mlroseplant

On 1/1/2020 at 7:35 AM, JeffB said:

An interesting chain of conversation that I find intriguing. Everyone here knows I wear women’s clothes top to bottom, openly and proudly as I evolved from a heeler to a fashion freestyler. Does that make me a crossdresser? Maybe, I’d say that depends on one’s own perspective, I don’t wear wigs, padded bras or makeup, and despite my infrequent dalliance with lipstick, I have no interest whatsoever in looking like a woman, all I care about are the clothes and shoes, and that’s more than enough for me.

As for the question of wearing sparkly, silver sandals, I’m of the opinion that shoes in colors like silver of gold should be saved for parties or similar social functions, not for more casual outings.

I'm not really fussed about anybody's definition of crossdressing. In fact, the thought never even entered my mind until Pierre brought it up, almost as a afterthought, really. I don't know what your thought processes are when you're deciding what barriers you're going to crash through next, but my thoughts basically go something like this: "I like to see women wearing x. I find x attractive. Why wouldn't I want to emulate the look for myself?" X, of course, stands in for whatever, be it high heels, bright colors, long nails, dangly earrings, etc.

I must respectfully disagree with you about the sparkly sandals. I guess it depends upon the exact outfit, but I for one like to see shiny gold and silver shoes in a more casual situation. They are also great for parties, too! I'm just not too sure about wearing them myself. And there's the other side of the coin. "I like to see women wearing x. I find x attractive. I would like to wear x, but I'd look completely ridiculous if I did so." Years ago, I tried on some of my ex-wife's high heels when she wasn't around (we wore basically the same size). I still remember looking in the mirror, wearing those heels, and thinking, "You look *%^&ing awful! You'd make an absolutely terrible looking woman." And I probably did look awful. It's taken me a number of years to even learn how to stand in heels without looking like a dork, much less walk in them. Not to mention the fact that, well, who knows what else I had on with those heels? Probably some dirty, baggy jeans and a ratty t-shirt.

So anyhow, those are the two sides of my feminine dressing consciousness.

3 hours ago, Pierre1961 said:

Hiding the heels is what I did for a long period. Now I realize that visible shoes draw less attention. But with block heels and all other clothes totally masculine. I wish i had the courage to wear stilettos boots  but didn’t take that decision yet 

@RonC I am also n old dog. Sometimes I wonder if wearing heels matches with an old face,despite of a slim body. 

So far I keep going. 

I believe I have expressed a concern about certain items of my wardrobe being for kids. Well, I think of them as kids, but I mean young people. For example, when do I have to give up the tiny shorts? I guess as long as my legs don't look all gnarled up like a prune, I'll keep wearing them. I don't think heels have an age limit, but they probably do have a physical limit. I have known too many people this year who have broken hips, and that time of my life when I might have to worry about such things is really not all that far away, in the grand scheme of things.

On 12/29/2019 at 10:10 AM, Cali said:

I get those two comments too. I respond by saying "Life too short for heels that hurt."  If they want to continue I will say that women buy heels because of their LOOK and what outfits they look good with, then worry about walking in them while I buy shoes that fit from the beginning because I will wear them for 12+ hours straight. Some times I might ask what the most important thing you look for in heels - the most common answer "how it look." I get accused of "buying heels like a man." 

I have wondered about this sometimes. I think you're largely right about women buying on looks only, but I can think of a couple of examples where this simply isn't true. One example is a friend of mine who wears heels regularly (probably every day), and she has a particular brand which she likes and finds comfortable. Nevertheless, she just simply can't hack standing and walking in them for more than a couple of hours. This was proven when a bunch of us took a trip to Chicago a couple of years ago. The only reason she wears heels every day is because her job allows her to sit most of the time. She has even mentioned giving up heels someday when she is older. I can't figure out why she has never developed the strength and endurance that I have, and that you have. We're talking about maybe a 3 1/2" heel, no platform.

On 12/29/2019 at 11:14 AM, p1ng74 said:

I’ve even heard guys say that a 1.5” heel on cowboy boots must be uncomfortable and difficult to walk in.  Yet that is closer to what podiatrists say is the ideal heel height.  Their judgment is often not based on any real personal experience, but rather what they are just used to seeing.  

I've heard that before as well, and I wonder how they come up with that. Being as we're really designed to walk barefoot, how are 1 1/2" heels the ideal height?

