wineanddine

Didn't want to start a new thread but has anybody seen the video linked below? It was in the "gals" section but thought somebody might enjoy the walking...

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SiAK8wfppZ8&NR

Wineandine

To Iluvheels: No, actually you are pretty much right on target. Most people just afraid to confront it. Wineanddine

You seem pretty normal to me. Heels around the house are sexual for me for the most part, the few times I've been out in public they don't seem that way to me at all, just enjoy wearing them. Welcome to the forum Wineanddine

Keep in mind that the bible was written a couple thousand years ago by people who thought the earth was flat and for whom a wheelbarrow would have been a significant technological breakthrough. There is no need to feel like you have to debate ignorance when quotes like that are put forth. Unfortunately, it seems a lot of Christians these days espouse the views of your father. Very sad.

Ruby Slipper: First of all, welcome to the site. There is a lot of good information here so surf around and read some of the threads that sound applicable. In particular read the posts from LE752. She wrote in with much the same situation as yourself and there is a lot of good advice in that thread. Keep us posted on your progress and take things slowly. You're not alone and neither is your boyfriend. Wineanddine

LE752: A few years ago my wife told me that a good friend of hers came home from work early and caught her husband wearing her silk panties. He's a real macho type guy but my wife took it with a grain of salt. We talked some about that but I think my wife actually took some comfort in knowing that my heel wearing wasn't all that unusual. I didn't ask her but I wouldn't be surprised if she shared with her my heeling to put her more at ease. I really don't care at this point if she did or didn't. Call me crazy but his wife has been extremely nice to me since then, I think women in general are pretty cool about that stuff. Wineanddine

Since it involves "clicking" I thought I'd post my outing yesterday here. I only get the opportunity to be out of town alone a couple times a year so I was determined to make the most of the one day trip. After meetings about 1:00PM took about a 3 block walk around an outdoor mall. Pink D'Orsay style pumps, long pointy toe (sorry no pics, there are some from an old thread somewhere), long jeans that covered all but about an inch of the heel but none of the toe. These have a 5 inch stiletto heel so they make some noise. Not much traffic at this location, went to a Goodwill thrift store that was very crowded next. Walked across the parking lot and got lots of looks, went inside to some vending machines and bought a bottled water. A couple of outright stares from older women but nothing said. Same with walking back to the car. Went to a Bed Bath and Beyond thinking it would be mostly women and did about the same, same results. With mounting confidence stopped for gas on the way home and decided to punch the "pay inside" button on the pump. By the time the gas was pumped there were all kinds of people there. A car with 4 young guys parked right in front, several people paying inside. I walked right in, heels clicking loudly on the tile floor and waited in line. Manager talked a bit about the weather while I was waiting. Nothing else. Young kids didn't even blink. Now I was really convinced so stopped at the rest area and used the mens restroom. Very loud clicking on the concrete floors while walking to the hand dryers, etc. When I walked out there were 3 Japanese girls coming up and they just stopped and stared and then started looking at their own heels which weren't bad either. My only regret is that I was already past them before I realized I should have stopped and said something to them. They watched me all the way to my car. The clicking on the outdoor concrete was loud even for being outdoors. All in all, my best and most confident outing. What fun. Wineanddine (sorry this ran so long)

LE752: Add my congratulations to the rest. I wish you all the best. My guess is that in time it will come out and work out, in the mean time have fun, don't take things too seriously, love each other like crazy and keep buying those kick ass heels. Don't be a stranger to this forum just because you're getting married by the way. We really do appreciate your input and insight. Wineandine

Love 'em!! Especially the last pic. I 'd wear those anywhere. Thanks..

I was agreeing with everything there until I got to the part about the "fuck me pumps"....what's wrong with those??

For whatever it is worth, my story is almost identical to HeelMe above, especially the part about the older I get the less I care about who knows, etc., which also probably helps to explain a little more street heeling when out of town. What he has written is very true for me and I suspect many who are married and have a good relationship about the whole thing with our wives. Wineanddine

That was funny...

How in the hell did this thread morph from a girl friends problem about heels to wearing a halloween costume and a submachine gun? What did I miss along the way?

I couldn't agree more with HeelMe..very well put and thanks for putting it there. Wineanddine

Post Script - - In all fairness to Fredericks they ended up issuing me another credit after I complained, for the return shipping. The girl was very nice and said in the future if you have a problem like that you can call and they will mail you a complimentary return label to put on it so you don't get stuck with the return shipping. In my case that turned out to be half the cost of the shoes.

You old dog you...congratulations.

Here's a follow up to the wrong pair being sent. It's been 2 weeks since I mailed them back and I inquired of the status of my return. I got an email from FOH saying that their records indicated that the return was "in transit" and to allow another 2 weeks to see a credit. Also, in some of the fine print it said that for shoes returned they deducted the amount of the shipping from the credit you ultimately receive. So if I understand this correctly you order a pair of shoes, they send you something completely different and then you get dinged for the return shipping? Does anybody out there have any experience with this? I'll keep you posted if that actually happens. Doesn't seem fair does it?

I know the feeling...you're definitely not alone there...

Sorry no pic, I already returned them. Normally I might have considered keeping them, it was a basic black pump but in PU a 9-1/2 was just too tight. In leather it would have stretched to fit perfect.

The same pair that I ordered (except in black instead of the leopard) came last week except it wasn't even close to the right pair. I'm sure somebody just stuck them in the box and figured maybe nobody would bother returning them. Plastic instead of leather and a completely different shoe. I was really disappointed and immediately returned them. The only thing that was the same was the color and size but in PU instead of leather they wouldn't have fit, also the heel height was completely different. That is not the first time that has happened to me with Fredericks...very disappointing. Wineanddine

Dear 1819: Thanks for that info. My next outing I hope to stop at an out of the way bar in kind of a secluded mall area and that's some good info you've provided. I haven't been inside before but I figure to just open the door and make a decision then as to going on in. It doesn't look to be busy at all during the afternoon. I only get out of town about once or twice a year so I have to make the best of it. I'm with you, I don't really want any attention just want to be wearing. wineanddine

Well, I finally caved in. I just ordered a pair of those from Fredericks' too, except I got the black. They had my size and they were only $14.99 plus $4.95 shipping. I hope they are as good as everybody has said. Now the anticipation of waiting for them to arrive.... Wineanddine

MikePL: I agree with the other comments about getting it out in the open before she finds out on her own. I waited until we had both had a lot of wine to drink and she slipped into the other room to put on something sexy - - I did the same and by the time she realized I had a pair of pumps on we were well on our way to some pretty fantastic sex. We had some casual and probably somewhat guarded discussion about it afterwards, took the wearing part kind of slow from there but she's been very accepting and I think appreciative of my honesty. Good luck. Wineanddine

Dear Manolover: I can relate to what's going on. I am almost sure my wife has told a couple of her close friends about my "tendencies" with heels because of things they have mentioned in passing on occasion but she has never said she did and I didn't confront her about it. Anyway, I'm kind of glad she has told them now but in hindsight I would have probably been very upset initially. I guess my advice would be not to do anything rash in the short term because after you give it some time I think everything will work out and for the best. Good luck, Wineanddine

I saw those leopard pumps on clearance at the Fredericks site too and at $15.99 they were hard to pass up although last time I checked the largest size was 9-1/2. You did well there...they look great. I'd wear them with long jeans. Wineanddine