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Hello everyone! It's been a while since my last post, so I'll give you a quick update. I found a new girlfriend who is absolutely wonderful. Shes very pretty, nice, fun to be around etc., and her high heel taste is absolutely exquisite!!! She's always in 4-5 inch heels and she loves platforms (she's 5' 2" btw). I've told her that I have a strong love for women's shoes/feet, and I told her that I knew how to walk in heels. She also knows of my many pairs of women's bedroom slippers (I HATE "Men's" Slippers). I never told her about my heels or showed her my ability to walk in heels until this weekend. We went to Nordstrom Rack in northern VA this past weekend where they have a huge selection of women's shoes from size 5 to 14. I told her that I was going to try on some heels when we went... to which she disapproved. It started a small conversation on the topic, but I ended it off with "don't knock it until you try it" and we left it at that. When we got there, we immediately gravitated to the shoes... We both share this love, so it was a natural move! She kicked off her shoes and began trying on all sorts of heels. I slid over to the women's size 12s and 13s and began trying on boots with no heels... to which she had absolutely no problem with. A she was trying on some open toe pumps, I grabbed a pair of size 13 black leather 4 inch pumps. I casually slid them on and began trying them out as I walked up and down the aisle. She had an uneasy look on her face. She continued trying on the heels she selected and walked back through the size 6.5 aisle. I finished up, put my shoes back on and put the pumps back. We put a pair of shoes on hold for her and left the store to walk the mall. We went into another store where I selected some men's pants and tried them on. After we left the store, she asked me "Were you going to buy those heels, and do you ever buy them?" I told her, I was thinking about it because I really liked them, and yes I buy them from time to time. She told me that it made her feel really awkward. I asked her how. She told me that it was just awkward to see, not in an I hope nobody sees me type of way, just in a personal awkward way. She also said that buying heels you wouldn't wear is a waste of money. I told her it's not a waste of money because it's something I like even though I wouldn't be wearing them out, and that I'm not blowing money on partying, drinking, smoking or other drugs as previous people she may know or have been in relationships with do. She also asked if I was a crossdresser or gay... to which I promptly told her no. I stated that I'm the same person that loves you and treats you like a queen... it's just a part of me that you're not used to seeing in other people. She became very emotional. She stated that she really loves me. She asked me if I was going to break up with her. I told her that I would never break up with her over anything petty. I did tell her however that she has a decision to make, because my love for high heels is a part of who I am. I told her that she can't love all of me except one part of me. It was a very emotional time... one of the toughest "outings" I've ever had. However, thanks to you guy's support, I believe I made the best of this situation. Thank you all for all of your posts and stories. It made it that much easier to do this. And to let you all know, we're still dating, and I'm going to spend the night at her place tonight... Keep u posted!

Very nice!

Hi! I also wear a women's size 13/14. Its difficult to find good heels in these sizes for cheap, but I am willing to share some of my secrets! Www.6pm.com has the cheapest heels on the internet. I found some heels for $12 there. You can make out like a bandit and get really nice styles in a true 14. Another place is www.barefoottess.com. They're a little bit pricier, but the quality is pretty good and they have more than heels. Google search J.Renee, Van eLI and Me Too and there will be sites that offer their shoes for decent prices... if all else fails, see if you can squeeze into some Payless sz 13's. I've actually found size 12 13 and 14 womens shoes at consignment shops ans thrift stores. Bottom line is that you've gotta treat this like a hunt though and you'll sometimes come up short with that option.

Hope this helped!!

I'm actually a manager for security at a certain department store. If someone wrongfully accuses you of stealing and they cannot provide proof (i.e., seeing you on camera, retaining footage, never losing sight, etc.) then you could be looking at a pretty serious pay day. If I'm ever wrong about a customer stealing(which is rare, but does happen even to the best officers), I am always courteous and apologetic and NEVER TOUCH THE CUSTOMER. Sounds like these people definitely violated your rights sir. I think a chat with the manager should be in order. It's one thing for them to be wrong, but it's another for them to have grabbed you and be rude. Let us know how it turns out!

Now for something completely different, high heeled UGGs,

Now that, sir, is an abomination! The toe is hideous and the heel is unattractive. With all that being said, they're probably rather comfortable! Lol

Incredibly uggly, but oddly attractive on the right pair of feet when worn with a nice outfit. I've never tried the authentic Ugg boots on, but I have tried on the slippers and they are fantastic! Not totally sold on them though!

Hi! And welcome to the wonderful world of high heels! Bravo on your decision to pursue your shoe desires and indulge in your curiosity. Being a guy who likes heels is difficult at first, but with time and patience, you'll be able to overcome your own stigmas and wear heels like they're any other shoe! I've been shopping for womens shoes more and more lately, and I've found that the majority of the public does not care about what u wear. When shopping, I am often helped out by the staff at the stores and they're very kind. Its really all in your head when it comes to trying on shoes at the store, so with time, you'll realize this. As far as sizing for the best fit, I've found that when you add 1.5 to your mens size, you'll find a comfortable fit for most of your womens shoes. There are plenty of exceptions to this rule, but its the easiest to keep in mind. Don't worry about others when trying on your shoes, as ppl will a) not care, and have their own opinion anyway, which still won't matter. Have fun!

