Gige

Just wondering if anyone has heels that they will only wear at home/indoors due to heel height, comfort, or some other reason. I recently acquired a pair of very high Ann Taylor leopard print heels which are NSFW by any stretch of the imagination (I had to first take them to a cobbler for the footbed to be repaired). I also have a pair of Vince Camuto high heel loafers that also fit into the NSFW category. Thus, I was wondering if any other members of this group have heels that are best left for sitting around at home while looking pretty.  

Thanks, G

P.S. not my photos but from the web

Hi All;

This question builds on another semi-active thread but with a different theme of sorts. My question is, if you have encountered another man in heels, have you complimented him and if so, what was the response?

The Backstory...

Yesterday, I was grocery shopping and as I was exiting, I noticed a young man, maybe in his early 20's, dressed in a cropped tank top, mini-pleated skirt, black leggings, and a pair of black, faux leather knee high boots with a relatively small heel. For those old enough to remember, it reminded me of an outfit from an early Madonna video - not that there is anything wrong with this, it's just where I mind placed it). As I walked by him, I was absolutely delighted by the sight of another man visibly wearing heels in public said, "Great outfit!!" He offered a slight smile, a slight nod of his head, and muttered a hardly audible "Thank you." I really wanted to engage this person to let him know that I, too, wear heels in public, but due to that fact it was rather warm in my part of the world, was not wearing such for the sole reason of keeping cool.  I then complimented him on his boots which drew even less of a response. Seeing that he was more interested in looking at his phone and appeared to be waiting for someone else, I moved on and left the store. This was the first time I have ever encountered another male in heels outside of a drag show. 

Thanks!

G

Update!

Frack recently admitted to me that many of her comments regarding my daily outfits were/are driven out of jealousy over the fact that I can and do wear many items that she can not due to her sizes or (claimed) wide feet. So, starting when I head date to the office this week, I will be switching workstations to move away from her (there are other reasons for this as well).  Frick and I have reached a sense of "détente" if you will, and all is good between us. She (Frick) however, may be transferred to another building in the next few weeks anyways. 

G. 

1 hour ago, CAT said:

Midway this time 

Ah MDW - my old neighborhood - off the NE corner of the runways!

10 minutes ago, pebblesf said:

Loving those boots and jeans!

What a great outfit!

Those boots get my vote for sure, what brand are they?

Boots - Inferno from Raye (top)/Sorbern (bottom w/black & white skirt). Thanks for the vote!

7 hours ago, Gige said:

From Midway or O'hare? 

Love those boots!

Gorgeous outfit - I guess I am going to have to step up my game! 😁❤️ 

3 hours ago, CAT said:

So here is my first of many to come!

Boots  by Aldo, dress is Lululemon Define, wristlet is Guess   My usual Chicago to Tampa trip. Kinda bummed, only 2 comments about my boots, both in the TSA line, no negative comments. Look forward to talking with people.   Will post some more pics soon!   

 

 

From Midway or O'hare? 

Love those boots!

My entry for April, 2024. Wearing orange in celebration of Koningsdag (The King's Birthday in The Netherlands). 

3 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

I am not sure how I missed this post for nearly a week, but evidently I did. Thanks for sharing your story.

It needed Moderator approval before being available for all members to read. Thanks for the comments!

3 hours ago, Jkrenzer said:

Great story and congratulations on having such a lovely wife. Must be hard to be separated so much.

Smart looking boots too.

Thanks! Yes, the separation is hard but with technology being what it is, we still communicate everyday about this and that, or whatever the latest/pressing issue du jour may be that needs to be addressed.  

With respect to the heels...they are all lovely but some of them are rather tall, perhaps not completely suitable for the office. I prefer wearing ankle boots over pumps because they fit better and my office is usually overly air conditioned to the point where even during the summer, some staff members are using space heaters and electric blankets to keep warm. I often joke that my employer keeps the temperature so "cold" because it is a storehouse for meat carcasses. I think that, as a result, my feet would freeze if wearing pumps and I would contract hypothermia during the summer!  

These are some of the other heels with which I happened to bring back to the states with me. The green and brown heels are from Miz Moos while the red heels are from Noe - Antwerp. The latter are Italian leather and are very well made, but very expensive - I have black and blue on order. That which I like most about Noe is the variety of colors as they have, for example, several shades of blue and red available. These are the boots I promised I would return to my wife if she wanted them back at some point in the future. 

