P08C

Thanks, I need to come up with some outfits to dress down the pumps. Pumps are my favorite style for sure. The outfit I am wearing with the booties would probably work with the red pumps, but I need to find something different. 99% I'm a shirt untucked kinda guy, so the formal styles are me trying something new. 

I just love the feeling of wearing heels and knowing i'm doing what I want and not caring about what other people think. It's such an amazing liberating experience. The courage to be myself is very fleeting, so i try to take advantage of it when I can. 

I'm in the military, and I know that if I was found out by my friends, about 75% would laugh and make jokes (and eventually move on), the other 25% would be cool and not really make a big deal out of it. The most important part is that it would end up just being something normal to the people I know, but getting over the initial hump and working through the shock that most people would show at first is the hard part. I'm quick with words and would be able to deflect really easily, but the hassle and stress of having to do that for a while is just kinda not worth it right now. So, most of my heeling is done away from the area I live in.

I wasn't sure if I should post this in a new thread versus my old thread, or in "share your best freestyle fashion pictures". Sorry if this infringes on any forum rules. I just wanted to share a few more pictures. 

I loved the nude Sam Edelman Hazel pumps so much I also bought them in red. I also picked up a pair of Michael Kors open toed booties that are super fun and really comfortable. I hope you enjopy the outfits. I realized most of the outfits I posted were pretty formal/dressy, like something you'd wear to the office. So with the Michael Kors booties I tried to dress them down a bit into a fun casual outfit. 

Thanks again, and my apologies if I posted in the wrong area. 

I'm not much of a coffee shop type person anyway. Thanks for the advice.

Thanks, I liked them so much I ordered a second pair in red! They're kinda pricey but worth every dollar.

Speaking of going out. I'm not too particularly fond of going out by myself without the moral support of my wife, but she'll be out of town for a month soon. So, my goal over the next month is to find comfort in being alone and trying some solo outings. Still not sure where to go or what to do, but it'll be an adventure nonetheless.

I do, and I will. I still get scared though. That hasn't gone away.

I got some new pumps and I was kinda feeling myself, so I wanted to share. Pictures are kinda bad quality, and my face is kinda awkward, but you get the drift. 

Wife told me that the plaid shirt made me look like forest gump in high heels. lmao!!!

Anyway, hope you like the outfits...and the dog!

Thanks for all the great responses. 

@MackyHeels to me it seems like your heels are serving a double purpose. 1. They make you look and feel great. 2. They're helping you filter out the people type of people you don't need in your life anyway. Life is too short to surround yourself with close minded people. 

Why are you so critical of a connection being drawn between homosexuality and males who wear high heels? There's nothing wrong with either of those. Why does it matter to you how an outside observer interprets your sexual identity? You know the truth, your significant other knows the truth, and your friends and family know the truth. To me, the only time this becomes a problem is if the person mis-identifying me begins to berate me for being who I am.

If you think about it, the are quite a few parallels that can be drawn between a straight man who wants to wear heels and a homosexual man. The two experiences are very similar. All the way from living a life  in the closet to worrying about how society will accept you if your secret is discovered.

Besides, I don't think the article ever said "I wear high heels because I'm gay" or "I'm gay because I wear heels." The two were discussed in conjunction, and also discussed in conjunction with gender identity as well. I can't think of a better way to subtly challenge social constructs of gender identity than being a man wearing heels as a man. 

His story, and nervousness wearing heels in public, would've fit in perfectly in one of those standard introduction posts we see here. I've posted a few of those and his description of what was going through his head and how he felt beforehand was dead on to how all of us felt our first time going out. 

In the end, if the reason someone doesn't want to wear their heels in public is because they don't want to be labeled as gay, then I think that individual has a lot more insecurities to work on than just wearing high heels.

I just read this fascinating article by a military man who wore a pair of heels to a military function. The man in question is gay and he discusses his life experiences as a homosexual Male in a very alpha male type environment. Although the article discusses his homosexuality it is most definitely centered around him wearing heels to make a statement about equality. 

The biggest thing I took away from this article is that no matter who you are, or where you come from, this thing that we like doing isn't easy. It's a challenge every step of the way. Your fears are validated and there's nothing wrong with being scared. Don't let your fears control you. Even though it is okay to be scared you can't let those fears dictate how you live your life. Be the best you that you can be, and live your life the way you want. 

