StormClaw

Hey all.Been a long time since I posted anything or been in heels.A lot of things changed recently. This is one great community and great support, thanks for the support but long story short Im saying good bye for now. Ill leave my profile up and visit from time to time. Good bye

Ive worn my thigh boots over my jeans, 5inch knee boots over my jeans and 2 other pairs under my jeans.It all depends on what you make of it I guess.The times I did was good.Got a lot of exposure,so if youre not ready for it dont do it.A lot of people looked at me,no negative comments.Just got one guy joking with me and the girl I was with and the one girl in a shop complemented me. So I guess if you walk around stressing etc it can be bad.If you walk around like its normal it can be a fun and good day.

She will bring it up again, better that you pick the time for the next one. Trust me, dealt with this in my teens.

Stormclaw, put yourself in your mother's situation. She'd like to know the whole story and is obviously seeking confirmation that you're ok. This is a perfect invitation for you to sit down with her and explain how you feel, that you're not alone (refer her to this forum for proof!) and that you're the same loving son you always were. Come out of the closet with your shoes on! Once your parents accept this aspect of your character, it will be a load off your shoulders and theirs, too. I'm sure they'd welcome the same relief. Go for it!

Steve

Rockup and Steve, you are right.There will be another time and when we talk about it I will tell them everything.refer to this site of awesome like-minded people and share this part of me with them.But I will wait, everything has a place and time.so when they bring it up Ill know they feel right for the rest of the story.Its already a lot of my shoulders that they "Know" about it finally, now I don't have to hide it that much.

Stormclaw..

People really dont care. You had a few pairs of shoes in your closet. It wasnt a few kilo's of cocaine or opiates. It wasnt something illegal or anything like that.. Shoes? Really?

Be well!

-ILK

That is very true haha.Thats what I always say, at least Im not wasting my money and time on drugs etc.And yes they are only shoes, but it kind of feels I dont want to disappoint my dad too much.I still want to be his son of whom he's proud if you know what I mean.When my mom brought up my heels this weekend with him in the room was great.now they have time to adjust to it in their minds.The time will come when we have a good chat about it.

Thanks for all the input,Ill just let it grow in their minds for a while.For now Ill just keep enjoying heels.

I'm sure she already knew but just wanted you come out with it. I good parent who's around knows that sort of thing about there kids.

That is true.My sister knew about my boots for a while and noticed my heels standing in my room a while back.But I always had a feeling that my mom knew,and like you said.A good parent knows whats going on.

I'd say have a chat, but be sure to mention you did not appreciate the way she brought it up in front of others as it is something you still keep to yourself a bit.

It wasnt the best way to bring it up but its over and done with.Its out and even though she brought it up like that Im glad its out of the way and that they know.if she brings it up again I'll just have a decent chat about it.

Your next challenge will be to wear them at home for your mum and dad to see, and be comfortable in them at home as well as when going out. Best of luck and let us know how it goes.

Haha Blacksheep I wish.They wont be that comfortable to see me in heels.Not my dad.So I'll leave that until they ask me to show them,if that never comes then so be it.They know and it went off really good,so that to be honest is all I want for now.

This week the biggest fear bomb fell on my world. A little back ground,I moved into my friends' (guy and girl) house to look after their cats and home while they went back to South Africa to get married.Its a time span of a month so I decided to take a few of my heels with if I want to go out etc.I left about 3 pairs at my house in the closet,big mistake. Long story short, my mom basically looked in my closet for a heater(dont know why there) and saw the heels.I thought that they knew about them for quite a while since my mom gets hangers etc in my closet sometimes without my heels being hidden. All of a sudden Thursday when she came over with the heater, she asked me why are there heels in my closet, I dodged the question with a not now because my friend was with me at that time. But I knew the time will come when she asks again. That time came tonight when I went back to my home for a BBQ. All of a sudden,loud and clear with my dad and sister in the room she asks,"Son why are there high heels in your closet".My dad just looked at the tv totally causally haha. I looked at my mom and just said they are mine, I smiled and looked at the tv.My mom said sort of in joking voice to my dad,Im beginning to worry about this son of ours. So when I went home I sent her a text message, thanks for the food and don't worry Im fine in the sense of being straight( think she worried a bit about that,dont know why ). She merely replied my pleasure,and remember if you ever want to talk Im here and we love you. For the guys my age still hiding this from your parents,it just shows you. The love your parents have for you is magnificent. No matter who you are they will always love you,and here I was wondering when this bomb will go off and how it will play off.

One piece of advice I can give since I went through the same.Dont wear heels in front of him when meeting up or going out. Happened to me and a friend as well, I actually told him one day,and wore heels in front of him a few days later. He wasn't very impressed or comfortable so I took them off to keep things cool. Humans are weird when faced with big changes we normally start with confusion,worry,anger and then acceptance. We need to adjust on our own time and terms. Good luck

I told a few friend's lately and till so far there reaction is, So what..

Guess is more in my mind than in others.

I have found that if they know you well enough,know who you are inside,they dont care what you wear on the outside.It can backfire, when I told my one mate he didnt understand why,its just not us (South Africans,some of the fellow SA heelers will understand).But my other friend and his fiancé don't care because they know who I am.

CRabbit,sorry to hear about your situation, hope it improves in time.

hunnybun those are beautiful.I love the black pair with the blue heel.

danielp and JSLS those are very nice and beautifull boots.danielp I doubt any of us can say no if we find shoes like that on sale

Fumikaheels those are very beautiful and feminine.Nice purchase

Very nice shoes. I also like the color.

Too bad I'm not comfortable wearing open toe shoes...