I am not the one to believe that lasting long term change happens overnight but occurs over time even if such is triggered by a single and identifiable event. My very recent travels witnessed an incredible situation that compelled me to express my thanks to many members of this group. Without them and their posts, I would not be writing this message. In order for my story to make some degree of sense, a bit of explanation is needed.

I, like many members of this group, have loved wearing high heels for as long as I can remember.  Since I acquired my first pair of heels as a pre-teen, I have purchased dozens of pairs (shoes and boots) but, admittedly, I have always parted with them as I struggled to come to terms with who I am while never accepting my genderfluidity. There would be times when I had a pair or two on hand but also long durations (years) of when I had none. During those instances where I was without a pair of heels, I was always “shopping” for the next pair of killer heels and when I landed upon those that were a “must have,” I gave in to temptation and purchased them. This repeating pattern continued for decades, both before and after I was married.

Fast forward to 2016 when my wife accepted a job in The Netherlands and we decided to relocate there following such. Sadly, however, a short time later I realized that I was completely shut out of the professional level Dutch job market for many insurmountable reasons. I returned to the United States in mid-2021 to put my work experience and newly obtained Masters degree to work for me. My wife, however, remained and still resides in The Netherlands. Shortly after returning to American soil, I began purchasing heels with the intent of building a “to die for” heel collection. As I began “collecting” new pairs (or at least new to me) the desire to wear them out in public became increasingly difficult to resist. Despite such, however, I was not willing and/or ready to do so, or only do so under very restrictive conditions such as on a cool/cold night on a short walk around my neighborhood.  

I began researching the topic of men wearing high heels in public, and started reading of the stories and experiences of other male members of this group.  I read many posts regarding those first steps and realized that if others can do it, so can I. Thus, in November 2023, I took my first steps out in public while wearing four-inch, block heeled boots. With time and more instances of doing so, I became ever more confident to the point where it is now routine for me to do so, even to the office. I realized that the most important step of this journey was to tell my wife and be completely honest about it. So, a few weeks after my first outing of wearing heels in public, I did so and despite any fears I had, she was fully understanding and comfortable with it. Of course, a few questions were asked (and answered) but no judgement, shock, or disappointment followed. I told her that regardless of what I am wearing and where such may occur, it does not change how I feel about her or why I love her. What I wear or how I express myself is irrelevant to my commitment to our marriage.

This past mid-April, I made my annual spring trek to The Netherlands for a week-long visit. I very much wanted to travel in a pair of heels but as my suitcases were packed with items she needed/wanted and cannot get there, as well as goodies and treats “requested” by our friends, I had very little room for my own clothes. Given this and the normally rotten Dutch weather at this time of the year, all of my clothing had to be practical items – no room for heels of any kind. Likewise, as I had not yet shared a picture of me wearing heels with her, I felt I should show her pictures before she actually saw me in heels so as avoid any shock/surprise on her part. She had seen me with polished fingernails and my ears double pierced during our weekly video chats.

During my stay, I showed my wife several pictures of me wearing heels as part of a work outfit, and told her that I had also recently attended drag events and wore heels to them. Given that my wife and I have the exact same shoe size, I asked if she had any pairs of heels with which she was willing to part. I specifically asked about two pairs of ankle boots I knew she seldomly (if ever) wore and if I could take them with me. She promised me that before I began my trek back to the U.S., she would allow me to “raid” her shoe closet and take any pair of heels that she did not routinely wear. So, on the last evening of my visit, we went through her shoe collection (probably over 100 pairs) and I identified the two pairs that I would love to bring home with me. One request met with little resistance but I had to promise her that if she wanted the other pair returned, I would do so at the next instance we were together. Well, six pairs of heels latter, some of which have yet to be worn, others only worn once, and some at her suggestion, I am returning home with an expanded collection. Not only that, but I also have a hot new leather skirt as well; I told her in a highly excited voice that the skirt will be worn for our anniversary dinner this coming Halloween. My wife did mention that she loved my work outfits.

The point to all of this is that if other members of this group/forum did not write/post about the first time they headed out in public while wearing a pair of heels, I doubt I would have ever had the courage, motivation, and inspiration to do so myself. Simply reading about how the other members of this group/forum did so and what they felt before, during, and after doing so, was what I needed to let me know that my wearing of heels out in public will not cause the world to come to an end. I had always believed that my wearing heels out in public would never occur but now, however, I probably wear heels out in public more often than any other footwear.