On 12/27/2019 at 9:18 AM, CAT said:

Sorel Lexie wedges.  My GF an I have several matching pairs too!! We both wear them  almost daily!!!  Here I am back at the hospital for more tests to get cleared for my long awaited knee replacements!   No one at the hospital said anything but there are always the looks !

Knee replacements? Wow! I hope all that goes OK. Do the doctors give you any static about wearing heels? I know my chiropractor sure did.

On 12/29/2019 at 9:01 AM, dagino said:

I have a fetish knee high boots with heels. When a woman puts on them, I'm ready. Each of us has a different attitude to women's shoes. I like the graceful shapes of boots. I don't like bare feet in sandals.

I suppose it depends upon your definition of "fetish." Do you focus on the boots only, or is it the total look that goes along with the boots? Do you feel the same when you're wearing such boots yourself? I honestly don't have anything against boots, I think they can look quite nice in the right context.

On 12/30/2019 at 3:31 AM, HappyinHeels said:

mlroseplant,

You wondered aloud the same thing on one of my visits to your place. I distinctly remember your then 9-year-old son saying "you do it because it gives you joy." He nailed it concisely and simply. It really is no more complicated than that. No wonder I like that kid he's got stuff figured ahead of time . In the meantime have a good New Year's Eve over there in Iowa no matter what heels you have on! HinH

Did he really say that? It sounds like something he would say, though I don't remember it specifically. Can you believe he will be 11 in a few short weeks? Happy New Year! I'll be staying at home this year.

There was a discussion on @chesterx's thread, brought about by @RonC, who asked a question about why do I feel that I can't wear silver, strappy, sparkly sandals, when many of the other shoes I wear on a regular basis are equally as outrageous in other ways? I am trying to drag the conversation over here, so as to not talk about myself too much on somebody else's thread. It probably won't work, but out of politeness, I'm going to try. See the last page of chesterx's thread "My Outings.  .  ." for more context.

There are many styles of shoes I now wear that I thought I never would when I started heeling back in 2012. Among them are anything with a stiletto heel, and any open-toed mule. Both of those are now a regular part of my wardrobe. I used to wear extra length pants all the time. I do not anymore. So why not sparkly silver sandals? My coloring would probably look better in gold, but that's beside the point. The answer is, I guess there is no good reason, it's just that I've got some sort of mental hangup about it. Most of my shoes are black or brown, and many of my sandals are tan. There are some notable exceptions, like my red BCBG mules, pictured recently above, my Nine West platform sandals (dusty rose), and my perennial favorite BCBG white beaded mules, which do have shiny gold trim.

At what point does one stop pushing the envelope and just continue to dress the way he does presently? Is wearing silver sparkly sandals "pushing the envelope" in any significant way it hasn't been pushed already? At what point does one start looking ridiculous? Has this line already been crossed (At this point, I don't think so, but others may have different opinions)? Does any of this really matter?

On 12/28/2019 at 1:21 PM, Cali said:

I wonder if allision could be used when someone hits parked cars?

What about a car hitting other stationary objects, like a trash dumpster (skip)? My only unintended contact (in a car). It was a green car, and a green dumpster, so you couldn't really tell, unless you looked very closely. The ex-wife was still mad as hell about it.

12 hours ago, RonC said:

miroseplant, I find that comment interesting.  Those sandals, while being a sparkly silver color, are a relatively common style.  Your choices, on the other hand, tend to be more toward the unusual side of things - i.e., ultra high heels, big platforms, etc., that one doesn't see often even on the ladies.  This is not meant to be critical at all, but I am curious to know why you felt that you "couldn't pull of those shoes" but have no problem with a pair of six inch heel mules with heavy platforms that rather stand out in a crowd?  Againm, please don't take as being critical in any way, just curious why one and not the other is in your comfort zone.

Hmm, now that you put it that way, I don't know why. Because they're so sparkly, I guess? I've kind of shied away from metallics for the same reason. And have I become a platform guy? I don't think of myself as a platform guy. Looking at my last dozen purchases, I guess I have become a platform guy, haven't I? It wasn't intentional, believe me. OK, nothing more than one inch from now on! Well, maybe 1 1/4" if everything else is just right.  .  .

I wouldn't worry, Ron, if you were being a little bit critical, but now is it I who is curious. Do you really think I would stand out less if I just wore plain classic pumps? I guess I never thought of my shoes as being all that unusual, just slightly out of date. Don't worry @chesterx. The hijack is only temporary.

