Heelfan Posted May 28, 2003 Posted May 28, 2003 Girls, it is posted somewhere on these forums that quite a few girls would LIKE to wear seriously high heels, but they are TOO SHY! This notion caught me completely by surprise, because some of us guys understandably have a shyness problem when it comes to wearing high heels in public, but I TOOK IT FOR GRANTED that no women would have the slightest hang-ups if they wanted to do so. It will be fascinating if you girls (no guys please) can tell us if this female heel-shyness does exist, and if so, can you describe what heel-height you would LIKE to be able to aspire to, and also why, as a girl, you should feel too shy to wear them. Yours, Heelsfan. Onwards and upwards!
texasbumpkin Posted May 28, 2003 Posted May 28, 2003 I can tell you that I am not shy. My problem is that I just have to train to wear them. I am working on it. Have had a few set backs, hurt my foot, and it is kind of hard to walk in one 5" heel and one flat. But I can tell you that when I am able to I will wear them, no problem. Let others look in envy......hehehe That is my opinion, I welcome yours.
Anita C. Posted November 4, 2003 Posted November 4, 2003 Shyness has nothing to do with why some "Young Girls" don't wear Stilettos. it is a matter of physical capabilities, choice & taste. "It would be such a nice world if we all thought & fealt the same . . . we don't". "Spike Heels . . a Pork-pie hat . . Have on the mend in no time flat . . Ten Minutes 'Till The Savages Come by Manhatten Transfer.
High Surprise Posted November 4, 2003 Posted November 4, 2003 There is of course an element of shyness. Walking into a bar full of hungry men, a girl always feels defenceless and sometimes like a piece of meat. Wearing a very high pair of heels is sometimes embarassing (and gets you 'over-noticed'. So yes! I agree. I can be shy at these times too.
cinthy Posted November 4, 2003 Posted November 4, 2003 Hello everyone, I'm new here, and very excited I have found this forum. I love fashion, and I think just like most girls I LOVE shoes. I buy way to many. Anyway, I am one of those young girls, and believe me I am not too shy to wear very high heels. Usually when I go out or go shopping I wear 4 to 5 inch heels. I live in Belgium and studied a year in England, I was very surprised how girls dressed there. Very different than Belgium. It was there that I could really express myself for the first time in fashion. I think the heel height you wear is basically a reflection of what is accepted by society. Here in Belgium I still wear high heels, but not the outrageous ones to go out anymore. People aren't ready yet here. When I work at the office I often wear a pair of 5 inch slingback pumps (with a round nose) People already comment on my 'extreme' heels here. And in England for instance no one would think it's strange. So wearing very high heels doesn't have anything to do with being shy, but with the acceptance of other people. cinthy
Laurieheels Posted November 5, 2003 Posted November 5, 2003 Of course people are shy. A girl is shy because she may get more attention than she knows how to handle. She may be shy and afraid of stumbling or stepping out of her shoes. It comes down to confidence, really, and in the end result, lack of confidence and being shy are rather connected. Confident people are not shy. Confident people can wear stiletto heels into a crowded bar and steal the show. Shy people think that they'll do something to ruin that if they try. Maybe some will fall over. Some won't, but they just don't have the nerve to find out that they can bend it like Mrs. Beckham.
High Surprise Posted November 5, 2003 Posted November 5, 2003 Well explained Laurie. That's why I always say: It's all in the mind. It really is!
cinthy Posted November 5, 2003 Posted November 5, 2003 Yes and shyness also depends from nation to nation. UK girls are not shy at all and love to copy the styles, even outrageous, but fashionable sexy styles they see in sugababes, atomic kitten, girls aloud, JLO videoclips. Belgian girls are more shy in a fashion sense. But i can tell though that more and more girls here are feeling comfortable now wearing 4 inch heeled ankleboots (or kneelength boots). So I think the media is influencing the way girls dress in a way.
rubberheel Posted October 31, 2005 Posted October 31, 2005 I have always worn my heels with confidence, but many of my (girl)friends are too embarrassed to wear heels at all. They are afraid that it'll change the way people think about them - they are afraid that they'll look tarty, dependent, bimbo-like, cartoonish, porn-movie-star-like - well, you name it. When they finally (mid in life) get the courage, it's very often too late. Their feet won't adjust to heels, and their balance is not the best either.
jessica01 Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 I agree. A lot of younger women just are not confident enough to wear high heels. They either cant deal with the attention or they are afraid of what other people would think of them. Some also may not know how to walk in them right. I mean i don't hardly ever wear 5" outside. I just don't feel stable in them. I have 4" mastered though.
Adeana Posted November 3, 2005 Posted November 3, 2005 I think it depends on my mood, where I am going, who with, etc. It also comes down to appropriateness for me. Sometimes I don't think a pair of 4 1/2" stilettos is not appropriate to wear with a date to a baseball game...but them sometimes I don't really care and get an attitude and wear them anyways...so I guess it goes back to mood?...not really shyness for me Does anyone ever Email anymore? Send me one! I like to chat!
lil_becs Posted January 29, 2006 Posted January 29, 2006 i have just started to wear heels, i can wear my 3 inches no problem but i cant wear my 5 inches, i wouldnt dare and i cant walk in them without the help of a wall. ill keep practicing though
Gayle Gold Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Girls in the UK seem to follow the latest fashion rigidly and this does not include proper highnheels at the moment. So, the answer to the question is ... yes, they do not want to come out of the comfort zone. GGxxx
pussyinboots Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Really? I have NO problems finding high heels here in the UK. Faith are great - and ALWAYS have high heels, so are River Island, John Lewis stores have good selections from Nine-West , Bertie and Pied-a-Terre. We also have a couple of high street names that stock Playboy shoes too - and then there is always the Internet. Girls who follow fashion RIGIDLY have no imagination - or self-confidence. What's worse - a lot of them do what their boyfriends tell them to do - which sucks!! "Good Girls keep diaries....Bad Girls just don't have the time...!:icon_twisted:"
Gayle Gold Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Pussyinboots, No, I didn't mean that there is problems in finding them in the UK - which makes it all the more puzzling. Do you think it is their blokes putting a stop on it - why do you think that is? GGxxx
pussyinboots Posted May 5, 2006 Posted May 5, 2006 Hiya "GG"!! To be honest - I think it's insecurity. Insecure, immature little boys dominate their girlfriends - and sadly - the same goes for grown "men" in a lot of cases. Woe betide the man who ever tries to tell ME what to do!! "Good Girls keep diaries....Bad Girls just don't have the time...!:icon_twisted:"
Amanda Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 I feel shy sometimes you can get too much attention sometimes in high heels especially when worn in inapropriate places or situations. I've felt embarassed plenty of times.
Ninanoora Posted February 23, 2008 Posted February 23, 2008 Hmm, I have had moments that have made me feel unconfortable in some situations, usually because my friends or people around me have felt somewhat annoyed of peoples reactions towards us. Its matter of having feel that you are socially accepted. There is different rules in societies regarding clothing and shoes, usually women seems to be more more picky about following these rules and making remarks to those who didnt pay enough attention what they are wearing. These nasty comments can make you feel that its better leave heels in closet and pick up the casual flats not to draw too much attention. For me, I dont care much what other people are thinking about me, but what matters is what my friends and close ones are thinking about me is important. "Even when I'm a mess, I put on a vest... with an S on my chest, oh yes.. I'm a Superwoman.. "
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