Guy N. Heels

Is having a fetish for shoes not the same as an obsession? I do understand that a fetish is a turn on, but it can also be an obsession as the person having the fetish can not have enough of it, then it becomes an opsession.

So is there a difference?

Before we start splitting hairs here, it should be noted that the term FETISH has a religious connotation; which is probably the reason why the fervent pursuit of a particular object or thing is sometimes refered to as a fetish, as the behavior observed seems to have a religious fervor or obsession to it. Perhaps, as has been suggested, there are degrees to one's obsessive behavior, but IMHO for the most part, we really are talking about the same thing.

I hope that helped, but in my experience, stepping out in a pair of heels is the only way to cure my obsession for heels. Since I don't consider heels as objects of worship, I tend to view them as a form of theraphy and not a fetish.

I too suffer from gout, or perhaps as in my own case, PSUDO gout (a certain type of gout, since my Dr must have been thinking about this kind of gout cause he couldnt find any evidence of the "regular" kind that most get, I will mention this the next time I go in to see him)

I can't say that I've ever heard of any such thing:-?, but the admonitions for a well-balanced diet and vitamin intake still goes. Get rid of the fatty foods and the junk (which really aren't foods at all) and don't forget about a meaningful exercise program. Try flushing-out yer system with a water fast about once a week; and everything else that I said before still applies.

You are the owner of one of the most marvelous mechanisms in the world; but you have to take care of it, and that starts with a balanced diet, proper vitamin intake, good exercise, and proper rest. Many of the most dreaded diseases can be "cured" or prevented by these simple measures.

Mimize fats, alcohol, and protein in your diet. Drink plenty of water, ensure you're routinely getting good, aerobic exercise. Fast once a week, and keep the weight off.

All of these have proven to be factors which lessen gout risk.

I generally agree with KIKEPA; This disease, which usually presents itself as inflamed joints and excessive uric acid, is almost always the result of improper diet and/or certain hereditary factors. Consider going to a balanced diet and vitamin intake along with up to 5 gr of vitamin C. (Nutrition Almanac, 1975) However, you definitely want to be careful with the vitamin C intake, as too much can lead to serious kidney problems. I personally would not recommend more than 1000 mg per day, and you still want to be sure you are getting bioflavinoids (all natural vitamin C) with your vitamin C. Avoid every form of alcohol and anything at all that promotes uric acid.

Do not be lulled into thinking that just because your symptoms diminish, that you are treating your condition successfully, as your symptoms can vary very widely throughout the day. You'll need to observe consistant changes over several weeks before you leap to any such conclusions. Good luck to you.

Well, what with a collapsed spine and all, I don't know if I could actually do a mile - perhaps if I went with a cane and some of my better plats.

From conversations I've had with my wife about men in heels, I think it would very much depend on the style of heel and the height. Something that does not draw to much attention would probably be okay.

However, we agreed that whilst most women probably wouldn't be that bothered with men in general wearing heels, they would maybe have a problem with their partner wearing them because of fear and ridicule from their friends...

I think it was Eleanore Roosevelt who said, "You cannot embarrass me without my permission." There is much to that statement; embarrassment and ridicule entails a certain element of responsibility that we must either grant to others or otherwise embrace in order for it to be effective. Still, how many of us knowingly or unwittingly grant that "permission" to others when we really ought to be our own person. It's at once absurd and pathetic that we must seek the approval of others so avidly that we allow their approval or disapproval to so profoundly influence our lives: what we wear and even what we think.

they wrote a song about it:

"there's no business like snow business"

or am i going into meltdown....

Yeah, I remember that one:

...first someone comes hands you a shovel;

Then they come along with the plow.

After hours of back-breaking trouble...

But I can't remember the rest of it.

...What about all those bloody snow ploughs that throw it all up onto the pavement from the roads?

Sure, clear the roads, by ploughing all the crap up onto the pavements (Sidewalk for U.S)

And just exactly WHAT are they supposed to do with it? Besides, they aren't doing the back-breaking work of clearing off the pavements, you know. That's for all us poor devils who have to get out there with a shovel in hand and clear it off. (Back into the road??? ) Ain't life great?

While no taking exception to your points, I am just noting some linguistic differences in expressions. Here in the US we say "shovel" the snow, not shift it -- because, I guess, we use a "snow shovel" to "shift" it off of our sidewalks. We also say "plough" or plow the streets -- usually using a truck fitted with a large blade (like that on a bulldozer) to clear the roads...then road crews apply salt or sand to them to reduce the chance of skidding -- hence "gritted" --

And, yes, when we lived in Manassas, VA. I have "shoveled" snow while wearing high heeled boots.