Men find any excuse to wear high heels ! Why can't you raise awareness of breast cancer without wearing heels ?

You're actually very correct in your thinking. I think breast cancer awareness is important period. My mother recovered from a fight with breast cancer so I support finding a cure strongly.

As for needing a reason to wear heels, again, society has brainwashed us into thinking that "this is for boys and that is for girls". So, guys have to use dumb reasons like that to avoid ridicule. At least that's what I gather from it.

I'm trying to break my own stigma... I just have to be patient, then as you stated, I wont have an excuse... I'll just do it.

My first heels were some Pink 5" Ellie Pumps. I ordered them from out of curiosity from ebay for roughly $20. I really enjoyed wearing those shoes... ended up throwing them away because I was nervous that someone would find them when I went home for summer vacation...

Hi everyone!

I just wanted to share my adventure from this Saturday! As I posted previously, there was a Breast Cancer Awareness Walk where the men were to wear high heels.

Unfortunately, I had class (and I paid too much to not go!) so I missed out on the fun. I still went to where the event was held hoping that I could catch the end of the event and still give my charitable donation.

I got there with dark red painted toes, some toe rings, and an anklet... I was so ready! When I got there however, EVERYTHING was gone! There were no flyers, banners, handouts on the ground... NOTHING!!!

Now, I'm not to the level of most of our friends here on hhplace, so I didnt muster the couraage to go out in my 3.5 inch platforms to look for anyone. So, I slid on my black Tom's and walked into the restaurant where the after party was scheduled to be held.

When I walked in, I saw 5 people with "Hunks in Pumps" Shirts there, 2 guys, and 3 girls... (the guys were no longer wearing pumps). After donating $10 , some small talk and information exchanging, I left, feeling a little disappointed. Here I was, at the tail end of what could have been one of my most exciting days of heeling... ruined by the need to be educated! lol

So, I decided that I was not going to leave without taking a stroll in my shoes! I hopped back in the car and drove around to a new subdivision that is being developed and slid on my brown and tan wooden heels (the ones in my profile pic). I felt a huge rush as I got out of the car and walked down the street.

It felt absolutely incredible. The feeling was exhilarating to say the least... I really cant put it into words, but I loved being that high up, with the wind blowing between my toes and my heels slapping against my soles. It is amazing that a pair of shoes can make you feel this good. I walked around the neighborhood for about 10 minutes then got back into my car and went directly to the gas station, where I pumped gas while still in heels. No one was around to really notice, but I really didn't care. I was happy to be free from my own mental roadblocks and out in my heels.

When I got home, I even made a video about them and posted it on youtube! lol... (check it out here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=nuvO0FsK7Oo).

I'm really excited and nervous about the direction this is going in. I find myself loving heels and other forms of women's shoes more and more, however, it doesn't fit in with my social aspects and aspirations! I'm so torn... I'm trying to be confident about it though, so we'll see where it goes! Thanks for your support!

Hello All!

I just wanted you all to know that there is a Breast Cancer Awareness drive going on this coming Saturday (Oct 22, 2011). Its going on in the West Broad Village area of Short Pump in Richmond, VA.

Its going to be alot of fun! Let me know if you're in the area and you're interested!!

Here's the link for more info: http://www.q94radio.com/pages/hunksinpumps.php

I really like your style heelguy! Your outfits and shoes are very well put together! I really like how you wear all your clothes! I can't find a single critique! Keep doing what your doing!

Dont feel too bad! I have been out with nothing feminine on at all and have been approached by gay men. I dont believe I give off a gay vibe, but from what I have been told by gay men... gay men are attracted to men that have a good sense of style. Take it as a compliment! lol And I thought that was the funniest emoticon I have ever seen in my life... I clearly imagine your face as it was happening! lololol... too funny!

I'm getting there!!! I'm 27 and I'm experimenting with alot of women's shoes at the moment; not just heels. I wore some brown oxford lace ups while I was in Atlantic City last weekend! It was a huge rush! I was extremely nervous the entire time... but I did go to a few stores while out there and tried on plenty of heels and boots. Courage is being built up daily!!!

Thank you all for your wonderful responses. Believe it or not this helps more than you know!

I suppose the bright colours are purely a cultural thing (as the topic of this thread goes to), simply standing out from the next guy. Heels, however, are still globally looked on as a mark of femininity, and when a guy wears them, the social implications jump out. "He thinks he's a woman, he wants to be a woman, he's gay."

