Steve63130

Maybe the dictionary is pranking! Playing a prank on us! Ya think?

Fake words!

:-)

Steve

Hey, Mlroseplant! What's the big idea of hijacking your hijacked thread and getting back on topic? LOL

(Thank you for doing that, from all of us electrically and plumbingly challenged heelers. My most important tool is a smartphone!)

Steve

78% of expert analysts can prove 93% of anything with 60% statistics and 40% surveys...

How'm I doin' so far?

Steve

Halloween is over.

:-)

Steve

I highly recommend spending time in Scotland. Take at least a week. Go on a small tour bus to the Loch Lommand area; and to Loch Ness and Inverness. The Isle of Skye is spectacular. St. Andrews has lots of history and golf. And Edinburgh is a lovely city with lots of history, too. 

I have a high heel friend in Scotland who doesn't participate in forums, but he would probably be glad to meet with you. Shoot me a PM if you're interested and I'll contact him.

Steve

SF,

Stares don't necessarily mean disapproval or have a negative connotation. They just mean the observer can't get his or her head wrapped around the idea that a guy would wear women's shoes. It's a disconnect that their brain can't process immediately, and the reaction might be a stare, laughter, or raised eyebrows, for example. So watch it on the stares. Hold the hand rail! LOL

Steve

Good point, Cali. It gets worse, though. Designers have collections. So if you have lots of pairs of designer shoes, might you have a collection of collections? Just sayin'...

:-)

Steve

These posts are all good advice, and I can only tell you my own experience and what worked for me. In the late 1970s I disclosed to my wife (married since 1974) that I liked wearing heels. She was fine with it, in private, but didn't want to see me in heels; what I did on my own was my business. Over the next 20 years I pushed the envelope ever so slowly, and made sure she was secure in knowing that I loved her, I didn't want to change gender, and didn't have any proclivity to being homosexual (nothing against gays, neither of us is, even though we have friends who are). It's all about security. As she realized that I had a passion for women's heels (and ballet flats, by the way), she realized it was just shoes and if it made me happy, then fine. In the past few years, I've even pushed to wear heels in public and she is okay with that, too. A secure woman can make your life easier, too. Make sure she's secure, and push the envelope very slowly. Baby steps will eventually get you where you want to be, and it will bring the two of you closer in your life's journey together if you take the right approach. Above all, communicate and get to know each other better. Compromise where you can. Good luck!

And please DO use punctuation. We want to read what you write, but if we have to strain to interpret all those run-on sentences, few of us will bother. 

Steve

Shyheels,

RIGHT! Their motto is "Do as I say, not as I do!"

Steve

And by displaying the boots at the interview they will know exactly what they're getting if they hire you. On the other leg, if you don't get any job offers after a while, you may want to start wearing conventional men's shoes until you're employed again. You can't buy heels without money!

Steve

On 11/12/2018 at 9:30 PM, Shyheels said:

Sounds very sensible. That is the catch with wearing heels, especially stilettos. You need to be able to wear them well to feel comfortable going out in them, but that takes practice. And you can’t get real world practice unless you go out and learn.

Age is also an issue, aside from gender. Most women learn to wear heels as teenagers. A certain artless is expected at that age, but much less so in one’s thirties, forties, fifties...Let alone being male to boot.

It is wonderful thatyour wife is so supporting and accepting.

"...to boot." - Great pun! Made me smile. Unintended?

Steve

Since when have backpacks become gender specific? I can understand the company wanting to appeal to women by having something that is lighter weight perhaps or in pink, but announce that it is for women ignores and insults half their potential market, and that's just stupid.

Nice backpack, by the way. And it won't show wine spills! LOL

Steve

Don't miss the Bata Shoe Museum. It's worth while and easy to get to.

Steve

On 11/2/2018 at 3:03 PM, Pierre1961 said:

Absolutely true. But should we meet the expectations of others? For our own mental comfort? 

Not everyone, just the Significant Other if you want to have a peaceful relationship. It's compromise. We both give a little and we're happy.

Steve

Indeed! I like how those pants fall at the cuff. Much better than the crumpled look of the others you showed us.

Steve

Interesting encounter, Kneehighs! I suspect he was a closet heeler or wannabee, and maybe he's even inspired to go public now. Or at least think about it. Anyway, good work!

Steve

Expectations are amazing. I know if would wear men's shoes here at our retirement community, after wearing women's for 4 years, that I'd probably cause some heart attacks! So I'll stick with what people expect me to wear.

Steve

James,

I hope you're not getting rid of EVERYTHING!

Steve

Don,

I love those boots. The heel is what I would wear, and I like the color as well. Have fun wearing them!

Cat,

Great heels and leggings!

Steve

I was in Austin in late June. Would have liked to have connected with either of you.

Steve

I would suggest that, since the pants contrast with the boots (unlike the tuxedo photos which were black pants with black boots - no contrast), you might consider either darker pants, or if you want to stay with khaki, then wear pants with a bootcut leg that's about 2 inches longer. It will fall more gracefully over the boots, draw no attention, and just look classier without the wrinkled cuff.

Steve

I agree with everyone else. The tall heels look great. Very dressy and yet masculine, too. They suit (pardon the pun) you well.

Steve

I owned a pair of Michael Kors "Berkley" sandals for a few hours once. I found them too small and too tight, and the heel turned out to be too high for me, so back they went. They were about $125 so they weren't cheap, but that's my only experience with this brand. Like most other brands, even premium ones, the shoes were made in China. I've since seen the exact same shoes sold by Moda Spana and Franco Sarto under different model names.

Steve

If I may step back and observe, there is a lot of sincere help, encouragement and advice being given here to a relative newbie who asked for help. This is one of the goals of this forum and it's being handled very well. The posts are all positive. 

KneeBooted, I hope you found this forum helpful, and I agree with Pebblesf. You look fine. The black boots look great. Relax and don't worry. Have a great flight and safe travels!

Steve

We can thank our deteriorated educational system for that. Kids today can't putt a sintenc togather and espresso themselfs in a clear whey.

Don't get me started on science and math.

Steve