Magickman Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 Chris, over in Manchester, UK, had some small trepidation, about wearing his heels, while shoe shopping. But he did it. Some other posters report that they don't yet feel ready for public heel wearing. Still others, here, have difficulties related to keeping the secret from wives and girlfriends. Secrecy breeds fear, and begets pain. We do not need live in a state of clandestine fear and apprehension. Let me tell you. I feel the suffering of high heeled men, who live in the shoe closet. Fear of the unknown shackles their public lives. That is a terrible thing. My story is altogether different. I do not worry about being seen in high heels. They are my trademark. People accept me, as I am. Rather than worry about a woman finding out that I wear high heels, I wear the heels, when I go out to meet women, and on dates. Sure, there are a few gals who see my heel boots, and go bananas. They make a sour face, and head for the hills. These women are no great loss. They wouldn't like me, anyway. Being the man in heels is much less difficult, than you might imagine. People do not call me names, nor challenge me to fight. I have never been run out of town. And ... a lot of the girls like it. My social life, as a high heeled man, is better than it has been in years.
chris100575 Posted January 7, 2007 Posted January 7, 2007 I'm the same, I'm single at the moment, but I'm going to be upfront about my heels when I do meet someone. I've gotten too comfortable with being out of the shoe closet to try going back in. Anybody who can't accept me as I am is not going to be a good long-term prospect. Chris
wood&metal Posted January 8, 2007 Posted January 8, 2007 I've recently had a woman bugging me to go out on a date with her. I've told her that i'm not particularly interested in a date for several reasons, but she's being rather persistant. So..... I've come to the conclusion that if she keeps on, this may turn into my first street-heeling adventure. I do believe she is the type who would run away screaming at the sight of a guy in heels. So perhaps I could "kill two birds with one stone" so to speak. But then again sometimes my plans do backfire. Never frown because you never know who is falling in love with your smile.
chris100575 Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 See, if that was me I'd turn up in heels hoping that she'd run off and she'd love them! You could always tell her that you're busy seal hunting this weekend. Chris
johnieheel Posted January 10, 2007 Posted January 10, 2007 I to am right up front in the beggining. I tell her that it's a part of me that is not going away and will always be there and if it goes away then a part of me also goes and that makes me not whole. Either she excepts it and enjoys it with me or asta la vista baby! real men wear heels
Guy N. Heels Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I'm the same, I'm single at the moment, but I'm going to be upfront about my heels when I do meet someone. I've gotten too comfortable with being out of the shoe closet to try going back in. Anybody who can't accept me as I am is not going to be a good long-term prospect. Chris RIGHT ON! While I don't necessarily advocate wearing heels on the first date (you have to use judgement on these things), the subject of heels, earrings, etc. should be addressed early-on. Then if the gal freaks out, change the girl. Keep on stepping, Guy N. Heels
HeeelMan Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 I've just set up 2 dates with women. I have told them both about my heels. There have been some questions about do i like to wear other womens cloths and both have accepted its just heels. Will see how it goes when I meet them. Wish me luck, tomorrow and Thursday
Fog Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Awww Kneehighs Don't give all your secrets away! You're dead right - watch the body language - it never lies! And if it doesn't happen it's not your night, so you don't have to try and fail. All of that's a long way behind me though.
phil_hh Posted January 23, 2007 Posted January 23, 2007 Hi, Following on from Guy N Heels' post, I think there is a definite culteral difference between the UK and the US in one of the points you made. Perhaps I've interpreted your post incorrectly, but you seem to equate a guy wearing ear rings (whether on a first date or otherwise) with a guy wearing high heels. I found this out for myself when I've been over to the US on business. I have both ears pierced and wear a matching pair of ear rings all the time. I used to wear little diamante studs. I got a few strange looks from everyone including the really huge Customs / Passport guy at JFK airport. I never understood why I was getting looked / stared at until one of my work mates (in Salt Lake City, by the way) asked me why I would want to do a strange thing like wearing a pair of ear rings. A brief chat about it informed me that this was not the norm in the US (and not, apparently in SLC). I had absolutely NO idea. I have been wearing 1" diameter silver hoops since Christmas (which someone bought for my wife as a Christmas present, but as soon as I laid eyes on them, they were in and she hasn't got me out of them yet)! In the UK, a guy wearing ear rings (even a matching pair of hoops) is no big deal. Even for customer facing work / sport / night out with the lads, etc it's a complete non-issue. Maybe for some people (and maybe for some girls dating guys) having a guy in ear rings IS much the same as a guy in heels. For me though, wearing ear rings is 100% fashion and 0% "fetish" / excitement (I use the former adjective rather loosely, so don't anyone berrate me for it). All I can say is that I hope that wearing high heels does NOT become the norm. When I go out (rather tantatively at present, but confidence is building) in high heels, I want it to be 50% fashion and 50% excitement. At the moment though, it's about 5% fashion and 95% terror!!
BobHH Posted January 24, 2007 Posted January 24, 2007 Strange thing? Not around here. No one would bat an eye.
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