LYS, I can see how it'd be harder for a black fella than white - I work with a lot of black ladies, and amongst the single girls, the story is always the same: "Why can't I find a strong, black man?" Strong always comes first. I dunno - maybe it's a subliminal thing? After all the shite that black people had to go through in America, maybe deep down they feel like they need protection, which means the "manlier man" the better?

For your comment in the second paragraph, I've done a great deal of reading on this subject and without going all activist, the myth of all black men needing to be "strong" has been perpetuated throughout our culture as the thing to be. Hence you have tons of physically gifted but somewhat intellectually shallow black men.

That point goes back into my initial point about close-mindedness when it comes to heels. I feel as though many AAs just dont want to think outside the box. Those who do are challenged all the time by AA men and women as gay or "he think he better than us". (LOL at the bad grammar).

At any rate, I think what it all boils down to is the fact that I need to get over my fears and just go with it when the time calls for it. Black, White, whatever... they're going to have an opinion anyway.

I read on the site earlier today that "You may not have the chance to wear them one day" so I think I need to just grow a pair and wear my heels (masculinity pun intended!).

Thanks again!

I always thought the opposite. I admire the fact that black people tend to wear clothes that are more colorful and sometimes more 'out there' than others. Specifically, on Sunday I see guys in great purple suits and pin stripes. Black women wear the most outrageous shoes everyday that a white girl would only wear to the most formal events.

I can understand the masculinity thing but from a fashion standpoint, I think blacks have looser rules.

Odd, right?

I have seen some hilarious things in my time, dont get me wrong... The brightest oranges, purples, pinks, etc, but heels on men is something that is harshly frowned upon.

Great point though.

Just checked out www.Zappos.com for the first time in a long while! They've certainly stepped their game up! Heels in W14!!!!! Here we go!

6'2" 230, athletic build!!! Still love the way I look in heels!

BFT has done wonders for me, as I'm into not only heels, but "women's" styles in general. Does anyone else know of any shoe companies that sell NICE shoes in a women's size 13/14? I'm looking for higher fashion and quality... Louboutin doesn't like my size yet!

I was wondering from an ethnic standpoint what struggles everyone deals with. Out of curiosity, does any ethnicity feel any more/less pressure from their race when it comes to wearing high heels or any other women's shoes. For example, I am a black male. I am 6'2" 230 with an athletic build. I feel as though I would be judged more harshly from black men and women for wearing heels and "decreasing" my masculine stature. I feel as though African Americans are extremely judgmental toward one another. Everything is about how much better you are than the next person, from clothes, to cars, to the music that is mainstream in our culture. The point I'm getting at, is that for me, I feel as though wearing heels will be seen as giving up my masculine nature by these people. Its funny that I don't feel the same pressure from white, hispanic, asian, etc., but only with other black people. I promise I'm not starting this thread to step on anyone's toes, I'm just curious of what experiences you have had with this and what advice you can give me to get over myself! Thanks!

I'm the first to say I'm not a Bieber fan... I readily admit that. With that being said, I must say that the kid is smart in the department of JUST BEING JUSTIN BEIBER! Be yourself, be comfortable... simple yet effective message. Now, as far as all the comments on the bottom of that page, I was appalled at how stupid, careless, and rude the general population was. Half of the comments were ridiculously misspelled (I'm not perfect, but come on!), and he's gay for wearing clothes that fit? I'm no homosexual expert, but I thought you had to have a sexual preference of intercourse/sexual actions with the same sex in order to be gay? Gay for wearing "women's" jeans? Now, again, I'm not all into cross-dressing either, but am I gay for wearing patterned socks from the women's section? I guess so now! People are so stupid... We've got to break the cycle of ignorance! Clothes for men, Clothes for women, Guy Shoes, Girl Shoes... The next time someone says to me "Are you wearing girl shoes?" I will reply "I didn't know they had a _u$$y"

Hello and welcome! You've definitely come to the correct place! We all admire heels here, and everyone here that I've seen is pretty open minded and will encourage you to be yourself and just wear your heels! Like yourself I come from a VERY conservative background. To most of the people I know, men in heels = gay... no questions asked. its difficult, so I pick and choose my battles when it comes to wearing heels in public. My mantra here seems to be that If we all do it in good taste, it wll catch on. So, just get out there and make it work! Enjoy yourself, and again welcome!

Thank You Shafted... that really helped! I think I put more into it than needs to be put. PS How do I Register a Thank You (where it adds to your Thanks?)

I wish man! My dad is a minister, so that conversation WILL NOT go very well. I'll make it happen in due time. The plan is to slowly crossover. I have quite a few pairs of women's shoes that pass as "normal" so I'll keep pushing the envelope until I can fully break the barrier! I'm excited and nervous, but it's a part of me that I can't continue to hide. Again, I strongly believe that if we all just say "screw it" and start wearing them IN GOOD TASTE (Can't stress that enough) then it WILL catch on. Ugh, being a pioneer is difficult! lol...