Pam

I have a few accounts in social networks. The primary use, for me, is in the networking and connecting with people. Some on the personal side, some on the professional side. My rule is that my posts and pics (very few posted) must all be rated "E" for Everybody. You just never know when (or how/what) could seem like a harmless post/pic might be used against you in any way. Coincidentally, I was chatting this week with a bunch of high-end recruiters. They all had stories of how, for example stupid "drunk" pictures posted, have costed many candidates to loose consideration for job opportunities. Perception of a higher reputational risk for the employer ... and perception is reality, or so they say. Many will debate that what we do in our personal time is only of our concern. And I support this position. Unfortunately, the reality is that once something is posted online it becomes kinda-public (despite all privacy controls). this of course, is just my humble opinion .... P

People with nothing good to say, should say nothing at all ... basic education.

I had a chance to go out two weeks ago with a good friend for drinks wearing 4 inch pumps with jeans. It was great!! almost 6 months of no heel wearing at all.

The passion for high heels has no correlation to my sexual preference, but has a high correlation for my love of fashion. Nonetheless, I can see that wearing (or looking at someone wearing) high heels can be a turn-on for many reasons. But it is not a tipping point that could change sexual preference in any way.

My heeling been shared with just a select few. I don't believe that sharing a passion for high heels has any correlation to the quality of a friendship. There are many personal things, many much less controversial, that I keep close to my chest. That has been my personal decision. It's not an issue of trust, comfort, support or openness. To me it's simply a matter of preference and privacy.

Welcome! ... Make yourself at home!!

Hope you had a great b-day!!

That is one of the best statements I've heard!! Short, sweet, smart.

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This is mine ... elegant, tall, and sexy (also very pricey) but well worth it!

Hi Pam... Nice to see you back! I was only thinking the other day that we hadn't heard from you in a while.

Hi and nice to hear from you too! Hope everything is well. It's been a crazy year, but still alive and kicking (and heeling every now and then)! Looking forward to going to London soon!

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The ironies of life motivated to write this very interesting and true story... My work requires me to do extensive international travel. In one this trips, a very attractive girl named Jo appeared in my life. At that time, she was working for one of my closest local business partners. Jo is very educated, well travel, and fashion savvy. Her style is leggings or mini skirts/dark tights paired with 3-4 inch heels either pointies or boots. One night we are all out celebrating the closing of a big deal. Everybody is slightly drunk. When the party ended, I offered Jo to pay for a car service to take her home. She accepted and we went back to my hotel. We engaged in a good conversation while waiting for her car. She complimented me on my tie; I reciprocated by complementing her boots. We both agreed that heels, as ties, can make or break an outfit. As the car pulled over to pick her up, I joked that she can borrow my ties anytime. Night ended with a traditional kiss on the cheek. A few weeks passed by and I had to return to her country. I got an email from her asking if I can bring her a few things from NYC. Of course I said yes. Jo said it was her last day on the office, she was switching jobs. Left her stuff, plus a tie, at the front desk for her to pick up. I thought it was a good idea to include a tie as a personal touch. The last day of my trip I receive a very unique surprise! Jo had left me a thank you note and a pair of 4-inch peep toe heels!! I was blown away! Sent her a thank you email and an invitation for coffee the next time I was in town. I never got her new email and lost track of her. Destiny reunited us at a restaurant. It was a pleasant surprise. We had a couple of drinks and a LONG conversation about life in general including high heels. She jokingly asked if I had worn my shoes out. My response was that I was going to do it only if she wore her tie. That sparked a discussion about men in heels, drag, androgyny, etc. Turns out she is very open minded! The last day we met and played dress-up with leggings, skirts, and heels. We both had a great time! She was very excited to have a guy friend to play dress-up. We played several times. She ended up buying a matching pair of 3-inch pointy pumps for our play-dates. She really liked how I looked in minis and leggings with heels. We sent casual emails with pictures of things we would like to try on. During my last trip she shocked me. Jo suggested that we should go on a trip together. And I quote "... let's go together on a cruise. Not a regular one of course, a gay cruise. Lesbians only. Here's the condition, I'll do the packing. You only show up with the clothes you wear for the plane. Day before the cruise we go together to the spa to get our nails done. Only feminine clothes for you all the time ... skirts, tops, leggings, heels, etc. We are going to have a blast!! ... " My heart stopped. I had no words. I have never been into drag, but the experience sounded amazing. She mentioned that her feelings towards me were changing, and wanted to give the relationship a try. I had found a great woman that enjoyed and encouraged open heel wearing!!! And here is the irony ... I found her a few years too late. We both are in committed relationships. We both know about each other's SOs. Our encounters have never been sexual. Not even a kiss on the lips. Both of our SOs are not supportive of alternative fashions. As you can imagine, I respectfully declined the invitation. We remain good friends. However, email traffic has reduced significantly. Have not yet returned back to her country... You never know … I thought you would enjoy this true story … P PS ... sorry for the long post

mmm ... i'm also not a big fan of the classic "mustachio and flip-flop" combo on a girl ... not my cup of tea!

Thats is a great add and a superb marketing idea!

I'm 120% in agreement

Professionalism and skills are what should be driving people up the career ladder, despite the choice of footwear. An interesting complementary angle, IMHO, is that people that dress/look sharp show confidence. This confidence also helps boost professional progress. I believe that wearing high heels positively amplifies how this confidence is perceived.

I think he name is Katie Sketch a female model from Canada. P

Morpho ... That is a great point! It is very valid to keep the love for shoes, for the whatever reason, private and personal. I think this approach has the same validity as someone who takes the heeling more to the open.

IMHO if the overall outfit works with pink heels, then its no different than wearing shoes of any other color. Its just about making the whole look balanced regardless of the color of the different pieces of clothing.

It's not just guys that suffer from that you know.

That is very true ... AS you're comment is right on!

I guess being judged, for whatever reason, is major dislike to all.

My personal dislike is that guys and heels is especially controversial in many ways, not just fashion.

a very interesting update and discussion ...

http://www.glamour.com/fashion/blogs/slaves-to-fashion/2009/01/marc-jacobs-is-not-alone-more.html

happy reading!

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Yesterday was an unexpected awkward moment:

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That is a difficult reaction to manage. I've had a similar experience in the past (different subject not related to heels). In my case it gave me an indication of the "true feelings" and gave me some pointers on how to handle these situations.

Hope you have a fast recovery. You will be up and heeling very soon!

please keep me posted ... i live in the area so maybe can attend P

great shoes!! and a very good conversation topic to go to if you want to talk about high heels with her. Congrats!

Bump ... too many good stories in here ...