mlroseplant

Eh, it wasn't terrible, but then, I'm not sure I would have done any better. I thought he let her get away with the discomfort card a little too much. "Be careful what you wish for!" If there's one thing about us heeling guys, I think we are way more conscious about shoe fit and shoe training than your average female. Also, we never got to see what he was actually wearing on his feet, though we got to see the flat boots of the somewhat hostile interviewer.

Thank you to those who gave compliments on the jeans. Also, thank you to those who withheld not-so-nice remarks. LOL. I'm still trying to find my way in this new and sometimes strange world of fashion. Also, thanks to my wife, who seems generally happy with me lately.

I was almost in a 12. I stopped riding the bike and have put some weight

Back on.

I get longs for my really hi heels and M for lower heels. I got some A's but

Dis overed they are shorter than M's, good for tennis shoes. Wow. Womans

Sizing is a nightmare. No wonder they can be so moody. I also understand why

Some have pants dragging the ground. I hate that look.

I am sure that women's sizing is pretty "fluid" compared to men's sizing. I mean, 30 inches is 30 inches, right?

I also hate pants that drag on the ground. Reminds me of the "grunge" era in the late 90s, dark days indeed, especially for heel lovers.

I've had it go both ways: I've had some teenaged female relatives actually get miffed at my opinions, and I've also encountered teenaged girls who like to discuss different fashion ideas with me. I think it so much depends on the individual. As an aside, I'm a big fan of the American TV show, "What Not To Wear." I definitely could have been a candidate for that show not so many years ago. However, I somehow doubt Stacy and Clinton will have any of their male candidates wearing heels anytime soon. Too bad.

As the younger son in a family business, but with 22yrs in I'd personally be amused about someone applying and wearing heels. While I'd want to chat about it after I would make sure to comment that most sitez/customers are not accepting, and while some hidden heel wedges might slip past people he may not get to wear heels while on the job, since, well, I cannot.

Outside of the interview I'd love to get to know them better and find out their heeling history.

Yes, Jim, I agree, that's a fine line. As the former owner/partner of a used car dealership in a small town, I always struggled with some sort of balance about what to wear on my feet. 90% of the time, I chose rather low-heeled clogs which would not attract too much attention, and which would also allow me to do some light work in the shop if necessary. I had my Red Wing work boots for the heavier work.

However, one Saturday, it was my turn to show up by myself (we used to take turns on who had to show up on Saturdays). I decided to wear nicer clothes than I would normally wear, as I didn't have any work to do in the shop, and since we didn't have anything listed on Craigslist at that time, I really didn't expect any customers. I was just there to do paperwork. So I wore some higher heels. Nothing too outrageous, just some clogs with a 3.5" obviously separate and distinct heel. Wouldn't you know it, a customer showed up unexpectedly because the taillight assembly we had sold her to repair her crunched-up quarter panel refused to work properly.

So there I was, standing in front of the shop, on the main drag in town, for 45 minutes, messing with this thing. In heels. It turns out that the problem was a slight internal design change between 2001 and 2002 model years. After rigging it up so that it would work, the customer left happy, and never mentioned a thing about my heels. I'm not sure she noticed. But I always wondered if some of those small town folks ever wondered about that strange little guy who always wore those funny clogs. I'm pretty sure it didn't affect the business at all, but you never know. You do have to be careful, don't you?

Don't go nuts with your shoes until they're broken in. I wear all my shoes with a bit of platform. Nothing stripperish. A platform with get red of that ball-of-the-foot pain we get. I know you guys hate platforms so much, but your feet will love you for them.

There must be some shape inside of each pair of shoes that is slightly different, which affects comfort greatly. Most of my shoes do have a small platform (1" or less), but this is not a 100% predictor of comfort.

I bought a pair of oxfords from Nine West which have no platform, and a 3.5" block heel. I bought them specifically because I thought I could wear them to church with my conservative suits, as they look exactly like the men's low-heels shoes I would normally wear, except for the heel. These shoes, despite having no platform and 3.5" heels have been comfortable out of the box. On the other hand, I have another pair of Nine West, same heel height, with no platform, which are just NOT comfortable to walk in for any distance, despite having installed gel inserts. Perhaps someone with a differently shaped foot than mine would have the opposite opinion.

