kikepa

I'm a discrete heeler, meaning I really enjoy heeling, but would prefer not to attract the attention of the general public in the process. My ideal night out might include going to a bar, eatery, or theater in 4" heels with perhaps just one or two folks noticing, and only discretely, appreciatively. I'm not a fan of derision. That's not fun to endure.

Good for you, SF! I'm both happy for you and wishing you well in your ventures! Keep at it.

As often as possible. It's one of the few "alone times" I can wear heels without attracting the flack of the masses.

I regret tossing a pair of white leather heeled pumps back in the 80s, simply because I was working through my heeling issues and was ashamed at the time. They simply fit better than any other shoe I've ever worn on the planet.

I love the grey/blue/yellow versions. I'd go public in a pair of those.

Wow, but too "candy" for my taste.

My credit card is long past broke, and totally overdue. I'm wearing the heels I have. They'll last me several years. Day by day.

And sometimes, one might want to make a heeled shoe to fit one's foot. Wouldn't that be nice?

One jewel of a gorgeous woman! The heels, not so much.

I'm surprised at the results. I'm sorry my ex fell on the other side. Her/our loss.

Pumps are funny. Black leather is my preference, yet despite having tried on/purchased half a dozen, I've yet to find any which actually fit. The ones I do have and wear I simply tie up with a black shoelace to keep the heel cup from slipping off every step. I've two others which are simply too tight for comfort. They do look great, though!

A few, but seldom. Once in a mall, once downtown, once at an airport. Once when I got together with a friend from this site.

Hi there,

I just got me some new shoes as the new fashion collections are available everywhere now. I decided to go for a low heel pump type of shoe (as you see them a lot overhere) and a type of mid heel boots.

Who else has done some shopping?

greetz

GJ

Nice on the 686 - I'd wear it out anytime!

But I do think facial hair that we may wear more to please someone else has a limiting factor to our desire to heel like we'd like. What do you all think???????????????????

HappyinHeels

The few times I've camped in sub-zero weather, I'm glad I had facial hair. I usually grew it during the couple of days to get there, so I understand why it's common among the male hunters of our species and not among those who stayed back.

Otherwise, I haven't a clue as to why most males, including myself, shave it off on a regular basis.

I would be happy if it didn't grow at all. A simple scarf or balaclava provides much better protection against the elements.

Just one pair. I have enough pairs, and don't wear most of them outside my domicile, so I've yet to get anywhere close to wearing them out.

Thighbootguy, I'm happy for you!

Very nice heel! Can you provide a link to where I might find a pair?

While out, I'm usually wearing something discrete, like my avatar. Inside, anything goes.

Crossdressing is gender biased term and discriminatory towards men.A male out of the limitted visual box is either a freestyler or a female impersonator with the fake boobs and so on. I wear "female" tops,skirts,heels and etc. but as a guy and consider myself a freestyler.All women are freestylers in the so called Western civilization - do not forget that.

I don't know why I prefer wearing predominantly "women's" clothes. It's not because I'm trying to appear as a woman. I simply prefer the relative comfort of a skirt or dress over constrictive pants, and even at that, in the privacy of my own home, I wear predominantly masculine-looking clothes i.e. skirts which look more like a kilt. Dresses, not so much, but the only three I wear are simple cotton or denim constructions. Centuries ago, they'd have fit in quite well given the clothing of those days.

Similarly, I prefer heels to flats, although heels are somewhat less functional or comfortable than any of my guy shoes. The only reason I wear jeans, shirts, and guy shoes while beyond the confines of my apartment is because I don't like the backlash from society. If that weren't an issue, I'd be out in heels and a skirt or a dress all the time.

Cool! Emma Watson is one of those girls who looks better wearing less make-up rather than more.

There's something unsettling about low heels... Lol, I've tried a few, but I prefer either flats or something at least 3.5".

I do wish my feet were two sizes smaller, as there are more than ten times the selection, there. Many styles just aren't available in my size, and yet they're so attracting! Frustrating...

Good for you! One thing most of us have noticed is that the longer one wears heels the more natural it becomes. Heeling isn't for most guys, but you can still appreciate your wife's collection as she wears them.

I have two pair of mules very much like what a google search on "springolators" turned up. Interestingly, I like a more secure fit, so I tie a shoelace around the back of the heel and my ankle.

Because you wear heels, do you consider yourself a crossdresser?

The heels by themselves? Not really. I have a couple of jeans skirts I wear inside pretty much 24/7, but I don't consider that crossdressing, either, and this is why. Pants may have been around since the 6th century BCE (horse-riding communities), but they only became manstream a couple hundred years ago. Given that, I find the idea that men "should" or "must" wear pants to be rather absurd.

If you consider yourself a heterosexual crossdresser, and heels are 'merely' your favorite thing, are you only attracted to women who dress as you like to dress?

I wouldn't call myself a crossdresser. Typically, I reserve that term for people who're trying to appear as the opposite of their birth sex. Although the vast majority of people were born either XX or XY, the world of transgenderism is a lot more common than most people might be aware. A number of studies have demonstrated that roughly a quarter of males and females tend to think more like that of the opposite sex, and yes, male/female thinking is definately bi-modal, with few people falling in the middle.

I find myself attracted to women, and it really doesn't matter how they dress, provided it's not "frumpy." Whether a girl wears jeans and a t-shirt or a nice dress doesn't matter, much. What matters is the human being inside.

On another note, why do some women wear only dresses while others wear only pants? Some wear only heels, and others wear only flats? Many women wear both dresses and pants, as well as heels and flats.

Over the years I've developed a casual observation that the more feminine a heel-wearing man tends to be, the more likely he is to wear feminine heels. I think the correlation is somewhat loose, though. Whatever style I wear depends mostly on my mood, but comfort plays a large role, too. During the winter it's usually zippered boots, as my feet get cold. During the summer I'm usually in a pair of sandals.

If you have fantasies regarding being female, when dressed or not, do you fantasize about sexual encounters with men?

I've never fantasized about sexual encounters with men. I'm heterosexual.

If you are in a committed heterosexual relationship, how do your fantasies and dressing affect your relationship with your significant other?

I not in a relationship. I was married for more than a decade, and yes, the heels were a definate strain. She never understood it nor accepted it.

I know these are intrusive questions...

I didn't find your questions intrusive. I hope my answers help you in your own understanding. Being misunderstood isn't much fun! Our world, and all of us in it would be much better off if others simply accepted us as we are. Life's too short, and human relationships are too precious for judgmentalism.