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Another thing that is difficult, but not impossible to do in heels is ride a motorbike. It seems exciting at first, but as a practical matter it is somewhat less than exciting, and very possibly rather unsafe. This is one of the reasons I switched to a scooter, with automatic transmission and no foot controls. Those things were made for heels!

To be fair, I will use a ball-of-foot insert for fitment purposes, where applicable. I never had any luck with them heel grippers. I do have one pair of mules that actually fit better with double foot cushions, but naturally, I rarely wear them because they don't quite fit right. So here's the weird thing: Many of my favorite shoes are wooden heeled sandals. I've liked that style from my youth. A lot of them do not have any cushioning at all--your foot rests directly on the wood. Despite the hard surface, these tend to be among my more comfortable shoes. I can't explain that, but it did get me off my search for insoles, and moved me toward a different approach to foot comfort.

11 CM is still a lot of heel! We switch who drives quite often, but when she is in heels I just tend to be the one who drives. Not to sound sexist in any way, but on dinner dates and in going to church, I will be chivalrous and go around and get the door for her. I know Prince Philp once said, "When a man opens a car door for his wife, it's either a new car or a new wife." But that does not work so well for me. We dress up because we like how it makes us feel, and making her feel special by opening her car door when she is dressed up is not an afront to me. I do not have any sons, my only son passed away, but all five of my daughters can curtsey. THAT is something that is VERY rare on this side of the pond, but we have tried to instill a little class in our daughters. Had I had a son, I would do the same... well... maybe not having him give curtseys, but by opening his girlfriend's car door and other chivalrous behavior. :-)

I don't know anything about any boats, but I believe you on that 😉 I cannot recommend. The highest ones I've driven with must have been a 11 cm heel. I didn't feel unsafe, but uncomfortable. The hardest is pressing the clutch pedal, because you have to stretch your foot more than in lower heels. If I wear anything higher I'm just letting my husband drive.

I am never a person to pry into anyone's past but I would like to hear how you got started, even if it is a rather long explanation. I have been ahead of the curve on a few male trends, doing some things for a long time long before it was widely accepted that men do them. But on some other things I admit I am timid. The atypical male I guess who wishes things would change like men’s attire that is completely boring, but yet hoping others pave the way to make it mainstream. The problem with that fear of course, is that with so many people like me holding back; nothing changes, or at the very least… changes very slowly. I remember on a episode of Dirty Jobs where they were pouring concrete and the big burly foreman of the crew had to change from his rubber boots to his leather boots and when he did, his sock stayed inside the boot and the man had bright red painted toes. He was called out on it, but the guy did not care and owned up to it even if it was going to be on national TV.

My wife can drive in her everyday heels, and by that, I mean the ones that are 3-1/2 inch or so in height. I have seen her do it a few times when going to church or special functions but it is a pretty rare occasion. Most of the time it’s a place we are going together like church, a dinner-date, or some outing and it’s just more common for me to drive. If she does drive in heels, it is because for some reason we had to take two vehicles. I am not sure with her taller heels if she could safely drive, or more to the point, she would FEEL as though she could safely drive. She would probably just take them off. I do not wear high heels so I am not sure if I could or not. I would test my ability but while I do not have big feet per se, I can’t wear her shoes. But everything we have for vehicles has automatic transmissions of some kind even the skidders, bulldozer, tractors… yep, everything we have.

I can tell you absolutely that you don't want to pilot a narrowboat in heels! Certainly not stilettos! You could probably get away with it in chunky heeled boots with 7 to 8 cm heels, but I wouldn't fancy it - not as a single-hander, unless you had someone to work the locks.

I remember once she bought a pair of high heels she liked so much, that even though they were not in her size, she bought the closest ones to fit, a full-size more than she normally wore. To make them fit she put some heel-pads on the back of her pumps and had to have 2 of them stacked up to make the shoes fit. But that's my wife: she loves high heels!

I don't think that's the problem. Just because there is more or less open area at the front doesn't say anything about the shoe's shape. That's a nice pair by the way! I also tried insoles in the past. But the best they could do for me was to make bad-fitting shoes fit a bit better. Now I'm very picky when buying shoes and since that I never used insoles again.

This line could be from my husband, I'm sure he said that before 😅 I also don't find any thrill in it. For me it's a practical thing. If I wouldn't drive in heels I'd have to change shoes everytime I get in and out of the car. For longer trips it might be OK, but not for the everyday drives. Also I can't find any downsides of driving in heels, as long as they're below 10 cm or so. If they're higher, the heel gets a bit in the way when pressing the pedals.

My Ex-wife is extremely envious of my nails. 😁 And I love it!

I only take my right heel off when I have stilettos on and going to drive for over 20 minutes. Otherwise I drive in my heels, even for a 8 - 9 hour trip. Most car sold in the US have a CVT - continuous variable transmission, which is a belt system.

