CrushedVamp

Of all the times we have gone out with her dressed up, and this includes such places as clubs, hockey games, fancy restaurants, etc; there was only once she felt uncomfortable around a man. He was a very large man, in his 70’s at an expensive restaurant and just kept staring at my wife’s legs. I mean eyes locked on them, head down, eyes not blinking, staring for 45 minutes straight. It was just really creepy for her and I. But most times men just take glances because we typically dress nicely which is not often seen where I live. I get that and could care less, but this was just flat out creepy. Not that I was too worried. You guys know me, my wife almost always wears an anklet and so do I, but my anklet holds a 9mm Kimber. :-) I love guns so I always conceal carry…

I thought these were kind of ugly, and to be fair, not very practical unless you are headed to a Steampunk Convention. The steel contraptions look like they would catch on any fabric every encountered.

I remember in the 1980's there was a segment on 60 Minutes about women... gasp... changing into sneakers to commute to work in the bigger cities then changing to their high heels. 60 Minutes was and still is a news show that featured longer running stories, about 20 minutes long instead of 2 minutes like most news shows. Anyway, I remember it because it was a huge deal back then. The women were like, "you wear high heels on city streets and in subways and on busses then and see how you like it", while the men they interviewed hated the new trend. Those men would really hate the trend now... women just wearing sneakers all day, even in the office. My wife lives in her heels, but it is actually other WOMEN who curtail her efforts far more than men. They tend to have snide words about her wearing them, going as far as to call her a "slut" for wearing them. I think it is just jealousy myself that they feel guilty for dressing like a slob, or insecure that her husband might look at my wife. I am not really sure, but by far other women make wearing high heels for my wife more of an issue than it really should be.

It has already been done. A group of what they call "The Group of 40" used AI to spread misinformation about a political issue that I won't name. But basically, since AI uses Wikipedia almost exclusively, they exploited Wikipedia which changed AI which thus tainted the information to throw a favorable outcome. Sadly, a lot of people fed into this targeted hype. (Below not directed at your quote Cali) I fear AI, but I also understand that the same arguments against it were the same ones that hated electricity because it would ruin the kerosene trade. Or hated the internet because it would take out the newspaper industry. Or hated digital photography since it would take out the film printing industry. In the end, two things are the most scary for people: Freedom and Change! Generally, with new technology it swings like a clock pendulum in the annuals of time. It has great potential, but swings way too far to one side and gets out of hand, so checks and balances are put into play. That keeps it from being outright banned but also held within reason. Think of nuclear technology here. I don't want the guy that drinks beer and lives in a trailer to heat his place with a fusion nuclear heater granted, but I am glad I got an Xray last night for my broken hand. Over time new technology will temper itself out. Everyone take a deep breath. The world does not operate in a vacuum; everything will be alright in the end.

As a writer myself I know what you mean, but have found some limited uses for it. I have a fairly big printer (Plotter) so AI does a really nice job of taking a smaller sized photo and then scaling it up without any distortion even in poster sized pictures. It's kind of nice now to be able to take a thumbnail image and print it out at 3 feet by 5 feet and have it look good. The other thing I like is that in the United States anyway, the Supreme Court ruled AI Images are not able to be copyrighted, so I can use AI pictures for book covers and not have to worry about models, model releases, etc, and later being sued. Like @Mr. X but a little different, we just bought another house and wanted to see what the place would look like differently. Since we were swapping rooms, as in the kitchen being the living room and vice versa, it was nice to take pictures of the rooms then just make it a kitchen based on different kitchen styles of architecture. It was just Mr X did, but with rooms, and it was nice to see what we ultimately envisioned.

For me... and just me only, I like the contrast of the white socks, but I would like to see a white top. A kind of "black and white is always right" kind of fashion statement that is a staple of the world. But I admit I like contrast on my fronts. An ex-wife of mine always insisted her socks or hosiery always matched her shirt. I am not saying what she did was right, but that was her fashion rule for herself.

I agree. While I do not wear high heels, I do try to have a style and choose to match whatever shoes I am wearing to whatever I am wearing for a shirt. For me, this is within reasons, I do not tend to match purple shoes with a purple button up shirt, but for most other colors outside of pastels I do, like green shoes with a green shirt or a blue shirt with blue shoes. It really does not take such details to make a statement.