Nice shoes! I am not a huge plat fan but I don't mind the odd hidden plat like those. And I love the color!

I like the platforms but not too high.These are fine for me.Might try them out this week in public.And I still love the colour.I see its a cobalt blue if that helps you guys.

Imroter & Bluejay that blue colour is exactly what attracted me.Just the wrong colour if you dont want to be noticed

Over the last 2 months Ive bought 2 pairs of heels,nothing special.But today I bought the pair that Ive been inlove with since I saw them last year November.They never had my size,but today they were on special and they had my size

So finally bought them and wow,what a dream they are to walk in.So soft and comfortable.

http://i1265.photobucket.com/albums/jj510/stormclaw1/Boots%20and%20heels/IMAG0277.jpg

Glad Im not the only one on a high heel forum that like them.I must say I like them,very comfy as well.And yes I agree, they do look cute on girls. Dr. Shoe looks like youll have to ban more than one of us

Back when I started I never told anyone.After finding this site my mind started to wander about heeling infront of friends and in public etc. So I actually talked to my best friends' fiance about fashion and told her I or showed her about some heels I like, was Christians' heels.That started a conversation about me wearing heels. She told me if I want to do it and I feel comfortable I should do it.I asked her what my friend will think and she told me he will be fine,and she actually told him which I found out later on.So after a few days we talked and I asked him if she told him about something completely different,and he replied yea she told me about the shoes and he doesnt care about it because he knows me.So one day I showed up at his place with boots over my jeans and they still dont care. So Im bascially getting at, take it easy and slow.Start with talking that you like heels or something in that line.Dont push it and suddenly show up at their house or a event with heels without them knowing you wear heels.Everybody reacts differently.My other friend was so shocked I never even mention heels in front of him anymore.So take it slowly. And....if they love you enough family/freinds they'll accept you like you are

You're right! The world isn't ready - yet.

“Be the change you want to see in the world." Mahatma Gandhi

Just start small and take it step by step.Like Katlyn said, if anyone asks, just tell the truth.

Good outing.Sounds like it was fun even with the flu. What amp and guitar do you have? Get better soon.

hello everyone, i came across a guy in a shopping centre wearing heels & around him people were looking at him, laughing, saying inappropriate comments, since its awkward people seeing men wear heels in public i want to know if any of use had any conflicts or received inappropriate words, it's a scary experience if a male decides to wear heels in public, has anyone here came across this???? any advice???

sorry if someone already posted a similar thread to mine...

Ive actually been hit on by a guy.Havent received any negative comments.One possitive one but a girl probalby 3 years younger than me and then being hit on by a guy.Thats was weird.

Adive?Keep it cool.Some of the mroe experienced heelers have done very well and we( us inexperienced ones) can learn from that.

My dream would be to wear a pair of black thigh boots in a busy shopping town and walk around the place, without a care in the world, but that will never happen, life sucks.

Its not that difficult. Thanks to guys like JeffB and ThighBootGuy and a bunch of other guys I wore my black 5" Pleaser thigh boots in a mall.Twice

And a month ago I wore knee high boots openly in a very busy christmas packed mall.A photo was snapped of which I was aware of but meh...I dont worry.

So like Bubba said,take from ThighBootGuy's thread what you can and go for it

Well today was fun Went out for lunch and to look at laptops with a girl friend.She knows about my heel love.When we met I liked her,but decided to tell her about the heels straight up,if anything form from the friendship she will allready know what shes in for. Last week we went for coffee and had a good chat about heels.Well yesterday I asked her if she wanted to meet up again and asked if it would be ok with her if I wore my boots,unexpectedly I got a "Yea sure its no problem" reply. So today I went out,skinny jean,5" heel & 1" platform black boots.Was a bit nervous in my car but plucked up my courage and just went for it.(ps it helps if you dont have anything else to wear in your car and you need to get out )Got one idiot trying to look brave infront of his buddies,drove by while I was walking and shouted something.Other than that I just had looks from a lot of people."Men in heels" really got some good exposure today as the mall was packed with people.Public heeling with someone is really easier on your confindece and acting normal than it is when Im alone. Had my first compliment as well.Walked into a book store and the one girl said she really likes my boots and told me her boyfriend wears heels all the time.No idea if he is a member here but I told her to tell him about this forum. Well all in all I had a wonderfull day and so did she.Might be up for another outing with her after I get back from South Africa next year.And when the mall is less crowded

Nice outing there mate,thats the problem with heeling now,shops are so damn busy.Why is it that everyone always assumes we are gay?Had the same thing with one girl friend.First question she asks,are you sure you arent gay. Im glad your dad took it allright.Ive really been in the same situation.Parents just barge in my room and my heels stand there for everyone to see but they've never said anything.The other time I had boots in my car trunk,coverd it because my dad and I installed a new trunk lid.Next moment he pulls of the sleeping bag and asks whose those are,I just closed the lid and said no ones,never heard anything after that but after that he must know they are mine.So you are really fortunate that your dad took it well.

CRabbit I like the black ones.Very nice buy

Mmmmmmm, I like. Even with the peep toe, I like

Hahaha thats what I thought the first time saw them.Just had to have them.Planned on spending $50NZD that day on another pair but nah.When I saw these I had to have them.Spent $100NZD but so worth it

Sorry for the delay.Heres the whole shoe.

http://i844.photobucket.com/albums/ab7/serunox/Boots%20and%20Heels/P1020237Copy.jpg

Thanks Wile_E_Coyot and MSpookshow.Was the first time I took those wedges out for a public outing.Havent been a big wedge fan until lately.