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thanks, all of you! I was home alone yesterday, put on my wedge sneakers and walked around the streets for 10 minutes. I wouldn't really say it's an outing, because there weren't any people on the street and it was dark, but I liked it. My feet clearly aren't used to "long" walks as they got sore by the end, but I guess that will go better every time I go out. For now on, I'll go on and if I get a good chance to talk about the heels I'll do so.

i highly doubt it

No, it really helped! I'm not planning to turn into a complete fashionista (if I'm a man, wouldn't it be fashionistO or something?), but some more effort on my looks could do well.

Not bad. even though they look rather masculine, the heel is still quite obvious and the sharp toebox also attracts some attention. Good luck on your future heeling!

I'm not really blessed with a great fashion sense, but I think nobody will have a problem with it if I take some more attention to the choice of my outfit. My parents (especially my mother) would LOVE it! Maybe, hopefully, she could link this to heels and be even more open to my heeling! I could try this, showing myself in a "better" outfit won't have any negative effect either. Thanks for the advice!

Why aren't there any shops like payless or Bakers shoes in Belgium! All Belgian stores have limited amounts in big sizes, finding heels in european 43 is just impossible. I'm kind of lucky that in european 42, my size, you can still find a moderate amount of shoes on internet stores, but in the real shops they are rare! There are also no width sizes, and wide heels are even harder to find in here. No luck for me.

Not necessarily, I have a pair of embedded wedge shoes and I've worn them out in public before and I think as long she doesn't see the inside of the shoe were it's sloped it's really unnoticeable. I'll be honest, my parents don't know about my two pairs of heels (cause I'm also scared to tell them...) but I've worn the hi-tops around them and they have no clue. My pumps remain hidden though...

The big problem is: I have always been incredibly uninterested in fashion or buying shoes. I would only go to buy shoes or clothes if I really needed them, my parents going with, and them paying for the shoes. If I'd say "Hi, I bought a pair of shoes for myself because I like them, and I paid them with my own money", they'd give me a really weird look and certainly check the shoes. Just today, when having a walk with my parents, I refused to go to any kind of clothing store because I said I didn't need anything.

It's actually very strange how something like me, with no interest whatsoever in fashion, loves heels. I wear anything that fits and feels well and is not too expensive. how it looks doesn't matter to me. But it does matter to me when it comes to heels. I might however just try to wear them when going somewhere with them, and see how it turns out. They might be surprised in a positive OR negative way.

and thanks for the compliment on the shoes, I also love them!

mötley crüe really can't get enough of it!

Not working in heels doesn't mean that you can't openly wear heels. If you come outside in heels in your free time, during shopping trips or visiting stuff, nobody has the right to take away your privileges. I think if you're in a postition like a university professor, who is supposed to be a good example to students, wearing heels would seem a totally bad idea at all. It's just not going to work. On the other hand, if you're sitting behind a desk programming or working with data, you have less responsibility for how you present yourself. Moral: Think about where you want to go in heels, if it would be a good idea. Clever decisions will help you avoid negative confrontations.

I'm actually very short and well known for that. I won't go to friends with these, they would notice, but just running around in public won't be a problem.

very masculine, but even more expensive! I don't even own that much money at all.

I'm from belgium (BELGIE!), but as I'm living with my parents and can't drive a car, getting to holland on my own is quite impossible. Any ideas?

I don't know if I should mention these shoes here as I've already posted them in the hidden heels thread. I'll just do it anyways, since they're new shoes. A pair of wedge sneakers with well hidden heels. They look really masculine and I think they won't attract any attention at all. I was home alone for about half an hour, so I walked around my garden for some minutes, as I didn't want to be away when my parents would come home. I won't have them worry about my outdoor heeling, they might not yet be ready for it. Walking around for longer distances than inside of the house felt great, and I'm looking forward to the real heeling! See you all later!

These arrived today. The heel well hidden in my opinion, I wouldn't have any problems with going outside, even going into crowded places with these. What do you think about them? With a casual pair of jeans on them, they really don't attract attention. I just have to wait until I'm home alone for a long enough period of time, so nobody sees me putting on and off the shoes. I want to keep them secret for just a little while, until I've talked about it with my family a bit more. As I was alone for half an hour this evening, I just put them on to walk around a bit in my garden, felt great. I never walked such distances as I've always stayed indoors. I'm looking forward to real heeling! See you later! Joris.

what a waste, getting rid of shoes you like. why would one ever do that?

indeed pretty expensive. The ones in your avatar are great too!

not that high, but still good enough. Of course, if you're in such a big band, you can afford to wear anything and your fans will love it!

We are 3 metalheads, with a love for metal shirts and a heavy look. Heels wouldn't really fit in our image.

i would say, time to reintroduce this trend! (but i don't think my band members would really accept me doing this)

It would be a bad idea to just start wearing another pair of heels without talking about it with your parents. They will find it very disrespectful if you just start over again without asking them anything, and they won't think positively about your heeling. They will really think that it's already an obsession, because to them you seem unable to stop heeling. Have you talked to them about it? You should, I have no other advice. Nothing will change if it's not given the opportunity to change. I hope you can solve this important issue. I guess you already know that like most of men here, heeling will always remain an important thing in your future life. Much of it depends on what you with it in the beginning. Give your parents a reason to accept your heeling, other than just seeing you in heels. Show them how innocent your hobby is, and what positive effects it has on you (how you feel good in them, etc.)

I sent this message:

Hi. I come to represent the community of heel-wearing men.

We, men, love to wear high heels too, but finding suitable sizes can be quite a problem for some men (with female sizes up to 13 or more)

The amount of heeling men is rising, and quite possibly we'll make up a big part of the shoe store clients.

I want to ask you if your store and managers could think about the idea of producing some high heeled shoes in bigger sizes, maybe in size US 11 to 13. You'll be surprised how fast they'll be sold.

To show the growing community of heel-wearing men: check out this site:

hhplace.org

Thank you for your time.

I got this response:

Hello Joris,

Thank you for contacting Nasty Gal! I believe this would be a great idea also! Please contact buyers@shopnastygal.com so they can future assist you.

If there is anything else I can help you with, please let me know.

Jamie W.

If enough people send the same message, we might get through!

all online shoe size converters tell me it's a 10. I won't be buying any american shoes anyway, shipping them to europe would just be too expensive.

heeleddude, now if only I could at least stand in heels of such height. The ones in my avatar are my highest pair, but I'm still kind of new to heeling. If I get a lot of practice in those (which is hard because I'm barely ever home alone) I'll advance to the real HIGH heels.

The shop only goes to size 11, so it's not THE best option for some men. Still, if they plan to make bigger shoes, it would be great!