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It might be true. My mother knows I like high heels, she accepted it to some point but I don't wear heels in front of her. My ex did accept my love for heels but she did more than that, she was loving, caring and helped me a lot. At the end she was the opposite, maybe she was cheating on me, the typical symptoms where there, but it's not worth wasting my energy on that. I feel much better now (it has passed a month and 5 days since the breakup) I still miss her, I still think about her daily (sometimes I feel grateful for the moments, other times I hate her for lying and hidding things from me but it isn't something I can change, so I am trying to let go once and for all). The thing is that I haven't wore high heels since the breakup as it reminds me of my time with her Most of my life I wished I didn't like high heels of at least not wanting to wear them, now that I dont feel like wearing 'em I feel bad, empty or missing something special of me. Thanks for your advice and citing those authors (I'll check on them) I am currently going to a therapist and we are working on my childhood "wounds" my inner child needs to be taken care of (by me of course).

Thank you gentlemen for your advice, I stayed away from social media as it only made me feel worse, I have not used heels since that day as it inevitably reminds me of the moments I spent with her wearing heels. Haven't bought a pair neither. I spent most of my savings on partying or drinking and I regret that. The good thing is that I haven't contacted her ever since and I do not want to see her ever again (heard some rumors that she was with another guy, and iI remember that she was very weird a month or two before the breakup. Never thought she was that kind of girl, lol). I got promoted in my job, despite my poor performance and I am a bit better, I still feel insecure and sad but I don't feel like I'm dying anymore. Maybe there is some girl better suited for me somewhere. Meanwhile I will work on being a better and mentally stronger man who enjoys and loves himself. Thank You very much!

It was, as I could not concentrate. I was promoted to my surprise. And was sad at first as I needed her to celebrate one more goal. But I realized that she wasnt that good of a girl. I havent contacted her ever since as now I think she left me for another guy. Good riddance to her.

for now I only wish I could feel better about myself, and learn how to make some good friends Hope I could meet more woman who could be ok with me being in heels. But here in Mexico it could be very hard... Thank You for the Advice Cali

I confronted her last friday. I believe that thing of being free was just an excuse. She does not love me anymore. Maybe she has another person in her heart, but I don't want to know as I'll lose my time and efforts in something that isn't there anymore Thank You for the advice Gudulitooo

I threw some pairs years ago and I regret it... I won't do the same. My future in love is a bit foggy now, I had my first session with a psychologist, told him everything I had inside and he recommended me that we should start working on accepting myself and then work on my break up and some childhood issues as well. Maybe some day I'll have the time and money to get out of the city for a weekend at least. Thanks a lot for replying pebblesf

You are right. NI MODO. I will keep myself focused I just hope that I don't get fired from my job as my performance is much lower now... You are so fortunate for having that wonderful wife with you, come someday to Tijuana to enjoy the Best Tacos in the world haha I wish I could also get the right one for me someday. Thanks a lot for the advice I really appreciate it

I am sure she won't come back, as much as it hurts I have to work on that from that point, and try to stop asking me why... thanks for replying

Thank You guys, for sharing your stories or opinions. Me and my now ex were going to meet last saturday (I wanted to see her so I could say good bye and end things in a good way, also I wanted to look at her eyes...) but she cancelled the meeting a day before saying that she would be doing other things, I got mad and tried to know what was the activity more important than talking to me. She said she was going out with her friends, which was more interesting and fun than me... I got really mad and rushed to her place. I saw her dad in ther and bought him some beers (we used to drink beers on saturdays, but that day I only gave him the beers as I didnt feel ok), then talked to her... She really looked like she didnt want to know anything about me. Like if she hated me, 0 emotions towards me, she said we would not come back ever again as she did not feel the same feelings towards me, I remember asking her what did she disliked about me so I would not make the same mistakes ever again in my life but she said she had no problem with me, I started to get a little frustrated as I was giving my final "speech" as she was making some uncomfortable facial expressions (which broke my heart even more, but at the same time made me angry to myself for being so pasive) I then asked her to give me back the pairs of heels I bought her as I could not stand the sole idea of her enjoying those heels with other person. As I was gonna enter her house she told me that her dad would see me packing the heels on my backpack (trying to make me think that she was going to tell my secret love for heels ). I know that was a bad move but as I saw there was no chance in heel that she would change her mind about us so I brought the pairs here. I feel a lot better now but still very lonely and blaming myself for being like this I seeked for some professional help. I hope it works as I think I have a lot of issues. Thank you all for your help and NO, I won't throw away my heels. Not even my ex's heels (we wore almost the same size...)