Thus, to every member who wrote his about his first experience wearing high heels in public, I offer you my deepest and sincerest heartfelt thanks! If this story does not convey the fact that true love is greater than and blind to what we wear on our feet, hips, or torso, then I do not know what is. 

4 hours ago, Cali said:

That's interesting because either JS's fit or they don't. But if they fit they are real easy to walk in.  In fact I will be wearing my JS knee boots today with faux suede and block 4 inch heels.  A wet day with down pours.

Love, Love, Love JS brand! I usually have had good luck with such.

16 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

The question is, is any of this worth it? Yeah, you could start an office battle, but would you want to? I know I wouldn't. And just exactly how bad is it? Does this happen daily? Hourly? What is the demeanor of the ladies? Snooty? Playful? Bossy? There are way too many questions that simply can't be answered in print. Perhaps the easiest way if you just can't stand it is to have your station moved. Even that is not without consequences. Let's face it--it just ain't easy bein' us.

Indeed, it is not easy just being ourselves! I have to wonder if Frick and Frack view as their "Boy Toy" to dress as they please. Not to get on my soapbox, but I agree with other comments about given their large size (and unhealthy condition) they may feel jealous about how I dress. I generally do not think it is appropriate for anyone to comment about what a person should/should not do unless that person can do it themselves. 

9 hours ago, Bubba136 said:

I agree.  I would wear the shirt and boots at first and wear the skirt and the rest of the outfit after your coworkers get used to seeing you dressed that way. Your ear rings and nails polished, along with a nice necklace and other accessories should set the mood for the skirt. 

I've got the nails polished and necklaces, but the earrings are still posts as they were done in late December. I was told six months before taking them out overnight and a full year before hoops (which stinks!). I hope to "graduate" to small hoops at the end of the six months as they are much more to my liking and would help with a transition to skirts.

11 hours ago, Jkrenzer said:

This is a nice look. I agree with Cali though. Stick with the heels minus the skirt for a while at work. Eventually once your coworkers become used to it, don a skirt. I like these boots and as fellow heel at work member go ahead and wear your higher heels if and when you desire. As for myself I'm in 5 inch stilettos most every day. It's been great, but there were initial questions etc.

Thanks! As I like to say, it never goes out of style to have style!  Nonetheless, thanks for advice as it is solid in terms of practicality.   

19 hours ago, Cali said:

 Frick and Frack are jealous. First of your weight loss and second you look better than either of them could.

I tend to agree with you about this in both the jealousy and "out dressing" them.  All that I want is just to be myself and not have anyone, including myself, worry or concern themselves with what I am wearing. 

53 minutes ago, kneehighs said:

Are there possible legal repercussions for him if the does that while being on US soil?

 

No, but I do have to be very careful about what I say because it could be viewed as being discriminatory. 

Even though I am a newcomer to this forum, I hope to be a serious contender. To start, a post Valentine's day dinner outfit for a fancy dinner with an old friend (Red) and a Friday "work at home outfit" (Black/white). And this Saturday is Drag Night in town!

To all...

I am looking for some solid advice about wearing skirts and heels to the office. In case you have not read my previous posts, I offer this recap... I recently started wearing heels to work (3"- 3.5" max) or flat knee high boots with skinny jeans. Overall, I have not had any problems in doing so if one excludes the usually unwanted advice "You should wear this that way or you should wear that this way" from the peanut gallery of Statler and Waldorf (see my post "The Ladies at the Office" for more details on them).  Nonetheless, I am wanting to move into wearing appropriate skirts with very professional style heels or boots into the office but do not know if I am quite ready to do so. I have told many of those in my office about my genderfluidity and let them know that if the future how I express myself may be different than what they have observed in the past. No one seems to care all too much, which is fine as I do not want my clothing choices to cause a disruption of the day. Details of the photo - an outfit for a "work at home day." Boots are Tulip (model) from Jessica Simpson. I would love to wear this outfit to the office someday...

So, any advice or thoughts on this are welcome.

I'm curious if anyone else has run into this "issue"...

