kikepa

Ok so lady's please help a fellow skirt and heel wearer out! I am not the type of guy that will go totally fem I just want to be able to mix and match from both side's of the isle and look good while doing so.

As both a skirt and heel wearer, I've discovered some axioms:

1. If the skirt is too short or too long, it screams "female." Exceptions - ankle-length and just above the knees are ok for guys.

2. The more stiletto the heel (height and thinness), the more it says "female."

3. Any combination of 1 or 2 doubles the effect.

4. Obviously, plain jeans skirts are fine, black is better than blue, while frills for a guy just look ridiculous.

This is why when I go out, I almost always wear: Black block heels and black jeans (pretty much disappears), or a black knee-length denim skirt and men's boots for that "kilt look."

As for my feminine side, they'll just have to get to know me.

Found a new thread about men wearing high heels.

I hate threads that don't care enough to show the date/time of each post.

My ex had exactly one pair of heels, and the one time she wore them I complemented her on them, saying she really looked nice in heels! Result: She stopped wearing them.

Well, no wonder ... large size high heels targeting this audience have a great resale value, whether that's from Payless or from somewhere else ...

While true, if a store is out of stock on a much-desired item, they're loosing sales. It's very possible their production runs are be calculated by the same formulas for smaller-sized shoes which cater predominantly to the women's markets. Some brands get it and always have larger sizes in supply, but most run out very quickly, while the majority won't offer sizes larger than 11, possibly to avoid their heels being worn by men on the street.

I pretty much check every other day on Payless.com if they have a new style in a large size and I know that I've got to be quick to buy them if I really want them.

As do I. My favorite pair of heels of the last decade are made by Fioni, model number 92850. The day they arrived, after I'd tried them on, I wish I'd bought three more pair, as their shape actually fits well! No scrunchy little toe box, the open toe doesn't cut into my toes at the edge, and the arch actually has a shape! Most shoes and boots, even the more expensive ones, feel like you're standing on the ball of your foot and the back half of your heel, with nothing in between.

Some people are just to miserable inside and they cant allow others happiness. Its shameful.

Or themselves. The old "love your neighbor as yourself" doesn't work very well if you can't love yourself.

I am SO glad I logged in today! I charged in here intending to post a thread on this very topic, only to find it already here, and at the top of the thread heap!

Here's what happened:

I work in IT consulting, and have been since I was laid off a couple of years ago. I downsized into a 1 BR apartment. Although I have a ton of boxes in the garage, this is perfect for me.

I've been wearing heels and skirts inside my home on a regular basis for the last seven years, pretty much whenever I'm awake, and I sometimes crash in them. I've worn conservative heels and skirts outside my home on occasion, but almost never together, as I can brush off either of them as a fad, "just something different for club night," or "my girlfriend dared me."

Right? How many of us have been there? !!!

So, on several occasions I've worn either heels or a skirt to the office of my apartment complex, and none of the ladies there have batted an eye. I have pierced ears, and while I usually wear male earrings, I sometimes wear a conservative dangle or two. Some earrings scream "female," others do not, even dangles.

Personally, I'm not quite sure how I identify. I feel pressed by society to go one way or the other. While I sometimes wish I were born female, I'm just as happy as a male, and do not disparage walking around in jeans.

So, I walked into the office this morning wearing a jeans skirt, a pair of Clarks heeled clogs, and my most conservative dangle earrings.

Did I mention I sometimes do my nails? I don't wear them very long, but they're about 1/8" to 1/4" beyond fingertip, somewhat rounded, and I almost always have a clear polish on them. Today I had a near-normal color that most people don't even catch.

I was there to discuss an issue involving why they haven't finished repairing a broken window latch, but before I could open my mouth, the three girls in the office were exchanging glances, sort of an "Am I the only one who thinks this is a little odd?" look. Clearly they were looking to one another for positive feedback, and they were giving that positive feedback to each other.

So the story goes. Yes, there is a line in the minds of society which, once crossed, you're crossdressing, at least in their minds. That line is fairly gray, however.

I can hang out at a favorite bar that caters to everyone, including the GLBT crowd, wearing spiked heels and a skirt, and no one thinks I'm crossdressing at all. To them, the ones who're trying to pass as members of the opposite sex are crossdressers, while the ones who're decked out as members of the opposite sex while still obviously male are in drag.

The office staff are fairly representative of mainstream society, however, and while they'll merely think of me as on the male fringe if I wear wire earrings, a jeans skirt, paint my nails, or wear heels, any combination thereof communicates to them, in their own minds at least, I'm at least trying to appear as a member of the opposite sex, even if I'm clearly not.

Yet I can do all four and no one at the GLBT bar thinks I'm trying pass, although some would say I'm crossdressing.

So, terms (as I see them):

Transvestite: One who wears clothing typically worn by a member of the opposite sex. Women who wear pants aren't transvestites. Those who wear male underwear, particularly those with the overlapping fly designed to facilitate male urination, are transvestites.

Crossdresser: Those who wear a predominance of clothing typically worn by a member of the opposite sex. Thus, a woman in work boots, pants, a flannel t-shirt, and men's boxers, is a crossdresser.

Provided...

...that such wearing is contrary to their internal gender identity. If they identify as a woman, it's crossdressing. If they identify as gender neutral or a man, it's not. It's simply a reflection of their internal selves, and as such, deserves no such label.

