scrappycoco

Hello,

It was been so wonderful that I found this site (for couple weeks now). I so envy those whom have been able to venture out in public - something I want to try (say maybe in the next couple weeks as I have a work trip coming and will be away from home)

For those whom have read my comments - I have keep this a huge secret and not shared my passion for heels until this site. I'm so happy that I'm not alone and just by reading all the nice comments - I have started to not "hate myself" for this passion but just enjoy the rare moment I have gotten to wear heels.

So not to go on forever - is there any tips to follow the first time

Ok I would like to first say welcome to the club:smile: I know it can be really hard to accept that you a differ from what is considered the accepted norm for a man. I.E wearing heels and other things, if you catch my drift. A few words of wisdom from my travel's and what not. I think someone said it already, but I'll say it again in a different way. Don't be ashamed of the fact that you wear heels. The worst mistake that we guys make when we do something out of the normal guy mold is lie. If someone ask's you about you wearing heels tell them, and for god sake whatever you do DO NOT LIE! Trust me people at some point espcially those in your inner circle will ask you at some point. Do not lie tell them the truth. Some will be cool with it and others wont. I have come to figure out that those that matter wont mind and those that mind don't matter! Another word of advise as far as going out and about. For god sake wear something that someone else male or female would wear. What I am getting at here is do not go out in a snow wearing stilleto pumps. How many women would you see doing that? Be smart wear the right type of shoe for the right type of occasion. Hooker heels while they maybe fun for play in the bed room or at the strip club, not only get looks from people when women wear them out and about but really would turn heads on a man. Just be smart in your choice of footwear. Make sure you can walk in them too. Nothing looks more silly than a man or women wearing 4" stilleto heels and can't walk in them. Wear something that you know you can walk in on most any surface and then work you way to the other styles of heels. Trust me it's a whole different world when walking in heels period. You need to be a lot more aware of what you are doing, even more so when first starting out. Last but not least it's all about the outfit! think about the image that you want to show the world in your mind and then put it together. I have fought long and hard trying to figure out what I want people to see when I go out and I have finally came up with clothing that work's well for me! I hope My advise helps you out.

It's great you took the plunge. But as others have said secluded places can be more dangerous for you. We're all looking out for each other here.

I agree with you on this one shafted. Congrats on your trip out and about. Like shafted said going some place secluded like that can be bad for your health. I know there are a lot of guys on this site that would love to be able to wear heels or whatever when they want. I will be the first to tell you I am. I wear heels a lot but there are still a few places I will not. Not because I am afraid to mind you its more because of family I guess. I will say the more you go out in heels the easier it will become.

Ok I guess I'm going to sound mean again. I know we are just making general talk about walking heels. Which can be quite difficult to do but I really think we are make more of it than there should be. Lets face it women walk differently than a man not because of shoes but because of how there body's are. I have seen a lot of women that walk with more hip sway than others even when not in heels. Then there are those women out there that when they do wear heels, which may not be that often, over exagerate things. Is it to get are attention? Maybe, but then again they may not be sure of how to even walk in them. I can always tell them women that wear heels a lot and those that don't. The ones that wear heels a lot are those that just walk, the ones that don't (In my oppionion only) tend to over think the shoe. So as far a man is concerned no to men walk a like. I have seen some that have more hip sway than others, and no it's not because of there shoes, me for example i have a little more hip sway than some others because I meesed my back up at a young age so my back bothers me a lot when I am walking. So depending on which side is bothering me will depend on which side I favor more which in turn causes me to sway. As far as being a man in heels and walking I just walk. I have heard both men and women say that I handle my self quite well in heels. I guess what it comes down to is just walk and don't over think the shoe!

IDk I guess it's just me but I really don't see how come some guys have such a difficult time with doing things outside of what is considered normal for a man. There are so many guys I know that shave body hair because they want to. It's kind of like a women what tells her she has to shave? Is it society or something else? To me would it bother me if my better half did not want to shave? Nope it's her body and she is free to do with it as she pleases! For me I don't shave because I wear heels,hose, & skirts I shave because I can not stand the look of leg hair. For me with leg hair I look like an ape! I also shave my underarms because I found that deoderant does not work as well when it can't come in contact with the skin. I guess my rant is more a long the lines of one thing. Until we men step up to the plate and say look who are you to tell me what kind of clothing I am suppose to wear or what type of shoes I'm suppose to wear or what I'm suppose to do with my body will we ever truely be free to just be are selfs. Does it make us any less of a man because we decied to be different from other men? Nope it just makes us different! PS Sorry if I offend anyone just trying to make a point!

Me I wear heel, pantyhose, women's jeans and dress pants, and once and a great while skirts.

Well done, every outing in heels, no matter how high takes a certain amount of courage and confidence. People will realise what you are wearing but 99% won't say a thing and it would only be an issue if we make it so.

I think we have to accept these stares and that some are disapproving but do they effect us - no. Keep it up our numbers are growing.

