Pam

I think that sexual preference has nothing to do with fashion preference. This weekend, I had a heated discussion about a topic related to this subject. Long story short....the argument was about boys and earrings...the mom (conservative, close-minded) told her daughter that ALL jewerly was for girls, her daughter told her that as long as the person likes it, he/she can wear whatever they feel! I sided with the daughter (of course!), but despite the 1,000 examples...even showing her the huge picture of beckham in times square...we could not change her mind. My point that relates to the subject is that sometimes we get all certain of stereotypes and restrictions that can make us doubt our own convictions and beliefs, and the best thing we can do is make sure we don't spread them around!

Cheers for Jason!!! I saw the news on E! and thought that we need more events like this one to push heels for men forward. Even though "Hairspray" is a play that has to do with crossdressing, jason was wearing heels as a man, he could have dressed as a girl just for the kicks and for the good time. Instead he figured out how to dress a man's outfit with some cool stilettoes! THe cool thing is that this action put people to think...and I'll bet you that at least one person said....hey it looks good! That is the kind of reaction that we need to get a trend started!

I saw it and it is neat.... but if I'm going to paint my nails I'll rather go red, pink or french!

not my cup of tea...though they look fun for playing!

You will certainly be missed! Good luck and hope to hear from you soon Pam

I have lived in the city for almost 3 years...I have seen the weirdest things, but only 1 guy in stilettos.... But I have to clarify that s/he was half dressed as a man and half dressed as a woman. This was on the bar scene, he is at the door at one of the bars in union square.

I find it very sexy when only the tip of the shoe shows....and when they sit down, magically the heel shows! But the most SEXY look is definitively with a skirt!!!

I shaved my legs once, and BOY what a fantastic feeling!!! ...and when you complete the look with hose and heels is even better. However, the wife does not like shaved legs in men, which means compromising and letting it go. Having it done once helped to at least feel what it is like, however it also worked against me because I LOVED the feeling! PAM

I think i move on to my kitten heels with this post :drinking: :drinking:

I like women's shoes. Period. Heels are the favorite of course, but the variety and spcie of women's shoes is just too much...your feet just look much better, shoes have a better fit...etc I could mention many reasons more why they are far better that men's shoes

I went to Banana Republic the other day...there are some pants that have a Harrison cut. It is wide on the legs and sits below the waist, great fit. If you buy it long (online) it can cover the heels! Also, it is one of those pants that give you a fashionable look giving you a classy femenine touch!

Chill: Brazil 2 - Great CD to listen at work! Obrigado! Pam

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I think dressing up brings out a special "character" that makes us behave differently than when we are in our regular clothes... I had a wedding not long ago, black & tie, and people where behaving more formal and "educated". The atmosphere was certainly different, depsite that these are people that I have seen all my life. Even the jokes where more formal... I guess you also "Dress the part" when dressed up!

Those are good places, but there is a lot more in SoHo... You can find more trendy styles and bigger sizes in many little shoe stores along Broadway (between Houston and Canal st.) There is a store in West Broadway called Venus that has sizes over 12 for women, even for stilettos! Also, there is a frederick's in a mall in Jersey City (approx 20 min away from NYC) where you can find a great selection of shoes! Hope this info is useful

Good work! Take them for a ride...and enjoy! Pam

Anita... you are certainly a special person that will be greatly missed! Wish you the best! Pam

I have tried it a few times and it is very coMfortable! Everything stays in place, is fresher, and overall is more exciting to wear that regular guy's underwear! Just a piece of advice...Don't tuck your shirt in the thong!!! (Just kidding!) Pam

I am 1.85 (6.1') without heels + the heels!

excellent site! The more the merrier! Pam

Now that the cat is out of the bag I feel that G and I have an honest relationship where there are no secrets. She knows of "Pam" and thats what matters...there are no more hidden surprises. In our initial conversations I told her all about my feelings towards female clothing. No secrets, full honesty. Right now we are much enjoying our marriage since this has united us stronger. For me that is the most important outcome. As for me, I am working towards strengthen my relationship with her...surprise dinners for 2, making sure the housework is done by both of us, etc...I am working on little details (outside my dressing) to make sure we have a happy marriage. The only difference is that now she knows of Pam and my feelings, and that was a missing piece that is now in the equation

Thanks driver, firefox and all for the follow-up! Let me give you some history before updating the status, it may help to clarify some things...I will try to explain it from her perspective I will say Pam is a girl that semi-xdress at times, enjoys wearing female clothing, but not all at the same time. Passing as a woman is not of a high turn on. It is just wearing some items of clothing that really make her day! She has always been attracted to several clothing like heels, skirts, stockings, etc since very young. She had a girlfriend for a long period of time - 6 years, let's call her V, that was a catalyzer of her dressing. This person was very important in her life, one of the most loved ones. During this time she had time to experience all kinds of female clothing and items. Dressing was a big part of their sexual life. But also the most important part of this stage was the discovery that full dressing was fun, but not necessary to be 100% fulfilled. After this girlfriend, V, dressing up ended. It was not until after she left home for her masters that the idea of dressing up came back. During school, she lived with C for almost a year. This was a bad relationship, but C suggested wearing makeup and heels a couple of times for fun. This happened twice, but the relationship was sooo bad, that even dressing was not fun anymore. Two years passed by and Pam was living in NYC! New job, new life. The desire of dressing was there, but passive...she had no clothes, and her life was pretty much in pause. At that time she met G, who was living in another country and had been her biggest crush ever. But she also met S, a lovely girl in NY. It turn that Pam and S began a very nice relationship, and this is where S was very encouraging of role playing. This is when she bought knee-highs, pumps, and the cutest 5-inch sandals! S was the one to create Pam, she was very encouraging of her dressing, and she even took her for her first outing in heels! However, on trips back home...G was present. Event though Pam never cheated,, her mind and heart was with G. Following her heart, Pam broke up with S and went with G. Long story short Pam and G got married. Pam was very fond of looking for people like her on the web. One day G found her history of "websites" and that is when this thread started! Here is the update ... We had many long conversations with the logic line of questioning about my sexual preference, etc. It took me a long time to understand things from HER perspective, plus all the other burden she was going through at the same time. Newly wed, moving to another country, jobless, away from her family, etc. G needed TIME to digest all things and understand how everything fitted together, not only the heels! During this time, Pam and I needed to reevaluate and think also, again not only the heels, but all of our new life. So now G know about me liking to wear female clothes. She is not happy, but she knows.... and this not being a secret is half of the battle. Things are slowly progressing, during winter I have been wearing tights and she even bought me some women's tops to wear under my shirts. She know that I have a pair of 4 inch stiletto boots, she knows that I own many pairs of sexy underwear...but she is getting used to it, at her own pace. I really want this marriage to work so I am committed to make it work, but based on honesty! Pam comes and goes, she is there...and always be and I am sure one day G will get to know her. G is still with me!!! Firefox is very right when he said that Pam is a she, and it does not reflect the idea of a guy wearing heels. The main reason why G does not know Pam is that Pam was created as part of another relationship. This can create problems....Pam is slowly being "re-created" by G. Sorry for the long reply!!!! and again thanks for listening...this forum has played a very important part lately in my life! Pam

just wanted to revive the thread since it has very useful info! Pam

thanks firefox! sorry for the typo!