Hey thanks for everyone's help. Being a novel this can certainly be tweaked, but in taking into account what people said, I rough drafted it as such. In some light banter on the phone where she was talking with the Code Enforcement Officer while standing next to a building contractor, the CEO made mention of seven inch heels. She scoffed that the builder could not build a house level, so that was out of the question. Later in the novel when he comes to her office with heels purchased for her, he buys four-inch heels. She makes note that she typically wears 3.5 inch heels to work. In that scene she quickly comes to realize he has increasingly creepy affections for her by making a contractors life deliberately a living hell. This results in a fight where she tosses the bought heels back at him in total disgust. Here it sounds ridiculous but over 3000 words works well. In novels there is a technique known as lampshading which is a quick fix to explain an anomaly in prose, and here I lampshaded this all by having her explain that high heels and short skirts only works for male buyers, and goes against sales if it is a couple. Just a quick way to show some of her own flaws that she will do a lot for a sale. Does it work or not? It is hard to say, it is a writing technique that semi-works, and readers tend to accept any answer as, "yeah, I guess", and move on. But feel free to add more advice. I can always change the novel

So, I am asking for help. I am writing my latest fictional novel and I am looking for a pair of heels to be described in my book that is being given as a gift. A little background here is this. The woman is a real estate agent and dressed fashionably all the time. Early in the book she converses with a code enforcement officer where a little mild innuendo banter takes place. She asks for a favor, and he says he will do it, but only if she wears her highest high heels for him. Older than her by 20 years, as time marches on in the book, he gets creepier and begins to show his affection for her. Except she has feelings for a client now. He gives her an unexpected gift which is high heels, but what should the gift consist of? What would be an ideal heel height? What would be a good price point? In other words what sort of shoes would someone want to buy for a lady he was interested in. Something a bit suggestive, but not overly slutty. The more details you can give will be better, like color and style such as peep-toed or sling backs, etc. I am really not sure what would work in this situation. There are no bad answers here, just asking for some expert help. I struggle to correlate centimeter heel height to inches, so if it can be stated inches, all the better. I was thinking 7 inch heels, but wonder if those are over the top as a gift in this situation?

It is too bad because we have never lived in such a time as when educating yourself is so easy. It is kind of like making repairs on a car. Here anyway, the parts places are closing down because no one o=works on their car any more, they take it to a mechanic. Yet, need to do a brake job on your car? Just look it up on Youtube and the parts, prices, and even tools are listed on what you need, then they proceed to show you just how to do it. Many repairs are actually quick and easy yet no one does them. It is the same with high heels. There are a ton of videos on how to walk in high heels yet it is obvious few watch them. I really is a shame because watching a few videos and buying a good pair of well-fitting high heels might just change what a person wears for life. What may not change however is a stigmatism or what could be considered a judgmental encounter. I remember my wife and I went to a pub as a quick date night. We had four young daughters at the time and getting away together was extremely hard. It was the first time we left our oldest daughter in charge of her sisters so we only were out for an hour or two. But the wife wore her high heels and jeans. Nothing earth shattering or slutty, and we had soda and a pizza, not even drinking or anything. But the waitress told us, "I'll get your check quickly. Wearing those heels I know what you two are headed off to do". It was actually ironic because she thought my wife wearing high heels meant we were going to have relations" when we had four young daughters at home. I don't think we even did. She just wanted to wear heels out for a few hours as we had some alone time as a husband and wife. So there is a stigmatism with wearing heels unfortunately too that may put some people off.

I think fit and function are what dooms the high heel industry. Having raised six daughters almost everyone of them wore heels for the first time at their Junior Prom, a right of passage for a high schooler here in the USA anyway. But since they might grow out of them, and being for a singular event where they would only be worn for a few hours, they were all chosen entirely for how they looked with my daughter's dress. They therefore were cheap and ill-fitting. That was how they were introduced to wearing high heels and it really never got better for them. Most of the time the only time they wear high heels beyond their junior prom which was to weddings and other special occasions. Again the high heels chosen for a singular event and chosen for how they looked and not fit and comfort. This causes many problems. The first is that they learned by experience that high heels were uncomfortable to wear. The other issue is, being chosen for how they looked and costs, properly fitting heels are hard to find. The girls went to the local shoe store where there was a crappy selection of heels to buy and none were expensive because people were not buying expensive, well-fitting heels. And when they bought them off the internet, they were bought based on style and color and not about to be sent back because they did not fit well. "It was only for one evening" was the statement made. My wife, she is a little different. She loves high heels, but struggles to find good ones. When she does find a pair that is comfortable, she wears them exclusively, and I tended to notice these are often the most expensive ones. But the quality retail shops are closed now, and only crappy, ill-fitting ones grace the local chains that are still open.

The only dress code I can think of in regards to shoe-dress-codes are airline stewardesses. The last I knew they were required to wear heels while in public settings. I think it was a two inch heel height minimum, but honestly I can see no reason why they could not be allowed to wear flats if they wanted too. I do not like the look of flats myself, but am not into forcing anyone to wear something they loath either. An interesting note about their dress code too is that they do not actually wear pantyhose/tights but instead wear compression nylons because of the constant pressure and depressuring they are subjected too. It does not matter so much for only a few flights a year, but a career of it can be damaging to a person's circulatory system. Because of that they were once required to wear them, but I think that requirement has eased up. Mostly because they are not paid that well and so many just wore regular pantyhose/tights which were NOT compression ones because they were much cheaper but their employers were none the wiser just looking at them. And in a fire situation several stewardesses sustained severe leg burns when the nylon melted onto their legs in a crash.