On 12/26/2019 at 7:53 PM, HappyinHeels said:

Having a friend trail you to measure reaction to your heel wearing could be a diversion leading you to conclusions both positive and negative about what the friend saw and their implications for you. The fact is people have 5 senses and use them to observe. Cannot stop it. You should really focus on increasing your confidence and that is really what makes the difference! HinH

The fact is, I probably don't want to know. I think it's best that we can't read other people's minds--that would be disastrous! We were just talking about this very subject at work the other day, when a man we had never seen before started wandering around the job site. My first thought was, "Who the hell is this jackwagon?" Then I wondered aloud to my coworkers, "I wonder if other people think the same thing about us?" "Yeah, probably." I'm sure people think things in their heads that we really don't want to know. It would probably ruin your life if you knew.

22 hours ago, KneeBooted said:

My family and I are back in Louisville, KY for the holidays...

So I wore my new Sorel wedges out to dinner last night with my parents, my wife, and our kids. I paired them with my skinny jeans and a blue t-shirt, similar to the post on the previous page that was quoted at the top of this one.

We went to a local place that makes amazing burgers. I ended up in the seat at the table that showed off my choice of footwear quite easily, and I may have done that on purpose, lol.

While I got a couple of looks, no one said anything, and I was so preoccupied that I didn’t even see much else if anyone even reacted to it.

However, there was a couple at the bar that noticed and I assume kept talking about me in heels even as we were leaving. This couple was waking out behind us, and I heard a short bit from the guy... “I bet his feet are hurting. I’d be ok with it if...”

Number one, my feet weren’t hurting in the least, they’re wedges!

Number two, what situation would it have to be for that guy to be ok with another guy in heels? I assume he likely was going to say if I was gay, no kids, or something of the sort. Sigh, a sign I’m back in a conservative area lol.

It never ceases to amaze me how people think we must constantly walk around in misery. I've had several men over the years comment that they must be uncomfortable as hell, and it's usually something rather low-ish, too. Womens' comments are almost always along the lines of, "I wish I could wear those." I'm generalizing, of course, there have been quite a few true, unconditional compliments over the years, but I find those two categories to be the most common. What I really want to say is, "Yes, you can wear these, you just don't want to." I'm sure there are a certain percentage of people who can't wear heels, but most of them simply don't want to put in the time or the effort to get to the point where they can wear heels long term in comfort. Me? I'm still workin' on it!

10 hours ago, chesterx said:

Had a quick outing today. Went to Kohl's as they were having a sale on Gloria Vanderbilt jeans & I wanted to pick up a couple pairs to brighten up my jeans selection with some different colors. I also walked by a sparkly top I had to have, just in case I find some place to go for New Years Eve. Stopped off on the way home at Wings & More for dinner & some football, then back home. I chose to wear my  Jessica Simpson O'dorsey pumps that I wore earlier. They were too tight when I wore them then, but I really like how they look so I tried them on again & this time they were a lot more comfortable. I had them on about 3-4 hours & could have gone longer, so I am happy about that. I'm goint to make them part of my regular rotation. Hoping to fit in more heel opportunities between visits with my mother.

If there is one regret that I've had over the past 7 years, it's that I have been too quick to get rid of shoes that maybe don't fit quite right, but show promise. Some of my favorite shoes started off being rather tight, and there are some I got rid of right away that I wish I had back, now knowing the difference between "a little snug," and "always going to kill my feet." Obviously, you don't want the second one, but it's sometimes difficult to know the difference. May I suggest investing in a high heel shoe stretcher. I bought this one:

https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B00C32K12U/ref=ppx_yo_dt_b_asin_title_o01_s00?ie=UTF8&th=1

1 hour ago, at9 said:

Stealing is an interesting concept when you distinguish between bits and atoms. If you steal atoms (cars, books, wives etc) you deprive the previous owner of their use. If you steal bits this is done by copying (text, music, ideas etc) the original owner still has them. They may be of reduced value but the original owner can still play the music, read the document on a computer etc.

I'm no bible scholar but I don't think the concept of intellectual property is well covered.

If one continues reading past Deuteronomy chapter 22, it's addressed a few chapters later: "Thou shalt not sample classic rock 'n' roll for your hiphop record. It is an abomination."

5 hours ago, kneehighs said:

Church priorities and never a mention about your heels.  Good news for your style preference.  

