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  1. I can definitely attest to what Bluejay said above. He is amazingly fearless when it comes to wearing women's clothing and shoes, but clearly presenting himself as a man. Like JeffB, he has a good eye for matching colors and styles, observing what women wear, and he puts together some very natural but fashionable outfits. And he gets lots of compliments, mostly from women. Men are, by and large, too judgmental. I think many women who see a guy in skirt and heels, or even just the heels, or for that matter, just in ballet flats, figure that if a guy has the courage to wear in public what's traditionally worn by women, he must have a lot of confidence, and confidence is sexy and appealing to a lot of women. 

    Happy Heeling, Bluejay!

    Steve,

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  2. I agree with Shyheels. You've clearly pulled your wife too far out of her comfort zone, and she is probably fearful of "OMG, What's next?" In retrospect, you should have gone with something more conservative, as Shyheels suggests, and let your wife adapt and adjust to your "new normal" over time. However, since you didn't go that route, you would probably do well to show her extra special love and attention, and make it clear that she's the most important thing in your life, not the boots. Let her know how much you appreciate her tolerance, but you should realize and accept that she will probably never learn to love your stilettos.

    Here are some styles of more conservative boots from my closet, which are styles suggestive of what you might consider for next time, if they appeal to you. Good luck and let us know how things go.

    Steve

     

    Payless Mara boot black 2.jpg

    Payless Marcie boot 2.jpg

    Naturalizer Glassy.jpg

    Payless Tori Ankle Strap Boots cognac.jpg

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  3. Bluejay, that shows the power of reviews. People do look at them and sellers do care about them (or they'll be out of business, well deserved!). Glad your story had a happy ending. Now you'll have shoes for St. Patrick's Day next year! LOL

    Steve

  4. We flew Qantas to and from (and within) Australia recently. The flight there was on a 787 and it was quite comfy; I actually slept fairly well, which I normally don't do. The flight back to LA was on a 380 and the seat was awfully uncomfortable for me (economy). I didn't get a wink of sleep. I'll be sure never to fly on a 380 again. I was NOT impressed.

    To keep on topic, I wore my Clarks "Octavia" clogs with 3" stacked heels, which I've featured in other posts. Clogs are easy to slip on and off.

    Steve

  5. Shoeshow.com is an online retailer that has an enormous selection in size 12 and 13. I've done fairly well by them over the years. There are brick and mortar stores in central Ohio to which I can return items which don't fit, and so there's no shipping charge to return them. 

    And with regard to the Nullarbor Plain in Australia, my wife and I were there just a couple of weeks ago, taking the Indian-Pacific train across the continent. It was 3 days and 3 nights. Quite an adventure. They announced over the PA system when we started and finished that straight stretch of track, 477 km, which took several hours. And it was fun to wear heels (and ballet flats, too) while on the train. Here are photos of the three pair of heels I took and wore in Australia: Born "Belinda" platform sandals in black with 3" heels, Born "Rutina" platform sandals in brown with 3" heels, and Clarks "Octavia" clogs/mules in black with 3" heels.

    We also had the chance to meet SF in person for drinks and dinner in Los Angeles before we flew over the Pacific. We had been emailing for a few years and narrowly missed an encounter in person in Vancouver a few years ago, so this time we were sure to make it happen. He is on the right in the photo, and I'm on the left, wearing the Clark's "Octavia."

    Steve

    Born Belinda black.jpg

    Born Rutina brown.jpg

    Clarks Octavia black 1.jpg

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  6. Krystof,

    Good work, mate! You should be very proud of yourself. That first step out in public is the most difficult. It gets easier each time after that.

    If I were in your country, I would make a special trip to your store to buy shoes from you. You're doing the right thing, and you will be successful! Good luck!

    Steve

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  7. Yep, I agree, too. What I meant to say was that my choice of platforms is because I can pick a wider range of styles that aren't as feminine as classic stilettos, strappy sandals, wild colors, and bling. I don't care if I'm noticed, but I don't want to wear clothing that's conspicuous and screams, "Look at ME!" I think I blend in pretty well, though. At least I'm comfortable with the image I present, and that's what counts. But I want to stress that I don't wear ONLY platforms. I have a lot of single sole heels (and flats) as well, and I like the variety of what's in my closet. 

