in the "pot" before the hand is dealt. To "up the ante" is to increase the amount of money required to be in the game , or increase the price of staying in the game, if you please. When used in the generic sense it usually means to increase the value or prestege of something. Just out of curiosity, what size are the shoes? And by all means, do keep those pix coming.

Howdy Heels910,

Welcome to the forum of like minded guys. Your topic is both an old one and a simple one - how do we get people to accept our passion for foot fashion? Well I found out a long time ago that I really can't control or help what other people think. So therefore I simply have to be myself and quit worrying about how many screws are rattling around in the other guy's head. In short, I'm going to dress for me and not for them! Now most of my neighbors have seen me outside in heels. I don't make a big deal out of it one way or another. Neither do they. So when I wear heels outside I'm just being me; and when I wear heels inside I'm just being me. What's more, if anybody doesn't like it they are more than welcome to feel that way. And if they're cheeky enough to say something about it, I'll tell 'em in a heartbeat that there's a shoe store just down the street and they're welcome to buy whatever they think I should wear. The same thing goes for any nosey or cheeky cops around too.

But I will say this, I was totally astonished when I saw a game show on TV and the contestant was asked to name some article of clothing that some men wear that is usually worn by women. I was really flabbergasted when the contestant named high heels and it proved to be a correct answer. So if you think we're way off in the dark recesses somewhere, I'll have you know that we've already made national television.

Maybe I'm weird - but I really don't do flats very well. Shower shoes and rubber flip-flops - ugh. After a couple of hours my feet feel like the arches are gonna go. Another couple of hours and I'm out of it! To my mind (and feet) even a 2" heel is better than none.

Her and I are use to going over the bridge to Detroit to get some of the deals in the States. The American’s do it right – when they say it’s a sale, it’s one! There you can find $5.00 shoes even in large sizes!

I think yer right! I believe you really can find much more reasonable prices here in the States. Also, if you take care to check out the chain stores like Payless or DSW when they are changing their seasonal stock you might indeed find some nice bargains for $5 to $10 USD.

Hey guys, I know we're getting into a lot of preferences here. Much like BobHH said, I didn't like hoisery much either - at first. But then I discovered something interesting. When I wear stockings my feet don't sweat and my shoes actually fit better. The shoes seem to stay on my feet better and I generally feel better. Plus there's one other thing - in the case of open-toed shoes my foot prints aren't nearly so discernable in the insoles (I only assume this is also true of the closed shoes). Yeah, I know hoisery seems like a nusance, but in the long run it really is worth it.

So what is the problem here? It sounds like you two are getting adjusted to each other's likes and dislikes, just as any relationship requires. Perhaps you two could start discussing specific styles, colors, and heel heights that you'd like to see on yourself and on the other. I also like the idea of you taking your guy shopping for shoes. Perhaps you could offer him some pointers on quality and fashion. I don't see any real problem here. Good luck!

This could be used against her too- if you're about to go somewhere with your wife dressed more manly, tell her that you ain't gay and want to be with a WOMAN not a man. Watch her reaction, and if she tells you that women have larger choice of clothing and it's not weird etc., ask why men have a limited wardrobe! Maybe you'll manage to talk about i.e. female emancipation (and how women started to wear previously masculine pants) and suggest that men shouldn't be oppressed in the field of fashion too!

I think you've pretty much hit the nail, Tubehead! What with women's lib and screaming for "emancipation" and all that sort of rot, they seem to have overlooked the fact that what's sauce for the gander is also sauce for the goose!! Then some guy, or perhaps their significant other, comes along and performs the old flip-flop on them and they start to get squirmy.