I do a lot of people watching when out in the world. One thing I have noticed is people will look at you no matter what just that simple. I see my wife do this all the time looking at guy and gals. She will ask me my thought's on things and I try not to say anything that I wouldn't want said about me. Like I said in post before there are just certain thing's that don't look right on certain people period, but if you like it and feel comfortable in it go for it. It's your life not mine just that simple.

Well I figured I would up date on my most recent outing. I have been out quite a few time's in heels but I have kind of went a way from skirts and heels. It's a look I just feel I pull off well as a male. I have however went a way from wearing mens jeans and for the most only wear womens jeans. I have been out all over the area dressed how a please and not a bad issue at all. I have gotten to the point where wearing heels is a non issue for me anymore. I go where ever I want and wear whatever heels I want. My most recent outfit I choice to wear a pair of dark washed women's low rise boot cut jeans, suntan hose, black patent seilleto pump's, light purple shirt and with the urgining of a few from here i pair it with my black mens blazer. My outing was brief as I only had to stop at an law office. I had to drop some items off to them. Didn't really get any comment's did get a few looks but other than that the interaction with the staff was like normal. I though I looked great in my oppinion. here is a picture of what I wore. let me know thought's or idea's.

Dude, you are not as big around the middle as that shirt makes you look. I know. Iv'e been there done that.

Brother the shirt hides a lot trust me!

I would wear those jeans with are more fitted top than what you are wearing there. This is a lot easier to do with a nice tee. Perhap one that picks up on your shoe color. This kind of creates the need for buying favorite styles in many colors.

I can agree with what u are saying. If I was a bit on the thinner side I may consider a bit of a tighter shirt, but I'm just a tad to big for that at this time. That is a style that I think works very well for me.

Well said scrappycoco. While I love wearing stilettos, wearing other items of female clothing (not including hosiery) is outside my comfort zone as well. I am also considering womens jeans, but just because they will be a better cut for kneehigh and thighhigh boots. I'm perfectly happy being known as "that guy in stilettos". If you think about it it's 100% accurate whether it is used positively or negatively. It perfectly conveys the desription of the way I present myself.

You my friend have to ask yourself what is the image of yourself you want to present the world. Be honest with yourself.

I for one go for the look that gives me the greatest amount of self confidence. That's what drives my look.

I read your thread on your heeling adventures. It was an excellent read. Your progression in fashion was a real journey. You discovered some fundimental truths. I think you have discovered the crossroad that everyone eventually come to.

Dress for self confidence my friend. That how you pull off a look. If it's something you are not 100% comfortable wearing, don't bother with it. That discomfort will show. Not every guy can pull off a skirt in my book, nor stilettos for that matter.

I think you have reached the pinnicle of experimentation with various looks. I think it's time to decide the image you want to project to the world and I don't have to tell you which one it is. We both know.

Thanks for the vote of confidence. It has been a real uphill battle. I have had more than one women try to talk me into wearing more skirts than pants. Her quote was "You have great legs why hide them?" My response back was "so do you. why are you?" To which she said she just was not comfortable in a skirt. I said neither am I. It was over at that. I have I think found a look that works well for me! By wearing the low rise jeans it give's my body more proportion. See the attached picture.

Well I figure I would toss out a few updates just to let everyone know where I am at as far a figuring out a style that works for me. I have read a lot where people here say I just don't look as confident wearing a skirt as a do with jeans. After doing some discussing with a few very close people to me that are all women they all agree that I just don't look as confident wearing a skirt as I do in pants of some sort. Like one said "even for me as a women it takes a great deal of confidence to wear a skirt because you are exposing more of your self to the world." She did go on to say that I have the legs to pull off wearing a skirt if I wanted to, but it's all about your confidence level and comfort level. I guess my style is to stick with more stylized womens pants and jeans. Of late I have been wearing jeans that have a little more style to them but they are not too over the top. I have been trying more of the low rise style of jeans as I really like wear they sit on my waist and the make my body look way more proportioned. I am at a point now where that is about all I wear is womens jeans mainly because I can not stand the way mens fit me. I have a really hard time finding mens jeans that fit me right because of how think my thigh's are and hate to say it how curvy my butt is . When I get a chance I will try to post a picture or two of my new sense of style. I really want to thank everyone for there honest onppion's on thing's. I don't want anyone to think I take offense to things because I don't I take what everyone says in stride because in the end I feel we all have are own sense of style and there are just certain styles of clothing be it menswear or womens wear that just does not work for certain people.

I guess for me I have never had anyone say anything negative that I have heard. I have seen people do the point and look thing a few times. I guess my mode of thinking is just this. People are always going to find something about you that they do not like. What I am getting at is this. I don't like seeing some guys boxers or some women's panty's (for the most part:silly:) in a normal setting. I have found most people are only brave in two situations 1. when they are drunk or 2 when they are with there buddies! Most people do not have the sack to confront you one on one:penitent:. If they do confront you one on one it's because they are curious. I am of the oppinion that if someone does ask me about wearing heels I tell them the truth and I do so with confidence. If you present your self in a manor other than such that makes it even worse. I would just suggest just ignoring them and go about your biz because in the end you will not see them again.

