Guy N. Heels

Hola Anton, I must say you have presented a really great look for men wearing heels. I prefer men to look like men and women to look like women. Unfortunately, because shoe makers don't really consider men's shoe fashion, most men who want to wear heels are more or less forced to buy shoes that are both designed and sized for women. But I think you have struck the perfect match of men and heels. Keep those pix coming amigo.

Now that you and your mom have addressed the matter you're past the first hurdle. If she insists that they belong to a girl, you could always put on the shoes and show her that they are your fit. (If you are 16, your feet are probably pretty close to being your adult size.) Also, if you happen to have a sales receipt handy - that might prove useful. I don't know about "nicking" the shoes or any kind of sneaking around. I think you'll get more mileage by being honest and up-front about everything.

Formallyknownas:-)

Your Mom brought the subject up, so she knows that you like to wear heels. She, in saying what she did, was trying to give you an opening to, not only wear heels, but to discuss wearing them. It sounds like to me that your Mom is on your side the whole way. Take the opportunity to discuss it with her in the near future. I'd say that she is cool with you wearing heels and wants to talk about it with you. Keep us posted on what happens next.

Cheers---

Dawn HH

Ditto. Don't forget that parents are people too. Most of us old folks have been around long enough to know what's worth getting all upset about and what ain't. Your mother sounds like she's really cool with your wearing heels and might even be wanting to help you dress up a bit. So if mom's cool then you need to be cool too.

today when i was with her she didn't say nothing i hope she says something. I am only 16. i hope she brings up the subject to me. the shoes were not really hidden i just left them under my bed.

First of all, nice looking shoes. I'm assuming you came by the shoes legitimately. If that is correct, you are really already "off the hook" .

There is absolutely nothing wrong with you or about you (morally or otherwise) for wanting to wear high heels. One possible approach is to politely ask your mother what she plans to do with your shoes? If she is vague or non-responsive you could then ask for her to return them. If she is indignant or challenging, you could simply tell her that you like to wear high heels and (assuming that she also wears heels) that you are no more perverted or corrupt than she is.

At all events, be calm and polite. Tell her how you like seeing her in heels and that you thought it might be nice to have your own pair. You could offer to share your shoes with her, if she likes them. Do not whine, squirm, or make excuses. Be truthful and honest. You can even tell your mother that there are a whole lot of men who wear heels. Then if she doesn't believe you, you can direct her to this website.

Best of luck to you, and let us know how things come out.

I prefer a small platform to a thin sole, as the molded platform shoe is rigid and does not twist, allowing the heel to cant over to one side even when the sole is flat on the ground.

The taller platform shoes are much more common in the larger sizes (in sandals) and more comfortable. But, they are not very stable on soft or uneven surfaces, as I know from experience.

For a long time I could not understand why my feet hurt so much after only 30 minutes in my stillettos. The problem was not in the ankles or heels where I expected (I have very small weak ankles) but in the balls of my feet where the weight is distributed. Then I tried on a nice pair of plats with a nice thick cushion or pad right there where needed at the point that the balls rest. Huraaaaaaay!!!!! I could never look at high heels in quite the same way again. Thin soled shoes (even with only 3" heels) soon leave me wondering why I'm wearing them? But a nice pair of well cushioned, well made plats - even the higher heels are no real problem for me hours after I put 'em on. The shoes I have on at the moment have 2" plats and I've worn them all day. But even a 1/2 inch plat can be a real foot saver for me. I guess the fashion conscious women will just have to figure out what works for them, but for the high heeled addicts I would definitely suggest you consider plats.

Sscotty727:-)

I'm way ahead of you on getting old. I have had a lot of experience in that area. The second 50,000 miles isn't nearly as cheap as the first 50,000 miles.

Like Scotty sez, it ain't necessarily the age as the mileage and the high-end miles are a lot more costly than the early ones. I found out a long time ago that I have to just ignore the pain and just get on with it.

Uh - Maybe a little oil on that car hinge might help.

I like the style and the height, but those straps seem much too narrow for me. Are you sure yer comfortable in them after an hour or two?