But the plain and simple fact is that the street traffic runs both ways. When my woman starts to seriously consider what I want her to wear then I'll give serious consideration to what she wants me to wear. But as long as it's my money buying my clothing, I think I ought to have first say in what I want.

hi all the other day when my mom arrived home, i was at my computer with my shoes on, but she did noticed that i was wearing them, after a bit, she asked me if i was wearing "my shoes" and i said yes and show her. She laugh a bit a then asked me to walk around in them, when i walked she realized that if i walked so good the shoes must be mine. She asked if i ever wear them outside and i said no wich is true (for now). She also said if i wear them outside i should start with lower heels but a think she was kidding

Great going, kid! Just by hanging in there and being cool, you've won the day! Now just give mom some space to get used to you wearing heels and you'll soon have things going your way. Great news!

He wear heels most days and quite often around me.

... I felt like a freak for not being able to accept his weird fetish (and before I get flamed, I'm as entitled to my opinion as much as anyone else). Now I can feel normal again - and can feel thankful I have such great friends.

Hi Stormie,

It's good to hear from you (again). Of course you're entitled to yer opinion, they're like noses, everybody's got one. So please don't feel like a freak or that you don't have friends here.

But I think you put your finger on the magic word - acceptance! Now there's a word that's largely fallen out of usage these days.

Now let's see here: if somebody rings my doorbell I can go to the door and greet him. If he needs to tarry a while I can invite him in and receive him. But before I ask him to stay for dinner I must first accept him

Isn't the thing that's causing all the rub about us thinking a certain type of dress is okay for one sex but not the other? What about jewelry? Is one type of jewelry okay for guys but not for gals? What about purses - that accessory that's really just a scaled-down version of a satchel? I've seen some women carrying purses the size of my small suitcase!

So just exactly what is so terribly wrong with yer man wearing heels? Lessee, Big Ben started running backwards? London Bridge fell down? The Queen fell out the guards to chase him down? When you stop to think on it, it's kinda silly to let what yer man wears on his feet get yer knickers all in a twist right? Well in my book that calls for a good whisky :drinking: and a good laugh :rofl: Sooner or later you're going to find out that life is short - so don't sweat the small stuff! By the way, about 90% of it is small stuff.

Blame it all on the man with the SPAM! Actually, I might just start blaming spamers for all my troubles. But in all seriousness, spam is one of the toughest things to deal with in IT. Unless yer willing to spend an unbelievable amount of time tip-toeing through the tulips, yer likely to just get a little heavy-handed with the delete key and toss out a lot of good stuff with the bad. Jeff, we luv ya anyway.

Who cares whether anyone is black or white. I hope the people on the board have intellects which trancend that kind of thing.

As for revealing gender, people are welcome to put m,f,cd, or tg etc in their profile if they so choose. It's all based on trust anyway, so it's not enforcable and if people want to lie, I don't recommend it, but that's up to them.

Who really cares about gender, for that matter? If it's all that important, check the profile or ask a question. As for me, I think this topic belongs in the round file.

I'm currently thinking a lot about my atittudes in my own life. Life is too short and I need to make mine better. Ahh Flavio, What shall I say without sounding too much like your priest? A few basics I've found useful: 1] Be true to yourself and don't become a cheap imitation of someone else. 2] Live well, uphold justice and treat all men as you wish to be treated. 3] Courage must be tempered by wisdom, and fear mastered by faith. 4] Plan each day as if you will live forever, live each day as if it is your last. 5] Both riches and fame are mockers, be not deceived by them. One good friend is worth more than both. 6] Dispise not any man and fear the God who made you.

Very clearly you Brits have got some curious laws and notions about property rights. Here in the States such a curious notion of dual property rights would have to be heard before the US Supreme Court for clarification. I don't know if you have any such court of final appeal over there or not.

I would wear the cuban but only because it's a timeless classic that goes with the general design of the boot.

Ditto.

It seems to me that the really big issue here is about trust. Now here in Washington we say that you can trust any 3 people with a secret if you kill 2 of them immediatly after you've told 'em. We also have classified documents with instructions like: Burn Before Reading!

Unfortunately, trust is rather like a china vase. Once it's broken it's rather difficult to put back together. The best bet is to kiss and make-up and then each resolve to zip the lip before you sink the relationship.