Some of this just comes down to practice. I find that I am able to wear the giant heels pictured in the original post for much greater distances without pain than I was 4 weeks ago when I posted that.

Well, good for you, my friend. Hope you enjoy your new jeans! Perhaps you can post a picture so we can see what you look like in them along with a pair of heels.

I finally got around to taking some pictures of one pair of my new jeans, as requested. These are Faded Glory (Wal-Mart brand) in a size 4 petite boot-cut. I washed them once before I wore them. This was taken after a number of hours of wearing. I shall be interested to see how they fit after a few more washings.

Shoes are Michael by Michael Kors loafer/clog. I don't know the model name. I got them from eBay with no box.

I am surprised at the number of people whose "lack of meatiness" in the posterior department has been solved by women's jeans. One would think it would be the opposite. And sometimes, it is.

I have a male friend who is still to this day kind of "fashion challenged." Back in the late 80s when we were broke, he would buy all his jeans from the thrift shop, and the main criteria was which ones had the least holes in the $1 bin. He would often buy women's jeans, as he didn't care much how they looked, just as long as they covered his backside. And I must say, he looked pretty funny sometimes, and not in a good way. He really has no butt, and his jeans of the day were often poofy in the hips. This image was burned into my brain, and put me off for a long time about ever going to the other side of the store.

Fast forward 20 years: I married into a Vietnamese family, so naturally I have a lot of contact with Asian girls/women. Most of them seem to know how to wear their jeans (and their tiny little shorts) well. Then one day it hit me: Hey, wait a minute--none of these girls has any butt either, and their jeans seem to fit them just fine. Maybe I ought to revisit this. So here I am, discussing this with y'all!

I'm not really sure what to tell you tall fellows, as I've never had that problem at 5'6"/167cm. I do know that in general, women tend to have longer legs and shorter torsos than men, so maybe all is not lost. I've also noticed that in my son's high school, there are so many more tall girls, in the 6 foot range, than there used to be. I don't think this is my imagination. Anyway, they must get their jeans somewhere. I think it's just a matter of going out there and just trying on pants until you figure out approximately what size range you are. Good luck!

I only own one pair of Louboutins (Pigalle 100), but the next on my want list is the Bianca! I was thinking about the Bianca 140....but now that I've read this article, I'm going for the 160!!

I'm sure you won't "stumble around" like the woman in this article. Be sure to let us know about the Loubs when it happens!

Lol @ JeffB!

Also try www.6pm.com

They've also got a large selection of nice shoes.

The thing to keep in mind about 6pm (and I think they are somehow connected with Zappos.com) is that they will not pay return shipping, and will not refund the outgoing original shipping if the shoes don't fit. If you know your size for sure, 6pm often offers a considerably better price than others. With Amazon and Zappos, you get ALL your money back, regardless of the reason for return. I have returned 3 pairs of shoes for 3 completely different reasons, and have not had anything but great service from Amazon.

Well, good for you, my friend. Hope you enjoy your new jeans! Perhaps you can post a picture so we can see what you look like in them along with a pair of heels.

I'll see if I can play with the self timer on my camera. I haven't had the chance to use it yet.

And what's amazing is, I have only liked levis jeans. I am now wearing cheap walmart jeans and love the fit.

Yes, I have to admit the Wal-Mart "Faded Glory" brand seems to be an awfully good value at under 15 bucks a pop.

My only problem is with the wife. She's not really upset with the concept of me wearing womens jeans, but that I can find so many that fit me where she can't. She's hard to fit. Being that I am a bit smaller in jeans sizes doesn't help matters.

My wife has yet to say anything, because she's been working massive overtime, and I only see her a couple hours a day. Surely she's noticed. She sure noticed my new mules I got from ebay.

Totally agree that the fit is better - i much prefer them. The only drawback for me is that the buttoning or opening does up the 'wrong way' compared to mens jeans. Maybe i am paronoid but i sort of feel that i am going to get caught our or spotted because of this.

Really? Maybe they are made differently on the other side of the pond. While it's true that women's shirts button the opposite way here in North America, the pants are the same. I just checked several of my wife's pants just to make sure I haven't lost my mind.