Now that everyone has looked at this thing from every angle, including inside out, I'd like to add my 2 cents worth.

Are the shoes I'm wearing my shoes? Yes! So that makes them a man's shoe - right?

Well just one thing. I just happen to be small enough to be able to buy shoes off the shelf in my size. That's a US women's size 10 or a US men's size 8.5. Now I've never seen a high heeled shoe in say a US men's size 12. But then sizes are crazy anyway, right? So why do companies always specify men's size or women's size?

Having said that, I really don't care anymore. When I get to the checkout counter my money is accepted just as readily as any woman's. Then once I have the receipt in my hand that makes them my shoes and that is that.

Hi Mickey63, and welcome to the world of high heels. If you're in your early to middle 20's and have never worn heels out in public before - don't. You'll wobble around like a pencil on end and even a blind person will know you're wearing heels. The trick to wearing heels is to find a pair that fit comfortably and then walk, and walk, and walk some more. Don't even think about wearing heels in public until you can put on a pair of heels and walk without even thinking about what you've got on your feet. Only after you have that level of confidence should you consider going out. Stillettos require a special skill that's hard to describe and should not be attempted until you can balance and walk well on thicker heels or wedgies (my preference). Take it from me, a rush to the spikes can also be a real rush to the hospital. Besides needing to always be consciously aware of where you're putting your feet, stillettos have a tendency to hang in carpets and on certain other surfaces. Worse yet, if the heels start to slip (due to grease or some other thing) you'll need to know how to recover gracefully. Since there is no gracious way to fall, I won't even go there. My advice to you would be to start out with a moderately high wedgie of say 3 to 3.5 inches. After you've mastered that then you can work your way up to higher and narrower heels. As for the girlfriend, why not just ask her if she's ever seen a man in heels and what she thinks? If you find she's Mt. Vesuveus change the topic and the girl. Let us know how yer doing.

Hi Azbus, I hear your cry. I've also seen a lot of good posts on this topic and I think that Scotty727 is pretty much on target with his response. So having said all of that, let me say that your problem is no bigger than you want it to be. While I do not wish to sound trite, the bottom line is that it's mostly in your (and his) mind. For example, how did you like the nice skirt that Yul Brenner was wearing as Pharoah in the Ten Commandments? The fact is that men (Christian and otherwise) have worn skirts of all types for thousands of years - yet our society today frowns on men wearing skirts. In like manner, men in all parts of the world have worn earrings for thousands of years - yet men wearing earrings today is still questioned in our society. The same thing goes for high heels. Men have been wearing heels for hundreds of years. John Wayne, Jack Lemon, Robet Mitchum, Jack Hawkins, and Patrick Swayzie are just a few actors I could name. So if you are a Bible believing Christian then you ought to recognize the scripture that says, "... there's nothing new under the sun." Once again, it's all in how you look at it. I am a conservative Christian who has worked in the Pentagon and rubbed elbows with 3 & 4 star generals. I personally know ministers who are nationally known. I have been to Capitol Hill many times to meet with our nation's leaders. Also I often wear skirts and kilts in the summertime; my ears have been pierced for over 30 years; and I have worn high heels for more than 50 years. So you have my solemn assurance that your husband is not morally corrupt. Therefore you and your husband most definitely need to sit down and talk things out - both sensibly and sanely. You need to think about why do you wear the things you do? Do you wear pants or trousers? Why? Do you wear bib overalls, like my daughter does? Why? Are your ears pierced? Why? And I could go on and on but I think you get my drift. Now one more thing I might as well pass on. Your husband's interest in high heels is not going to go away. I said earlier that I've been wearing heels for 50 years. I wish I had all the money I've spent on shoes only to throw them out and then later go out and replace them again. I can't even tell how many times that cycle has played-out in my life. Finally I set aside some space in my closet where I now put my shoes and things. Now I no longer go through the insanity of buying stuff just to pitch it out and then buy more to replace it later. Whenever I want my shoes I now know just where they are. Believe me, you and your husband can save yourselves a lot of money and grief if you do the same. Then there's Thighbootguy's admonition to dump your husband - it's the American way! While I respect his right to his opinion, the God of Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob says,"I HATE divorce." Unless you or you husband are doing something very unbiblical that really belongs in another forum, I see nothing going on that would justify divorce in God's eyes. In short - don't even think about it. One last thing - Do not hesitate to contact me by private e-mail if you have anything whatsoever that you need to discuss further. Guy N. Heels

