aussieheels1

i'll almost say the opposite.... i think i would be prepared to spend double as much if I know I can/will wear my heels outside and in public...... had i been a woman or if high heels for men is accepted, i wouldn't be only at the cheap/bargain heels to buy (as they have limited wear) and would be prepare to spend more on quality and probably more pairs as I can wear them when and where i want to....

i was asked to wear heels and dress for a last minute role in a work inter department presentation.... the person who was in the role was sick that day and the department was desperately looking for someone to fill in..... i kinda jumped at the chance

i don't have much problem or negative reaction from letting female know i like heels.... however likeing heels and loving wearing them is 2 different things..... have joked about wearing heels with numorous of females, some have dare me to do so, while others would give me a funny disapproving look....... only took up the dare twice as you never know when the dare was in jest or serious....

straight married kids love all type of heels love all type of feminie clothing first interest in heels (that i can recall) around the age of 5......

i'm sure we all did it.... as someone already said, it's probably our first realisation of our interest in heels/clothing etc..... i used to raid my mum's and cousins shoes and clothes.... thinking back, that's pretty creepy but i guess when you are 13/14, yo just don't have any other means or access to the shoes/clothing....

Yes aussieheels1, that would be great, but what state would you hold it in?

haha.... guess you would like it in sunny queensland..... and i'll be pushing for Sydney while we are dreaming, let's have it being held in every state in Australia

great blog/sites.... will def be following them

from a design point of view, i think they are awesome.... not so sure how they would look on.... joeshoething - those ones you posted up looks great too..... me want!!

i wish they have that in Australia.... maybe I should bring it over and start it here

Stilletto Al - that's awesome and love the boots...... i would love to be wearing and trying on heels in stores... and when i do, i hope to have the sale girl that you had....

AZShoeNut - i think we have the same line of thought..... it's more an internal conflict of whether we can personally walk out in public in high heels with enough confidence to pull it of or enjoy it.....

call me shallow or have low self esteem but how the world around me preceive and look at me is important to me (as it impact my life and those around me).... sure wearing high heels in public won't be the end of world, but it will change the world i am in atm... am i prepare for the fallout of it is the question...... even if it only have a very small impact, it is still a decision each person have to make themselves....

But I personally have issues that there are "guys that don't like other guys in heels." To me, this makes no sense whatsoever!

that's the thing..... i don't get it either.... i'm a male, i love wearing heels and i love this forum where i can talk about this.... yet, to be brutally honest, my first thought of seeing another male wearing heels is not one of embracement.... like AZShoeNut said, I'll turn this feeling around very quickly after rationalising it in my head that I'm simply trying to get to the same point as this other person... but this first reaction that i have is probably one of the main thing that is holding me going out in public wearing heels all the time as I feel that's the reaction people will have (if I myself can't accept it).....

not all of us are as confident/extroverted/flamboyent as each other... i'm sure there are lots of female that will not wear a certain type of heels (or clothing) because it is associated with certain images (eg look like a postitute) even though they may really want to wear them..... and this is about wearing clothing that are design for their gender.....

i'm kinda like that.... it's almost like, if I don't get to wear heels all the time, when I want to and where I want to, I might as well maximise my enjoyment (and thus heel height) while i can

before i reply let me just say that my opinion is a reflection of what I feel about myself and not of either of Bubba or Histiletto.... i found myself having the same feelings about seeing other male wearing heels, be it as a straight male or camp up with felame attributes etc.... and this feeling is hard to explain, is it of disgust? jealousy (that they can wear heels in public and I can't)? there is something about it that i don't think i like but at the same time i hate that i feel like this because at the core of it, i want to be able to wear what they are wearing in public without other people thinking/feeling the same way...... personally, i love wearing heels, i love wearing clothing items that have a little feminie edge to it, yet in general i'm not sure if i' comfortable if i see other doing so..... i guess histiletto is probably right, it probably about wearing things that is appropriate to the body shape of each individual and not forcing a stlye onto something that doesn't look right (an overweight women wearing tight short fitting clothing and stilettos is not a good look either).... but isn't it hypocritical for me to judge that woman wearing items of clothing that they enjoy or judging another male wearing clothing more feminie than my liking... as it is really no different for someone disliking seeing me wearing heels in public..... there's no answers in this post... just a constant thought that i have in my head trying to force myself to be more open minded and trying to understand why other people may judge me when i walk out in public wearing heels..... i just find it hard to "expect" people to accept me breaking the "society accepted" clothing styles when i find it a challenge myself to accept other people doing so.....

Wearing heels out of choice is one thing but being made to wear them is quite another. I'm with the unions on this as long as they don't advocate an outright ban.

fair enough.... but still, i wish i had a job that required me to be wearing high heels.... then i can just justify it to everyone that work makes me wear it!!

If we like to wear heels, then so be it. As for your kids, teach them to accept people for who they are and not how they dress up or for their personality.