So, for me, wearing skirts comes naturally. Wearing heels comes naturally. Painting my nails on occasion doesn't come naturally, but I view it as just monkeying around, although I usually keep my left pinky longer and varnished. Wearing earrings comes naturally, provided they'd not large hoops or chandeliers. If some of the players in the MLBA can wear it, I can wear it, and without feeling like I'm trying to be a girl.

Put them all together, and what do you have? You have me, kikepa, which means skirts or light breezes in Hawaiian.

But that's my internal locus. From society's point of view, I'm cross-dressing, a transvestite, or a transsexual wannabe.

Meanwhile, the shrinks want to put everything into neat little categories. They say I either suffer from transgender identity disorder (I don't actually suffer at all), or worse, that I'm a transvestic fetishist, even though my wear of predominantly women's apparel has absolutely zero tones of sexual stimulation or gratification.

Stupid shrinks! Society is a little smarter than they are, but not by much.

The coolest crowd is the one at the GLBT bar, who could care less what I'm wearing, or even if I show up with hair done and makeup (just once). The girls will still talk, flirt, and dance with me.

In summary, I suppose like beauty, what's CD or TV is largely in the eye of the beholder (self or others), with the possible exception of flagrantly gender-specific undergarments such as jock-straps and bras.

I wouldn't fault a girl who wore a jock-strap, though. Without our plumbing they could probably hide half a bag of pistachios down there!

I was around 5 or 6, and while looking for one of the board games in our front hall closet, I came across a box with two pair of boots in it. One was a simple pair of rubber galoshes, but the other was a pair of leather stiletto-heeled winter boots. I tried them on, and walked around for a minute before putting them back. I didn't play around with my mom's heels at that age, but I'd occasionally wear the boots. About five years later, I was at a neighbor's house with my mom, and while she and the neighbor were talking out back, I snuck into my neighbor's closet and began trying on her heels. They were a lot smaller than my mom's and fit me perfectly! For at least another year, anyway. About three years later, I finally grew into my mom's shoe size and would wear them after school for a couple of hours until shortly before she'd come home from work. That lasted two years. I never wore heels while in high school. It wasn't until my third year of college that I regained an interest in wearing heels, and I had a couple pair I'd wear staying up late after my roommates went to sleep or when they were in class. Since then, my interest has been fairly steady.

The proposed dress code would prohibit students from wearing clothing "not in keeping with a student's gender..."

Which gender? Chromosomal? Social? Identity? Sexual preference?

After reading the article, sounds like they'd ban Rosie the Riveter for being muscular and wearing pants.

By my reckoning, the kids are already wearing clothing keeping with their gender, but not necessarily their sex genes.

They may be "back on track," but someone, whether it's their stockboys, managers, or just some customers, often buy them out of the larger sizes to resell them on eBay at a seriously inflated price.

I have at times, but usually not around where I live. Good quality shoes in my size usually fit. If not, I can always send them back.

I think it'd be great if you reposted your photos!

Prince http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l-326dCQFzQ if he can do it, why not other guys? He has a great look though here. Nothing outrageous, everything goes together well. Guys can wear heels and look great! Nobody really bangs on about him looking weird with heels.

It's such a non-issue the word "heels" doesn't even appear anywhere in his rather lengthy Wikipedia entry.

I've heard a couple of snickers after I've walked by, but nothing else. I'm not exactly slight of build...

Why does it seem like questions like this always wind up being some sort of contest?

This is a fashion site, and fashion should be fun! On average, a male's joints aren't as flexible as a female's. I can easily walk in 5" heels, but it's no fun, as it's not comfortable, so I don't.

I've a large foot, so a 3" heel feels like no heel at all, but I know when I'm in 3.5" heels! 4" heels are about as high as I like to go. Anything higher and they're no longer comfortable.

"Safety issue?" What a lying sack!

Way to go, SleekHeels!

I'm currently out of a job, and they have a major job fair then, so I'm going to have to back out and do what's right for my rent. Wish I could have been there!

I usually wear pantyhose while flying, as my legs get cold if I don't, and thermals, even thin ones, are just too hot. Usually I wear socks over them, but one day I was in a hurry and about half way to the airport when I realized I'd forgotten to bring socks! I was so rushed I didn't even think to simply pull some out of my suitcase...

It was a pair of mom's winter boots she kept in the front hall closet. After that, I'd wear her heels when I came home from school, before she'd get home from work. That and wearing the neighbors' heels when I could sneak it.

Absolutely! Before I found this site, the only time I'd wear heels outside was at 3 am!

It was a great day to wear heels when they had a bar down the street. It was dark and had a diverse enough crowd no one batted an eye when I'd walk in wearing heels. Unfortunately, it shut down last month. I'd rather not drive home from a bar!

I enjoy heels which are comfortable! Thus, for lounging around the house, I'm often in a pair of 3" heel clogs or a pair of 4" heel sandals, but on colder days I wear boots. Most of my boots have 4" heels. About half are ankle boots, and the other half are knee-highs.

Well, it looks like we have several, here, most in/around Denver. Would you be interested in meeting in Castle Rock some time during the winter? Early Spring?

Femininity is a significant portion of why I wear heels.

My usual heeling shoes range between 2" and 4". While driving, however, it's pretty much whimsy, so I've a pair of 5-1/2" heels that I'm fond of sliding into before longer trips. I enjoy pumping gas in them while well away from home.