I challenge all of you, "out" or "closeted", to put on those heels, acknowledge your nerves, sweat a few bullets, take a breath, and do that thing you've always wanted to do in heels. This guy is living proof that you can do it, and you don't have to be ashamed. Push yourself to new heights, and challenge yourself to be happy. 

Happy heeling!

On 3/24/2016 at 8:57 AM, chrism said:

IF I've done this right, here are the shoes that I have just worn cycling to work...

Those shoes are awesome! What are they and where did you get them?

3 hours ago, MackyHeels said:

Nice post and politically correct negative comments if you know it or not or clever to say the least.

Trashcan funny but i doubt this was a joke but from someone who sharpens the blade to let their opinions be known.

Good gauge on how to feel out your so called colleagues. My opinion worth anything, doubt anyone believes you wear four inch heels as everyday attire. In many minds they will laugh it off or figure on a stereotype, believing your want to voice out by hinting of your sexual preference changing. Even though it maybe not true people tend to make sense of what confuses them as the clever negative reply back to you.

Best retort to the trashcan is to write back, get with the times granny or grandpa i recycle my garbage like your reply.

I know for a fact that these individuals don't believe I wear four inch heels as everyday attire. They would be wrong if they thought that, because I don't. Due to extenuating circumstances where heel wearing is impossible for me, I haven't worn a pair of heels for nearly a year now. That will change soon enough. 

Funny enough, one of the questionable comments I received, not a negative comment, alluded to believing I was hinting at a sexual preference change. However, this is so far from the truth. I am happily married to a woman I have been with for over a decade now. She supports my clothing preference, and she has known about it since we first started dating. The most important part here, I just feel no desire to be with a guy, pure and simple.

Kind of off topic here...I don't know if you really are the Paul Duane or not, but if so, I follow you on instagram and am a fan of yours. So yeah, keep up the good work!

Here's a great meme that was posted by a friend of mine on facebook. I think this image is not only indicative of the times and, as the great Bob Dylan once said, how they are a changin', but it's also indicative of our mission here at the HHPlace. 

On a side note...

I recently uploaded a picture of myself wearing a pair of four inch heels, very tastefully of course, to facebook. I guess I wanted to provide some sort of shock factor to the people that know me, but I also did it as a way for me to demonstrate that I'm done caring about what people think of me or my outward appearances. I got a huge number of likes and very positive comments, and I didn't get any negative comments. However, I did get a couple comments that were neither positive nor negative. 

Anyway, keep up the good fight guys. The times are changing and we have nothing to fear. You are supported and your are accepted. All you have to do is be you and be happy. Don't stop loving yourself and don't stop loving your neighbor. 

I love those heels mlroseplant! Where can I get a pair?

Awesome look, P08C! You nailed it.

Thank you! Much appreciated! Going out isn't nearly as bad as I thought it would be. These things never are though.

Thanks for all the compliments. I really enjoyed my outfit.

As I said earlier, I would make another outing today.

October 16, 2014

For my outfit I wore a pair of skinny jeans with a heather red t-shirt and a military green jacket. I really enjoyed this outfit, however, I don't think that the t-shirt complimented my skin tone very well. Oh, well I guess. The shoes are Vera Wang peep toe pumps I picked up on sale from Kohl's a little over a year ago. They have a nice tall skinny heel with a platform.

Today's outing was relatively short. The wife and I went gritting for some Halloween stuff for our little one. We went to the same store as yesterday and another one just down the street. The crowds were also much smaller. I did get a couple stares...I think it was due to the fact that the shoes I wore today were very obvious. Anyway, this was short and I don't have much else to tell.

Let me know what you think!

Enjoy the pictures.

Thanks for the reply.

I think it went so well and I felt so good about it that I won't have any major qualms about doing it again. At least, that's how I feel about it right now. Got a few more errands to run tomorrow...so I'll probably have another update for everybody.

Well to follow suit with a lot of other guys in this forum I thought if start keeping a heeling log to mark some of my successes and/or failures with my outings.

If you read my last thread you know that I still hadn't gotten comfortable with the heels in public thing. I'm hoping to change that and keep you guys updated on how my adventures go.

Without further ado...here is my first outing in probably about 6 years or so.

