JNR

I'm not sure you should initiall offer tomatch your SO one for one, both for wearing time and for height (not that some people here wouldn't want to!). As long as you're pretending to wear (try to wear) the heels for her, then you may not want to appear to be too eager. In this case, prorating your heel involvement compared to her I think is a perfectly acceptable compromise.

Time is pretty easy. You can say, "I'll wear heels {once a week, once a month} if you wear yours regularly." The amount of time would depend on how often she wears hers:

- if you want her to wear hers daily, then once a week or on the weekend would be good

- if she'd only wear hers on the weekend, maybe one night a week that you go out, then once a month is a good amount.

What I think wouldn't be a good ratio is if she says she'll wear hers once a month, but you say I'll wear mine every weekend. That actually makes you the primary heel wearer, and I think will set off some red flags pretty quickly.

The heel height is a second factor you need to account for. If part of the challenge is to get her to wear 4" heels when you go out with her, I wouldn't assume you need to show her you can wear 4" heels first (at not initially). While she may not have worn high heels all her life, assuming she has worn heels, she'd have years, perhaps decades, of having worn heels. That's experience that you can't be expected to pick up in a weekend or two.

How you'd want to play that is up to you. If you want her to wear 4" heels out, then you could say, "How about if I wear 3", is that good enough? (if you don't want to go up to 4")" Now, if you'd want to wear the same height as her, you could stretch it out, saying, "I need a month at 2", a month at 3", before I can get up to 4". That might be better for you, since it gives you an excuse on why you need to wear them more often. It also allows you to wear higher heights, maybe get her to wear higher heights if she agrees to match you inch for inch.

In any case, you'd want to make sure your interest and enthusiam for heels appears to be more help her wear high heels more, than for you to wear them.

This scenario is way to complicated.

"KISS" The next time the opportunity arises, just tell her that you like heels and would be happy if you could wear them. If she's not OK with that or you "rip it" completely apart, then so be it.

Quit over analyzing the situation. JUST GET ON WITH IT, MAN!

Thank you - I have tried but its not allowing me to add a avatar or a profile pic, maybe i will just have to wait a little while for it all to be accepted, no worries.

And thank you for the welcome, is the forum busy?

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There is a thread that contains all of the ins and outs of membership here. It explains not only expected conduct but at what points members are allowed access to these features. And, it is highly recommended by the moderators that all new members read it so they won't clog up the system asking questions who's answers are easily found by reading the introductory postings.

Email Gina/Queen of Heels. I bet she could tell you. (QOH/Gina on the member's list()

Thanks for the positive comments!

I've spent the whole evening reading this forum. There is so much to take in!

My feet are sore from a full weekend of walking out in my new boots. I've got blisters on the top of the outside two toes on my right foot. I'll have to put some protection over them next time. I was wearing a thin pair of ankle socks but perhaps better socks will help next time?

Still, it was great fun!

I've just found that I can now upload pictures:

Talk about wanting attention! Many you've got a lot of courage to appear walking through a mall wearing that outfit.

Might want to look up the history of someone calling themselves Aoife. Supposedly she wore only ballet heels, although if the story is true she's had quite a few problems also. Take a peek on google and see if you can track her down for advice.

Perhaps to be a little more informed, although it's not at all the same (but close) would be to study a little Chinese history, especially about the practice of feet binding. On several of my visits to China, I've personally seen very old women survivors form that era (in the more provincial areas) and listened to some of their tales of hardships they've experienced from the practice.

It's not all fun.

Just remember to take out the plastic bags before your hubby puts his feet in the shoes. It'll work better that way.

Steve

And, also keep in mind that since the frozen water in the shoe was in a plastic bag, you can crush it and put it in your Gin and Tonic drinks

Wouldn't an easier solution be a warning that you wear stiletto heels at your own risk and that any injury incurred as a result of wearing stiletto heels would not be covered under New Zeland's Health Care...therefore, treatment would be at the wearer's expense?

Very nice...like the second pair shown best...congratulations

Isn't it amazing how tastes differ? I really like the 1st pair better. How about some info on them? (A link to where you bought them would be just fine )

My partner has gone out for the evening. However she appears to be oblivious to the fact that there is almost 12 inches of snow yet she is wearing a pair of Christian Louboutin shoes that are peep toe and have a 5 inch heel!!!! Is it just me or are there others who would agree with her???

First of all, I'm very surprised that any red blooded male even let her out of the house by herself when she was wearing such sexy shoes.

Secondly, she should at least be wearing a pair of overshoes covering those shoes. The cost of a pair like that is almost equal to the national debt of a 3rd world nation. It would be a real shame to ruin them from moister, not to mention frosty toes from open toes......

Is anyone else watching the Victoria's Secret fashion show that is being broadcast by CBS here in the US? Gorgeous women, skimpy costumes and some awesome high heels. (I keep looking for kneehighs and his camera in those shots of people along side of the runway but haven't spotted him, yet......Also I am taking close note of the models trying to figure out which one he is dating these days. Since I can't recognize her, I guess I'd have to choose the entire bevy of them and just imagine that he's dating them all. )

ashton, no it is not me in the pic...I replied to your PM with a link to a thread I started about them.

I thought I recognized the picture from an Bob and Angie's ebay site. Am I wrong? (They are members here, you know?)

Hello

I'm semi-desperately looking for a large painting or print of a tasteful shot of a lady with nice legs "shoe dangling" - as a present for my husband. (Ideally in red shoes, but that's a detail).

I'd've thought you could find one anywhere but no joy so far! I would be grateful if anybody could point me at such a thing

Thank you

Email our member Gina/Queen of heels (QOH) Perhaps she has one of herself or can tell you where you can get one.....(Find her on the Request thread)

torment

The clip has been removed from Utube.....what was wrong with it?

The D'orsay pumps are exactly like a pair I have from Ellie with 6½" heels. The boots are a little too "SM" looking for me,

We went to town today and we brought some heels

http://www.newlook.com/shop/womens/shoes/velvet-bow-court_199721401

Funny enough they had size nine and I'm a size ten, so I tried them on and they fitted me so she brought me the same pair, obviously I had to pretend I've never worn heels before lol

I suggested your idea of wearing around the house and she said that's a good idea(thanks for that)

I said to her everytime she's wearing her heels I would wear mine,

I'm hoping she's going to actually walk in them, not try them for a day and then put them on the shelf

Even if she doesn't wear hers, go ahead and wear yours. What's the point of buying heels together if the only time you wear them is when you both wear them? Just tell her that now that you have heels, you think that you should wear them.....

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Will there be another chapter?

Dr. Shoe - must be because of your experience

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Just re-read it. A good story.

Nice story

Bump:silly:

Will there be more to this story?

Bubba, little does he know...I'll bet you that he'll be wearing heels before the end of the summer.