I’ve never tried driving in heels although I don’t think I’d find it a problem, except perhaps for worrying about damaging the heels. I can drive a manual easily - I learned in them, drive them all my life and indeed most of the cars here are manual. I can also drive a left or right hand drive vehicle, changing back and forth readily as I used to have to do on a regular basis when I travelled a lot

I have my own interesting relationship with insoles and arch support. After many years of experimentation, I never use them. For me personally, they seem to do more harm than good. I've never tried Keds or Chucks, but I'm sure they'd agree with me just fine, given their minimal support.

I know I'm repeating myself, but now there's a new audience, so it won't seem like it! I can drive in heels, even a real car/truck with a real transmission, but I find no thrill in it. If I have to go more than a few miles, I'll take my shoes off. I just don't enjoy it, though some may find it titillating. I've said for years that I should make my own how to walk in heels video, but I doubt it will ever happen for several reasons. I do like some elements of the model walk or beauty queen walk, but it needs to be toned down for the street to avoid looking ridiculous. This thing they call the "horse walk," however, is completely unusable, and frankly, looks like an excellent way to break shoes.

My wife can drive in heels, but I am not sure that I could. Here in the United States it is rare now to see a manual transmission car, and even for big trucks, a manual transmission is getting harder to find. I grew up on trucks with two shifters, (Mack's suicide shift) up to 18 gears, and deep reduction and split rear-ends, but now if a company wants to get a truckdriver, since about half cannot drive manual a transmission trucks, they buy automatics so half the truckdriver applicants won't leave for a different company. Many truckdrivers just refuse to drive manual transmission trucks now. Sad!

Or what you are passionate about. I am struggling with writers block now but its because I am in just a stressful place in my life. Not altogether angering; it is of my own choosing as we switch from life on a river to island life full-time. We shall see what new employment brings for me at our new location. My wife has a new job but not so much for me.

In a 'proper' car (manual gearbox), we use both feet! And probably better to replace both stilettos than having a pair of mismatched shoes on to drive.

It’s always best to write what you know

No, the cramping i experienced in my calves is/was directly and unambiguously associated with my not being used to walking in 12cm stilettos. With practice the cramping went away, and pretty quickly.

This may, or may not apply to you because you seem to see a connection in wearing high heels and calf pain exclusively, but earlier someone mentioned magnesium. Well... Totally unrelated, but I was talking with my nutritionist and as she was going over my diet she just asked a simple question, "you must get calf cramps a lot?" I was like, "Oh my gosh, all the time and debilitating ones too". She shrugged it off as if it was nothing and explained why she knew. "You have zero potassium in your diet". She was not wrong. I am not a huge fan of V-8 Juice, but it is loaded with potassium so now I drink half a bottle a day of it and my debilitating calf pain is completely gone. So for whatever it is worth, for you or others, potassium intake is something to look into.

She did teach me a very important lesson though because in the past 47 years I have never once poked a birthday cake to see if it was hot! And I am not scared of rats and know the right way to use garden hoses. 🙂 But all kidding aside, having been in a foster home I know of foster siblings who put up with a whole lot worse than me. I won't go into details, but many would turn your stomach. As a writer, many of my mainstream novels include foster or adopted children. Not for added drama for plot purposes but because its a situation near and dear to my heart.

This is not a great photo as I cropped it out to just a pair of my wife in high heels, but one of her "everyday" high heels. This is typical of her preferred style and taken when we were in the kitchen of our church one day. What I have noticed though is that unlike some peep-toed shoe designs, it seems she likes a peep-toe that is much smaller than some. For instance, hers typically show only 2-1/2 toes whereas some peep-toe designs expose 3-4 toes. I wonder if this causes the toe box to close in squeezing the sides of her feet more??? Keds, by their very design are just super thin and always have been and wearing them my wife always wears arch supports in them. But the trend I am noting now with other sneakers is, a huge push for memory foam for insole construction. I am not sure that is a good trend though. I have had huge problems with my feet and was surprised that having a hard plastic ach support ended up being the answer for me and not super-soft, ineffectual add-in insoles. I use Super-Feet insoles for instance and have used them for 15 years or more. The ones I use cannot be worn with most high heels granted, but I think they have a style that is specifically for high heels if I remember correctly. Either way, I just found out for me stepping on a softer pillow like memory foam does not work better for me.

I second NOT waiting for knee surgery. I limped on mine for a year and a half, never really it being a good time for me, and that did a lot more damage. It also prolonged my recovery, which as I said earlier was six months. I was 42 years old when they said I was too young for a knee replacement. I was told it is how they cut off your femur to pin in the replacement knee, but it would wear out, and I would need another one. They can do that operation twice, but the knee wears out in 20 years. They cannot do it three times because the femur would then be too short. I have had severe plantar fasciitis in the past, but my current job keeps me in a chair more, but I am so afraid it will crop up again. That is because this is my last week at my current job so what I do next is anyone's guess, so being on my feet more concerns me. It was really painful in the past.

Both my fingers and toes get complements from BOTH men and women. Sometimes a man will tell me he wishes he could color his nails but is too afraid to do so.