Hi there le752, and welcome to a forum where both men and women can discuss wearing heels. You sound like a savvy young gal, so there's no point in beating around the bush. So when did you start wearing heels and why? More importantly, assuming you didn't fall and hurt yourself, how did you feel about wearing heels? More than likely you felt pretty good about the shoes, the new perspective of increased height, and how others responded to you. Well most of us guys felt much the same way when we first tried on heels. In my case it was pure curiosity as to how my mother could manage to walk and balance on those skinny heels that led me to try on a pair of her's when I was about 10 or so. The very first thing I was amazed to discover was the fact that her feet were nearly the same size as mine. Then the next thing was the remarkable new look and feel of walking in heels. In short, I really liked it. Better still, when my mother saw that I really liked to wear her shoes, she was willing to lend me a pair that I could wear. Well now I'm a very long way past 10 and my health will not permit me to wear the really nice 4" heels I have in my closet, but I do still wear wedgies up to 3" sometimes. I just plain like the look and the feel of 'em. So about your guy - it really doesn't matter how tall or how old he is, if he likes heels that's his thing. Unfortunately, most people still don't accept the notion of men in heels, especially in the business world - even though men actually started wearing heels before women. So unless your man is independently wealthy, he's probably only going to wear his heels on week-ends or when he goes out to clubs. Now if you like the notion of him in heels, why don't you gently encourage him? You could try taking him to a shoe shop on the pretext of buying yourself some shoes and then suggest that it might be interesting to see what he would look like in a similar pair. Or you could even ask if he had ever wondered what it would be like to wear heels? I'm sure that a smart girl like you can think of a number of ways to approach the subject. The main thing is to let him know that there is nothing for him to hide and that you are okay with him in heels. But whatever you do, don't let him know that you've been snooping around his computer or in his house. Make very sure that you both are comfortable about this matter before you let on as to how you found out. I wish you both well, and keep on stepping, -- Guy N. Heels

I have searced the topics and forums and have not seen this discussed.

Can you or do you run in high heels? I'm not talking stilettos, which is probably a quick invitation to the emergency room, but in 3" or 4" or higher hees.

I have a pair of 4" wedge sneaker boots the same as pictured in my icon, (only I've painted over the pink accents with black heel coating, and changed the laces from pink to black). In these heels I can run a mile in 6.5 minutes.

The form is not much to look at, (it looks more like a lope than a running stride, but I can easily take 5' stides and run almost as easily as in flat shoes. Going down hill is a bit harder, so I try to find even surface.

Interestingly, the footprint of the high heel sneaker is almost the same as the foot print of my bare foot - same lenght, but slightly more narrow heel.

Anyway, does anyone else have experience or tales to tell about running.

I know about the Washington DC Halloween drag queen high heel race, and I know some of those guys can do a couple of hundred yards in stilettos, and I'm also wondering if anyone runs in real heels, rather than sneaker syle heels?

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Tex

Hey Tex, some of those guys can go a lot faster than you think. Almost every year they end up sticking 1 or 2 of em in an abulance and rushing em over to the hospital. Skint up knees and torn dresses are the dress code for that race, and while you don't have to be crazy to run in it, most are. Heels are for WALKING not running. I've only seen one gal run in heels and how she did it on those San Francisco hills I still ain't figured out. Running in heels is almost guaranteed to get you in touch with some type of physician and/or shrink.

Guy N. Heels

Where can you buy High Heel Boots for Men online??

Thanks in advance!!