Thanx for clearing that up for me, Bubba; I used to think they put down the salt to help rust-out the car bodies.

Hi All, as i have not plucked up enough courage to buy some heels in a shop looks like i'll have to do it on line just a question on sizes, I take a uk size 10, can i order this size in heels or do i have to make adjustments ?, looking to start off with a pair of courts, thanks in anticipation !

Well, I thought we had pretty well thrashed this one out by now, but I suppose there's always the late-comers. So, if you really don't want to research this topic here on this forum; in a word - DON'T!!! For one thing, there's no such thing as an absolute - "my shoe size is a 10; now send me a shoe that fits, thank you very much." As much as we all dream for such a day; it simply doesn't operate that way. What you are going to find is that when you will order that delightful pair from the XYZ mfgr in a size 10; when the pkg arrives, the shoes will either fit a perfect 9.5 or a 10.5 but your foot - no way! unless you just happen to get lucky and everybody is all smiles.

But the plain and simple fact is that the only way you can be assured of getting shoes that fit is to go into a shop, sit yerself down, and tell the sales clerk you were interested in some particular style shoe and ask to try it on.

Now just what the big deal is about trying on a pair of shoes that you genuinely wish to purchase - is quite beyond me. Here in the states retailers are hurting so badly that they're laying-off employees by the thousands! So I expect that the average clerk would be delighted to have you try on a pair of shoes if it meant a sale was in the offing. Now of course, you can always buy shoes on-line or by mail-order, but getting shoes that FIT - well that's an entirely different matter.

As for me, I'd take a few minutes to go into a shop and tell the clerk just which shoe I wanted to try on - bold as brass! If the clerk so much as batted an eyelid at me - I'd take my custom elsewhere.

I know what you mean. We broke outta the deep freeze with a whopping 52 degrees day before yesterday, and after a few snow flurries late yesterday, now we're back down to sub-freezing temperatures in the daytime, with it getting even colder at night! Brrr!

Are you (or anyone else) suggesting that, in the US, restaurants etc displaying a sign such as 'No shoes, no service' would refuse entrance, for purely safety reasons, to someone in open-toe sandals or shoes? If so, that must limit what many smart ladies wear on smart occasions.

I can see that a completely barefoot customer is a potential liability (quite apart from any issue of decorum, aside from a beach cafe or similar) but, if the rule is really 'No footwear, no service', why not say so?

This type of sign is sometimes seen in the UK but is rarely necessary as few people will go around with no shoes at all, except perhaps at the beach, pool or park. Common-sense and decency prevails, hippies aside! But some of the more picky places will refuse entry to men in sandals as well as those without a tie.

I think that those signs are intended to address issues of health and decorum. I have never seen anyone with any kind of footwear actually refused service or asked to leave. But I have seen and heard of individuals without footwear or shirts refused service; also, to a lesser extent, those who are merely wearing flip-flops or "thongs", which are really a rather flimsy excuse for footwear. Hawaii is the only place I've been where they have had widespread acceptance, but most other places rather frown on them.

Now I won't bother to go into the issues of why bare feet are unacceptable, especially in food establishments; and in like manner, I think that the no shirt rule is also rather self-explanitory. Again, Hawaii is the only place where I have seen bare-breasted women in public, and while I am not personally offended, I do think it in poor taste. Even nursing mothers would be well-advised to seek some sort of privacy.

It seems to me that HHfanatic has put his toe on the problem. Essentially you're having to deal with geometry as well as height. Or as HHfanatic put it:

If you cut off too much, the weightload on the heels will come from an angle they are not designed to take and therefore, they might get damaged. Its important that the weightload comes more or less straight down on the heels and not from an angle.

Once again, you need to keep the angle of the heel or the way the heel takes the weight as nearly vertical as possible. Thus you have automatically limited yourself to walking indoors or on very flat surfaces. But the geometry on that weightload is critical. If you change that by even a few degrees you'll almost certainly ruin the boots. Perhaps the idea of building up the toe area with some type of platform is worth considering.

Good luck.

DITTO! I quite agree with Johnnie & Radiodave! Somehow, pink & red heels are just too feminine. Blacks & browns would be fine, maybe even some fancy blacks & browns with a bit of metal or something with a touch of animal skins, but lose the pinks.

Well, I've got the flip side of the problem - a pair of pants that are too long. So instead of having them taken-up I decided to wear 'em with a pair of 4" heels to a nice restaurant (coats required). Except for the fact that the spikes tended to catch on the pants legs a little bit, I had no problems. When standing erect the pants cleared the floor by about 1/2" so all that was visible was the pointed toes and the barest trace of a heel tip.