I agree with TooTall that life is complicated sometimes

i don't think the issue is whether our own kids are tolerant and accepting (of course that's what I'd teach them).... it's more that I'm worry that other kids are not as tolerant and acceptance and thus my kids getting caught with being ridicule because of me.... as much as i love my heels... i love my kids way more.....

good for you mate......

Wearing heels in public for the first time is really very scary. But, it's worth every bit of anxiety. The apprehension disappears with the very first step as you get out of your car. And it's all uphill from there. Each time you go out from then on, it gets easier and soon, it's natural and you won't ever give it a second thought. Main thing -- just do it!

i have to agree and disagree slightly (for me personally)..... i feel wearing heels in public is extremely exciting and gives me a sensational high...... at the same time, i also agree that wearing heels in public is extremely scary.... and for me, the main fear is that I would run into someone I know or somehow I get caught and it gets back to people I don't particularly want them to know..... it is a really strange and surreal sensation....

and i suppose, it almost worse now a days with the internet, digital cameras, youtube etc.... you never know when and wear you might be film and where it might turn up..... the chance of it is probably slight... but it is high enough for me to worry about....

Thighbootguy - i find your advice very refreshing and honest.... as much as I would encourage another member on here to go out in whatever outfit they choose (yes I'm one of the wacko you refers to), it is really quite a personal decision if it's been a secret and it's the first time out there, it is a big impact o the world as one knows it......

obviously if you have weight it up and decided to go for it, more power to you and congrats for being able to break the barrier in your world..... just note that, it's easy for all of us to say just do it, it's another to have to deal with doing it.....

Rmaciej1983 –

I would trust advice from folks on this board about what looks good, since most of the folks here wear heels. But, I would take advice on going out, from this bunch of wackos, with a great deal of caution. If you are comfortable with your look, go for it. By the way, I think it looks great.

You have mentioned wearing heels to school and have posted pictures of walking about. When you say, “going out”, I was wondering where you will go.

Now words from this wacko, the outfit would look great with boots especially thigh boots.

wasted so much time and money in the past, must have bought about 50-70 pairs, worn them in seceret then thrown them away, have now learned a lesson.

i know the feeling..... over the course of the past 20 years, i must have purchased over 100 pairs of shoes... but throughout my teens and twenties have thrown out so many convincing myself that i'm strange and that i can live without them.....

just gone a little shopping spree and added 5 pairs of gorgeous heels to my collection...... i'm so excited hahaaa

i think it's ok, as long as they go along with what you're wearing.

i agree... if it's looks good and you can pull it off (the look and the confidence).... then all the power for anyone able to wear them out..... i suppose the same forwoen.... not all women can pull off a pair of pink heels (even though they would be lessridicule than a guy)....

Bubba136.... i truely respect your handling of the heel issue and kids..... eventhough, there's no "one" right way of handling it.... i too feel your methods is probably the one that I will use......

kids have a fair bit to put up with already (growing up, handling changes in life, bullying at school etc), and I don't want to give the another pressure that they have to deal with.... sure I'll try to teach them to be open minded and not to judge people based on appearance etc, but at the same time, I do not want other people to judge them for what their father is either...... am i over protective... maybe, but that's just how I feel.... as I said, there's no one right answer.....

There are as many strategies for a man dealing with the issue of him wearing high heels around his children as there fathers that wear them.

To shorten the story as how we handled this issue, one of the "conditions" my wife imposed upon me when she agreed to marry me, was that I would never wear my high heels around any of our children. Which, even though it took 10 years of marriage before she became 100% supportive, I never have.

Now all three of our children are grown, married and have children of their own, I'm still not sure they are aware that I wear high heels. If they are, they've never mentioned it to me. Nor, according to my wife, have they ever spoken about it to her. And, given the fact that all three of our children have always been exceedingly honest and open to both of us (they've never been afraid to tell or ask us anything or openly discuss any subject with us) I would say, they still don't know.

Admittedly, it wasn't until the "youngest" daughter was away attending college that I began to wear women's shoes openly, 24/7. How would they react today should they discover my high heels? Can't really say except that all three are well educated, open minded professionals and, for the most part, while I am not sure they would accept the idea 100%, I'm sure they're finding out now won't make much difference to any of them. (By the way, in deference to their raising their own children, I don't wear heels around my grandchildren, either.)

So, what is the best way to handle this issue? Can't answer that. I guess it's the way you and your wife decide to handle it and how it effects your children. So, go for what ever works for you best and hope that your wearing heels doesn't ever embarrass them or inhibit their social skills development.

i don't have issue with women jeans and my butt either.... maybe i just have a big butt!!! lol

i don't think it would decease my attraction to heels.... i think i like footwear in general an like a lot of the styles that emale wear.. including flats..... i think i just apprciate a nice pair of shoe on a nice pair of leg with a nice body so i definitely won't like heels less if they are unisex....

those boots are killer.... love them.... just a little tip/hint.... if your sole intend is to beat your wife... running in heels isn't too hard (esp if they have a little platform as it distribute more weight to the front)... just remember to run on your toes and never really use the heel.... it's not the most elegent and doesn' give me as much enjoyment as walking in them but if you just wanna win... then run forest run!! lol