dr1819

Hey dr1819, where did you get the heels in the photos? I would like to purchase some or all like those. talk about great taste in highheels! you have it!

Thanks!

I bought all on Zappos.

Not until after Thanksgiving. I love Christmas, but I'd like my love for Christmas to peak during Christmas, not before Halloween.

The paper my parents get takes about 2 hours to read, and is full of interesting articles. I was thinking of moving there, just for the paper, but the problem is, by the time I'm finished reading it, it's usually around 9am, so I'd be late for work, and I've usually downed a fourth cup of coffee, so I'd be wired and irritable all day!

I echo your sentiments, Micha. And for the record, open discussion of these types of issues was the norm for the old board, and should be kept open on the new one. We're family, here! And given the nature of the issues, there's quite a bit more openness and trust amongst our members, rather uncommon among most message forums. There's not a lot of secrets.

Personally, I believe privacy laws sould include those between 13 and 18 years of age, as that's the typical "adult" age of the old west. I feel we've failed our modern children, lobotimizing them through too much knowledge that they haven't any need, and failing to provide them what they do at an age-appropriate point in time. Regardless, I think this is one of the reasons the age of consent in most (all?) states for marriage is now 18. Having said that, folks, please realize I'm very protective of younger women's rights, and my ancestors came from an isolated farming comminity on which everyone grew up rather quicker than today's teens who're bombarded by such ridiculous messages from Hollywood and the rest of society that they don't know where to turn to advice anymore. We were a very conservative (but accepting) farming community, but my kids are exposed to both non-accepting and quite promiscuous messages, neither of which with I agree.

I think she was asking you if you were bi/gay. If not, the answer would have been no.

Well, nine votes is ok, but hardly representative of the public at large. What about the rest of you all?

That sounds perfectly logical/reasonable to me!

Definately a big welcome!

I agree with Dr. Shoe. I've seem some very masculine-looking heels in the ladies department, and have seen some very feminine-looking flats in the men's department.

It's not the height of the heel that makes it masculine or feminine, but rather, the style as we perceive it based upon our conditioning. We've been conditioned to view lace as feminine, yet just 200 years ago lace was commonly worn by men. Back then it was perceived as a sign of affluence, as it had to be hand-stitched, which was expensive. Same went for heels, which were worn by men for more than 200 years. After heights were 2 to 3 inches, but heels 4 inches and occasionally the 5 inch heel were around, too. Again, heels were expensive.

I wear heels because I'm more at home wearing heels than I am wearing flats. It's also less antagonizing to an old ankle injury for me to be in heels. It's nothing to do with a fetish for me, nor do I consider wearing a heel to be "crossdressing" by itself, as that label carries additional connotations that just don't apply. Sometimes I wear skirts, too, but again, since men have worn skirts for the last 50,000 years or two, I don't accept a crossdressing label on that, either, particularly when a third of all men around the world still wear skirts and other male unbifurcated garments (MUGs) on a regular basis.

Some links:

MUGs Around The World

GID Reform

I only added the latter to demonstrate how close we are to overturning the socio/psycho-babel balogna that's been perpetuated by those who really do not understand that not everyone is cut from the same mold, and that all aspects of human sexuality cannot be categorized, as they follow a continuum, and where does one draw the line between what's acceptable and what's not? By whether or not some idiot takes a disliking to it? By whether or not some shrink with very little familiarity looks it up in a book (DSM-IV) that even mainstream psychologists are claiming is grossly in error with respect to gender issues? To me, that's insane! Not wearing a pair of shoes with heels higher than most in my gender wear, and certainly wearing a MUG, which is worn by a third of all men around the world.

The best ones tend to scare me a bit, too. I think the Rolling Stones made a song about her: "so go go go goooorrrrgeous!"

Funky and chunky!

