HappyinHeels

They look good on you whatever you call them. I realize nearly all of my heels which I consider more stiletto than not fit your description of “near stiletto” because at first glance that is what they look like. I think a near-stiletto or stiletto-like heel has become popular as it offers much the same look with more stability. One thing I’ve noticed over the years is heel wearing has strengthened my calves which has helped me whether playing baseball or football from time to time. It’s nice to still have decent footwork at 64. Keep your stride buddy. HinH

Whatever the case may be she likes heels and you do as well so an amicable encounter may well occur. Your curiosity will be satisfied and questions answered. I know you’ll make great strides in finding out 🙃HinH

Gige, Thanks for trusting in us to hear your story and get to know you. It is surprising how much we have in common like our choice to also wear things from the other side of the aisle. Your connection to O’Hare Airport made me smile as I worked at Terminal 5 with INS/CBP for 16 years. Finally, my mother was born and raised in Springfield and much of immediate family resides in the city near Jerome. I have many childhood memories of trips down US66/I-55 between Chicago and Springfield starting in the mid-sixties. I live 250 miles/400 km from Springfield in SE Wisconsin. Thanks again for sharing and please keep posting. Our forum always needs new faces and voices. HinH

Mlroseplant, Your curiosity as to the bank lady “may be one of us.” It’s more plausible than you think. Banking is a more receptive environment for either trans people or maybe just someone who wants to present a more feminine image. Iowa is an interesting case of a big farm state which is fiscally conservative but is quite open-minded on a societal and policy level. These factors will bring out more diversity than Iowans have seen in the past. The difference is, as in Wisconsin, these people will be largely be treated with respect. If you went to the bank dressed impeccably with the required heels my guess is any interaction with this bank employee will be good and, since your wearing the goods, your question will be answered. I saw a black trans woman in Menards a week ago walking alone in ankle boots with I’d guess 5.5” heels headed straight to the building materials counter. I simply said “I love your ankle boots” and this person smiled and thanked me. I purposely mentioned the footwear style to send the right message. There’s an opportunity here for a nice interaction and meet one of your fellow community members. Let us know how it goes. HinH

Mlroseplant, Spent some time looking over your posts and offer this; You’ve always been a fan of, and have looked nice, wearing the mule style of heels so keep it up. A remedy to the show glue degradation , as someone mentioned, is a commercial/industrial type of epoxy like Loctite adhesive. Having used it for years on various projects it bonds like nothing else but withstands extremes of temperature. I have glued a pair of wedges and a pair of chunky heels using this adhesive and wood clamps overnight and it has worked fine so far. The adhesive has withstood -25F/-33C at our cabin and 120F/49C inside our shed in Yuma, Arizona. Highly recommend. Agree if you wore heels into the bank then a question posed about footwear to the bank employee would go over much better. I equate it to shopping for heels as a guy when interacting with sales staff. When one wears the merch it leaves little doubt as to intention. Give it some thought. HinH

Mlroseplant, Was that the son I met who had once lived in California? Nice to see someone else here has worn heels to a wedding. I’ve done it a number of times with pumps and boots but especially wedge sandals for the outdoor weddings. Perhaps your son stayed close by? Been busy with different projects and just returned from trip to Turkey, Morocco, and Spain all places I spent a lot of time in the 1980’s. HinH

Mlroseplant, Don’t second guess yourself neighbor. Your footwear choice had minimal effect on the off chance one or two people surfing the net saw you and decided not to join that church. In times like these those regular members should probably give more of their money or time. Bubba136 makes great points about church attendance being down and it’s been documented that it’s down worldwide. Some religions have been plagued with scandal or created a perception certain behaviors are tacitly condoned despite laws against them. Many remember the scores of tv evangelists who succumbed to greed and temptation. It certainly didn’t help the faith community when certain states decided to close churches while casinos and liquor stores were open. All these factors drove people away. Precisely why it’s important to keep forging ahead. Even in heels. HinH

Mlroseplant, Started to make an effort to do more outside in shorts to get a tan. My shorts are quite short and have run many errands in them with no issues. Have tried shorts with wedges a few times and really liked it. Don’t think I’ve gone as many places as you in shorts and heels. However I’ve never worn open toe shoes without a pedicure and I do my own 95% of the time. You do look very natural inside your church so keep it up. HinH

Whilst the novelty of buying something worn once, or so the sales pitch goes, is inviting I’d shy away from something that couldn’t be worn practically outside of a wedding. I’ve worn both wedges and pumps to weddings but wasn’t a part of the wedding so no lacy white shoes for me. You could go the eBay route though and see some benefits for your effort. HinH

Mlroseplant, Always enjoy your material. Though you knocked this shoes aesthetic I think you just liked the way they were easy on + off hence all the wear. As I see Iowa has seen lots of rain I wonder if rubber boots can be far behind. Big heat dome over the East now. Was very hot in PA and in Quebec for days and hot as Hades in South Carolina where I’m visiting my sister. Wore some simple wedges posted here with jeans on trip down here. Stay dry neighbor! HinH