I recently started wearing heels/boots to the office with a heel no higher than 3"-3.5" and always very professional in style (block heel, solid, dark colors, with an occasional splash of spice to mix-it up). Likewise, I have started wearing both feminine and masculine clothing with such for a completely professional ensemble.  I also wear accessories such as earrings (still on posts as I just had them pierced - can't wait to start wearing hoops!) necklaces, and painted nails (no make-up). There are two women who sit near my workstation who, since I have started dressing "en femme," have been both complementary of my outfits but at the same time, routinely offer their completely unwanted opinions of what they think I should wear. One of them, "Frick," continually informs me that I wear "too much" black or dark colors, need more color, should wear paisley, and have my eyebrows done. Her partner, "Frack,"  has also told me that I should wear more colors, I wear "too many turtlenecks," and a recent weight loss on my part (~25lbs) has left me with "no butt." With respect to Frick and Frack, both of these women may qualify as being petite (5'2" to 5'4") and, not to disparage them, are grossly obese. Frick often wears sweatpants, a hoodie, or a track suit and crocs (with or without socks) whereas Frack is slightly better dressed in tie-dyed shirts or sweaters, jeans, and rainbow shoes - these are their outfits everyday. Frack also likes to wear cheap, gaudy jewelry from Temu. 

Although I am grateful for the compliments when offered, I am growing tired of the "you should wear this that way or wear that this way..." and the like comments. I have mentioned to both that I do not dress for them nor do I want to be dressed by them but yet, they persist in their comments. In all fairness, Frack is not as bad as Frick in telling me what I should wear. What I find interesting in all of this is that long before I started wearing heels to the office, neither ever said word about my attire. Since I have started wearing heels, however, it seems as I am "open season" for unwanted comments about what to wear. If needed, I can change my workstation so that I do not have to sit near them as they are not part of my unit. The photos are all outfits I have previously worn to the office

A late comer but I am in! 

On 3/13/2024 at 3:02 AM, CAT said:

I’m in !

Although you are always very well dressed, I do hope to give you a run for your money! 😁❤️

I know it is hard to part with a single pair of heels but I have learned how to do it. I don't know if it will be helpful, but I try to have at least one outfit for every pair of heels/boots I own. If I can not match the footwear to an outfit, then it gets donated. Likewise, if the shoe does not fit, so to speak, I can easily part with it without feeling "bad" about doing so. I do not want to get into the habit of impulse buying and before I purchase and pair of footwear, I think about where I could realistically wear them. I also think of if I have an existing outfit to match or could easily put one together so that buying that "must have" pair of heels is meaningful. I was recently in a store and noticed a pair of black kitten heeled pumps that would be highly suitable for the office. As I was seriously thinking of buying them, I thought, "Wait a minute, I have at least two pairs of office appropriate black pumps." I asked myself if I really needed them and determined that I did not, so I bought the blue ones instead.   

I, like most of us, have heels that are probably most appropriate for attendance at a drag show (not that I am complaining...if you want to see mine, check out the last page or so of the freestyle pictures!) and would never wear to the office. I have heels for three different occasions: for running out to do errands; going to work; and working from home. My running out to do errand heels are kind of a "throw on and go," where my office heels are very conservative (low heel pumps and ankle boots) while my work at home heels are the tallest of the tall.   I also try to have heels for each season - winter, spring/autumn, and summer. This way I can have a variety of heels so that each has a chance to be worn with some degree of frequency.  I'm not necessarily the one for flash or over the top embellishment, so a pair of comfortable simple black pumps will always work for me.  I get it though, as I am always looking to find that "perfect" pair of whatever but given so many factors, most of the time I am just web browsing. I would rather invest money in quality than for fashionable and cheap.

Well, that seemed to be a whole lot of nothing on my part....

Thank you ever so kindly! It was a great outfit to start 2024!

13 hours ago, mlroseplant said:

We have already introduced ourselves in other threads, but I did want to comment on your statement, "I believe that at first, I will have many stories to share.  .  . however.  .  ." I think we have all experienced this to some degree or other, but what tends to happen is that one day a fellow wakes up and realizes that every post has become some version of, "Welp, I went grocery shopping today in my heels, and nothing happened." I suppose that this is one reason why the conversation tends to wander a bit off subject at times. At any rate, I do hope you enjoy your time here.