Gracias SF...

I had a back injury and was in bed for 2 weeks, I would rather feel that pain than this heartache. Maybe one day I'll be laughing at this, but at the moment I feel Like S***t, I thought I was the strong one in the relationship. You may be right, maybe it has to do with my childhood (I come from a dysfunctional family) I was thinking and googling all day about my feelings and decided to seek for professional help. Hope theraphy works in the long therm, as after the breakup I feel less of a man for liking high heels. Thanks for replying you were certainly very accurate with your opinion. I liked her maybe because she accepted me and cared a lot about me. Thank You

Nah, she asked for some time one day and now she said that she won`t come back with me, she didn`t feel happy with me anymore and that she stayed with me only because of my good relationship with her family and to not hurt my feelings, she felt that she needed to care for herself now. The worse thing is that she broke up with me by whatsapp, She said that she would talk to me in person but she will not comeback to me... It is the end, but I will seek profesional help, it is not normal that I put my whole life on a single woman. I feel more lucid than yesterday even though I may go back to the depressive state tomorrow, who knows, It terrifies me but what options do I have? Thanks for replying, believe or not it is of great help to me.

Hello everyone, I know this isn't shoe related but, I really need to let off some steam Until yesterday I had a 4 and a half years of relationship with a wonderful girl, never been treated better or been more loved before her. She helped me get on the track and go back to school (I am 26 y.o. and 8 months from becoming an electromechanical engineer), feel "normal" and happy with wearing heels (she helped me expand my collection of heels from 3 to almost 40 pairs ) even let me wear crossdress just for fun... She felt that she needed to be "free" and know how life is (she is 4 years younger than I and her parents were overprotective, didn't let her go out to party) since she was working and studying she felt less "confined" but felt that she needed space frome me, she asked me for some time but you all know what that means ... Did you ever experienced that before? I am crying like a lil' kid as all of my plans incluided her, I was studying because I wanted to offer her a happy future; maybe it is because I am boring (I don't know how to dance and I don't like to go out for the same reason) or because there is someone else in her heart now . I would appreciate if you reply or give me some advice as I see there are a lot of older, wiser and more secure gentlemen than me in here. I dunno if there are any women in here that could give me an advice as well... I feel like I am not worth a dime, and that I will never find another woman as her ever again I can't even look at my high heels collection without thinking about her, but I can't throw them all to the trash! I am very bad for making and keeping friendships and I have only a friend which happens to be her cousin (male). I hope thay my English is understandable as It is not my native language. Thank You LJ

You are soooooo lucky to have a wife that loves you and supports your love for high heels :')

Hello everyone, I know this isn't shoe related but, I really need to let off some steam Until yesterday I had a 4 and a half years of relationship with a wonderful girl, never been treated better or been more loved before her. She helped me get on the track and go back to school (I am 26 y.o. and 8 months from becoming an electromechanical engineer), feel "normal" and happy with wearing heels (she helped me expand my collection of heels from 3 to almost 40 pairs ) even let me wear crossdress just for fun... She felt that she needed to be "free" and know how life is (she is 4 years younger than I and her parents were overprotective, didn't let her go out to party) since she was working and studying she felt less "confined" but felt that she needed space frome me, she asked me for some time but you all know what that means ... Did you ever experienced that before? I am crying like a lil' kid as all of my plans incluided her, I was studying because I wanted to offer her a happy future; maybe it is because I am boring (I don't know how to dance and I don't like to go out for the same reason) or because there is someone else in her heart now . I would appreciate if you reply or give me some advice as I see there are a lot of older, wiser and more secure gentlemen than me in here. I dunno if there are any women in here that could give me an advice as well... I feel like I am not worth a dime, and that I will never find another woman as her ever again I can't even look at my high heels collection without thinking about her, but I can't throw them all to the trash! I am very bad for making and keeping friendships and I have only a friend which happens to be her cousin (male). I hope thay my English is understandable as It is not my native language. Thank You LJ