kikepa

Hello all,

I wonder if you know guys that would or allready did buy and wear, as men, items sold as "womens" ? Shoes, but also clothes, accessories, jewels, watches, hats, sneakers, etc.

Just to know. The possible answers are "yes" or "no". Simple as that.

I know the question is not directly focussed on heels, but I am sure the results will. I post a mirror poll in the "for the girls" section.

Regards

Well, gee... Let's see...

I have a pair of women's jeans. They fit better than men's jeans when I'm below 175, but as I'm currently well above 200, they're a no-go.

I wear a Timex Triathelon watch that's made for a woman. When people ask me why I wear "such a small watch," I tell them "it saves weight, and I don't have to worry about it getting caught on things."

None of the earrings I wear are made for men. All were made for women. I simply found some earrings made for women that look good on me as a man. I've got lots of dangles (I prefer them) although I've worn very few in public. I have worn dangles in public, though.

I own and wear several women's bracelets and necklaces in public. Again, it's usually a matter of style and choice. I won't wear a dainty 16" necklace, as it would look like I was being strangled by spidersilk. But I've a terrific three-tiered snake-chain necklace that looks as good on me with a split-neck sweater as it does on any woman.

that wont be a problem, we often bite each other!!

The first and last time I bit my ex-wife was while waking out of a terrible dream! It was in those nether regions between sleep and awake, and I was fighting this terrible person. It was him or me, and he was trying to kill me. He'd wrestled me to the ground, and we were locked in a grapple of immense proportions. Suddenly, his shoulder was right there, and in desparation, I bit down, as hard as I possibly could!

Fortunately, there's something in our brains which (mostly) blocks the thoughts we have in our dreams from actions we take in the real world. My bite on her shoulder woke her up, and hurt, but didn't even break her skin. In my dream, I'd taken out a sizeable chunk of my attacker's shoulder when my ex screamed, waking me from that nightmare.

As for her acceptance of my wearing heels, no way. In fact, it was a key factor in her decision to give me the deep six. I don't know if it was simply too much baggage in her past, too much ultra-religious right-wing indoctrination, or what. Interestingly, I'm both religious and more right than left. What gives? (shrugs) I thought we were at least in the same booklet of music, if not the same sheet, when I asked her to marry me. I guess not.

Since the divorce, I've dated three other gals. About the time I get comfortable telling them about the fact that what they seem to like about me most (kind, caring, understanding, totally able to converse with them for hours, etc.) has an ancilliary side, that I enjoy wearing heels, they have invariably dropped significant pre-emptive hints that I'd better not cross the line by wearing heels.

I'm thinking, "What guy in the world did they know who wears heels?"

My next thought is usually, "probably one of the many guys out there who have not yet found this board."

Spread the word. Let's get these divorce/separation numbers down. Misunderstandings are a bitch!

My wife asked me quite out of the blue last night why I loved shopping for shoes and looking at shoes (For both me and her) and would spend ages in a shoe store and yet I loathed shopping with her and spent about 2 minutes max in clothes shops.

"You dont really care about fashion etc.. only where shoes are concerned, I want you to spend more time shopping for what I want."

I can be in, selected and bought in five minutes where as she takes forever and I have gone to the nearest pub.

Anyone else the same??

Yes and no. The roads were icy/slick, yesterday, and my mom had an appointment in the morning, and in the afternoon she wanted to "grab some things at the mall," so I offered to cart her around.

The 10:30 appointment resulted in a "quick mall trip" that lasted four hours. It took me 30 minutes to survey every clothing item in JC Penny's, picking out a couple of shirts for myself, one for my son, and a pair of slacks. Hell, I even had time to breeze through the women's line of clothing to see if there was anything I could cross-wear (several items - I'll have to go back).

Then I went to the Piercing Pagoda, where I spotted some earrings similar to my current favorites, and I'll have to go back for those, too.

Along the way, I recalled something a well-known and very savvy psychiatrist said long ago: "Women shop. Men hunt. It was set in our genes long ago during the 200,000 years of our hunter-gatherer stage, where the men mostly hunted and the women mostly gathered. That's just the way we are. There are overlaps. Some women fit the male profile, while some men fit the female profile. Regardless, for most women and most men, this is it, folks, so viva la difference! Understanding the differences is key to accepting the differences."

If I were to gather anything from this, it would be this: If you're a guy who prefers wearing heels and is wondering about your psyche, whether you're more feminine vs more masculine, go on a shopping trip with one or two women who are truly interested in shopping (and have a budget to support their habit). If you finish before them, you have a guy brain. If you're bringing up the rear, your brain might just be more on the feminine side.

I watched the Superbowl with my folks and some mutual friends and neighbors. None would have approved, and as my relationships with all of them is more important than my relationship with heels, as much as I enjoy wearing the latter, I choose to watch the Superbowl while wearing a pair of Merrell cross-country hiking shoes. (sigh) I know... Perhaps one of these days a fashion trend will sweep the nation and I can walk around in heels and a skirt without raising nary an eyebrow. Wishful thinking.