I studied a bit of context of Deuteronomy awhile back.  The whole book is kind of like an instruction manual given to a kid leaving home for the "promised land" of college.  After living for "hundreds of years" under the care of their parents they realistically have little life experience. Thus, the silly laws.

In the United Methodist Church, and perhaps some other denominations, we have a thing called "Holy Humor Sunday." It is typically the Sunday after Easter, but I think our church celebrates it at another time. I am not entirely sure where this tradition originates, but we have a sort of "silly" church service that Sunday. I have always wanted to try a little standup comedy, and I think I dreamed up that bit I wrote a couple days ago about the Jewish leaders chastising the silly farmer for trying to yoke an ox and a donkey together. If I stole that from somewhere, it was unconscious and unintentional. Several days later, I still think it's one of the funniest things I've ever made up, but unfortunately, like so much of my humor, it's only funny to a select group. I think I can tone down the language to make it work for the intended audience.

I had never thought about Deuteronomy (and probably most of Leviticus, also) in the way that you mentioned. I think there's probably some truth to it. Can I steal that idea as material for my sketch, if indeed it ever comes to fruition?

10 minutes ago, KneeBooted said:

Ha! Yeah, the church we attend now definitely personifies what I imagine from an open/inviting church. What I mean is that if anyone has taken notice, they really don’t care, or not enough to say anything to me.

That being said, the church we attended when we were living in Indiana claimed to be an open/inviting church, but you could definitely tell it wasn’t unless you conformed and acted like them. They were definitely a conservative Christian church.

Moving to California revealed some of the member’s true colors before we left, and I am thankful we don’t see those people anymore.

I love how you think I’m going to be able to pull off 5” stilettos! I usually stick with thicker heels, but I guess you never know.

That's just it.  .  . you never know. I was the same at first, I thought I would stick with bigger, chunkier heels, but it didn't work out that way. Your path will be completely different than mine, but I didn't even predict my own path very well.

I was just thinking (because I do that sometimes) that there are a number of things I like to do which at first blush seem above and beyond the normal course of behavior. For one, I wear high heels whenever possible. That in and of itself is strange enough. Not only does it feel natural, but I get a kick out of it. I especially get a kick out of people saying, "How on earth do you do it?" I would like to claim it's a superpower, but it's not. I'm just as bad as anyone else at walking in heels, it's just that I practice a lot more, and consciously practice. I'm sure that doesn't even enter into most people's consciousness.

The other sub-thing I really seem to enjoy is wearing sandals or backless clogs all winter long. I don't know why I like to do it. It's not really a fetish, and it's not really a bragging rights thing, it's just something I like to do. Maybe because it involves a little hard work and sacrifice. Sometimes I feel guilty that I've got several pairs of boots which never get worn. Just some random thoughts.

I'm kind of with you on the leggings, but I'm not ready to wear them alone as pants without something long over my hip area. This is for a couple of reasons, the most important being that my wife would kill me. Despite this, I have just bought three additional pairs of cropped leggings, for a total of 5, which I have come to love as long underwear (an off-label use?). This allows me to wear sandals and clogs all winter without letting on that I have an extra layer of warmth there under my pants!

22 hours ago, KneeBooted said:

So it turned out I was wrong about my coworker finding my Instagram account about my heeling, BUT she had been paying attention to which heels I’d been wearing to work. So after a brief discussion, she now follows me and thinks it’s awesome.

I posted in the thread of @mlroseplant about church and heels, and thought I’d say a quick word about my late experience.

I had continued with the idea that I need to step out of my comfort zone in order to progress with my heeling. So a few weeks ago, I wore my new skinny jeans from American Eagle and paired them with my Sorel wedge boots. I figured it wasn’t a very feminine look, and chances are they’d go unnoticed.

The only people I saw that took notice were a daughter in her late teens/early 20s and her mother. They made some small talk to each other and pointed at my shoes, but neither laughed, snickered, or otherwise made a negative reaction. If anything, they seemed extremely curious. I didn’t get a chance to find them after service, but again I had no negative experience.

So for a couple of additional Sundays, I wore a similar look again, making it the norm. The one girl who works in childcare has checked them out, but nothing negative.

This past Sunday I pushed the envelope again, wearing my new Naturalizer ankle boots that match my wife’s pair. I had worn them once a month or two ago but with extra long jeans to hide most of the heel, etc. To push the envelope though, I wore just a long pair of jeans, thus showing off the fact I was wearing some kind of heel.

