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Wow, kneehighs. That is some very interesting insight, and mirrors my own childhood quite closely. As early as I can remember, I've felt more like a girl than a guy, even though I'm still very much a guy, and a hetero one, too. Doesn't explain why I prefer heels and skirts to flats and jeans, though, does it? I think a lot of your OP does explain things, and I appreciate your sharing it with us! My own mom quietly discouraged my heel-wearing, so there were no intense feeling associated with it, at least not around the house. Still, there was a certain level of shame involved. I recall sneaking into many closets as we were visiting and trying on either the mom's or a daughter's heels. I was caught twice, and yes, there was some real shame going on! That may be the source of intense emotions associated with heeling. Over the years I've worn heels out on a number of occasions, but very rarely do these days because I can't reconcile the shame issue. I have no problem wearing a pony tail, though, and I often openly carry a firearm, which garners more than a few stares, so my lack of street-heeling has little to do with avoiding attention! It's something else.

Good for you! One thing most of us have noticed is that the longer one wears heels the more natural it becomes. Heeling isn't for most guys, but you can still appreciate your wife's collection as she wears them.

I have two pair of mules very much like what a google search on "springolators" turned up. Interestingly, I like a more secure fit, so I tie a shoelace around the back of the heel and my ankle.

Because you wear heels, do you consider yourself a crossdresser?

The heels by themselves? Not really. I have a couple of jeans skirts I wear inside pretty much 24/7, but I don't consider that crossdressing, either, and this is why. Pants may have been around since the 6th century BCE (horse-riding communities), but they only became manstream a couple hundred years ago. Given that, I find the idea that men "should" or "must" wear pants to be rather absurd.

If you consider yourself a heterosexual crossdresser, and heels are 'merely' your favorite thing, are you only attracted to women who dress as you like to dress?

I wouldn't call myself a crossdresser. Typically, I reserve that term for people who're trying to appear as the opposite of their birth sex. Although the vast majority of people were born either XX or XY, the world of transgenderism is a lot more common than most people might be aware. A number of studies have demonstrated that roughly a quarter of males and females tend to think more like that of the opposite sex, and yes, male/female thinking is definately bi-modal, with few people falling in the middle.

I find myself attracted to women, and it really doesn't matter how they dress, provided it's not "frumpy." Whether a girl wears jeans and a t-shirt or a nice dress doesn't matter, much. What matters is the human being inside.

On another note, why do some women wear only dresses while others wear only pants? Some wear only heels, and others wear only flats? Many women wear both dresses and pants, as well as heels and flats.

Over the years I've developed a casual observation that the more feminine a heel-wearing man tends to be, the more likely he is to wear feminine heels. I think the correlation is somewhat loose, though. Whatever style I wear depends mostly on my mood, but comfort plays a large role, too. During the winter it's usually zippered boots, as my feet get cold. During the summer I'm usually in a pair of sandals.

If you have fantasies regarding being female, when dressed or not, do you fantasize about sexual encounters with men?

I've never fantasized about sexual encounters with men. I'm heterosexual.

If you are in a committed heterosexual relationship, how do your fantasies and dressing affect your relationship with your significant other?

I not in a relationship. I was married for more than a decade, and yes, the heels were a definate strain. She never understood it nor accepted it.

I know these are intrusive questions...

I didn't find your questions intrusive. I hope my answers help you in your own understanding. Being misunderstood isn't much fun! Our world, and all of us in it would be much better off if others simply accepted us as we are. Life's too short, and human relationships are too precious for judgmentalism.

I can scare the air faire, but not the hotel bill. I can sleep on the floor, though... (camping gear). I used to live in LV, and you missed a couple of spots.

All told, I prefer a stillleto heel. That's usually very tiny, and very round.

When I was a child. Mom's shoes. The neighbors. It just seemed more normal to me than not wearing them. Huge contrast with society, and things are still contrasted, aren't they? @SleekHeels, Grease definately catapulted things over the top. SNJ. Nothing more needs to be said.

All the time. In fact, I keep a change pair in my backpack.

Honestly, I haven't a clue.

Probably walking up and down the stairs in the best-fitting pair of white leather pumps I ever owned. Like a stupe, in my college days, I threw them away. Very dumb move.