As an interesting aside, it is true that all of the men's shirts I've bought in Vietnam button the "wrong" way.

Upon the advice of several on this forum, I trotted my happy self down to my local thrift store and perused the women's jean section. Evidently, I'm a size 4 petite. Who knew I was so tiny? I wound up picking up a size 4 regular also, which I had my mom hem, because the pantlegs were about 1 1/2" too long. Even my mom said that these fit me a lot better than men's jeans, and she's a little dubious of my fashion choices lately. Up to now, my technique had been to buy a men's 30-30 (no, not the rifle, LOL) straight-leg jean, wash them several times, and dry them hot, hot, hot, within an inch of their lives, trying to get them to shrink down. The consistent end result was a jean that fit pretty tight in the waist and seat, but still had about 3" of extra fabric around the thighs. Sloppy looking. And then the damn things would STILL catch on the backs of my mules. Now, with a boot-cut size 4, the upper legs are flatteringly close fitting, but the bottoms don't get caught between my foot and the back of my shoes, yay! So now what? I guess I'll use the five new pairs of men's jeans I just bought (got 'em for 5 bucks a piece on Black Friday) as work pants. Or give some of them to Goodwill. I don't think I can stand to wear those sloppy looking pants any more.

Don't knock fox news bud. It has just as much useful info as any other cable news network and just as much crap. It just depends on what you believe.

Sorry. I withdraw the comment. I probably overstepped my bounds. I'm an NPR kind of guy. Delete it if you think it's appropriate. However, I do NOT withdraw the comment about the Telegraph article. It WAS really dumb. LOL. If you can't walk in your shoes, please DON'T! There are some things we just don't need to see.

Somewhere on YouTube there used to be a video of a female tight-wire walker doing a routine in stiletto heels. However, despite searching for some time, I can't find it any more. It has probably been taken down. Too bad. It was really cool. Hey, I finally found it! It took me about 90 minutes, but here it is: Tightwire in high heels. Unfortunately, it's not the most high-def thing ever uploaded, but then again, it's pretty old. Enjoy!

Wow, that is the dumbest article I've read in a long time, not counting anything associated with Fox News. Also, is it just me, or are those shoes too big for her?

I've written a number of reviews of shoes, and in only one have I left a clue as to my gender, and the one time I chose to reveal my true identity was a very negative review. All the other reviews I can see don't list gender, though. I assume all of them were written by females.

I'm pretty new to this site, but I welcome you back also. I'm pretty much a Yank, having lived most of my life in Iowa, but my roots are from your neck of the woods, I consider myself a southerner, having been born and raised (for a while) in North Carolina.

mlroseplant,

Read your situation with great interest. Your situation may have the best parallel with what member lightknight8 said about his wife supporting his wearing high heels but couldn't quite support him polishing his toenails and wearing open-toe shoes. You'll see within that post that another member, freestyle75, crafted this graph thats shows the "space-time continuum" of a wife's acceptance of her husband wearing high heels and just how lucky lightknoght8 really is. The theme of that thread from the hhplace crowd was he should realize how lucky he is and try to abide by her wishes lest the support wane. I suggested that once his wife saw he was living by the limitations she set she'd probably suggest he start polishing his toes. I believe the advice in that situation is appropriate here. Dr. Shoe makes a great point about this and her opinions are always well though out an many others have echoed the same thing. Look closely at the two times she is most concerned; wearing heels to church and around her co-workers. These are precisely the two places most likely to generate negative attention and will become the nest of future gossip birds. Your wife appears to support you on all other occasions so take stock of that and realize she has weighed the situation and thinks this way is the best one to avoid potential trouble. The comment about wear your "real" shoes was dumb but probably said for emphasis rather than for accuracy. I think if she sees that you are abiding by her concerns, over time you may find that she may suggest a road trip somewhere where you both sport some heeled footwear and go enjoy yourselves. Communication is the master key to opening all doors throughout life. HappyinHeels

