STREET SHOTS- ARE THEY ETHICAL?

[shyguy]

Best guess is that most readers are here to indulge in their interest: high-heels. Most are not likely to be judgemental. Step forward the perfect person.....

If people aren't being judgemental, then there would be no discussions here. Someone would post something, no one would have an opinion (or judgement) on it and we'd all wait for something else to be posted.

Fortunately most of the posters of streetshots are discreet here, and the conversations mostly concentrate on the heels. I still maintain my view that this would seem somewhat creepy to an outsider looking in on this site and seeing men discussing pictures of women in heels taken without their knowledge.

In the grand scheme of things it is a very small drop in a large ocean, and the above is just my opinion. I once heard a quote which I think everyone should bear in mind when entering a discussion, "There is no right or wrong, just opinions".

[Stilettoscot]

I think it depends on how the pics was taken and shown here. I recently took a pic of a beautiful set of heels on a lady at my son's B-ball game. I made it a point to only shoot my main focus...her shoes, and only show as such. Noone would ever know who she was. Now, if someone took a pic, and posted the entire identifying pics without permission, especially in a bad light, then it might not be ethical. But, you go out in public, you risk being seen, video'd, picced, etc.

[fastfreddy2]

If people aren't being judgemental, then there would be no discussions here.

Judgemental of each other? Where?

I wouldn't describe expressing opinions on style/fashion/heel height as being judgemental (which may be the way you are using the term). I suppose an opinion has to have involved a decision, but I think it fair to say it would be unusual to describe it as a judgement?

For example:

If I like blue shoes, and someone else says they like red ones, that's a difference of opinion. [And usually quite an amicable arrangement.]

If I like blue shoes, and someone says I'm an idiot for liking blue shoes, that's a personal attack on me, my life, and everything in it that led to me liking blue shoes. I'd be interested in hearing someone try to justify (i) how they had arrived at being in the [self] righteous position of being my critic, and (ii) why they believed their opinion had greater value than mine.

This forum is very supportive of it's membership. [We support each other.] If a member looks to be veering toward a catastrophy of some sort, I expect the membership would help guide the member to a better path. I've seen it a number of times, and even benefited from some of these learning experiences myself.

The last thing I expect to see, (and the last thing I want to see), is someone who has made a questionable decison being criticised for making the decision. I expect (and want) them to be gently advised of the better path. No-one here deserves to be 'scolded' the way an errant child might be. We're largely adults here (18+) and in most face to face situations, someone telling me I'm an idiot is looking to start a fist-fight.

You may not agree with me taking street-shots of heels. But I expect you to respect my decision to do it. I don't at all mind if you try to convince me it's a bad thing (ie try to guide me to sharing you opinion), but I should be allowed to make my mistakes (if they are indeed mistakes) until such time as "life" teaches me otherwise. You criticising me because I don't agree your position, would be a completely intolerable situation and produce confrontations on a daily basis if not hourly basis.

I still maintain my view that this would seem somewhat creepy to an outsider looking in on this site and seeing men discussing pictures of women in heels taken without their knowledge.

I recognise your concerns, but any 'outsider' reading posts on this Forum, is quite likely going to have formed that kind of opinion anyway. There isn't a normal range of subjects discussed here. There is some segregation between sexes that everyone understands is there to protect the women members from the male members. On a scale of 1 to 10 (with 10 being high) how would you then rate the 'automatic' creepiness rating of the male membership here? Is less than 10 possible?

Since I like the idea of 'snapping' people in the street wearing interesting attire, we could never agree on the moral right/wrong of the issue. But I can assure you, I don't consider you an idiot for having your opinion, nor could I. Who the heck am I to make such a judgement?

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[shyguy]

Judgemental of each other? Where?

I never mentioned judgemental of each other and nor did your original post. We are making judgements on each others shoes, so we agree there

Judgement isn't merely criticism of something, and needn't be a strong disagreement. We exercise judgement to form an opinion.

Semantics aside we can agree to disagree on the ethics of street shots.

There are a lot of things I find do not fit in with my view of the world from an ethical stance, but I do live and let live. For the record I don't smoke, but would defend the right of a smoker to do it, and have done on occasions. I don't like the streetshots section and leave it alone, I would hate to find myself on a website without being asked so I would give others the same respect.

I wouldn't presume to change someones mind on anything be it religion, politics or streetshots on websites. I don't have the naiivety to think that any opinion I have is right for anyone else, it is just my opinion from my own prejudices and beliefs. You are all welcome to read them though

As for the creepiness factor of everyone here, I haven't met all of them yet, but all of those I have is a very normal guy

As for normalcy, what is normal? We are all individuals and all have different ideas of how the world should be, and what constitutes normal. In an ideal world we could all do as we wanted as long as it harmed nobody else, or affected their lives, but that's just not going to happen.

[Bubba136]

Of all the subject material you have to choose from, why take a picture of a stranger? Do you not have the guts to show a picture of yourself? Or to at least ask the permission of the girl? The act of taking the photo is as questionable as posting it on the web.

So what if she's a pretty girl wearing pretty shoes. This just shows the extent of your obsession/perversion, and how little respect you have for women.

And for this many to question the ethics of 'Street Shots' (and that's just out of the members here), should be enough cause for concern. After all, what else has anyone questioned the ethics of on this forum?

I disagree with your whole statement, Lindsey.

[makemestare]

You know I've seen the term creepy used quite loosely in this thread and subsequently do not consider myself the latter. If you see a woman who is on the street in absolutely stunning footwear that is obviously grabbing everybody's attention....she knows it!!! Now here's the catch 22. If you really feel the need to (or want to) take a photo. Approach her and pay her a compliment. Talk to her with confidence and intelligence. Make her feel good, and smile.....Treat her like a person and not an object. She should feel proud to model off her stilettos for you. Hell you'd probably make her day! Its not creepy, the media makes it look corny or creepy in obnoxious character comedy movies and such.