CrushedVamp

You are not alone in that! 🙂 I was once on a flight sitting in the first row where ahead of me a flight attendant sat, but in looking back at the cabin reversed-too so to speak. Its odd I know, but I like ankle bracelets and she was wearing one, but it was the first time I ever saw a woman wear them UNDER her stockings. That took me by surprise, but when I looked up, she was looking back at me like I was some sort of pervert. I am not, just at that time I had never seen anything like that. Since then I have seen others wear them that way, under their pantyhose or stockings, but still can't figure out why. My wife wears her on the outside. As for me, I have been thinking about a new job myself. As a guy I think a lot of my identity is in doing what I do, and it does not help that it is kind of unique what I do. It always paid well, but over the years the pay has leveled off and other jobs are increasing. Part of that is working insane hours, like literally being on-call 24/7/365 days a year. My wife even says "it feels like we live here" whenever we have to drive to my job for something. Now I am beginning to wonder if "having a cool job" is actually worth it though. I could work a job for the same money, 5 miles from home, 4 days a week, its just a boring every day sort of job. I do have a job interview there next week, so we shall see how that goes, then make my decision. As for high heels, maybe it is because it is early mud season here, but I have not seen anyone wearing high heels, even at church. It is one of the reasons I have not been on this site much myself.

You are right, and that is because it specifically says for men to not wear hats, and this it is okay for women too, directly in the bible. Some today say that it was for very specific reasons why AT THAT TIME the bible says to do that, and so they dismiss it because they feel it is not relevant today, while others strictly abide by it still. I am not sure because there are other specifics on how to dress that are ignored routinely. An example is make-up, as it says for a lady not to wear it. Well, back in that day, the oldest profession advertised what they did by wearing bright red lipstick so I could see where it might be forbidden to be worn, but today it is general practice, so seeing a woman wearing lipstick does not mean she is a prostitute. Myself, I just feel do as you are lead. Myself I ALWAYS wear a hat, but not in church, taking it off at the start, but I have seen others wear it all through the service. I have seen others take it off just during prayer. That is up to them though as I can't judge them, my life is hardly perfect...

Myself, I do not care what people wear for the most part. I say "most part" because if I am in a bad part of town, and the only other person on the street is wearing all black, with a hoodie and it drawn over their heads, yes, I'm flipping my firearm off safety. That is not judging, but being situationally aware and prepared. If nothing happens, so be it, but how a person is dressed can be indicative of future behavior! But I have seen the opposite. Some of it is region and certain society, but I remember being in church and a some were upset that this guy came in and did not remove his ball cap. They seemed surprised, and I was like, "just be glad the guy came. who cares that he wore a hat through the whole service". But just so everyone knows, if we are going to talk politics, I won't be on this forum at all. There are plenty of forums where people can do that without stating rhetoric on her no matter what side their perspective is from. I have not read a newspaper in a decade, and chose to read books instead of watching television for the past seven years, and generally like to be blissfully unaware of things I cannot change.

While I know we are not supposed to judge others, myself I see it as inevitable and more so, is even logical to do. It is how we are wired to operate. We see things, we experience things and then we remember patterns. That can be both good and bad. On a plane which is the exact same situation repeated and repeated again, with clothes people are wearing being the only thing that really changes, oh for sure you are going to make associations with behaviors and how people are dressed. As a writer it can be fun to choose to work with these associations or write the opposing for contrast in my characters. For example, if it’s a minor character and my novel is already approaching the word limit, I might just have the typical alpha male so I do not have to describe the character as much and focus on the plot because people have experienced that combination a lot in life. But the plot might alternatively be about a nurse who kills patients by giving them lethal injections and thus also kills the stereotypical a “nurse is always caring” rationale. Part of that can be what the characters are wearing too. I once wrote a mystery where the killer walked through blood because she was wearing high heels and left triangular prints behind. It ended up being a false clue though because while seemingly it was the suspect that always wore high heels all through the novel, it was actually the hipster who typical wore sandals who did the murder. She only wore heels that night because she was going out on a dinner-date with her husband and was uncharacteristically dressed. But I could have easily changed the gender... what detective would ever think the killer was a MAN wearing high heels?

A lot of excellent rulings came out of the 1960's on First Amendment Rights so I am not surprised that it started there. My Father in Law had a case go before the Supreme Court in 1970 on First Amendment Rights that he won which I thought was pretty cool because so few attorneys can say they had cases go to the Supreme Court and win them. There are some excellent ones coming out now too, so this is another era of importance in the history of the Supreme Court. Like the overturning of Chevron Deference that went widely unnoticed but is going to have MASSIVE implications moving forward. It should have never been allowed in the first place, but just the same, once the lawsuits start simmering down and case law is established over the ruling the United States will be in a much better place where we can derive strategic planning on numbers instead of whim.

It is a tough question for sure. As the Judge in the Larry Flint trial once said, “I cannot define what art is, but I surely know the difference between pornography and art when I see it”. While different, the idea is the same here for me. I cannot define what is inappropriate, but I know it when I see it. I fully understand freedoms and have always said, “Freedom is indeed scary”, but kids… kids is where I draw the line. They should not be subjected to seeing anything inappropriate; they already see that enough without my sense of “freedom” adding to it. I thought your reply was spot on. I love the human figure too as I LOVE art, and in fact as I type this have a large lithograph of John Collier's Lady Godiva above my desk, but there are places to appreciate art... and the human form, and places that should be sanctuary from seeing that. Just because YOU CAN do something, does not mean YOU ALWAYS SHOULD!