HappyinHeels, there is so much more to my current situation than what I'm letting on. Really, the heel-wearing will be fine, as long as I obey certain limits, which I am more than happy to observe. I am very unhappy to report that my wife's father is. . . well, basically dying. I won't get into the details, but he is not doing well, and I hope we make it to Vietnam before he dies (we leave 2 weeks from today). I am certain this has a lot to do with my wife's attitude. She is just not herself lately, and it's quite understandable. I am very sad to have to tell you this news. I may tell some stories about my father-in-law in the chit-chat section later. He is quite a remarkable man.

ilikekicks,

Let's see here as I rewind my life tape. I see a guy who played football for five years, served in the Navy for five years and have a nice 3" scar from Lebanon as a reminder of what happened to our Marines in 1983, fathered two kids, survived the Border Patrol Academy, was hit by a car in California by a man who blacked out from an epileptic seizure, am 53 years old and can still run a mile in under 7 minutes and (occasionally) can still do one-arm pushups. Yeah, I think my man-card is plenty safe so if I want to wear 5" heels on my way to get a bloody pedicure it's because I EARNED IT! There are those who never came back, or didn't come back the same, and can't make that choice. It is an extremely relaxing thing to do and your feet will be better off for it. I can, and do, take care of my feet at home but the personal relationship one develops with the same person that does your pedicure is worth makiing the trip. All of life is built upon a variety of such relationships, some brief some not but all worthwhile. HappyinHeels

First, I would like to thank you for your service. It's not everyone who is willing to put himself in harm's way for his country. But that's not my main thought. My main thought is what in the heck is this "man-card" thing, anyway? I work a pretty "macho" job as an industrial electrician, and I engage in a couple of different "macho" activities, like working on cars and small engines. I truly enjoy these activities. But I must tell you, I've never bought into the "macho bullsh**" mentality. I highly question the concept of what is "manly" and what is not.

I stopped in to visit our local nail salon today. I didn't go there to get a pedicure (though I plan to next week). I just stopped in to say "hi." It just so happened that one of the customers was somebody I knew. My son had fallen asleep in his stroller, so it allowed me the chance to have a decently long conversation. The thought I wish to convey is that I feel comfortable in the nail salon. Over the years, I have gotten to know quite a few people, so many customers know me and engage me when I visit. How does this affect my "man-card?" I really don't care. I hereby officially rebel against the entire concept of a "man-card."

Burt's Bees Hand Salve. Not terribly sexy, but I count on my hands to do multifarious tasks.

Now, here is a much better way of poking fun at Harvard University (as we would all enjoy doing). A businessman alumnus invited to lecture students at Harvard about his successful career was closing his long and boring speech by pointing out that he had based his success on the name of his alma mater. 'My principles', he said, 'are "H" for honesty, "A" for ability' "R" for resolve, "V" for value ...' - at which point a student in the audience murmured to his friend, 'I'm sure glad he didn't go to the Massachusetts Institute of Technology.'.

Hahahahahahahahahaha . . . hahahahaha . . . haha . . . ha . . . ha . . . huh. . . I don't get it.

On edit: Oh, oh, oh, oh, OK. You see, every American, like me, thought in his mind, "MIT." It took me a while. Sorry, I'm slow. Good one!

By the way, NONE of my Viet students "got it." My Dad loved it, however. So did my 13 year old son. Life is never boring if you don't let it be boring.

Honestly, I'm not the professional pedicure type. Taking care of ones own feet is quite easy. Other than that it's just pampering.

It may be just the way my feet are built (I tend to have problems with ingrown toenails), but these gals are able to do stuff I can't do at home, despite watching carefully many times. And ever since em Bình quit the shop, I don't get much of a pampering, LOL. Then again, I can't complain about the price. I am not at all sure I would pay the going rate to get pedicures on a regular basis, but I would never start a new construction job without visiting "the girls" first to make sure I finish the workday pain free at the front of my feet. I realize my situation is probably unique.