Hi Mlroseplant;

You are absolutely correct here - I do not want every one of my posts to be about the mundane and monotony of everyday life that just so happened to have occuring while wearing heels. There is only so many times in which anyone can make going to the grocery store, post office, wherever in heels exciting after the first instance of both doing so and writing about it. I hope, rather, to share only those stories that reflect growth in both my confidence, and the height of the heel and my willingness for it to be seen by others. Since my "debut" of wearing heels in public this past November, I have truly grown in many areas and taking the first steps in public were the best steps I ever took. It is moments like those I want to share and as noted, I have several about which I want to write and post for all to read.

G 

On 1/28/2020 at 12:03 PM, Pierre1961 said:

One ((bad) opportunity for reopening this subject 

Today I had to fly from Paris( Orly,an airport I don’t like) fo Madrid. 

Before boarding I bought a coffee and sat close to the counter I got it. 

I heard a male voice at the coffee counter saying  to his female coworker: “ the world is turning wrong side,look at the shoes of this guy!” She didn’t answer,or I didn’t heard. Then 5  minutes later he called a guy from the security,probably a friend of him( and same physical aspect) and said  very loudly:” look at the shoes of that guy” Again I wasn’t able to hear the answer. 

I didn’t move,did show any trouble,kept on reading my book after I had finished the coffee 

Not a big deal. But for sure not encouraging because that kind of guys is now quite common in some places of Paris. Where I never go. 

But that it is the first time is happens to me in an airport 

So,yes sometimes wearing heels need courage!

the shoes were the ones  you can see on the picture. Brown  14 block heels 

Those heels are ridiculously beautiful!!!! 

Happy New Year!

Hello all;

First, as I am new to this forum and recently starting wearing heels (only heeled boots) in public, it is truly incumbent upon me to introduce myself. Recently, I posted my introduction "Greetings from the Midwest" to the "for everybody" area instead of "for the guys." My error! Nonetheless, please take a moment to read my brief introduction if you have not done so or so desire to do so. As I noted in there, I am truly excited to have the ability to finally discuss/chat wearing high heels with other like minded people. I had always believed that my desire to wear high heels in public was only going to be just a dream but now, slowly, I am wearing my heeled boots out in public more and more often. And I absolutely love it!

I so much want to share my stories but I do not want to use this forum as my personal blog/website to do so. This wonderful forum is for everyone to share their stories, concerns, issues, etc. about wearing high heels, either in the privacy of one's residence or out in public. Thus, if I started posting my adventures here, such could go against the very idea of a public forum. Therefore, I have started my own personal blog about my adventures wearing high heels in public, The Heeling Chronicles. I decided to write my blog for me as a way to track my growth wearing high heels in public. I quickly realized, however, that much of what I am experiencing may be similar to the feelings of others and felt sharing those moments could be of interest to others. Likewise, I can add larger photos, make recommendations of brands I love, and write about whatever is on my mind without being the center of attention on this forum. My blog is rather sparse at the moment as I have only a few postings but I plan on adding new material every other Sunday and have many short stories, thoughts, and concerns I will be sharing over time. I have included a link to The Heeling Chronicles if anyone wishes to read it.

Thanks!

G

P.S. More info on the boots I am wearing coming soon to the blog!

On 12/4/2023 at 2:42 AM, flavio said:

Thanks for sharing your experience.

I'm doing random heelings it's been 1.5 years now and having almost the same no-big-deal thing.

I rarely got compliments from strangers, 3 to be exact, all from men.

I've got one laugh from a girl on a group of teenagers at the street in plain daylight but not sure it was on me.

I've got stares from a right-wing radical group at a McDonalds restaurant once. No problem in the end but I know I was on their radar. I was with wife and kids so I found it threatening for them.

Anyway, I try to be careful where I go and avoid heels on small villages where I can find trouble. Don't know how it goes in England but I see you're doing the experiment

 

Bonjour!

To date, I have had two compliments on my boots - both from women. I actually get more positive compliments on the color of my fingernails than all else and again, all from women. I am, sadly, like you, careful as to where I wear my heels out in public as more rural places may be very unwelcoming not only of "outsiders" but those who are outsiders who are somehow "different." I have no doubt that if some places were unwelcoming to a man wearing heels, the same lack of respect would be extended to gay, transgender, or other similar individuals. That is why, like others, public heeling has to be done with a sense of caution when needed, even thought this should never be the case.

Merci!

G