$20 for a shoeshine? Man, like I started out shining shoes in a barber shop for a QUARTER!

I'm having trouble getting my mind around the problem, but 3/8" is far too much to expect to repair with regular heel lifts (tips). If yer talking about stilletoes, then the simplist way would be to get yer cobbler to replace the entire heel (they usually are available in various heights); but it won't be cheap.

Two things:

First: could we please keep this thread to just the weather? (I know I am guilty as well.)

Second: proof that if you don't like the weather in St. Louis just wait a minute and it will change. Yesterday's high was in the thirties tomorrows projected high near 60 F.

Sometimes I just wish the weather would make up its mind.

T&H

60 degrees??? So are you breaking out yer gardening equipment and getting ready for an early crop?

Whenever I go to the Mall of America, in Bloomington, Minnesota, I always bring a pair of leather heels that could use a shoe shine.

At Bostonian Shoes, there is a standing offer of a free shoe shine, for anyone who comes into the store.

So it was again, today, when I brought in a pair of Nine West knee high boots, with four inch heels.

I just handed them to the salesman, and he gave them a professional shine.

That is the best deal in town, in my opinion.

Great deal! So when are you going to wear a pair of heels in?

My two pair of boots that cost around $200 each have leather bottoms. They're slick as slush on wet ice.

I have three other pair of boots I wear in the winter, at $20, $30, and $70. All three have patterned rubber soles that grip slick, icy pavements very well during my evening walks.

Some things just don't make any sense. Back when my company was paying for my steel-toed boots I got one pair with thermal insulation. So the first time out on the ice the rubber soles ripped right off the boots! Then the real shocker came when I took them to the cobbler. That's when I found out it would be cheaper to replace the boots!! Like I said, some things just don't make any sense.

More nonsense. It's as bad as the optometrist who fell into his lens grinder. He made a specticle of himself.

where is that , do you visit them often in heels.

Naaaah. For one thing, it's almost a thousand miles and I don't even own a car anymore. Besides, they're okay and all that, but they really wouldn't understand.

this is the first time we have gotten snow in west tn and it last more than a few hours .

West Tennessee? Man, like I've got in-laws livin' over there on the Miss. mud flats!

For the first time this winter we've got snow & ice outside and it's getting pretty cold too. Some folks are putting up their ladders so they can go up and break the smoke off their chimneys ever so often.

Fastfreddy2

You are right on point, in my case my wife knew along time ago about my wearing pantyhose when riding horses when we use to help a friend do fall round up on their ranch, and it gets cold there in late October so we wore the pantyhose to keep warm. Also when we go riding the motorcycle (my avitar) during the winter we both wore hose and she had no problem with it. When I started disscussing my love of high heel shoes and wanting to wear them she thought I was nuts. She never asked me if I was gay because she has several gay friends but she did ask are you a cross dresser? I said technically yes, but so are you and she was what do you mean and I asked how many pairs of young men's Wrangler jeans do you have, and her responce was yes but no one will know where as you in a pair of pumps will stand out and what will my family think! So back to your point that we do have to balance our needs with those that are also a part of our lives. As time has gone by my wife has accpted my heel wearing as long as I wear boots with paints that covers the heel but no heels when we are with family and I am ok with that. We are all not a fortunate as members like Johnnieheel who has a very understanding wife who encourages him, but I am thankfull that my wife at least tolerates my heel wearing.

Even though I'm sitting here in a skirt suit, 5" heels, nylons, and the appropriate underthings, I am 100% straight. I just like dressing in nice clothes .

gay,straight,metro...i am so sick of the labels...i like this one the best..human. its like we have to be sorted out and organized like fruit on the sorting line. ...

I think I've mentioned this at least once before on this forum, but at one time men wore: earrings; skirts; wigs (I think they are still required under the British system of law); lace and ruffs; perfume and cosmetics; hoisery and high heels.

On the other hand women in many lands including India, China, and Japan wear a type of pants as well as gowns &, dresses. Shaving or cutting the hair is considered a disgrace in many lands and according to the Bible.

So why someone would leap to the idea that a man wearing earrings, skirts, or heels is gay is quite beyond me. Men in both Scotland and Ireland have long been known to wear skirts or kilts and yet their reputation in battle is reknown. There are some Greek soldiers who still wear skirts; and the list of countries where men and kings wear earrings is too long to list here. So to my mind, anyone who would even suggest that a man in skirts and/or heels is gay is simply advertising their ignorance! As for me, I've got to be me. After all, everyone else is already taken.