I going out tonight dressed as a Pirate. A lady Pirate! I'm going with a lady friend who's as tall as I am, and she's going out as a male pirate. She suggested it when I began kidding her about her never wearing heels. Then, when she discovered I sometimes wore skirts and heels, it was a cinch. I'm not thrilled about fake nails, but she insisted. They're not long, but they're a bit difficult to type with. In fact, I've been wearing the outfit since morning. Pretty simple, really: black leather knee-high boots with tapering four inch heel, black denim mid-calf skirt, one of my friend's bras (ahem!) stuffed with an old jellowy toy of my son's, cut in two, a lace-ruffled shirt I picked up at the thrift store, along with a hat, and a corset/bustier I've had since around 1999, for a different costume. Large belt and buckle (again, my friend's), the nails, and she promised to do the makeup (my least favorite part of the outfit).

Both Nordstroms and Zappos carry hundreds of styles of high-heeled shoes and boots in size 12 and 13.

It's actually a nuitrition thing, and possibly (although this hasn't been proven conclusively, yet), a xeno-hormonal thing, whereby manmade chemicals in our environments are telling our bodies to grow larger than they would in the absense of these chemicals. Good exercise helps, as well, as it causes the bones to grow slightly larger than without exercise. The good news is that some shoe companies have responded. Nordstroms, founded by a gentleman from The Netherlands (which sports the tallest people in the world, anyway), has long carried much larger sizes than most women's shoe stores. Zappos is currently the leader for it's large selection of high-heeled shoes (3" and up). Some of the other non-fetish online shops are starting to carry a few sizes in higher heels. And Dansko just introduced a few size 13 styles in it's line of hh women's clogs, shoes, and boots!

I know what you mean, MaleHHWearer - I don't like clicking heels, either. For block heels, I found that a thin (1/8" to 1/4") film of Shoe Goo works well, particularly if it's thicker at the trailing edge of the heel. It's tricky to apply so you might want to practice using older pair before trying it with a new pair. For narrower heels, you might be able to have a cobbler replace your heel tip with a quieter one, but most heel tips are made for duration, and there's so much pressure on a stiletto that anything other than very hard rubber, certain types of plastic, and metal, will simply wear out too quickly.

Nice heels, Kennard! And lots of nice heels and especially boots, on their website! Unfortunately, the sizes stop at 43...

Having noticed that about 95% of everyone fell into the middle two categories, between 5'5" and 6'4", I decided to rework the poll to gain a better idea of the breakdown within this range. So, if you would, please - vote away!

But to the vast majority of society (atleast in the USA), a man exhibiting any female trait (from manerisms, emotions, to clothing/heels) indicates homosexuality. In fairness, if you walked into a bar and saw a woman with short hair wearing a flannel shirt, jeans, and hiker boots, alot of people would think she was a lesbian. It is sterotypical and judgemental without getting to know the person, but society as a whole tends to do this.

Scotty

I would think she's from Maine, Vermont, or New Hampshire...

When a girl I've dated discovered I wore heels, the first questions she asked me was, "have you ever had any relations with another man?" The usual string of questions about being gay, bi, etc., so I can understand why those who're straight tend to be a little sensitive about being labeled as gay just because they enjoy wearing heels, skirts, or other clothing normally designed for and worn by women.

I'll second that, Shafted - Hi Bubba! Nigel, and the others - I have to throw my two cents in with the general consensus on this one. The old hh board was having too many hiccups for my taste. The new one's had it's share as well - I wasn't able to access it until yesterday, then it was unavailable last night. I think that's probably due to security settings. Hopefully the settings will remain as they are at the time of this posting! I don't mind an ad or two at the bottom of the page - easy to ignore - provided they never morph into popups that obscure any of the text and require my intervention. If that were to happen, I'd follow Xaphod's lead, post something a lot nastier than he did, and leave. I HATE advertisements. But the current ad rate is acceptable. The most important section, however, the forums, appears to be intact, sans the material lost since the last backup. However, most of the old users appear to be back online, so I don't think it'll take long for the others to find their way home, nor will it be a long time before the posts start proliferating, either. Xa, I respect your decision, but I love you like a brother. Hope you don't fade for long - I've always enjoyed your posts. I hope to see you back soon.

Yeah! It's back! I haven't been able to access the site since it moved, until today. Whatever settings were changed since early Friday 13th and now, please keep them as they are as of this posting! I think it was a security setting, for I could access it from work (where I can't post), but not home (I'm a networking security consultant, and my home machine can access almost anything, but it's also extremely TIGHT!) That has caused a few access failures in the past from websites which require you to use permanent cookies, rather than "per-session" cookies. I've also had issues with a few websites which wanted access to my computer itself! Uh, no. So, Hi, all! What do you think of the new website? Looking great so far!!!

