Bootking

Thighbootguy, yes and no. I first ventured out in the street in heels (blue knee high boots under pants) over 32 years ago walking the dog, long before the internet or anything like it. My fetish went through many iterations to where I am now. A fetish, by definition, is and addictive thing; otherwise we wouldn't obsess over it!

How far we go, where we stop on that road, back to the beginning and all that are, as you say, individual variations. But OUR need for heels, whether pumps, boots, sandals, all, some, etc. is our GREAT obsession. Otherwise, we would not be communicating on this great site!!!

Viva la heels!!!!!

Having done extensive counseling with the ex with different therapists, there is one real conclusion. There is nothing wrong with having a fetish unless it interferes with daily functioning (like a gambling sickness or alcoholism). It is just part of us and that is all it is.

Now, if you're spending hours a day on it, then maybe you, me or anyone would then probably have a problem. If not, enjoy who you are and live your life.

Thighbootguy,

Profound, truly profound. Like many things, there will be many different flavors to this recipe. But the road map is there for those who care to read it. And like a road, there are many exits and stops along the way, but some may want to go to the end.

Thanks guys for the vote of confidence.

Thighboots2, although your advice is well taken for "mainstream," truly the thinner and/or higher heel is sexier and the more I like it. The next night I had to stop for gas and was wearing pointy black Steve Madden crinkle patent knee high boots with a 4" stiletto heel and stopped for gas on the parkway under corduroy pants. I know the car behind saw the heels (sometimes you can feel things) but who they were or what I don't know. I just put the gas in the car, felt somewhat uncomfortable, and left. But hey, that's the way it is for now for the irregular fashion wearer.

radiodave, I did the same thing this afternoon, but not at work. I had these heels on (2 1/2 inches) and had to go into Officemax. Normally I would have changed but I said to myself, no, just go even though it's during the day. If anyone noticed, they didn't say and I didn't hang around to find out. The heels definately show on these skinny jeans. There was a girl outside smoking a cigarette and I'm sure that she saw but didn't say anything.

Johnnieheel, that's guts! To go out dressed lower half "female" but as a guy - incredible! My hats off to you too, thighbootguy!

Glad you guys like the avatar!

Johnnieheel,

I think that the answer is that people are different; indeed there are also cultural differences that also are barriers. When it is all said and done, my wife will "tolerate" the heel thing at home - but that is as far as it goes. She knows that I have heels in the trunks of the cars and chooses to ignore it as much as possible.

As far as heels while driving in the car, she is concerned about being stopped or being in an accident (obvious embarassment on her part - not so much mine; I could deal with it).

So, I have to take the positive with the negative - heels at home and not outside (when she is around). When she is not around, I do what I want to do, in the car or otherwise. If she changes over time, great and I would certainly encourage that by talking about it, etc. etc. But if not (and she really wishes the whole thing would go away), I have to accept her for who she is as she does me. Of course, all of that is within limits on both sides.

[johnieheel]My dream was to one day just be able to go out in public just like women do in heels and just be me.]

To me, that is what I would love to be doing. I do not want to attract attention, nor do I want to stand out in the crowd. At the same time, I would want my wife to be either totally neutral or approving. Unfortunately for most of us, this is not in the offing but maybe a goal to work towards down the road.

Jeff, that is an incredible thing; when you and your s/o both go out in similar heels - what a charge!!! My wife doesn't have that tolerance for outside; bed yes, outside no!

T2, I'm a baby boomer and remember the cuban heel style for men very well, but truthfully, at least in the US, I have never ever in 55 long years ever seen a man with a stiletto or even a blade heel, except in the Halloween parade in NYC or some other costume venture. And I'm a lifelong NYC metro area resident, not the boonies.