My wife wore her pair too, and this was by far the most notices I’ve received from other members of the church. I got quite a few double takes from women and even some from men. At one point the right cuff of my jeans got hung up on the cuff of my boot, showing off the entire thing. This happened while getting my son out of the child care area. While one mom took multiple looks then looked up at me to see it was in fact a man wearing heels, the ladies who watched my kid didn’t even bat an eye.

So the world didn’t end, I wasn’t excommunicated, and no one raked me over the coals for wearing heels.

I know you're exaggerating a bit for humorous effect, but if they're going to kick you out for that, you need to find another church!

If you believe my wife, I get gawked at all the time in church, but she hasn't said anything for a few years, so I assume that either she's given up telling me, or people have just gotten used to me. The first time I wore heels to a church function was in May of 2012, so it's been a few moons. If memory serves, the first time I wore stilettos to an actual church service was Easter 2013.

Nice, casual outfit, by the way--very similar to what I wind up wearing most of the winter, only different. One of these days, you will end up wearing 5" stiletto heels to church, and THEN they might have something to talk about.

I see this thread has gone all wonky again. As I mentioned elsewhere on this forum, I have come to appreciate that, since it's difficult to artificially create a thread for such things. I try not to take myself too seriously.

16 hours ago, bluejay said:

I'm the same as you SF.  I wear heels and flats to my church on Sundays. I wear boots too, but have never worn sandals showing off my colored pedi. I've seen other men wearing women's shoes and boots too.  I get compliments from both women and men, in church. The Lord God, doesn't care how your dressed when you visit, "His House".

Happy Heeling,

bluejay

Flats to church? Perish the thought! I'm only joking, of course, but I can't think of the last time I wore flats to church, even on Wednesday night. I'm seriously trying to remember. Anyway, it's been years. I have gotten compliments from women, but only one man, who happened to be the Associate Pastor at the time, who said I looked like a Boss.

I've read it several times, so I know I didn't misread, "I've seen other men wearing women's shoes and boots too." Where have you seen that, and was it due to your influence?

Finally, it's a good thing that the Lord doesn't care how you dress when you come to church, because we're getting more and more casual all the time, much the same as secular society, and I don't know about where you're from, but we Iowans are not naturally pretty people. We could use a little cleaning up every once in a while. However, I like wearing sandals a lot. I actually attended Christmas Eve service, the biggest, most important service of the year, dressed what I consider to be casually, just so I could wear sandals. My excuse to myself was that I would be wearing a choir robe anyway, so who cares? I am not to the point where I feel it would ever be appropriate to wear sandals with a suit and tie. If I were a chick, that might be different, but I'm not.

I thought I would contribute regularly to this thread, but I see it has fallen by the wayside. I now realize why. We hate to hijack other people's threads with our humorous, but otherwise irrelevant banter, but there's a reason why it happens--I think it is a natural reaction to ordinary conversation, and there are some of us who like to take conversation on a sometimes circuitous route. To separate out these conversational side journeys often takes away the beauty of the journeys themselves. I suppose it is a shoe without a foot to put in it, and with no place to travel.

17 hours ago, kneehighs said:

I find it fascinating how your niche for heels is acceptance at church. Quite valuable, if you ask me.  At surface level, I imagine there's a couple challenges which leads me to two questions.  Neither of which you're required to answer if your privacy or boundaries deem inappropriate.

1.  What denomination of church is it?  

2.  Has anyone ever thrown Deut 22:5 at you?

I will largely answer your questions with this picture:

To totally mix my metaphors, we have much bigger footballs to fry at the moment than worrying about my heels. It wouldn't surprise me if the United Methodist Church split up within the next few years, much as that pains me to think about. Oh, and to answer very clearly, no, no one in our church has ever even thought about anything in the Pentateuch past about halfway through Exodus, much less complained about my heels.

Can you find me in the picture? I'm almost all the way to the very left, next to the big guy in the yellow polo shirt. I'm wearing shorts and heels, though it is not obvious in this photo unless you know.

14 hours ago, KneeBooted said:

While I don’t want to hijack the thread, I will add that this has been something I’ve been working on/towards. I’ll discuss it more in my thread, but these past few weeks that I’ve been making my heels more noticeable, I’ve gotten some quizzical looks, but nothing negative as of yet, and the only person to throw Deuteronomy 22:5 at me was myself a few years back. I’m a non-denominational Christian, and my argument if someone were to try and use that verse against me, I’d politely ask them to read that entire chapter and tell me if they’re also ok with the rest of what it says...