Suuuuuhhhhweeeeettttt!!!!!!!!

Excellent sentiments, Scotty - right on the money. I'm sure your wife is very appreciative of your decisions.

If you heels are scraping just before you put your foot down, you're not pointing your toes down enough nor keeping your knees high enough to keep them from scraping. I think they have training camps in Korea, because I swear half of all Korean women who wore high heels marched. This was neither sexy or attractive. Functional, yes - but it defeated the whole purpose of the high heel. It would have been far better if they'd cut half an inch or more so they could walk naturally. If you're scraping your heels, and really want to look stupid, try pointing or marching. If you want to look natural, which both sexes find far more accepting, chop the height half an inch to an inch. Heels should never be a chore, but rather, something that's second nature. If you're having work at the height you're at, you're simply at too high a height. It takes time (years, actually) to move from medium heights such as 3" to extreme heights such as 5" without looking like a wobbling idiot, and I don't care if you're female or male. Too many fashion show contestants highlighted on U-Tube have vividly demonstrated otherwise. So start low, go slow, and over time (years), you'll slowly grow into a height which is both manageable, long-term, as well as comfortable (and non-debilitating) throughout your years of heel wear. As a final thought - different people, regardless of original foot size, appear to be able (or unable) to wear heels of certain heights. Some can wear ankle-breaking heights without any discomfort. Others experience discomfort with 2" heels. It's highly individualistic, and just because one person boasts of being able to wear 6" heels while being a size 5 doesn't mean you should be able to wear 5" heels even though you're a size 13. Everyone's different. Keep that in mind and follow the preceeding advice, and you'll do just fine. Otherwise, you might wind up ruining, permanently, a perfectly good ankle or main toe, which requires significantly expensive, and painful, surgery. Either way, if you try to go too far, too fast, you'll wind up paying one way or another, as has every athelete who's ignored the basic principles of human physiology.

No worries, sscotty727

It will be interesting to see how the results of the survey pan out.

I've worked with Scotty a bit over the last couple of days, fleshing out ideas with respect to the scope of a truly anonymous survey that would do a tremendous job of mapping out the wide range of individuals who routinely post on this website.

As a former statistical researcher, it's my firm belief that if we were to eliminate all personally identifying information, including name, location, age, sex, sexual preference, etc., Scotty and I could provide a very thorough and complete map of the wide range of folks, men and women, who're interested in heels.

Furthermore, even though we would eliminate personally identifying data in the raw form, by including it in the composite results, I think a lot of people might finally realize they're not nearly as alone as they may have previously believed.

Regardless, when done right (and I know how to do them right), such studies are usually good things that people can both take to heart, realizing the diversity of humankind beyond the narrow picture presented by Hollywood and society, while encouraging others to take quite natural steps towards being yourself, the individual you've grown up to be.

All in all, it's a good thing.

I echo Scotty's comments in asking you what yours' might be.

Newfie, it's always nice when there's someone who's willing to help cover our tracks. When I first began wearing heels in Vegas, there was one store that catered to larger sizes, especially to those who performed in the various shows there in Vegas. At first she seemed a bit apprehensive, but when I explained that I simply enjoyed wearing heels, both for what they did for my ankle, as well as the fact I liked the way they looked, she relaxed, and realized I wasn't some kind of pervert. Most guys who buy heels in her store do so to wear in the shows in Vegas. She also related to me that almost all of them are "very gay." It was when laughed, then told her, "well, I'm happily married, with a newborn," that she lightened up. After that, she would let me try on heels in the back, and if I found something I really liked, but couldn't find it in my size, she would do her best to find me a suitable alternative, which I would usually buy. At that time, I really didn't know what I wanted to wear, so I ran the gamut of various styles, including stilettos, sandals, boots, loafers, etc. Eventually I settled on the discrete hh boot as my hh shoe of choice. I think, all told, I probably ordered just seven pair from her. But it does seem like I spent a fair amount of time in her store!