Is this about getting an actual pedicure, or is this more about painting your toenails? I say this only because my experience has been the exact opposite of yours. I have gotten regular pedicures for several years now, long before I ever thought of wearing heels. Of course, my situation is. . . well, rather unusual in that I don't actually have to pay for my pedis, at least not directly. As you may have gleaned from other threads, my wife and I are friends with the owner of a nail shop. As such, we are always taken care of, and any sort of payment is flatly refused. It's just the Vietnamese way. Of course, if something goes wrong at the shop, guess who is down there fixing it? You get the idea. Like I've said elsewhere, I almost have enough material for a novel, but not quite. There's a short story in the making for sure. Back to the instant topic, none of my friends or family thinks it's the least bit unusual that I get pedicures, but most think it's weird that I wear heels, and the nail shop girls are my biggest critics about that. So what gives? Maybe it's a cultural difference? As an aside, I don't let them touch my hands any more, as they do not seem to really grasp the concept of a guitarist's manicure.

This is a little story that I'm going to share with my Hanoi Open University students who are studying English in Vietnam. I'm sure many of you have heard this one before, but it's always amusing. This is my version of the story from deep in my memory. I hope the Vietnamese students "get" it. There's a good chance many of them won't without further explanation. There was once a boy who grew up poor. He was the son of a farmer. Every day, he worked hard in the fields and taking care of the animals. This boy had a dream that someday, he would study at Harvard University, the most famous university in America. So he studied very hard all through high school, did very well on all the exams, and got a scholarship to Harvard. On his first day of class at Harvard, he discovered he could not find his way around campus, because he had never been to the city before, and he became quite lost. He stopped two of his fellow classmates, one the son of a rich banker, and the other the son of a rich lawyer. “Hello friend,” he asked the banker’s son. “Can you tell me where the library’s at?” “You can’t end a sentence with a preposition!” exclaimed the banker’s son. The farmer’s son tried to explain, “Well, I was just--” the banker’s son cut him off rudely, and made a snobby comment to his friend, the lawyer’s son. “You see what happens when we let riff-raff like this into our fine institution? He can’t even speak the English language properly! This sort of thing will be the ruination of Harvard.” The lawyer’s son nodded his head in agreement. The farmer’s son considered this for a moment. “OK, friend,” he replied with a confused shrug. “Have it your way, then. So where’s the library at, ASSHOLE?”

If I were limited to one pair of shoes for the rest of my life, I'd probably just go barefoot. It seems like the most sensible thing to do. Barring that, I'd probably choose one of these: http://www.amazon.com/Sofft-Aviano-Color-Leather-Womens/dp/B005940NNQ/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1358413616&sr=8-1&keywords=sofft+aviano http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_ss_i_0_10?url=search-alias%3Dshoes&field-keywords=sofft+camden&sprefix=sofft+camd%2Cshoes%2C165 The first style, with the higher heel, is pretty much my default shoe around the house. I just walked 2 miles in these to run some errands today (it was a very nice day for January in Iowa). However, the second style is somewhat more versatile. I mow the lawn in these shoes. Climbing a ladder to clean out the rain gutters in these shoes is no problem. But then, it comes time to go to work. Like Stiletto2004, I'd about have to choose my Red Wing work boots, since I have to put food on the table, don't I?

I went through this same process about a year ago. I've owned a regular film 35mm SLR since I was about 12. When I went digital, some years ago, I bought various point-and-shoot cameras. Some of them had a certain amount of manual control, but it was often difficult to use. Long story short, what I wound up with is a Nikon 1. My intention was to buy a DLSR of some sort, but I took one look at the size of a DSLR vs. a "mirrorless" like the Nikon 1, and I thought to myself, "Who are you kidding, you're never going to drag that huge thing around with you--it will never get used." So I bought the Nikon 1. I am very happy with my purchase so far, after a year. I've got 2 zoom lenses. One is a mild wide angle to mild telephoto, and the other is a mild telephoto to long lens range zoom (300mm equivalent). These lenses are not particularly fast, though. That is the one drawback to buying into this system--your lens options are limited. They do make one fixed length lens (50 mm equivalent) that is f1.8, but the ones I have are f3.5 and f3.8 (at the non-zoomed end of the spectrum). I have not found this to be a handicap yet, but then, my photography tends to be more technical in nature (think "how do you disassemble/reassemble this car engine"), rather than sports/action. Sorry if I've muddied the waters, but I'm very happy with my not-quite-an-SLR camera. Good luck to you!