To answer your question like Dr shoe said. Nope! I wear heels whenever and where ever I want and feel like.

Yes those booties would good! So would the classic pumps!

IMO the effect of the pants would be wasted with knee high boots.....those pants scream out shoes..! A pair of classic black patent pumps, 'fetish' ankle-cuff sandals, or even black toe-strap mules would be perfect.

I agree with you on the boot thing. Those pants would look great with a very fem heel of some sort. Oh and by the way Ilikekicks I like your guitars. I use have a jackson dinky but got rid of it because I did not like the floyd rose. I just got a JH LTD snakebyte in black! Love this ax best one I have ever palyed.

I have never known a guy who was into wearing high heels and I can’t imagine any of the guys I know wearing heels, but I don’t think most guys wear heels for fun, or to look and feel sexy, or to add some colour to otherwise grey and boring events. I am really sure heels don’t make guys feel less shy. Also I doubt most guys wear heels to be taller. I think they do it mainly because it is exciting for them because it is sort of against the rules and also maybe there are some guys who have a strong feminine side.

So as far as I can work out guys wear heels for small part of the same reason but for other different reasons too.

Christine

I had a very hard time with trying to decide on this too. After reading what christine said I can agree with her on some point's. Here are my ideas on the subject.

1. do men wear heels for the same reason as women? I would say yes and no. I would venture to say that most men do not wear heels to be sexy. then again there are some that may. for me i wear heels because mens shoes are just boring.

2. i will say it can be more exciting for men wearing heels just because it is not something expected of a man, but is it truly any less exciting for a women? i think it depends on the person.

3. as far as adding color to an other wise boring advent or outfit? well that is one of the main reason's i wear heels. to give that little bit of something extra to my outfit for the day and it has been in my recent adventures a great conversation peace with the ladys. so are not so inviting and then some that i have met just love it once they figure out i am not a threat to them and i am not gay.

4. my last point. i like most females wear heels for a lot of different reasons. my main ones are these. im 5'6" tall as a man so i like being taller. i like the way they look and like what they add to an outfit. if they happen to get the attention of the female sex and they think i look sexy then i guess that is just an added bonus.

That is where we should take that article out of the mag and send it back to who ever and say "Look I am a guy and I do wear these, but since you said that I wont be using this!" LOL

All of the venues are viable - - just not in my home location. If I'm out of town, or far enough away that local acquaintances are not likely to see me, I have had no problems wearing high heeled boots all day doing just about anything.

I have yet to wear a high heeled pump style out and about yet, but I'm planning on it soon.

I know how close you live to me. I have been to just about everywhere in this area and never had an issue yet. I can understand your worries though. To answer the question I wear where ever I want as long as it is some where it would be appropriate. If that makes sense.

Why did you feel the need to lie to them about why you're wearing heels? :S

Really, there should have been no thought or reaction, they can't deny you access just because of your footwear. Be proud in your heels!

I agree. We need to just not say nothing unless they ask then I would say I wear heels becuase I want to. I don't think they would say anything after that. Until we men start making heels a non issue it will always be an issue.

I guess what it all comes down to is this. Opinions are like a$$ holes we all have one. To me what she said did not bother me as a man that wears heels at all. There are just certain thing's that do not look right on certain people. We all know it just alot of times we choice not to say anything. I have seen my fare share of guys and gals on here wearing heels with certain types of clothing that just looks in my opinion looks silly. So with that I think we just need to leave thing's be.

Anyway, I think some of you are overreacting to my comments and being quite insulting to boot.

Amanda I could not agree more. After reading all this it made me think that we where all reading way too much into what you said. I give you props for speaking your mind and not being afraid to back it up.

I bought these awhile ago! I just now realized I had not put a picture of them up! These are life stride mary jane t-strap's with about a 3" heel. I love these shoes they look great and fit great and look good with jeans or skirts.

I have shaved for years. I have worked a few places as a life guard and of course my legs where shaved. I have had more than a few of the female guards ask for tips on how I keep them so smooth. There are a few people at my job that know I wear heels and a few have seen me in shorts. No one say's a word for the most part except for the occasinal ribbing. I had one women say "Damn your legs a smoother than mine!" To which i just said "You may be right!" and laughed. I go places a lot wearing shorts and no one has ever said a word or laughed. If someone asks me about it I tell them the truth! I don't like hairy legs never have and never will! That ends the discussion for the most part right there. I figure it's my body I will do with it what I want!

I am picky myself. I try not to pick shoes that scream look at me, yet I do like some style to them. I am not a big fan of peep toes. mainly because I don't want to paint my toe nails. Most of my shoes can be worn with anything. As far as color I stick with the black, browns, and grays. I'll of my shoe's are close toed. As far as heel type it has to go with the shoe I guess. That's my two cents.

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Went back to the hotel, once again disappointed to take MY pumps off and put my other shoes back on. But I work in a conservative area (company wise vs geographic location), I can’t sacrifice my job, so I have to be discrete, but stick to areas I know I will not run in to anyone I know…