October 15, 2014

The outfit I wore was pretty simple. A pair of skinny jeans I picked up for PacSun a while back, a black and white plaid shirt from JCPenny and a pair of Vera Wang Ankle boots with a 5" heel. I really enjoyed what I was wearing and still felt like I presented a masculine image.

Today I went out for my first time in years. I was very nervous but figured it was time to man up and live my own life. So, with eh support of my wife I finally did it.

First stop was a local thrift store to find some dresses for my wife. It was honestly pretty packed for 1 o'clock on a Wednesday. The stop went off without a hitch and the nerves faded away pretty quickly. I felt really good about myself. There was a couple at the thrift store speaking Spanish right next to me. Part of me wondered if they were talking about my shoes...I highly doubt it though.

Next stop was target to make a few returns and purchase a couple items. Same thing as the thrift store...very I uneventful. There was a large gaggle of new target employee trainees walking around. I did walk right past the group. Felt like I might've gotten a stare or two but you can't really tell.

Our final stop was to pick up a few groceries. Same as before...no comments, awkward stares or anything...just a normal trip.

Although I am 100% positive that I was noticed and 100% positive someone made a comment at some point the whole experience was very low key. The extra height also helped me locate some of the hard to reach items at the grocery store. My wife also said her worries melted away when we were in public because she was more concerned with what we were doing rather than what I was wearing.

It was a great time and I seriously want to do this every day! Haha. Anyway, enjoy the pictures and leave comments!

I don't really know the reason. I think it's the finality of being caught. I someone I know, that I would prefer didn't see me, sees me then there is no going back. They will forever know and there is no taking it back. A big part of me wants that to happen. If it does happen then I will have absolutely nothing to be afraid of anymore. Strangers laughing or making comments won't bother me as much, at least that's what I think, it's the ones that you know that seem to have the power over me. The impulsive side of me wants to just mindlessly post one of these pictures on Facebook or a social media site because hen there really is no going back and EVERYONE will know.

The type of heel really doesn't bother me. I am equally nervous about wearing more masculine boots as I am about wearing a pair of tall black strappy sandals (I would definitely take the sandals).

My wife and I are going second hand shopping tomorrow with the little one. I think I'm going to finally do it. Finally just buck up and be a man and stop letting others live my life for me. I want to live my life on my terms and nobody else's. Also, how can I tell my son someday to be himself and not care what others think if I can't practice what I preach. I want to be a good example and I think this is really the first step. My wife even tells me this and says I need some tough love, haha.

Anyways, we shall we what happens. Even though I don't post often every single one of you are a huge inspiration to me. I read the forum everyday several times a day and love seeing all the pictures and reading all the stories and hearing about all of your successes and failures. You're all such great people. JeffB's cAsual style and incorporation of skirts with his heel wearing and thigh boot guys crazy amazing outfits (and guts) are a few of the honorable mentions. Also, I am really really loving sleek heels' outfits. I'd like to work up to that someday. I especially love that awesome floral skirt and denim skirt in one of your recent posts on your thread. You're all fabulous and thank you so much

Picked up these awesome pumps from DSW. I really like this outfit. I don't post often but just wanted to share a few pics. I really want to go out and about dressed like this but I keep chickening out. How do you work up the nerve to just do it! My wife, although slightly reserved about it, likes the way I look and even supports my going out in public. For some reason I just can't work up the nerve. :,(

I don't know if this video has been shared here yet; it is one of the best videos I have found of a man wearing heels to this date. He does not go over the top nor does he look unnatural like a lot of people do. He looks like he belongs in these heels...completely and utterly natural. The music is kind of cheesy but that's besides the point. I apologize if this video has already been posted...when I saw it I just had to share it. Wonderful wonderful style!

Lol, it is very specific. I can't find them anywhere! I found some pumps that are similar but no boots.

For the longest time I've been looking for a pair of boots... I saw a lady wearing them several years back and it really caught my attention. It was a pair of black knee high boots with a white tip and the end of the heel. Looked really nice. The heel wasn't extremely high but not terribly low either; probably in the 2-3 inch ballpark. Could somebody help me find a pair of boots like this? I've looked and looked but can't seem to find them. Thank you all very much!

Is that Rochmond Virginia???

You couldn't resist what?!? Lol Stepping on the gum? Picking it up off the pavement and eating it? You were very vague with the juggle gum at the end...kind of humorous