There is a High Heel Race in Washington DC every year and is coming close now to 40 consecutive years of the running of it. I think on May 20th, High Heel Day, men are encouraged to wear high heels to their jobs so that they understand the rigors of what some women are required to wear for shoes all day, every day. Not the same as a race I know, but I always thought that was a great idea and not encouraged enough. I read an article years ago about the day and suggestion and some men had to remove the heels only a few hours in because of the rigors of wearing them showing that wearing them did heighten awareness.

I always thought your photos and poses were well put together. I am not sure that it matters but my wife does photography and we like the fine arts; said only so you know there is some added credibility behind it. As many of you know, I do not wear high heels myself, it is my wife who is the high heel shoe lover, I just like her in them, but I think if I did wear high heels it would most likely be in wearing high heel clogs for starters. I have no idea why, I guess it is just like fine art, there is no need to explain, if you like the painting you just get it. But the same can be said for high heels too I suppose, no need to justify or explain why; just wear what you like. I think for me it would be heeled clogs. Sorry to read quite a ways back and here that a lot of people have had eye trouble. I hope everyone is clearly on the mend regarding that. I certainly relate as due to my profession I have had my eye drilled seven times and my eyes are showing the wear from that. My plight lately is more inline with dental issues. I had a tooth extracted recently and it went horribly wrong. It took an hour and a half, then the broken tooth had to be drilled out, the dentist broke my jawbone so it had to be grafted back, the stitches came out before I even got home, only to get dry socket and an infection in the removed tooth. It was so bad that I was curled up in the fetal position driving myself as far back from the chair as I could it hurt so bad. It has really ruined me as I don't think I could endure a simple procedure without being knocked out by an oral surgeon. It really was that traumatizing to me.

Hey thanks. It is good to be missed. Just very busy as we finished up this house and then decided to sell it due to the incredible market right now. That part is easy but now its on to find a new place. It is tough as we are looking for a VERY specific place and there are only six places in the whole state. For those that might not be sure the scale of what I am talking about, our state is the exact same size as all of Ireland, so picture such a big area and only six houses to pick from. Fortunately three are in the are we wish to live, but none are perfect. If only this place, which is perfect building wise, could be put in this town people wise, but the town having views like this other town... Anyway, it's tough. I did think of all of you though the other day. I was watching a video on home renovation and a woman was just given a walk-in closet by her husband. As she looked at the top shelf of the closet she exclaimed, "wow, a place for all my red-soles". That is literally how she referred to her high heel collection. I thought it was cute and thought of members on here. My tenons are getting better in my legs with only a few pangs of pain now and then, but they say restarting again too fast is the number one cause of its resurgence. So I have yet to get out there walking again, but I do miss the exercise.

Good for you on trying to stay fit! I can certainly relate, wanting to get in better shape but am struggling with quality shoes myself. I have not been on this site for awhile and part of that has been because I decided to be a little more proactive in my health myself.. It worked at first until it took a dark turn, but in three months I was able to lose forty pounds. Lost a lot off my waist and was two-thirds of my goal...Then all my walking caused the ligaments in my shins to detach from my tibia. Grrrrr. A lot of pain and a long recovery time. But I also hit a weight loss plateau and despite walking 5-7 miles per day, the weight loss was the exact same. I just stalled. But even before that I was struggling with good sneakers. I got some Sketch Slip-In's but their design rubbed a lot on the shoehorn part of the shoe causing the material to wear off and expose hard plastic that gave my archille tenon's blisters. I have switched to Kirik slip ins that use what they call a "cage" and they do not have the shoehorn issue, but they need help in their insole design as they are not comfortable to wear in extended walks like I do. I wish I could help you on your color choices but got nothing. If you can find quality white trainers/sneakers you might be able to dye them the color you like. My wife often does that matching dyed white Keds to specific outfits she wears. But I fully understand dying Keds is pretty easy.

What are people's thoughts on "having a way out" for those who wear high heels? For my wife who LOVES her high heels and wears them a lot but not every day; they can get painful at times so we always have a less painful option for her if it becomes too painful. Like having a pair of Keds (primisols) in the car that she can put on, or a pair of ballet flats. It depends on what she is wearing of course so she looks stylish even in shoes without high heels, but we have a way that she can quickly change from painful to painless. Or do you feel working through the pain is best to toughen up and get more accustomed to high heel wearing? I know sometimes for me, I am a little disappointed because she can be quick to change, especially if it is the main event we are going to, but she wants to switch out to flats when I think she would look more refined in heels. But it is not my feet in them, and I am not the high heel police.