Don't worry about hijacking my thread, there's nothing much here to hijack! Indeed, sometimes if one tries to artificially move a discussion elsewhere, it dies.

I've always wondered about all those old Jewish laws, and why we even worry about them, when even Bible literalists don't follow them in any meaningful way. I suppose that at one time, there was a logic to nearly all of them, though some of them may have arisen from mere superstition. The ox and the ass thing, for example, why in the hell would you ever want to do that in the first place? The laws of physics, to say nothing of Jewish Law, would pretty much prevent that from being successful. I can just imagine the priests or the Levites coming out to the farmer, trying to make such a rig work: "Why do want to do it THAT way for, you dumb son of a bitch? That's just stupid!" Then they made a law to protect idiots from themselves. No different than what we're still doing today!

I got to wear sandals yet again yesterday. Christmas Day was definitely not white. I tried this layered thing, which might at this point be a little dated. However, there is this thirty-something woman at church who often sports this look, only I think she uses three layers instead of two. Always with short heels of about 3 inches, and skin tight boot cut jeans. Despite the fact that she's a rather mousy-looking woman, she always looks kind of hot. So I decided to try it, only with skinny pants and sandals. One of these days, I've got to find a better spot to take selfies.

19 hours ago, Pierre1961 said:

I agree. The pants of that girl are terrible. Never!

But we still have a lot of other choices: skinny ( ankle length with pumps or oxford,or longer with booties) 

Slim with Oxford,pumps booties,but not too short 

straight with Cuban heels. Could be baggy 

boot cut to cover any kind of shoes  

So a lot of choices depending of what we wear on top and circonstances  

A lot of fun 

 

I have had a chance to have a lot of fun lately, with several days off for Christmas. In addition to my tuba adventures, I went shopping yesterday to pick up a very few last minute items, and somehow the weather is unusually warm this week. With temperatures in the 50s (low 10s in Celsius), I wore my gray Michael Antonio sandals yet again, and was able to ditch my coat. My 10 year old complained that these sandals are obnoxiously loud (they kinda are!), but I told him that once I get the heels replaced with rubber, once these heels wear out, they won't be loud anymore. Just by chance, a lady wearing high heeled boots (maybe 3 1/2" block heels) walked by. I said, "Look there.  .  ." He said "What?" I said, "What do you mean 'What?' Her heels are every bit as loud as mine!" Evidently, I am obnoxious, but everyone else is nearly unnoticeable. Kids!

For Christmas Eve services last night, I decided not to wear a suit, since I would have a choir robe on anyway. Besides, I wanted to wear sandals yet again. I chose some very plain black skinny dress pants that haven't fit in a while (did I tell you I've lost some weight? More about that later) with my red BCBG Paris mules. Red for Christmas, I figured. Plus they compliment the blue choir robe quite nicely. Not only did I sing in the choir, I played brass with a small group to compliment/augment the organ. That was exhausting, since everything was on the fly, none of it planned out. The first thing I noticed was that the two acolytes, two girls maybe 10-12 years old, were both wearing sandals, so I wasn't the only one to wear sandals to Christmas Eve service. Thankfully, they were very nice looking, dressy sandals and not rubber flip flops. Of course, they weren't heels, but girls that young probably shouldn't be wearing heels anyhow, so they get a pass.

Naturally, you can't really see my shoes in this picture, so I am providing a second picture. Anyhow, Merry Christmas to all, or whatever holiday you might celebrate at your house! I hope you have many heels and many nice adventures in the year to come.

8 hours ago, chesterx said:

Today I was in a good mood for heeling. The 1st stop was to a shoe store in the local mall to see if they had a pair i saw online in stock. Didnt so I had to order them online. In fact they had sold out all their large size shoes. After I stopped at Macaroni Grill for early supper. I had the Lamb Braciole & man it was fantastic. Lamb wrapped in prosciutto, pan seared till crispy, then baked till tender inside. I left not a bit on that plate, let me tell you. Last I went to see the latest Star Wars flick. I enjoyed it. Was a bit fast paced in that I didn't quite understand all the relationships between the main characters, but I'm not much of a fan boy, just interested in the movie itself.  I wore a pair of heels I was saving for a special occasion but I don't have anything planned as yet, & I thought it prudent to test how they felt before committing to a long evening in them as strappy heels can be a real bear sometimes, comfort wise, they turned out to be very comfortable to wear & walk in. They are by Bellini and have a 4" heel, although they didn't feel that high to me. I love the look of these, although I don't know of many places I can wear them as they are so dressy. The theater has these blue leds lighting the aisle & they lit up the sparkles on the straps so beautifully. I was planning to wear a different pair but when I tried to walk in them they were smashing my toes pretty good, no way I was going to last an evening in them, so chose the Bellini pair instead. Funny those heels seemed to fit when I tried them earlier in the year. Guess I will see if I can stretch them. Overall it was a standard outing as I usually have, with one memorable exception. As I was leaving the mall a pretty young lady was ahead of me with her boyfriend. She was wearing a super cute outfit. A black shinny A-line mini skirt, an off the shoulder red sweater top with long sleeves, & a pair of black round toed velvet platform pumps, similar to the pair I wore earlier in this thread, but with a block heel & a thin ankle strap. They were parked in the same row as I was so I stayed behind them to admire the sight. One thing I enjoy almost as much as wearing heels is watching others wear heels. We got a ways down the row when she stopped while her BF kept walking. When I reached her I stopped & said "He's not leaving you is he?" She said "No, he is bringing the car".   I said "Hurting that much?", & she replied with a smile "Yeah". I paused a second then said "Mine feel fine..." She stared at me for a bit till I motioned toward my feet. She looked down & her eyes widened "OMG! Those are so cute! Let me see!" I pulled up the cuff & showed them off for her. She was so excited about my heels.  We talked about the heels we owned for a couple minutes till a car came up looking for a spot. I wished her a merry Christmas and left for the restaurant. That was wonderful. She had a fun memory she can share with her friends & I made a lovely memory as well. I used to fantasize about talking to women about heels so this was a chance to live that, at least for a moment. I hope to have more of those types of interactions in the new year. Merry Christmas Y'all!

Those sorts of moments are part of what makes our experience so sweet. What's even better is that since you were actually wearing heels yourself, you obviously didn't come off as creepy, but merely interested in shoes.

I don't mind admitting that I don't think I could pull off those shoes. Kudos to you!

It's been a while since we've heard from you! Sometimes the simple outfits are the best. Again, I think you have managed to create some interest where maybe there wasn't before. I rather like the look. I hope you are having a great holiday season!

19 hours ago, Cali said:

I have just started to wear skinny pants. Mostly motivated by the desire to wear my boots on the outside. I bought 30 inch and 28 inch inseams. When I first started to wear heels I used 34 inch inseam that hide most of the heels. The 30 inch (Levis 311 30X30) hits at my ankle and can cover the top edge of some booties, socks (cute) needs to be worn with these. The 28 inch (Express 10S jeggings)  hits 1.5 inches above the ankle. This is a much more bold look, it takes more "gut" to pull it off.  With my skinny jeggings it does have a feminine feel to it, especially with red stilettos. But both are excellent with my calf high and higher boots.

So be careful with going too short. A little wide and short may leave you open to the question "Where's the flood?"

 

Yes, I have no desire to have my pants tailored to look like the gal pictured a few posts up. Not only is that too short (especially with a suit), but it’s too wide. I had one pair of suit pants altered by my friend the tailor to make them much narrower and tapered at the bottom, and after a couple wearings, I had her take yet another inch off the hem because they bunched at my ankles when I stood up. They were too narrow to slip over the heels of my shoes (the part where my foot goes in the shoe, not the elevated part of the shoe), and too long to hang properly and neatly. I’m pretty satisfied with how they turned out, which is why I say ankle length and not longer.

I do have a couple other suits where the pants are quite a bit narrower, but wide enough to fall around my shoes, and I think those look ok too. It’s just this particular suit that I’m not happy with. It’s cut in an older, more traditional style, and I feel it just doesn’t look that great with these very high platform shoes. Someday soon, I will have to take some pictures to show you what I’m talking about. Unfortunately, my computer seems to have picked up a virus, and is not working properly. I am writing this on the company iPad, and I really don’t want to put a bunch of personal stuff on here. Hopefully, my brother-in-law, who is a computer guy and is coming to visit soon, can help me get my computer sorted.

I’m not going to be completely negative, but I am going to be the voice of reason. I think that for the style, your outfits look good. The question that immediately springs to mind for me is, can you walk in those boots with perfect ease? That is something that has tested more than one of us with such ambitious footwear.