Perhaps the eaziest way is to first quit thinking of footwear as gender specific. I, for one, cannot look at feet and tell if they are male or female. Then once you've got that sticky bit out of the way, go shopping for shoes wherever footwear is sold. Here in the US guys are wearing high heels in everything from wedgies to 7" spikes while it's not uncommon to find the gals in cowboy & combat boots.

For the 95+ degree weather we're having I prefer skirts with sandles in about 3" heels. Whenever I go into a shoe shop I no longer think of it as men's or women"s shoes but just shoes. Therefore I go to wherever I can find the style of shoe I want. The same thing applies on-line.

Guy N. Heels

For example, I recently attended a Scottish festival. Being of partial Scottish heritage, I wore my kilt, the origens of which are accurately described in this most interesting read:

Laddie - There's no such thing as a partial Scott, ye either are a Scottsman or yer not! Now where I come from, ye absolutely must have one precious drop of Highlander blood and/or one precious drink of whiskey in ye to be called a Scott. If ye ha that much, then slip a dagger in yer belt and a blade in yer stockings and wear yer tartan proudly.

Now, I've seen a lot of talk about guys wearing skirts and kilts (and they absolutely are NOT the same), but precious little about heels. Well I have been out in both. The last time I had a full beard, a Blackwatch kilt, and 4" heels. Now I'll admit that there's no history of the Scotts wearing high heels in their colorful history. But I ain't in Scotland, and I've never been there either. After all, why must I dress for others? So why can't I dress for me in the here and now?

As for skirts and kilts being pricey - I quite agree! It'll take about 10 yards of material to make a properly pleated kilt, and at upwards of $45 a yard for whole cloth, you're looking at upwards of $1000 for a proper Scottish kilt, sporan, and jacket. But do we really have to pay the freight? I found a skirt in my clan tartan at a thrift store for less than $10. (It was much too small for me and so I gave it to my daughter) Still, my point is that I believe there are ways for guys to dress up sharp without spending an arm and a leg to do so. Also, I must say that I've never had a pair of pants or trousers that offered me the freedom of a kilt or a skirt. Apart from some minor difficulties at the restroom (loo) they're great and they look sharp too! - Guy N. Heels

The reason I'm taking another look at this topic is three-fold. First, it's been appearing with increasing frequency in the news; second, stores catering to men in skirts (and even heels) are popping up with regular frequency; and third, I've a personal interest in the topic and would like to see it get more coverage (no pun intended...).

But first, a link, a quote, then some discussion:

http://66.102.7.104/search?q=cache:6t436Pn-jtcJ:www.nwaonline.net/pdfarchive/2003/november/23/11-23-03%2520E12.pdf+%22men+wear+sarongs+in%22&hl=en

Quote from Robin Ghivens, Washington Post Fashion Writer (who wrote the article referenced above, as well):

That's quite a jump, folks, in a short span of time. In just four years, a full 22% of the American male population began shopping for themselves.

I'm not concerned about the why. What interests me are the implications for men's fashion.

Question - could it be one of the reasons we men have so few fashion choices on our own side of Sears is because we allowed our wives and girlfriends to do our shopping for us? According to the NPD group, more than half of us did just that 6 years ago. Now that has dropped to just 30%.

What's behind our limited choices of style? Could it be that while women were pushing the boundaries of their own gender's fashion choices over the years they unknowingly hemmed in (no pun intended... ok, YES, it was intended!) our own?

It's a well established, though not well-known fact that throughout the ages men wore skirts, dresses, hosiery, and other forms of clothing (including heels) that now relegated to the "Women's" department.

What caused the widespread abandonment of our own gender's acceptable styles? Why are we now faced with just five styles (shirt, pants, flats, jacket, swimming trunks) while woman have those and five more (dress, skirt, bikini, one-piece, heels)?

Many factors have been blamed, from the industrialization of the work force requiring safer clothing to the widespread adoption of the military uniform throughout the 1700's and 1800's as the model after which fashion must be made. And as we all know, fighting in heels and a long skirt (or dress) is difficult, although the Scots managed quite well with their shorter skirt, the kilt.