I did post a pic of myself in heels and a kilt from a charity walk "Walk A Mile In Her Shoes".

Sort of a sneaky way to go for a walk, but I support that cause 110%. There are a couple here in Colorado throughout the summer. I'll hit all I can.

Can't. Different worlds, and I cannot yet integrate them. Tech said "Facebook is connected to peoples friends, families and personal lives, and seemingly very few are willing to openly share with their friends/family that they "like" hhplace..." Kabingo. Not dissing hhplace. Just protecting my privacy. I love both.

More than I can dump at Goodwill! gah... More than I can wear on a daily basis, that's for sure.

Top: Just going to the movies, waiting in line for both the ticket and the popcorn. Heard a few titters, but that was all. Second: Afterwords, while walking around the mall. More titters. Third: I open carry (firearm) and have had far fewer reactions while flat-footed and exercising my Federal and State Constitutional rights than I've ever had while gunless and wearing heels.

I alway throught it was unsafe to drive whist wearing heels. What do you think.

Are you kidding?

No.

I've driven 500,000 miles in heels, with just one accident, my fault, and if the bitch hadn't cut into my my lane...

A pair of fur-lined Italian boots, with heels of aprox 3". Mom kept them in the center front closet, so they were always at ready access, and being a latch-key kid, I'd wear her boots for 45 min a day until mom and pop got home. Over the next several years, I grew through her shoes. So, I was on my own.

To anyone out there; do you like dress sandals ?

Always! I much prefer them, and wish I had weather in which I could enjoy them, always.

Maninheels you have homed in on the true reasons why women wear high heels - I can only add that we also wear heels to make ourselves feel attractive/sexy - and because men like them too. However in saying this - there is no treason on earth why a guy shouldn't wear heels to make himself feel better/sexy/attractive either.

The reasons can apply to everyone - but most certainly, girls wear heels because we can...

I think we're actually getting somewhere, here!

Ray is so far out to lunch. (grabs head with both hands)

With great difficulty. I am in the process of moving and I have to organise a lorry just for my shoes. I am not joking!

As I gave earlier, if I've not worn it in the last year, it's gone. You may not agree with me here, but life is. Times change.

1 - Yes.

6 - Absolutely.

10 - Of course they do..!!!!

I'm interested into how your opinions translate into the heel-wearing portion of our group who happen to be males..

Anyway, not surprisingly I gave her the job - and a glowing reference not long after when it became clear that she really wasn't up to the job!

FAIL. I'd hire the homliest person on the planet if they could meet the job requirements while doing everything I could to help them, if they so wanted, into our society.

On the other hand, if I ever discovered anyone scarfing jobs through this program, I'd hand over 12-D surveillance data to multiple agencies and let the bastard child on the out and out remain on the out and out. Let's see to whom he slides the program...

I've also gone to the firing range in heels so I know it's tougher to brace against recoil in heels, but possible

JimC, I've been on so many firing ranges, military, civilian, civilian patrol, law enforcement augmentee, qualifying expert on each and every one, 100%, since 1989, via multiple weapons systems including M-8, M-9, M-16 (those are just the handgun quals) that I have to question your report.

If/When-ever the SHTF, the first footwear I'm shoving my foot into are NOT heels. Any female I've ever known worth half her weight in salt would agree - "Heels are for city streets."

I've climbed several 14-ers, as have thousands of others. Name one that has been climbed by anyone in heels.!

jenniferhouston1, you've only the rest of your possibly 70-year life ahead of you. Do NOT make sacrifices of your health today which would endanger your future ability to get up and get around.

WALK. Keep walking. Walk some more! Check with any trainer, this is the only answer, long-term, for any of us.

I DID wear heels from fifth form onwards......but the boys STILL wanted to see my boobs as well!!

We gentlemen who're allured to the sensuous reality of a heel's extension of the sultry curve of one's fairer leg are thankful for further curvature in the feminine body.

Having gone through several different reasons over the years, these days I like wearing certain high heels because their both very stylish and very comfortable. If both criteria are not met, I'm right back in a pair of Merrel crocs or similar comfortable shoes.