I was already wearing heels outside, but this site definately made me realize I'm not alone in my heeling endeavors.

It was an amazing night that solidified my view that heels are just an option, not a compulsion.

I'm arriving at a similar conclusion these days, although I rarely wear heels out anymore.

If I could wear one size smaller, I'd have more than ten times the selection of heels! As it is, it seems that in my size or larger, most of the styles are cheap crappy ho-shoes. Every once in a while I get lucky and find a quality boot, shoe, or sandle in my size, but it's rare. Mostly I wind up returning the shoe.

My ex-wife was vehemently opposed. Just didn't get it. I've dated three people since then, and I never got around to asking, as I got the distinct impression they would not have approved.

I'm not sure these days. I usually lounge around my apartment in either a jeans skirt or a long-sleeved, ankle-length robe. I hesitate to call it a "dress," as it's absolutely void of frills. I've worn it during Halloween while imitating Ozzy Ozborne, and everyone recognizes me for Ozzy right off. I have a couple of full-length jumpers I wear with black t-shirts. As for heels, even in my apartment I'm only heeling half the time these days. When I head out, whether to grab groceries or catch a movie, it's all-guy wear. My ponytail is longer than ever, but I wear earrings only about 20% of the time.

My heeling habits have changed. These days it's limited to one of five favorite pair, with heels ranging between 3 and 4-1/2 inches. I'm most comfortable in 3-1/2 to 4 inch heels.

The more I get involved in my community, the less I wear them outside my apartment. Even inside my apartment, I probably wear heels less than half the time these days. When I do, it's almost always one of five favorite pair. The rest are gathering dust, so I'll probably be downsizing here, soon.

Standard male styles are soooo boring.

And flat. I've always felt cheated that men's shoes haven't included designs with heels since the '70s, and at that, they were clunky (ugly).

Those looked like a man's calves to me...

Ok i finally decided to go out in public in heels which ones should i wear?

http://www.journeys.com/images/products/1_158979_FS.JPG

http://www.getprice.com.au/images/uploadimg/881/350__1_1344342-1.jpg

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http://my.buzzcritic.com/wp-content/plugins/wp-o-matic/cache/d1986_20091022_moneymakers_250x250.jpg

thanks let me know which ones you think will be good for the first time.

Yes, no, and definately not.

Just my two cents.

Should I ever have a partner in the future, she'll have to accept me as I am.

How can we expect to see others to wear their heels publicly if we aren't willing to heel out in public.

Good point! I wear heels all the time, even while taking out the trash.

You?

How often do you happen to see other guys in heels?

Approximately seven times in the last three years, usually at bars, though once at an international airport.

The ultimate goal would of course be to wear a skirt or dress for work.

Going one further would be wearing whatever the heck we chose to wear simply because it's more comfortable to wear than what we're wearing now.

Provided we look like healthy, happy, well-adjusted people, then we look like healthy, happy, well-adjusted people. Who cares what we may look like to the few narrow-minded idiots in this world?

... [HighCurious

I'm sorry, but does anyone else get the impression for HC's story that it's a fetishistic entity?

I thought the forum didn't allow this. Apparently, I was wrong.

So we're relegated to buying "guy" cowboy boots with less than a one inch heel when guy's boots throughout the ages have sported heels upwards of five inches?

Hmmm Sounds like the fasion policianastia.

And WHAT, say chance (forgive me for not translating it) are they doing about the French Riveriera?

Slap the issue back at you - I SUPPORT what's happening along the French Riviera.

So...

Everything in the men's department is lower and chunky. Now if you walk to the next aisle over, there are at least 3 or 4 pair with the underslung heel that we saw 20 years ago in the mens aisle.

So we're relegated to buying "guy" cowboy boots with less than a one inch heel when guy's boots throughout the ages have sported heels upwards of five inches?

Hmmm Sounds like the fasion policianastia.

As much as I can get. Sadly, Dansko has apparently, and intentionally limited it's stock to women via their choice of sizes. Bastards.

While that's true, and I agree with you, there are times, especially if you are in a long term relationship, when you have to consider the partner's feelings in your decisions. You don't have relinquish total control, but you have to make sure your partner is not opposed to your clothing choices, or you risk alienation or worse. A good captain in today's world is a leader and teacher who commands respect, not a tyrannical militaristic dictator.

Steve

Agreed, and as I'm dating (for a whopping two weeks) a woman whom I admire a good deal, but whom I'm unsure as to how she feels about my penchant for heels, I'm unsure as to how to proceed. She's supportive of the GLBT movement, but I'm not one of those four. I'm just a guy who prefers wearing heels and skirts (mostly sarongs), although never out in public (public can be so cruel).

Having read through the posts, it's fairly clear that most (not all, so no need to sound off otherwise) of those who like the "clank" are fetishists, while most of those who simply wear heels for the sake of wearing heels are simply guys who like to wear heels.