This skirt movement appears to be more widely publicized and written about them the men's heel movement, which leads me to the next question: Are we only advocating men in heels? Or are we also advocating the greater principle that fashion choices for both sexes should be free from public censure, ridicule, and even potential harm?

Earlier in this century, women wen through many of the same challanges, with friends, family, neighbors, churches, communities, newspapers, and political leaders decrying the advance of women wearing pants, tennis shoes, short-sleeved shirts, short skirts, mini skirts, shorts, one-piece bathing suits, bikinis, leather, short hair, and yes - even flats.

Yet women prevailed, for many reasons, not the least of which included powerful Hollywood mavens who were fed up with the restrictions and began wearing what the wanted while their money-hungry producers protected them and their fashion choices by twisting the backlash into typical Hollywood "progress."

And America and many other countries ate it up!

Well, we're now at a point where women are once again "finding their roots," where fashion such as skirts, dresses, heels, blouses, frills, lace, and even bonnets, are returning. After decades of an advance of skin, modesty is among women is becoming more accepted, if not desired, among the women themselves. We now see actresses wearing more conservative skirts and dresses, business women are dropping the drawers for more traditional clothing, and the concept of femininity is being embraced.

Women are returning to more traditional clothing styles.

But so are men!

And by traditional, I'm referring not to what's been accepted over the last 50 years, but what's been accepted over the last 500 years.

I was quite suprised, however, that the percentage of men in kilt, even those obviously not of Scottish origen, had significantly increased since the last time I went, more than four years ago.

It was almost as if those present wanted to expand the boundaries of what was considered acceptable men's garb, to win back the right to wear whatever the heck they wanted to through a forum where it was socially acceptable to at least wear something on the bottom half of their body that wasn't a pair of pants.

I wear skirts.

Often at home.

Sometimes in public.

Skirts.

Not kilts.

And what, precisely, is wrong with that?

They don't contain frills, and they're not made with lace. Most of them are made of denim, contain the same pockets as found on my pants, and the belt loops to match.

The only difference between them is that instead of sewing the left front quarter to the back rear quarter at the inseam, they instead sewed it to the right front quarter, adding some material for mobility purposes.

In fact, if most guys wanted a skirt, they could quickly create a pair by undoing the inseam of a par of shorts and re-sewing the right and left halves to each other instead of front to back.

Folks, this is insane!

What the heck does the location of where one seam is sewn have to do with masculinity and femininity? There are far more feminine dudes out there parading around in a pair of pants than there are masculine dudes parading around in kilts/skirts/dresses.

Does it really matter?

Who's "insensibilities" are being offended, anyway?

What does it really matter to society when a woman chooses to wear pants and a t-shirt, or when a man decides a skirt is more comfortable in the summer than pants?

As a lay counselor confronted with many of these issues through those whom I counsel, I take strong exception to the DSM-IV, which, although it suffered a massive rewrite, is still far out-moded with respect to wrongly defining psychological gender issues on the basis of what people (men and women) choose to wear.

Fashion simply is, folks. It changes with the times. It is not an indicator of one's worth to society, much less one's psychological profile. If anything, the DSM IV still has strong roots in the days of the FBI's witch-hunt, of which it's progenator, hoover (his name in lower-case for a reason) committed what I would consider as treasonous acts: http://www.geocities.com/northstarzone/HOOVER.html

And that's enough dirt - if you want more, it's easily found. Just search on his name.

Ok - WHAT is the point I'm trying to make here???

Well, there is only one, and it is fully in accordance with God's original Biblical provision that a man be recognized as a man and a woman be recognized as a woman:

1. Neither a man nor a woman shall be limited in their chosen fashion attire provided their genetalia are not exposed in concordance with the vast majority of the fashion norms of nations around the world.

2. Any deviant case will be examined on a case-by-case basis only if it violates the stipulation listed in item #1, above.

Please note:

1. This measure gives free reign for both sexes to bare their breasts throughout the world, unless prohibited by their respective country's laws.

2. This measure prohibits both sexes from baring their genitalia, regardless of their respective country's laws.