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I was already wearing heels outside, but this site definately made me realize I'm not alone in my heeling endeavors.

It was an amazing night that solidified my view that heels are just an option, not a compulsion.

I'm arriving at a similar conclusion these days, although I rarely wear heels out anymore.

If I could wear one size smaller, I'd have more than ten times the selection of heels! As it is, it seems that in my size or larger, most of the styles are cheap crappy ho-shoes. Every once in a while I get lucky and find a quality boot, shoe, or sandle in my size, but it's rare. Mostly I wind up returning the shoe.

My ex-wife was vehemently opposed. Just didn't get it. I've dated three people since then, and I never got around to asking, as I got the distinct impression they would not have approved.

I'm not sure these days. I usually lounge around my apartment in either a jeans skirt or a long-sleeved, ankle-length robe. I hesitate to call it a "dress," as it's absolutely void of frills. I've worn it during Halloween while imitating Ozzy Ozborne, and everyone recognizes me for Ozzy right off. I have a couple of full-length jumpers I wear with black t-shirts. As for heels, even in my apartment I'm only heeling half the time these days. When I head out, whether to grab groceries or catch a movie, it's all-guy wear. My ponytail is longer than ever, but I wear earrings only about 20% of the time.

My heeling habits have changed. These days it's limited to one of five favorite pair, with heels ranging between 3 and 4-1/2 inches. I'm most comfortable in 3-1/2 to 4 inch heels.

The more I get involved in my community, the less I wear them outside my apartment. Even inside my apartment, I probably wear heels less than half the time these days. When I do, it's almost always one of five favorite pair. The rest are gathering dust, so I'll probably be downsizing here, soon.

Standard male styles are soooo boring.

And flat. I've always felt cheated that men's shoes haven't included designs with heels since the '70s, and at that, they were clunky (ugly).

Those looked like a man's calves to me...

Ok i finally decided to go out in public in heels which ones should i wear?

http://www.journeys.com/images/products/1_158979_FS.JPG

http://www.getprice.com.au/images/uploadimg/881/350__1_1344342-1.jpg

and

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thanks let me know which ones you think will be good for the first time.

Yes, no, and definately not.

Just my two cents.

Should I ever have a partner in the future, she'll have to accept me as I am.

How can we expect to see others to wear their heels publicly if we aren't willing to heel out in public.

Good point! I wear heels all the time, even while taking out the trash.

You?

How often do you happen to see other guys in heels?

Approximately seven times in the last three years, usually at bars, though once at an international airport.

The ultimate goal would of course be to wear a skirt or dress for work.

Going one further would be wearing whatever the heck we chose to wear simply because it's more comfortable to wear than what we're wearing now.

Provided we look like healthy, happy, well-adjusted people, then we look like healthy, happy, well-adjusted people. Who cares what we may look like to the few narrow-minded idiots in this world?

... [HighCurious

I'm sorry, but does anyone else get the impression for HC's story that it's a fetishistic entity?

I thought the forum didn't allow this. Apparently, I was wrong.

So we're relegated to buying "guy" cowboy boots with less than a one inch heel when guy's boots throughout the ages have sported heels upwards of five inches?

Hmmm Sounds like the fasion policianastia.

And WHAT, say chance (forgive me for not translating it) are they doing about the French Riveriera?

Slap the issue back at you - I SUPPORT what's happening along the French Riviera.

So...

Everything in the men's department is lower and chunky. Now if you walk to the next aisle over, there are at least 3 or 4 pair with the underslung heel that we saw 20 years ago in the mens aisle.

So we're relegated to buying "guy" cowboy boots with less than a one inch heel when guy's boots throughout the ages have sported heels upwards of five inches?

Hmmm Sounds like the fasion policianastia.

As much as I can get. Sadly, Dansko has apparently, and intentionally limited it's stock to women via their choice of sizes. Bastards.

Having read through the posts, it's fairly clear that most (not all, so no need to sound off otherwise) of those who like the "clank" are fetishists, while most of those who simply wear heels for the sake of wearing heels are simply guys who like to wear heels.

I'd love to find a shop which suited my desires, but alas, they're nonexistent, and I'm relgated to the few Payless stores and online mail orders, of which 75% simply dont fit! Gaah...

..she bought a pair in my size and said you might as well have something thats fits you. Next thing I know, It's Saturday night, and I'm wearing my own first pair of heels bought for me by my GF. But still in the privacy of indoors.

Regardless, apparently she approves!

Guys, I met the girl that night for the first time. There never was 5 days in the hotel room. I just said that to flirt with the girl, keep her excited, and drive away the other guy (by giving him a response he probably didn't expect).

Reminds me of the line I laid on my fiancee', sight unseen, when I "rescued" her from a bar jerk. At the time I thought she was very cute, and the guy was being a jerk, so I came to her "rescue." I didn't know at the time she was really looking for an out. She wound up being a good friend for a few years. Still is, I suspect, based on a couple of phone conversations over the years.

Oh, by the way, the line was, "There you are! I've been looking for you all night long! Let's adjourn to the bar for now, but we'll be ordering dinner soon..."

I only did it because she was in visible distress, and she later thanked me for "rescuing me from that jerk."

So, guys, if you intentions are honorable, it pays to be chivalrous.

I think I responded to this poll before, but as time passes... Heels, period. It's not about the look, for me. It's simply about the elevation.

...i believe that the best couseling somebody can have is not with a guy that prepared to give you the human behavior and natural function on our brain, it is actually with the patients and people that live thru the behavior or need to use heels/cd in our case.

I concur. The best counseling I've received (or given) on this issue has usually involved someone who'se "been there; done that."

...live with it and know how to even enjoy it, plan your activity moments and if it is secret because of many personal circumstances there is nothing wrong with that, everybody has privacy in this life right? so just be and let it be.

Very well said.

...heeling or the affection of wearing heels is a happy thing and is a exciting activity...purely selfish and erotic, ....heeler cant share the feeling but can talk about it, while non-heelers may stay on their undiscovered world happy as well.

Lol, I'm tickled over the way you put that, but yes. As a guy whose known quite a few guys over the years, I can honestly state that perhaps upwards of a quarter of us would like to wear heels, if we had "the opportunity to do so."

By the last, I mean the general social acceptence of guys in heels.

It's not here yet, but we're making progress! Best way to help - simply get out there and continue street-heeling. Be yourselves. Do whatever it is that you do the best you can do!