    Steve

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  8. I like platforms precisely BECAUSE they don't look as feminine. Most of my clogs and a lot of my sandals have a 3/4 to 1 inch platform. I don't go for the fetish shoes that have 2-4" platforms. I find that a low platform is easy to walk in, looks more unisex, and I'm very comfortable wearing them in public. I have a lot of single-sole shoes, as well (in fact I have a lot of shoes period!). But I do like platforms - some examples below.

    Steve

    Born Belinda black.jpg

    Born Rutina brown.jpg

    Clarks Octavia black 1.jpg

    Sofft Sascha brown.jpg

    White Mountain Siesta.jpg

    White Mountain Terrace brown.jpg

    White Mountain Tigerlily black.jpg

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  9. Kjones92,

    Congrats on your first outing! It gets easier every time, and pretty soon you'll look back and wonder what all your fears were about. Yes, you might get some compliments, but don't be surprised if you don't. People are pretty much wrapped up in themselves and if they're not paying attention, they won't notice. And most people, if they do notice, won't care. We who are into high heels think everyone notices, but in truth, they don't and don't care.

    Practice. A lot! Wear heels every chance you get. You need to build up your ankle muscles so that you can walk gracefully and not clomp around like a teenage girl in her first pair of heels. If you're graceful, you will blend in and feel confident, and that's the key to success.

    So get out there often and strut your stuff. Watch where you put your stiletto heels. Sidewalk cracks are dangerous! And stay out of parks at night. You'll attract undesirable people and possibly the police. Go to busy places, such as malls and coffee shops - much safer and much more fun!

    Good luck!

    Steve

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  10. Chaos,

    But at the Walk-a-mile event, EVERY guy is wearing heels, mostly stilettos. Why in the world would your wife object? It's a fund-raiser, not a fashion show! Find an event near you and plan to do it if you want to. It's for a good cause.

    I did it once many years ago. While it was interesting, I didn't find it fun and I haven't gone back. There were too many people in the crowd watching and laughing at the guys who couldn't walk very well in heels. Even though I had lots of practice and walked gracefully, I just didn't like being associated with guys being laughed at. In other words, the best part was the Chinese restaurant we went to afterwards!

    Steve

    Steve

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  11. Men not only have a more limited choice of styles and colors, if they choose to wear women's shoes, they are limited in sizes as well, since many men have feet that are bigger than US Women's 10 or 11.

    HinH, I did not catch that use of the words people or person instead of woman or women. Very astute! Thanks for pointing it out.

    Steve

  12. 7 minutes ago, HeeledSteve said:

    Yes we just wandered  around and did everything that we would normally do. The only difference was I had to take smaller steps and walk more slowly due to the heels.

    Yes, but those tradeoffs for wearing heels are minimal compared to the rewards!

    Good job!

    Steve

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  13. Ditto! Mine is a shoulder bag by Kipling of Belgium. I bought it at Macy's a couple of years ago and it's still like new. It's amazing how much it can hold, and no bulging and unsightly pants pockets! I've never had anyone poke fun at the fact that I carry a purse; I wear it proudly and confidently. Other guys should try it. There are plenty of unisex bags out there and the practicality far outweighs other considerations.

    Steve

  14. The truth is, some people notice, some people don't. If you are insecure and out of your comfort zone, is it possible that you aren't walking gracefully in heels? That kind of body language in itself would get attention. We've all see awkward young teens wearing heels and perhaps smiled or chuckled. But do you say anything? Of course not. If you get out there and practice a lot, it will get easier and easier, but it does take practice. Once you have the hang of it and walk gracefully, people are much less likely to notice, and after a while, you'll be so used to wearing heels, you won't bother looking at people to see if they notice or not. You just won't care. Have fun! It's a great journey!

    Steve

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  15. What's the cost for a single return trip (round trip) from your town to London? Just curious, so when we visit you, I can budget the trip better.

    :-)

    Steve

    PS. We won't be there this month! LOL

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